- Female Domination Thread - Talk about femdom, share stories,

Male from the UK here.

I am sometimes dom and sometimes sub, but absolutely dying to be dominated right now.

Seems so hard to find a dominant female though.

Mostly into just eating pussy, ass, foot worship, having her use me for pleasure rather than the whole pain infliction thing.

Except chastity might be fun if I could ever find a girl to lock me and tease me.

Is it true that sexually submissive men are the least desired type of partner?

>tfw you're way more dominant than you want to be

>>24382714

I wouldn't know - I think there are plenty of dominant women around, we just don't notice because people don't tend to wear their sexual preferences on their sleeve.

30 male from the US here.
my (27) gf and I are both switches, but she does have a lot of fun being dominant.

Ask away any questions and I'll answer honestly. Won't post pics.

20 M, US here

Im not into latex, strapons or anything either but I love having a Mistress. A woman whose in charge and can treat me like im disposable to her but keeps me with almost a tsundere attitude, I would want her to tease me by grabbing my dick secretly in public, telling me things all day till I felt a constant throb in my pants. id want her to make me edge right in front of her multiple times for days until she let me drain my semen inside of her if I was good enough.

Of course this is an ideal sexual fantasy but i like having this the other way around for me, with her being my toy and her being the submissive one as well, I like a woman who can take charge and be a little slut whose whole reason for existing is to please me.

30 - Male - PA

I'm a switch, always was the dom in previous relationships and whatnot. Always wanted to try being a sub out of interest.

>>24382714
Depends on how a person is submissive. One of my exgirlfriends was submissive 24/7 and it became annoying. It was similar to have another dog. She had to ask to do anything and would never sexually open up unless I was in control.

Yeah, sounds fine in fantasy land, but think about it. You want to date someone and they act like you control them, even out in public.

>>24382961

Most of the girls I've met or dated with dominant personalities who wanted to take the lead in a relationship turned out to be almost completely submissive behind closed doors. When I was 18, I had a girlfriend who switched almost instantly. One minute she'd be smirking as she ordered me to carry her bags and lay my coat down on the bus seat so she didn't have to sit on the weird stain (all of which I loved), but when we got home she'd be telling me to slap her around and choke her until she passed out. It was incredibly confusing. I don't have a sadistic or aggressive bone in my body so I couldn't bring myself to do it and we'd argue for hours. Absolutely baffling.

>>24382698
Femanon here. I love being trampled barefoot, but that's it. Shoes are too painful. I've found a couple of partners willing to do it, along with other foot related activities such as worshipping and sniffing.
Apart from that I'm into being tied down and forced to pleasure my partner, being pegged and being spit on.

>>24383070

Huh, you don't find too many girls into being trampled. Probably even fewer than girls who like doing the trampling. That's pretty cool. Do you think guys are more likely than girls to say "huh, yeah, why not?" when you hit them with unusual requests?

>>24383098
Oh, sorry anon I have no experience with men, I'm only into girls. I've heard conflicting things though - some guys are ready to anything for their partner once they know she enjoys it, while others think that uncommon fetishes are gross and straight up refuse. I imagine nerds would go for it and Chads would refuse. That's pure guesswork however.

Personay I've found women to be quite open to things, but LGBT people tend to be more open and accepting of sexual deviance and "weird" desires.

Bamp

>>24383115

You're right about LGBT people. I think it's because they're more open to talking about sexuality in general, as a result of being forced to grapple with it right from the outset. All I know is the internet is an awesome place. I've met a lot of great people on sites like FetLife.

>tfw a hot domme messages you finally
>tfw she's even kinkier than you and convinces you to do super hot stuff you'd never even thought of before
>tfw you buy pretty underwear and model it for her
>tfw she asks for your paypal one day
>wut
>she gets mad when u says no and threatens to sell your pics online
>tfw it was all a scam
>kms

21 M USA here

I am really into most aspects of femdom, the whole idea of being made to do things that I never thought of or don't want to do is what really turns me on. Having a woman push you over the edge to make you do those things just gets me in a way nothing else does.

