/Polyamory/ THREAD. Would love to hear your stories and experiences

>>24653981
I've always had a fantasy of being in a four with what starts out as another couple. Or I could imagine a trio, either with two guys or a guy and a girl. It would be sexual and romantic, and we'd all live together in a cool house and fuck and hang out in all the different combinations as the mood took us.

I expect they can be made to last, but the more people involved the more likely there is to be a falling out between any two of them.

Do you have any experience OP?

>>24654596
i know is off topic, but i always dreamt of a relationship like the one you described but with a roomate (male straight here), you know, living together, hanging out and fucking. we would sleep in different bed but i imagine that when one of us couldnt sleep goes to the others room to fuck. i imagine both being around naked in the house, showering together and a lot of nothing-good-on-the-tv fucking. She could be lesbian or bi, and we would have threesomes with her friends.
would be only sexual, we would have a friends-like relationship in other aspects, and we both would probably be single, but dating and hooking up with other people, most likely to be each others wingman

>>24654700
That's beautiful and not off topic at all I don't think. I could so imagine being the female in that arrangement.

>>24654711
i think i would be kinda scared sometimes of falling in love or becaming somewhat dependant of my roomate, dont you think?

this isnt my first choice i prefer monogamy but i just want a few bitches to worship me. is that really a crime?

>>24654717
Yeah I can imagine feels getting in the way of any kind of casual set-up like you describe.

>>24654723
would you be ok of me fucking some of your friends? would you and any of them be ok of a threesome? have you already done it?

>>24654734
I've never done anything like this. But in that kind of arrangement I imagine that yes I'd be cool with that.

Are polygamous relationships not typically long term?

I was fooling around with someone who was into polygamy and her relationship seemed to always be either extremely good or bad to the point where it was considered toxic.

>>24654741
i imagine you knocking my door in the middle of the night: "would you fuck me, please?"
or being wakeup in the morning been sucked

>>24654769
>i imagine you knocking my door in the middle of the night: "would you fuck me, please?"
Ha, I like it!

I'm curious,
would any of you anons have any interest in a longterm MMF love-triangle?
If yes, why and under what circumstances?
If not, would an FFM arrangement appeal to you?

>>24654596
would you let the two guys dp you?

>>24654837
Hell yes

>>24654846
Nice, as a male im not sure how i feel about it
you know ball busting together, feeling the other dude dick with mind, but if a girl ask for it i guess i couldnt say no
do you done anal before?

>>24654854
Anal yes. Never threesomes though. But when you said DP I imagined one in my mouth, not anal, which would seem more of a challenge to do comfortably.

I'm in an open relationship (although my girlfriend has mentioned she has no physical interest in other people).
It's not like I've taken advantage of it too many times...
Mostly did online flirting (although I have made out with one chick and had sex with two other chicks)

>>24654866
ha, dp is vag and butt, never knew of someone whos done how good or bad is it, only in porn
but if you like anal guess its double pleasure ;)

>>24654878
why are you in an open relationship if your gf doesnt fuck anyone else?

>>24654882
Anal is not as easy as I think porn might suggest. It takes a lot of work to do it comfortably with a guy being very patient, using lots of lube, and managing to stay hard throughout. I imagine it would be difficult to do properly in a threesome.

I was in a MFF one for about 7 or 8 months a couple of years ago, and it was pretty good.

