>Hey
How do you handle a basic "hey" /soc/? Is it normal to lose interest in trying to further conversation when you've recieved such a flat starter or am I being a dick here?
>>25064553
I get like 20 kiks a day and if 9 just say "hey" or "ASL" I ignore them and talk to the people that put forth some effort.
I'd say it's fairly common to lose interest. Certainly reasonable.
depends on the situation and how much you want to speak to that person i suppose, a straight hey doesn't bother me because they usually have something to say beyond that if you take the time to squeeze it out of them
>>25064561
pic related
>>25064569
I definitely don't get anywhere near that much attention...which makes the 1 or 2 "hey" messages I get a little more vexing.
>>25064571
I just assumed if an anon's post and info within was enough to make you want to reach out to them, you'd say more than "hey" when you did.
>>25064576
>they usually have something to say beyond that if you take the time to squeeze it out of them
How?
>>25064601
I "Hey"-t you
>>25064601
Are you a man or a woman? How many people do you have messaging you and is there a reason to further the conversation with these people?
>>25064611
Good, GOOD! Let the hey't flow through you.
>>25064617
Man. Umm about 3 or so after posting in a state thread. Yeah, friends and fb are always nice.
>>25064553
Fuck you.
>>25064628
"Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads tohey't.Hey'tleads to suffering."
>>25064664
I felt a great disturbance in the Force, as if millions of "Heys" cried out in terror and were suddenly deleted.
>>25064654
Hey.
I sometimes get flooded with messages. I delete basic "hey" messages. Nothing wrong with that one on one, but when I've got to sort, I pick people with a more individual opener.
I usually say hey like I would at the beginning of a real convo, doesn't mean I can't keep up my end of a chat.
So if hey is a bad opener then what's a good one?
I guess I'll say hey + whatever it was I was going to write in the follow up from now on.
hey OP
I sometimes end up using shitty starters if I'm getting tired of putting a bunch of effort into ones that never get replied to anyway. So my thought process goes, "Let's see if this person even wants to talk, then I'll put effort in."
>>25065914
It's not so much that it's a bad opener I guess, just more along the lines of what >>25064569 & >>25064953 said, its a basic salutation that's completely normal in person, but redundant and basically the laziest 'in' into a convo ever when it's not said in person.
I can't speak to what a good opener is (after all, I'm asking /soc/ for advice so that should tell you the 2cents I give is highly questionable) but "hey" isn't a good one. As with all things, treat others how you wanna be treated. How would you like someone to talk to you? I've made first contact for various reasons but have always tried to get something tangible across from message 1. What it is thats causing me to contact them or caught my attention, something about myself maybe, maybe a question for them, heck even ASL info or a complement imo is a much better route where openers go than "Hey" or heys cousin "Hey, sup?"
Hey + sounds good. Hey + is how we talk irl, Hey + transmits alot more information & isn't that the point of cinversation?
>>25065919
Hey Anon!
see>>25064710
>>25066125
Cool, just realize that the person you're hoping to chat with is thinking the same about you and possibly basing your interest off your efforts as well. First impressions still count, even digital ones. Can't say running the risk of making a poor one in the name of efficiency is a good move.
>>25065919
Also, see>>25064611>>25064654
>>25064710
KUUNEE"HEY"
>>25064553
This is a good thread!
A "hey" is a deal breaker for me.
Normally I find that "Hiya!" people are generally winners, especially if they follow that up with something else. Most "hey"s end up with me carrying the conversation.
>>25064553
If someone messages me a one word Hey or Hi and that's all the effort they have put in, introducing themselves.. I usually immediately lose interest. In my mind, it's a good indication of the effort and personality they will put into a conversation.
>>25067203
Patience, my blue friend. You'll "hey" your winnings before the suns set.
>>25069397
>>25069545
Second.
Read 'em and weep hey'ters
getting blue balls recently
send me your nudes girls
kik:RuckRucka
>>25070115
>>25069998
Hey'd I have, into exile I must go
>>25071467
Look, I ain't in this for your revolution, and I'm not in it for you, Princess. I expect to be well hey'd. I'm in it for the money.
Why should anyone put in effort to talk to you without knowing literally a single thing about you? That's so fucking entitled.
Saying anything besides "Hey" or "Hi" is a clear indication of a beta male or someone extremely desperate. And then you guys wonder why you're on this shitty board....
>>25073123
I guess the objective is to not give a shit about the receiver and just talk at them about whatever you're thinking about. Who cares if they object; should they stop you or hang up, they're the rude ones, not you.
>>25073154
Yup, this is what girls actually do.
Saying "Hey" gets you a good idea about how entitled they are. Why waste the effort to make a statement that 90% of the time she's going to ignore anyways? Women on soc are THIS entitled. They expect your best message right at the very start, so they can still ignore you most of the time. The worst conversation partners you could ever encounter.
>>25073123
All this time I was thinking those "hi's" and "hey's"were indications of a lacking in creative conversation or interest. Turns out monosyllabic grunts indicate an alpha who's neck deep in snatch. Well thanks, consider me schooled anon.
Not sure what's entitled about expectng a three + word sentence reply after posting contact info, pic and detailed information about myself & my interest to be honest. But I was wrong about the hi thing so I may be wrong there as well.
>>25073186
Sounds like you WANT to talk to desperate losers
Also it clearly works, look how much effort I got in your response.
Just think about it from the male perspective. Putting out some cringey inventive first message in the HOPE that she likes it enough to grant you with her presence in conversation. What does that actually mean? It means he's a fucking idiot, putting SO MUCH effort into little to no possible reward.
I only say hey or hi, because I want to see if you're going to be worth talking to. I don't want some fucking retard who expects me to carry the conversation. And I'm definitely smarter than the guys who put those cringey first messages out there. I'm in medical school.
But yeah keep going on with your fucktarded logic. You will always have beta cringelords to talk to, which is evidently what you're looking for.
>>25073168
I know guys who do this shit too. if you don't immediately start filling the conversation once business is conducted, they think it's some excuse to start verbal diary mode. These people don't even want you to consider what they're saying, actually take it into your mind and work with it; just hear it. If you say anything about it or stay on topic, you're "too serious". If they say "man, I want to die", you're now supposed to say something along the lines of "go join Michael Jackson lol" so they can respond with "I love his music, sucks he's gone" and everyone can pretend they're not suicidal on the inside :D
>>25073214
>Sounds like you WANT to talk to desperate losers
Problem?
>Also it clearly works, look how much effort I got in your response.
See first point. Also what kinda half-asset OP do you take me for? Why make a thread and ignore the responses your thread gets? >implying effort
>Just think about it from the male perspective.
Read the thread>>25064628 No way my complaint is against potential femanon respondents who make contact with a hi, right?
>Putting out some cringey inventive first message in the HOPE that she likes it enough to grant you with her presence in conversation. What does that actually mean? It means he's a fucking idiot, putting SO MUCH effort into little to no possible reward.
see>>25066657
>And I'm definitely smarter than the guys who put those cringey first messages out there
[citation needed]
see>>25070067
>But yeah keep going on with your fucktarded logic
Will do, thanks for dropping in.