My ex-girlfriend used to dominate me every day and I got so used to the lifestyle it's sort of ingrained in me now. If I would have known how hard it is to find a woman who truly is into femdom I would have worked harder to please her.

Currently looking for someone to fill the roll but if proves to be difficult due to location I live in.

>>24383012
>One minute she'd be smirking as she ordered me to carry her bags and lay my coat down on the bus seat so she didn't have to sit on the weird stain (all of which I loved)
Love that. Me and my gf do all that but she takes the attitude to the bedroom as well.

I'm a small white chick and all I want is a pretry boy Asian sub.

>>24384674
I'm willing to bet there are a lot out there who would be into that

>>24383070
>being spit on
10/10 excellent taste, femanon

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I'm a KV but in my mind I'm mostly submissive. Not into harsh domme stuff (except for SPH), I much prefer gentle, caring dommes. Bossy teacher/motherly/librarian types. Anyone else prefer that?

>>24384674
I love small, cute dommes. Shame I'm noy asian I guess.

>>24382698
Not into either. Findom is way too "real" in a sense, and I hate how every girl who needs some quick cash is now a findom. I like to be teased, not ripped off. I'd want to have a a real relationship with my domme, not just a business arrangement. It cheapens the experience for me.

>>24382714
Most likely, unfortunately. Girls these days all want Daddy to choke them :/

>>24383461
Call the cops on that monster

How did you guys discover your fetish? I did when I started talking to a girl off a chan and I thought my dick was average, and she asked to see it and said it was small and it totally broke my self esteem for a while. Then I kinda started to like being told I have a small penis. It feels good in a weird way to be humiliated.

>>24384705
>Bossy teacher/motherly/librarian types. Anyone else prefer that?
Yes, my gf is literally a bossy teacher who looks like a librarian. Great pic btw

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>>24384715
My oneitis is a shy assistant teacher who says little cute bossy things to me and I fucking love it

>>24384731
Feels so good being bossed around by a girl, I love it when she takes charge.

Another great pic. Sometimes she says out of the blue "kiss my tits!" and I just drop everything to obey her.

>>24384711
I think for me it's a coping mechanism. I never had a gf so I guess my mind warped to finding denial/humiliation hot. I still feel kinda bad when I cum hard to being degraded tho. I think that's why I've started to go toward gentle femdom in recent years.

First "submissive" fantasy was when I was 11 and fapped to the thought of licking the feet of a girl in my class. But to me that wasn't sub, it was just a hot thing to do cuz I liked feet.

Around 16/17 I found femdom porn and loved it. It was very extreme stuff from MenInPain and DivineBitches. I thought that there was only one flavor of femdom and the cruelness of it was kinda hot to me. I think I never got into being a dom as a guy because I'd feel too bad humiliating and dominating a girl. It doesn't give me the excitement of "power" I just end up feeling bad for the girl.

>>24384731
Any chance of getting with her or is it the classic oneitis scenario? Does she have a bf?

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>>24384752
Nigga that's AMAZING. She ever order you to worship her feet? What else do you guys do?

>>24384762
>I never got into being a dom as a guy because I'd feel too bad humiliating and dominating a girl. It doesn't give me the excitement of "power" I just end up feeling bad for the girl.
Aaah it's so much fun thougjh when they are into it. Don't feel bad for them, you understand what it's like to want someone to dominate you.

>>24384770
She doesn't demand it like with her tits, but I do kiss her feet sometimes.

Generally she is the just the one who decides when and how we fuck. Even when she's face down arse in the air she's calling the shots about how hard I should fuck her and all that. She has a need to be in control of situations.

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>>24384764
She did. There's always been sexual tension there. Its a weird situation. She used to be into my best friend, who was playing her just to get his ego stroked. He liked the attention, but not her. Meanwhile I was catching feelings for her, and he kept playing with her just to get a 1up on me. Eventually I told her, but she didn't reciprocate.

I'm no longer friends with that guy, but me and her stayed friends. There's been times where she would tell me I was cute, grabbed my arm while walking, talked about masturbating, etc.

