Does sex feel like a performance to guys? Sometimes when I'm

Sex feels like a performance to many guys, particularly those concerned about their performance.
But we're not all like that.

>>25299776

He is probably attempting to live up to the impossible standards you set for him. If you were so concerned about his enjoyment you would be doing the fucking work for a change instead of posting here about it.

Fucking roasties

>>25299776
Or hes just trying not to cum.

>>25299810
You been burned there buddy?

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>>25299823

All too common.

>>25299776
Yeah that happens even with sexy camming, at least for me, not because my partner has unrealistic expectations, just I worry about being sexy and giving pleasure, if she orgasms and enjoys herself I always enjoy it way more than losing myself in sex, trying not to cum feels good.

>>25299810
You're going to need a bigger screen with all that projecting.

>>25299776
A lot of women don't realize this, but men still have the role of "provider" during sex. While some women have an idea of this, because their partner will be overly focused on making sure she orgasms - which can put pressure on her and make it less likely - but pressure is always present for men.

Speaking in terms of generalities, men are more often dominant / expected to be dominant (I think it was 87% of people expected the male to be dominant in the bedroom), and it's almost universally seen that the man is supposed to be the one to provide the orgasm for the woman (You will see "ladies first" in many conversations about sex, often from guys as its often self imposed).

So that is two things on top of each other - as a man you have to be the one to take charge, and you are generally tasked or at least feel the responsibility of making sure your partner climaxes. It should be noted that taking charge is also part and parcel of initiating, which means it's often up to the man to make sure his partner is "in the mood" so to speak.

Might as well also say that the whole penis situation can be even more complicated because many women expect their partner please them with their penis (even if not realistic) and many if not most men feel like if they can't please their partner with their penis they are failures of men. This is one of the places the penis insecurity comes from that is so often on display in this sub.

So, while all that is going on, you also have to consider that sex is much more physically taxing for men in pretty much all positions except for cowgirl. And the fact that it is physically taxing can make it both harder to maintain the erection and harder to not ejaculate.

It can add up to a pretty stressful experience - and the more you like the other person, the more stressful it gets because there is additional pressure to perform. Losing or failure to get an erection is often construed as lack of interest. PE is viewed as lack of control

>>25299776
Its one of the several reasons I don't enjoy sex

>>25300113
what are the other reasons?

>>25300121

I feel its more trouble than its worth. it complicates relationships. People act different towards each other after they have sex, and not always for the better.

and I just can't get into it if I don't love the person. It feels like a chore.

not to mention stds, unwanted pregnancies, false rape accusations, among other bullshit that can happen after you nut.

I'm probably just defective though so dont take anything I say seriously

>>25299776
I've never been able to do that. I don't know if it's a guy thing or not (frankly, I doubt it is), but I can't seem to lose myself in the activity. I'm always thinking about what I'm doing and what I should be doing, always trying to be aware of and read her body language and pay attention to the sounds she makes (or doesn't make) to make sure that she's enjoying it, etc. Sometimes when people talk about what it's like to lose themselves in it or to have this animalistic passion, I feel like I'm missing out... :/

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>>25299776
It can just take its toll on stamina. If he's panting and stuff early on, he probably lacks endurance which should improve the more he does it.

Cramps could come up if he's going at it hard, but after a while you feel something inside you pushing you to go even harder. Hard to explain but the sex feels even better from that point.

>>25299821
Underrated post

>>25300113
this

>>25299776
Always. I have to smile so she'll think it's perfectly natural, I have to show no negative reactions or she'll lose motivation, I have to focus just enough to be able to keep fucking but not enough to cum, etc.
I enjoy it a lot, of course, but there is a lot to pay attention to when I'm having sex. Sometimes I feel like I'm trying too hard and just get bored of it even if it feels good. I can't explain this to her without her thinking I have ED or that she's ugly or what fucking ever, so I just say I fapped a few hours ago.

>>25300158
Literally autism

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>>25299821>>25300422


This is the only other males that have actually had sex in the room tonight.