>Lived in a 4 bedroom apartment
>Me another guy and 2 girls
>All strangers to each other, girls kinda knew each other but not well
>3 months go by all on good terms hang out often when outside of the house, other guy stays at his girlfriends place most nights so its just me and the girls
>Have sort of had flirtatious banter with both girls from day 1
>Come back from gym one afternoon, girl 2 at library studying. Girl 1 somewhere in house but don't know.
>Go to take shower
>Girl 1 investigates noise I was making, make sure I wasn't an intruder
>Finds me naked about to step into shower
>We both laugh about it and joke around fo a minute then she leaves and I shower
>that night her and girl 2 came into room to fuck
>they'd been fooling around with each other for a couple of weeks
>This basically just developed into a kind of relationship
>We all developed close feeling for each other, although outside looking in it just looked like we were really good friends who made out when drunk
>Then I met a girl at the gym who is just the greatest, so I phased myself out of the relationship with my housemates and started dating Girl 3
>Was probably perfect timing as well as Girl 1 and 2 had a much more intimate connection with each other than I had with them
>Fast forward to today 2 years later and
>Girl 1 and 2 are still my best friends
>Girl 1 and 2 are getting married in February 2017
>Me and Girl 3 are still dating
>Only time I've had sex with girl 1 and 2 was when girl 3 wanted to do something she'd never done before so I suggested that.
>So far its happily ever after

That's my experience. I think it's great, that relationship really helped me find myself. Also should add that it isn't just all threesomes all the time for those that think it is.

>>24654886
because she knows i have a crazy libido and we can't ALWAYS see each other.
She also tries to be open about the fact that i'm sexually / physically attracted to other people

>>24654888
nice trips of truth
do you ask for anal? or always the dude sugest it?

>>24654921
I'm keen on anal play but anal sex has mainly been cos the guy is into it.

>>24654937
But did you enjoy it?

>>24654983
Yeah, don't get me wrong, it's nice when you get into it, and I like the dirtiness of it.

>>24654878
also, those two chicks i had sex with, it was so close to being a threesome..

I am f and i want to have a fmf relatuo ship with my bf. Its pretty hard to find and most single bi girls are not interested in being a unicorn so i haven't really bothered to find a gf

>>24654902
Dude, that's really cool to find an actuslly uplifting story for once on this damn site. I really dig your luck, man. It fills ne with joy knowing that some people get a really decent lot.

>How did it start?
was sort of dating an older woman and she introduced me to her younger partner
>How many partners were in the polyamory relationship?
there were three of us. me, younger girl and older girl
>How long did it last?
about six months
>Do you enjoy it/did you enjoy it?
at first it was nice. but eventually jealousy set in and things got awkward
>Was it purely sexual or romantic aswell?
it started out as romantic. older girl and younger girl were romantic and sexual partners. I was romantic with older girl and after meeting younger girl was romantic with her, too. eventually we agreed it could be sexual
>Was it a "triangle" (all partners having feelings for the other partners) or more of a network thing (some partners had feelings, others branched out)?
I think we all viewed it as a triangle in the beginning. equal sides, equal feelings. but sometimes things get "unequal" and people prefer one person over another and then things get out of balance.

>in a long term relationship
>Girl talks a lot about threesomes/being with another woman but never acts on it
>Her friend gets out of bad relationship and starts staying with us on weekends
>Friend flirts and throws herself at me constantly but I turn down out of respect and love for girlfriend
>Girlfriend becomes more and more distant, treats me like shit
>Friend and I talk about getting my girlfriend into having threesome
>Me and friend seem to connect more than me and girlfriend
>Have threesome one drunken night after the bar
>One of the best experiences of my life
>Girlfriend mad because she felt left out because me and the friend spent more time on each other(which we sorta did)
>More into the friend than girlfriend
>Friend leads me on over and over
>Breakup with girlfriend and confess feelings for friend
>get rejected
>They are suddenly best friends and I'm left with my dick in my hand

Whatthehellhappened?
Feelsbadman

>>24655179
i feel bad for the girlfriend

>>24655179
She was already into her friend (and visa versa) and got jealous of you and her friend being together. Her friend wanted nothing to do with you, just wanted you and your gf to break up.

>>24653981

> be me
> fall in love with two girls
> they both fall in love with me
> decide to try the polyamory thing
> doesn't go well, one girl is very jealous
> breaks apart, I stay with the jealous girl
> slowly fall completely in love with her
> she can never get over the fact that I wasn't completely hers at the beginning
> Can never get over that old jealousy
> slowly drift apart
> feel like I lost the love of my life because I was greedy and tried to have two girls
> haven't loved anyone since

>>24655233
:(

>>24654983
>>24654995
Nice, we could totally have that roomate relationship

>>24655038

I am a dude in the same situation. My gf is all for trying ffm but all of her girlfriends are in relationships now and neither one of us knows how to approach a random with a proposal like that..

