>sister is very overweight
>she started using tinder
>got a date
>only showed guy picture of her face
>never said she was bigger
>her face is actually very slim looking
>guy looks average weight
>she plays games online with him tho
>sister keeps putting off the date because she is crash dieting now.
>she's around 250+ pounds and 5'10
>was down to 160 (her high school weight)
>sister actually has a really chill personality, always had lots of friends
>guy really wants to meet her
What advice do I give her? I hear this "no fatties" shit everywhere. I'm terrified my sister will go on a date and be deeply rejected because of her size. But like, maybe he already knows she's big? This is literally the first date my sister has been on. I feel the need to be protective.
Crash diets are dangerous, and there's no way she can have the guy wait around long enough to lose the weight healthily (which would be, like, 2lbs a week, maybe 3lbs if she's super fat).
Either she just has to bite the bullet and hope the guy accepts her, or if she doesn't feel comfortable with that, just don't go through with the date. Anything else is just bullshit and a waste of time.
Mate it is tinder, people use tinder for casual sex. You won't meet the love of your life there.
As for your sister if she doesn't want to get rejected for being fat then she should have not used the fat girl tactic of using certain photo angles.
You can spot this shit a mile away, if the dude uses tinder often he probably already knows and does not care.
I know a lot of people don't. I'm just afraid that her "lying" about it is going to send the guy into rage or something or he'll hurt her feelings. I am prepared to care for her if this guy is a douche about it tho.
I know it is. She did some detox diet and lost 9 pounds in one week. I don't know what she is doing to diet now though.
Make her lose weight. You can lose a lot of weight really fast without any danger to your health.
If he meets her and she's just a little chubby it's going to be fine.
That's a baby elephant. This shit is unacceptable. How can you even allow your sister to be a small planet? If I was this fat I'd kill myself.
I don't know what kind of conversations they are having, but it was enough for her to tell me and my mom that they're going out to dinner. She probably wouldn't have told a soul if she was meeting for casual sex. I know my sister is a virgin at 25 and glamorizes losing her virginity, so I don't think she'd do one night stands. She always says she's waiting for marriage.
Just looked up baby elephants. Baby elephants are 50 pounds lighter than your fatass sister.
What the fuck, dude? How can you allow your family members do this to themselves? You're a piece of shit.
Well she sounds naive, this guy will probably stop speaking to her if she does not put out.
Tell your sister to be proud of who she is and lose some weight a decent way. All those diets are dangerous, stupid and don't work.
Smaller healthy portions, cut out fizzy drinks like soda, fast food as a treat and daily cardio.
If you starve your body with shit like crash diets it will react by storing more and more fat.
I'm not in charge of her life. She's always been bigger and taller than any female we know. She's been fat since she started puberty. My brother and I got fast metabolisms and have always been sticks like my mom. She's generally confident though. She knows she's big, I think we dating, she's not that confident though.
I was honestly starting to assume she was a lesbian or something, then she started talking about online dating and here we are.
Also, I have a friend from high school who's like 5'0 and 250 and she's getting married to some guy she met online who's thinner than she is. So, like, it's possible, I guess. Who am I to judge, but I assume most guys who want fat girls are actively searching them out. My sister is kinda "lying" right now and I'm worried.
She has done healthy diets. She fluctuates over the years though. She'll stick to healthy lifestyles for over a year, then crash and burn. Then do it again. Bur because of this date, she is now crash dieting.
That was her high school weight.
I'm not saying its dna necessarily. My mom is 5'2 and thin. My dad is 6'4 and has never been under 230. I'm not saying her fatness is genetic, but she did get my dad's body type and height.
My sister is not pilsbury dough boy fat, she's like... hard-fat and muscular. Not really built in a feminine way and she didn't get that body type from my mom's side.
>hide it by taking a picture of her face alone
>wants to lose weight to impress somebody
she won't lose weight in so little time
if she keeps putting off the date the guy will give up, it's better for her to let him know one way or another how she really looks
she didn't care about her health all this time, she chose the worst time to lose the weight
Because a guy in high school that she was practically in love with rejected her for being fat and she attempted suicide. I don't want that to happen again. My sister hasn't attempted to even look at men since then.
I'm just concerned because it's a total stranger and stuff.
She should definately show him some photos before they meet. It would be more traumatic if he rejected her in real life... Can she gauge his reaction to girls of her weight first or something?
>Rejected for size
I think he'll be more bothered with the whole "Deceiving me for months on end" problem.
If you lie about something as simple as you personal appearance why would I ever trust you?
It would be all kinds of weird to think you "know" someone but when you meet them, they're like a stranger. It's a painful fact that our society is obsessed with appearance, but it shouldn't be something we lie about. Everyone has flaws - or what they consider flaws - but it doesn't define you. It would be awesome if the guy could look past it, but just to be cautious, she should be straightforward to avoid hurt feelings later.
you need to tell your sister that full disclosure is always 100% better than lying. Great that she's losing weight now, but next time just put up a damn full body shot. Anyone who's going to reject her for her weight is going to reject her when they find out; better to weed these people out sooner rather than later.
You wont find it because OPs fatfuck sister already downed it.