Why can't I get a gf? Are girls even attracted to a guy

>>25163382
looks aren't everything. Are you socally retared/dirty/a douche/trying to hard/not trying at all?

This is quality bate

>>25163391
I would say I am socially retarded. I cannot hold a conversation with another human being. I get adrenaline rushes every time I speak up in a social setting. I cannot converse outside of the normal platitudes or stock conversations you are supposed to have with tellers and cashiers. If any sort of talking I have to do is unscripted I fail completely.
>>25163394
This is not bait. I'm just tired of being a friendless loser for so long. Sorry.

>>25163382
My best advice is if you go both ways, you will never go home alone.

Also, start weight lifting and eat. Get new glasses or contacts. If you get new glasses, get an anti-reflective coating. It will bring more attention to your eyes. Great hair, but maybe not the best hair style. A little bit of a makeover and you will look amazing.

>>25163408
Volunteer somewhere where you are passionate about something. You find like-minded people and that will break the nice.

>>25163382
I haven't got time now but I'll try help you out in a bit.

>>25163465
What does this mean? Please no bully via photoshop.

>I would say I am socially retarded. I cannot hold a conversation with another human being. I get adrenaline rushes every time I speak up in a social setting. I cannot converse outside of the normal platitudes or stock conversations you are supposed to have with tellers and cashiers. If any sort of talking I have to do is unscripted I fail completely.

Yet you still have to ask, why?

>>25163475
That still doesn't explain why girls aren't attracted to me. They aren't going to know that until they talk to me. But girls never show interest in me. People never show interest in me in general, unless they can use me for their own benefit.

>>25163484
Girls like confidence. Learn to project confidence. Fake it until you make it.

>>25163382
I feel just exactly like you. Same situation, I'm not ugly, but my social ineptitude makes me a friendless virgin loser. I'm skinny, btw. I can only find solace in feeling superior tot he normies. Whatever floats your boat

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I'd fuck you.

>>25163892
But you are probably a guy and I am only attracted to girls. But if you are a girl I guess there is hope...until I open my mouth.

>>25163900
I was a girl all along.

Also see, you put yourself down already. Self-deprecating humour can be fun, but you come across as someone who genuinely hates themselves. And getting succ and fucc from a girl won't fix that.

>>25163925
It would make me feel better because at least then I would know someone wants to be with me and around me other than my Mom and Dad.

Just meet her dude

>>25163973
I don't think this woman has any interest in me. She was simply saying that I was attractive.

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>>25164013
Well, I might be interested. Where do you live?

>>25164038
I live in Knoxville, TN, but I will be in Chattanooga, TN for the summer before returning to Knoxville.

>>25164047
>tfw in Deutschland
;-;

>>25164053
Well here's my kik if you're ever interested.
Squilliam_Fancyson96
A guy can try, right?

>>25164053
do you come to oesterreich anytime soon ^^'

>>25164122
Nein, sadly not. ;-; Why are there no Germans on this board?

>>25164053
Deutschland?
shouldn't you be im bed? It's 3 AM
Pot, kettle I know.. I'm just north of you

>>25163382
Honestly, if you're socially retarded and you acknowledge it,try and do something about it.

I was the same about 1-2 years back, acknowledged it and decided to break out of it. First thing I did was do a long backpacking trip through south east asia. Great way to practice conversational skills and if you fuck up it doesn't matter because everyone will be in a different place within a few days anyway. After that I decided to go all out and study in different countries, working out great so far. People don't really think I'm awkward at all anymore and there's girls hitting on me now.

I guess the TLDR is just take a leap of faith, and make an effort to change your social retardation

>>25163382
Get rid of that snarky attitude towards girls and you're more likely to pull it off. Trust me, you'd hate it if it was a raging feminist telling you what evil spawn men are. I had a guy who was just like you that also had the same interests as me, so we hit it off. Guy would put himself down all the time (I would like to say, it varies from people, but this can be a major turn off), and was, to say the least, a typical "loser" stereotype. But I like to refrain from saying that since it obviously doesn't help and just makes them put themselves down more. He was a old highschool friend and we just got to talking. It was later as he was speaking about his ex that turned me the fuck off. He would literally berate the girl so bad, called her a whore, slut, slag, that's fine. We all end up hating our ex's, right? But the guy obviously had some major issues underneath to sort out. Girls don't like that shit, speaking about ex's is one thing, but if they speak like that about someone else, what would it be like for you? I shrugged it off because honestly, it probably wasn't my place to judge. I should just note, even though I liked him at first, I was also just getting over another relationship, so I wasn't really looking for anything. Anyway, he later confessed to me and I said no, not because of him, but because I had other stuff to deal with. He took it harshly, but seemed to get over it though. I should note the guy is pretty cringy with his hopeless romantic attitude. I had only known him a few weeks after we started talking again and already he was acting as if he couldn't live without me. He ended up leaving passive-aggressive comments on his Snapchat stories about how he was nice but it wasn't enough? It soon escalated to me asking him to drop the subject, but he seemed to want to keep bringing it up. Well, I wasn't going to put up with the guilt trip. That's a thing you should lose, first, the guilt tripping just makes you sound even more cringe.