>>24655254
ikr

I was thinking tinder but I remember when I was single I was so annoyed to be constantly hit on by couples trying for threesomes, and I don't want to be like that lol

>>24655239
yeah it fucking sucks and to be frank I discourage anyone who thinks about it from ever doing some poly shit

it never, never plays out like you hope it will

>>24655203

Maybe you missunderstood. Girlfriend was the one who kept talking about and suggesting it. I really had no interest in anyone else but her. She was treating me like shit. Acting single, going out and passing out drunk at male friend's houses. Probably cheated on me. Treated me like a maid/paycheck. All before anything with the other girl happened.

>>24655217

My thoughts exactly. Now I feel like I can't trust anyone.

>>24655270

There is an app called feeld (formerly "thrinder") that is apparently made for that sort of thing. We tried it once - we're in Chicago - and got plenty of matches and even met up with a girl for drinks, but it was kind of a turnoff because she kept talking about all the sex dates she had scheduled.. we both realized that that kind of hookup is just asking for std's.

It sucks because both of us often get hit on by girls separately (they think she's a lesbian because she has a bunch of tattoos) - but when it's a package deal, no dice :/

>>24655075
Yea, can't lie I've got it pretty good.

>>24655254
You and your gf hit on people in bars/clubs make the proposal there, some are into it some aren't. Poorer success rate than one night stands at clubs and shit obv.

That's what we've done anyway.

>>24655280
jeez
>>24655309
sorry it ended so badly
>>24655311
hmm. maybe i'll check it out

>>24655329
I get it, but I find approaching randoms for sex to be kind of creepy, and it's amplified when a couple is doing it. Ideally it would happen with someone we both already knew and were comfortable with, like in your situation.

>>24655352
>>24655352
Yea that's ideal as long as everyone is comfortable with it.

If you are or were in such a relationship :
>How did it start?
Struggled with the emotion that I love and crave multiple peoples attention. Married, expressed to wife that I can't be the man she deserved. She decides we should try an open relationship as last effort. Ended up being best thing that ever happened.
>How many partners were in the polyamory relationship?
I've dated two other women at the same time as being with my wife. My wife does not take part in my other relationships.
>How long did it last?
Its been two years since its started, and I don't think it'll ever change.
>Do you enjoy it/did you enjoy it?
I love it, I still struggle with the fact that I feel I need this, I very much want to be a good husband, but I also know that I love other people as well.
>Was it purely sexual or romantic aswell?
Both
>Was it a "triangle" (all partners having feelings for the other partners) or more of a network thing (some partners had feelings, others branched out)?
It was never a triangle, I had friends who I developed feelings for and had to stop it before it was open, but my partners do not know or meet my wife, just part of the rules.

Me and the GF have had a few FFM threesomes and even swung once, polyamory is next. It's tough to find a single bisexual girl who'd be down for something like that...

Hey, a thread about our interests!

We're a MFF poly triad in Los Angeles. Live together, love together, occasionally play with another girl in kinky foursomes.

Been together almost two years now, and wife and I have been married for almost four. Loving life, and advise people to really try poly.

>>24656368
Are you equals in that arrangement? Do the girls fuck each other when you not around?

>>24656117
Does your wifi get with other dudes?

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I want an FFM triad so fucking bad. I think I'll get there someday, but having those empty holes in my life where there should be a guy and a girl is painfull. My hope though is that being a fairly attractive bisexual girl raises my odds of this happening to me, so I won't have to wait as long for it as some people.

>>24656725
Post pics of yourself?

>>24656725
I seriously doubt that this would be difficult to find. My girlfriend and I would do it and we're pretty ordinary otherwise. You just have to put yourself out there.