One time when I was really drunk and laying on the floor at a party, she rubbed her feet on my face, knowing I had a foot fetish. But Idk what her deal is. We've never kissed. I just don't care all that much anymore, it's been years of this shit

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>>24384777
Yeah but it's hard to get into that "sadistic" mindset. I assume it's the same reason lots of girls don't like to/know how to dom.

>>24384796
That sucks about the other guy. Extremely hot that she put her feet in your face like that :P

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>>24384790
Does that need also happen outside of the bedroom? I love bossy chicks, but an actual control freak could be problematic for the overall relationship.

>>24384801
I understand. It feels a lot nicer sometimes to just surrender control and be someone else's bitch. I've had gfs who were much more sub, current girl is fairly unusual I think.

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>>24384802
Son, that was the hottest experience of my life. Looking back, I should have given them a kiss/lick. But I was very high/drunk and felt something on my face for about a minute, before fully registering it was her feet and saying "yo". Her feet jetted bsck and she said "sorry". I still don't know if she was just trying to tease me without reprecussions of me being awake or what...

>>24384807
She likes being in control in general but tries to tone it down in public. Most people would say we have a fairly equal relationship. I don't like her being controlling in general but if it's a case of her wanting something specific done for her I am usually really happy to satisfy her wishes. I tell her sometimes to keep her bossy side to the bedroom, where I am happy to admit to her that I love letting her get her own way.

>>24384816
You're making me wish my girl was more into feet, I want to suck her toes right now. I bet you fap to the memory. Did her feet smell good?

>>24384818
Has there ever been times where u were more the dom in bed?

All I want in life is a cute gf who'll tease me about my little dick.

>>24384826
Yes definitely, and it's really hot. She likes being fucked roughly and held down. But there are some things she has just never really been into, like giving blowjobs, that slightly kill the dom mood for me because I can't just have my way with her. I used to choke my subby ex gf on my cock. I sometimes resent that I'll go down on her for hours but she will rarely let my cock in her mouth, but just knowing there is that imbalance and I enthusiastically eat her pussy regardless gives me such a submissive thrill that I can't be too mad at her.

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>>24384823
I'll be honest, I didn't really inhale deeply and don't remember. But I'll tell you a story

>Be Me
>Need A Date for my father's wedding
>Ask her, she oblidges
>we arrive, she looks great
>My uncle knows we're not together and makes things awkward af by saying "don't worry, you'll come around" to her
>FuckingKillHim.jpg
>I ask her to dance
>she says "uggh fine" like it's a nuissance
>heart drops as I remember we're just friends
>we actually have fun slowdancing
>after the ceremony my friends who were invited and my sisters (she's their best friend) go to a pool hall
>she takes her shoes off cuz they've been kiling her all day
>she goes to the bathroom
>thisismychance.jpg
>ask my friends if I should sniff her shoes
>my friends are deplorable foot lovers like me and say yes
>I take a big whiff of those sexy high heels she had on
>they just smell like leather, her feet haven't sweated at all into them
>my non footfag friend looks at me in disgust
>nigga, whatever

The creepiness of what I did made it really hot, even if no foot essence was on the shoes.

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>>24384839
Unfortunately, over time, I think most girls will lose respect for huys who are into that. The more she says "you're not a real man, I need more" the more she'll start to believe it.

>>24384859
Unlucky that they didn't smell of her feet. I love the smell of my girl's sweat, I prefer the sex when she hasn't showered. I also fap with her underwear and other clothes. Smells so good!

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>>24384840
No offense, but even as a subby guy, if I eat pussy and it isn't reciprocated when I want the majority of the time, that's some bullshit right there.

>>24384864
I worry the same, and don't really pursue humiliation for that reason, even though it's hot.

>>24384870
I can understand you feeling that way, and yes I would love more blowjobs. But eating pussy is amazing to me and i don't do it primarily or really at all to get it reciprocated. Maybe I need a side girl who sucks my cock even though I never eat her pussy, to even things out!