>>25164369
Continuation:
Girls like assertive behaviour, not a arrogant prick (unless you're hot then I guess you're void of these physics). The guy also started to tell me that I owe it to him because he was "nice to me", that he wasn't like other guys. Typical white knight sirens started going off. He thought that because I was nice to him back that I owned it to him also. Shit like that is a major turn off for girls. Unless she's someone you have been with for ages, this whole "I'll fight for you" crusade doesn't work if it's only a few days or weeks. The guy came off as incredibly stalkish. He sounded like he suffered from a lot of mental illnesses. He was depressed a lot, would put himself down all the time, I helped him through it because I knew what it left like. To this day I don't speak to him because he refuses, said it'll only "break his heart more". I said fine, your choice then. I still see him on social media however, it's good he hasn't hurt himself or committed suicide. I guess I'm just looking out for him now. That's my incentive, OP, is to not sound like a cat who's been left out in the rain for too long. Get rid of that sorry for yourself mentality, and be confident in yourself. Not everyone wants this emotional baggage to deal with in a relationships. If you you have to constantly say to yourself that you're a nice guy, why don't they like you? It's probably because you're not, OP, or more to the fact of that excuse right there. You ain't gonna get someone by blaming them for not liking you. Don't blame others, reinvent yourself OP. Trust me, I love a guy who can self-reflect. That's what being a man is. Also, OP, talked rejection. You're going to get it some point in your life. Everyone has been rejected at some point. Even 10/10 people, because it ultimately depends on the others preference. Learn to not blame the other unless they're a complete fuck up, like if they're unfaithful and such. Most of the time, it's probably you just projecting.

>>25164013
You seem like a nice guy, I wouldn't mind. If you like RPG'S and games, not a typical mainstreamtard like FIFA and COD, then I'd definitely give it a go. Too bad I live in the UK though.

>>25164166
Damn, you travel? Where have you been and if you don't mind me asking, how much did you save up for it? I'd love to go traveling one day and even better if I found a fellow travel companion who isn't just in it for the parties and drinks but the scenery and history too.

Dating websites, bro. Learn to talk about a person's interests, find a way to act interested (the best way to do this is to actually be interested). Learn to have a reasonable conversation about anything.
Practice makes... well, not perfect, but better. You can't get better if you don't try. You'll fuck up, you'll have weird dates, you might even have weird hookups that leave you really uncertain of yourself. Don't let it get you down too much, but try to be aware of what works and what doesn't.
Friends/girlfriends/life won't come looking or you, you have to go out and find life.

>>25163382

140lb at your height is underweight, you should try to gain a bit.
I think 160lbs would be a good spot for someone at your height.
Also you should shave, your beard is still too patchy to make it work.
Try to get at least a little bit of a tan, looking like you spend a lot of time inside can put girls off.

How is your posture?
How do you present yourself?
Do you hold eye contact or look down when a girls looks at you?
How often and where do you interact with people?
Do you slouch while walking or do you walk with your chin up and shoulders back?

You have potential, just start working out a little bit because >6' guys tend to look like lanklets when they are skinny, get a shorter haircut that will make you look more mature, shave your beard, get a slight tan and put yourself out there more.
Join clubs or sports, go to events that interest you, go to bars etc. and force yourself to interact with people.
It will be awkward at first but you'll get the hang of it, we all had to learn it.

>>25164411
>Dating websites, bro.

terrible advice in my opinion, by the time he actually gets to meet up with a girl he met online he will have made no experience in how to keep a convo going in real life. Going to bars is way better because you can prove to a girl that you have the balls to approach her and practice real life interactions with women.

Online you are one out of many and the choices are unlimited, in real life you are that one dude in front of her that had the confidence to chat her up.
Which one do you think has a higher chance of success and gets you more practice?

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you look like a young Sam Hyde dude, there's no excuse for you to not be rolling in cummies rn dude.

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If you are having problems talking to people because you have anxiety attacks:

Betablockers (slaps the beta right outta you)

If you are having problems talking to people because you don't know what to say or you cannot work up interest:

Stimulants (adhd medication)

You got cancer? chemo
boo-boo? band-aid
Epilepsy seizure? clonapazam
Aids? die in a fire nigger.

you have the social retard disease AKA robotism.. use medication for it man like normal 21st century human beings. Once you realize it's not that hard at all you can start lowering the meds.