>>24656725
Same ;-;

>>24656401
She does not, she prefers monogamy. But I encourage her to do as she pleases. She absolutely can if she wants, its all about equality with us. But she seems like she would want to be with women more than she would want to be with other men. She has huge crushes on a few of her female friends.

Had a crush on a weird girl and she had just gotten out of a poly thing and wanted it to be something she could do again and I decided I could see where it went.

The triangle
It ended up with us and another wonderful girl in a sort of long/short distance thing together
It hasn't really ended but shes about an hour away and neither of us have cars and we don't talk for weeks at a time but when shes around its wonderful as it always is.

I also date around with others as I please but my main? girlfriend doesn't almost ever.
Also I am a boy

Quite jelly of all these people who've had interesting poly experiences!

>>24656725
You're a unicorn. Trust me, you're in high demand. So don't be surprised if finding what you're looking for either separately or together is terribly easy.

I just can't wait until things are settled enough with my new girl so that we can start down that unicorn hunting path.

Me and my ex toyed with the idea of an mmf threesome but nothing ever came of it. Started browsing some ads on Craigslist earlier this month but nothing promising has come up yet. Was involved in a ffm threesome when I was younger but it didn't last long.

>>24657571
Pursue your own then

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>>24656392
Yes, we're equals. And not usually - it's more fun with three (or more).

Pic related because I'm feeling generous.

>>24660397
So you dont usually fuck one of the girls alone?

>>24660397
Who of the 3 girls are your girls?

>>24656725
What area, might be interested in taking you out for a few nights out with us if you're UK based.

>>24660463
No.
>>24660466
My wife on the right, gf in the middle.

>>24660691
wifey has a nice ass

>>24660708
Yeah, yeah she does.

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i don't recommend these types of relationships unless you're very mature, not jealous, or have the right sort of people. for what it's worth, polyamory isn't the same as one-off threesomes.

>How did it start?
met a guy, liked him, turns out he had a gf (later was his wife), liked him too much by that point, decided to take up his offer on being his other gf. he and his wife are no longer together.
>How many partners were in the polyamory relationship?
me, the other girl, and the guy. there was some casual sex with other partners in between (me and other dudes for his entertainment).
>How long did it last?
i'm still with the guy, but we're on the outs. i'm extremely untrusting/jealous. the wife is no longer in the picture. went on for about two years for me.
>Do you enjoy it/did you enjoy it?
i wouldn't do it again. strangely enough, i didn't harbor any jealously towards the wife but i am constantly worried about other women entering the relationship and having it play out the same way.
>Was it purely sexual or romantic aswell?
romantic between the guy and me, and romantic between the wife and the guy. the wife and i were not much of anything except occasional sexual partners.
>Was it a "triangle" (all partners having feelings for the other partners) or more of a network thing (some partners had feelings, others branched out)?
see above.

>>24653981

This was very sad for the 3 persons that we were not eh relationship I won't recommend this at all, more if is a romantic relationship between the 3 persons anyway a bit of story
I was on University and I had a GF that was Bi, she said that she wanted to have a GF too so was University I really didn't care much so I agree.. after the pass of a few months weeks we have like our first "Date" the 3 of us me and the other two girls we get along very good we drink and had a lot of fun we drink and get laid then was a routine thing every Friday we hang out together the other girl began to have feeling's for me and to have feeling for her one day we decide to talk the 3 of us and we decide to be a Polyamory relationship.. I don't wanna do a long story so when's school ended we all slips our ways and the relationship ended time passed and we all were very hurt and damaged
couple love is not something good to share... I really loved the GF of my GF and she loved my GF and my GF didn't love us anymore...

If you are or were in such a relationship :
How did it start?
was the GF of my GF then she became my GF too
How many partners were in the polyamory
relationship?
3

How long did it last?
2 years and a half
Do you enjoy it/did you enjoy it?
yes and no.. at the beginning was amazing at the end was very sad
Was it purely sexual or romantic aswell?
Romantic and sexual
Was it a "triangle" (all partners having feelings for the other partners) or more of a network thing (some partners had feelings, others branched out)?
Triangle we all have feelings for each other

>>24660781
Anon, that's more because the guy was an asshole. Polyamory isn't the same thing as asshole.

>>24660934
nothing i said here outs him as an asshole tho.

i'm just a jealous person and i'm not fit for any type of monogamy.

>>24661030
er *NONmongamy

sorry i'm out of it

>>24661030
You fell for him, then turns out he had a gf? He should have made that clear from the outset, and not offered a relationship that was a tripod.

>>24655038
Same :/ Where are you at?

>>24655233
Would you say there was a sexual attraction between the girls? I feel like the love has to be mutual between everyone for it to be successful

>>24653981
>If you are or were in such a relationship:
>How did it start?
My now-ex and I started having an open relationship about four years ago, because we were both in our mid-20s and we'd been dating for four years and we were sorely lacking in sexual experience. I'd only had one other partner, and she hadn't had any. It went from being just an open relationship to a polyamorous one when we started falling in love with some of our new partners and dating them long-term.

>How many partners were in the polyamory relationship?
It varies. At one point I had three girlfriends, but my primary and I broke up a few months back, so now I'm back down to two. They both have other partners too, and some of those other partners have other partners themselves, so it's hard to say how long the chain is.

>How long did it last?
I'm still poly, though my original partner went back to being monogamous after we broke up.

>Do you enjoy it/did you enjoy it?
Definitely! I honestly don't know if I could do a purely monogamous relationship again. At most I think it'd have to be an open monogamous relationship where we could have sex with other people, and I'm not even sure about that.

>Was it purely sexual or romantic aswell?
Definitely both. I tend to have a lot of difficulty being sexually involved with someone unless there's some kind of personal connection there. It doesn't have to be romantic, but I'd at least have to be friends with anyone I slept with.

>Was it a "triangle" (all partners having feelings for the other partners) or more of a network thing (some partners had feelings, others branched out)?
The latter. I've never been in a relationship triad, though one of my girlfriends had one with her other two partners for a while.

So much love for this topic first off!*

Being a gender fluid bisexual, I pander to a wide audience. So I find many beautiful amazing friends. But I have found that we have sex in our pairs then change around across days or weeks. There is still a route kind of appreciation for the collective though.

* [What's super not cool about the whole ordeal is having people leave you out of threesomes and group sex events in your shared place when you had displayed an obvious interest and invested planning.]

>>24655038
>>24655254 <-same situation here

My fiancée and I are looking for a gf. Maybe with her as a unicorn at first, but we're ultimately looking for a triad. Our main problem is that we rarely get out to meet new people, and all our friends are either couples or single dudes. And we also have the problem of not knowing how to approach people with such a proposal.

We're toying with the idea to go to bars though, just don't know any good places in Stockholm to try it though...

>>24662743
Tx

Humans are already pretty terrible at loving one person; to think you or anyone can love more than one at one time is ridiculous.

>tfw "unicorn"
>tfw men are okay with me but women generally aren't

How much of a waif do I have to be for women to give me the time of day?

I've spent the last three years trying to meet women and nothing has come out of it. I don't know how to appeal to women, or anyone else for that matter. I tried looking better--I became leaner, wore different clothes--but still didn't draw anyone in. And yes, I did talk to people, I reached out.

There's not much else I can do.

>>24656368

> and advise people to really try poly

How can you do that when you're not even poly, just cucking your wife?

>>24653981
>bf asked for a poly
>cried for hours
>cheated on me anyway with the guy

>>24656919
>put yourself out there
How do I do this?

>>24659218
Thanks, I'll keep that in mind. Things should come together someday.

>>24660478
Saxony, DE. Sorry :(

>>24664694
>I don't know how to appeal to women
Yep, same. Almost all of my friends have been guys since I was 13 or so. I've had many boyfriends, but no luck with girls.

>>24664788
>I've had many boyfriends, but no luck with girls.