Take off the fucking glasses idiot. They do NOT fit your face at all.

Remember to smile.

>>25164152
Gibt genug Deutsche hier, aber wenn du kein kik oder so hinterlässt findet dich halt auch niemand.

>>25164404
>Damn, you travel?
During the summer I went (mainly) to Vietnam & Cambodia, my budget was about 1k euros a month, it fitted easily, I ended up with money left over. I feel like I've been a bit of a cheap bastard there though :). I initially saved up something like 3 or 4k, turned out not to need that much. I'd still advise to keep a buffer though in case you want to stick around somewhere / do that one thing that costs a lot (e.g. I went on a cave/jungle expedition that cost me ~90 euros but was totally worth it)

After summer I ended up in a dual degree MSc program within the Nordic countries (so I get to travel within those), which is neat because I don't need to pay tuition as EU resident*, and I get paid for internship + master thesis, even here I'm getting around with ~1K a month although I need some extra for the frequent flying

If you want to go travelling, I highly recommend doing it solo as you will have so much more freedom of choice and (at least in my case) it's literally life-altering because you force yourself in a position where you have to actively meet and talk to people, something that used to be more frightening to me than wrapping my dong in bacon and dancing around naked in a pen full of hungry dogs. That said, it might be a bit different for girls...

Currently have some (far off) plans & ideas for Russia/Mongolia/China, Greenland, and a thruhike in the Balkans or 'murica if anyone is interested, lmk: [email protected]

* Suck it England :^)

>>25164152

Moin

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>>25163382
Hey I'm 5'3 and 130 and this is my body... And I always thought I was pretty small/petite thought I've gained about 30 lbs since high school.

So I'm not saying the thinness is unattractive because I've never been with someone that thin but it' like you are literal skeleton mode or something..? I think sex and hugging would be nearly impossible like that. Even a fat guy's body would feel better pressed against mine.

I'm not saying you are unattractive at all. I'm just saying that seems like you are a holocaust victim or something... NO offense. Ur face is fine.

>>25163382
I think you're relatively attractive, but perhaps it's because I like lanky, tall, white males. Your problem with women or communication in general is your blatant insecurity, it's my biggest problem, too. I know the moment my insecurities come out my friendships are short lived, lol. What I suggest is putting a bit more faith in yourself. You don't need to exude confidence but be accepting of how you are and I'm sure that shred of confidence will attract some females and friends. Friends will be the biggest advantage as that will likely add a bit of confidence, too. (I love Tennessee, btw, cute state)

>>25164166
I went to bed shortly after that post, actually. Gotta get dat sweep.

>>25165250
B-but I don't even have kik. Also I should mention mein Deutsch ist nicht gut, I'm an exchange student taking language classes, original Brit.

>>25165288
Eeeeey.

>>25164398
>tfw all I play is RPG's
>>25164451
I'm not sure how I present myself. My dad would always tell me to hold my head. So I probably look down more than I should. When I pass by cute girls on the street I try to make and hold eye contact. But that's about it for my contact with girls...I hardly interact with people as well. I typically do everything alone and go everywhere alone. I go outside every day to do a certain exercise/physical activity.
>>25164471
I will try this when I turn 21 in a few months. But I am afraid of going alone. And I don't know what bars people my age go to.
>>2516478
I definitely need a new pair. But I look uglier without glasses. My eyes look really weird.

Next time you walk down the street, if you ever do that, if you ever go outside, look at the kinds of people who are in a relationship, there are some ugly fucking dudes and chicks out there with a partner. Your looks are rarely the reason you don't have a girlfriend. Posting a picture of yourself and saying, "Am I dateable" is fucking nothing, it doesn't mean anything.

>>25163382
You look like a retard

>>25165691
I know I am not photogenic.

>I hardly interact with people as well
Doubt you were worse than me, I used to not talk to anyone except for my steam buddies for weeks

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>>25165305
Well here's my body from the front.

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>>25165757
And from the side. Is it too skinny? I know my arms are. They are basically the arms of an elementary schooler but elongated.

>blue eyes and blonde hair being god tier
>in 2017

>>25165759

you could definitely improve your looks by going to the gym and gaining around 20 pounds.

I am 6'1 and 165 and already REALLY fucking skinny. Go to the gym, bro.

>>25163382
Personality is literally all that matters. If you're ugly the only reason you're single is because you're a shallow cunt or a selfish asshole.

It's your porn and masturbation addiction

>>25166390
How did you know?