A lot of it comes from not knowing how to approach other women. Also, it seems to me that bisexual women don't really have a calling card like lesbians do, so there isn't an easy way to spot them. Thirdly, it's almost a given that any generally attractive bisexual woman will be in a relationship at any given time.

me and my girlfriend of a year and a half recently just went non exclusive, shes had some luck but I havent yet feel like a cuck. any tips on finding other people, we're going to a bar tonight and shes gonna be my wingman.

>>24664694
there's a few ways to look at this.

1. you look too good and the wives/gfs are intimidated by you. personally, i wouldn't want my SO fucking another girl that looked better than me. that's just me, though. i'm guessing it's probably this since you say women aren't into you but the dudes are.

2. appealing to/seeking out women is difficult because sometimes they have difficulty taking initiative. best to seek out couples that have shared profiles on dating sites (fetlife, for instance) rather than going after the girl on her own. i've had more attention in couples contacting me versus girl profiles, because they are typically male driven (guy contacts first, the girl and i will talk after). or just try to set it up with the guy.

3. either they're into you or they're not. maybe it's personality? because finding a girl into mff is so rare, i've noticed that a lot of couples will take whatever. it's probably not really how you look unless you're completely obese/horrific.

>>24664788

>I've had many boyfriends, but no luck with girls.

So have a MMF. Even better

>>24664818
>you look too good and the wives/gfs are intimidated by you.

I can personally guarantee you that that isn't the case.

The issue with your second point is that I'm generally not interested in men and would feel guilty about approaching him in order to get to his partner.

>maybe it's personality?
Maybe, everyone loves a happy, bubbly extrovert and I'm a subdued but friendly extrovert. I've had plenty of people reject me for my looks before they had a chance to notice any personality flaws. Such is the life of the homely.

>>24664855

>I'm generally not interested in men

Then FFM aren't for you, and it's kind of really fucking stupid you're looking for one

>>24664922
I'm not necessarily pursuing one, but I'm open to the idea. Still, you're right, a triad isn't a good idea for someone like me. I'm more interested in women who happen to have boyfriends.

Me and the GF have been together 8 years and she's bisexual. We've had a few FFM threesomes and even swapped partners with another couple. We've been looking for a nerdy, chubby bisexual girl with big tits to be the third leg of the threesome. Don't care if it's more of a FWB's kinda thing or if the relationship becomes polyamory, just looking for someone else to love and play with

>>24665014
How big do the tits have to be?

>>24665034
How big do they have to be? Lol no, it's not a requirement, just a preference. As long as everything is generally in proportion. Me and the GF do like em big though, DD cup to F cup is ideal.

Why?

>>24665014
how did y'all find girls interested?

>>24665051
Because I'm a chubby, nerdy lady with an above average bosom.

>>24665054
luck plays a big part in it

>>24665061

Pics or it didnt happen

>>24665061
Got a kik? We can discuss this in private

>>24653981

Polyamory is cheating

>>24665076
It won't be happening for you, I don't post pics on /soc/

>>24665079
TomServo89
I'm busy right now so I won't respond immediately, but you'll hear from me tonight.

>>24665090
Sent, don't keep me waiting too long

>>24665102
Thanks, I'll try not to, I just have some Christmas shopping to do.

>How many partners were in the polyamory relationship?
3 of us
>How long did it last?
a couple months.
>Do you enjoy it/did you enjoy it?
Hell yeah
>Was it purely sexual or romantic aswell?
Both.
>Was it a "triangle" (all partners having feelings for the other partners) or more of a network thing (some partners had feelings, others branched out)?
We aim for a triangle, but my guy is free to see who he wants.

I just want another couple to hang out with, live together, all four of us cuddle or we switch or whatever suits the mood. I had this once and I desperately miss it. We have a child now so it wouldn't be a simple but I want that so badly. I loved them as individuals and as a couple. ;-;

>>24660397
Is everyone in your pic related 18 and above? I don't wanna go to prison for saving it