>>24384864
Good. I'm a cuck deep down.

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>>24384868
I'm very peculiar about foot odor. It's hot on socks/shoes, but for actual feet, I prefer clean soles. I'd love to inhale the shit outta some fresh out the shower feet.

The idea of me needing SOMETHING that contains the girl's essence is what makes panties and socks so hot. I would love if I had a girl and she went on a business trip or something, and left a note on our bed with socks/panties, saying "enjoy what you can of me while I'm gone. Guess you'll have to settle for jerking off onto my socks and panties like a little loser until I get back, tehe" or something like that.

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>>24384877
Nah, cheating is wrong, friendo. If you really like being your girl's good boy, you'll work it out with her. I wouldn't eat pussy with the thought that I was doing it for head in return, but if the ratio of getting head to eating pussy started to become noticeable, I'd feel she wasn't as invested in my pleasure as I am in hers, which wouldn't feel very good.

>>24384882
I love fapping with my nose pressed into the crotch of her panties, or the armpit of a t shirt she was wearing for exercise. I've done it with her actual armpits before but she gets pretty self concious. Sometimes the whole "kiss my tits" thing progresses to me fapping in front of her.

>>24384889
I'd never actually cheat on her, just love anything involving some kind of a power imbalance that the sub feels they should object to but actually finds really hot.

She cares about my pleasure just has weird hang ups about oral. The ratio is definitely tilted towards pussy eating, but I could never get bored of her hot wet cunt.

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>>24384880
I love cuck porn and cuck RP, but for my girl to actually lose respect for me and not look at me as a sexual being anymore?

FUUUUCK THAT SHIT

>>24384892
What prompted the whole "kiss my tits" thing? It's such a hot idea

>>24384897
Yeah, I guess pussy is a pretty good equaliser lol. What positions does her dominant ass like most?

>>24384902
Basically that she's always like the feeling of having them kissed, and she knows I'll do as I'm told when it comes to pleasuring her, so sometimes she will just flop them out of her top, or lift a t shirt or whatever (she often goes braless) and demand kisses. Glad you like it!

>>24384906
Doggy is both of our favourites. She has a big ass and is made for doggy. It seems like a female sub position but not when she's bossing me around with speed, rhythm, angle and all that. She likes to sit on my cock facing me with me propped so my face is in her tits, she gets very hot and sweaty in that position :)

>>24384907
Do you guys ever play little domme/sub games when out in public?

>>24384912
What kinda of dirty talk and phrases does she commonly use during sex?

>>24384915
Pretty much never. It's a behind closed doors thing.

>>24384917
That's good I guess. Although I think it would be hot if my girl dropped little hints or said bossy things to make me blush while out with friends...knowing they might catch on, but only me and her know what she really means.

>>24384916
I do more of the talking but she says stuff like "harder!" and "oh yeah cum in my pussy!

Sometimes if let's say I'm eating pussy and I come up for air she'll say without a trace of a smile "I never said you could stop". That turns me full sub, I love being bossed around.

>>24384922
I love that as fantasy but not sure how I'd feel in reality. Recently I saw a guy crouching to retie his gfs laces while she stood over him. Part of me would love to do stuff like that. I have cuck fantasies as well but do not want them coming true.

>>24384928
Wow, that IS hot. The arrogance as if you don't need air, serving her is always top priority. Does she know that you enjoy being her subservient little pup, or is it just how things naturally progressed?

>>24384933
Same here. The most I'd do is cuck RP, but I wouldn't want my girl thinking too much about it and wanting to cuck me for real.

>>24384943
I have a real weakness for arrogant bitch type girls. I would say it naturally progressed. She sees how much I get off on it.

>>24384946
Yeah, I love hearing about her past sexual experiences, but that's about as far as we've taken it.

>>24384947
Bitches are hot when it's sexual, but a girl who's genuinely mean or arrogant also grinds my gears. I need her to know the difference.

>>24384952
Exactly, that's why I encourage her to keep the attitude for the bedroom

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>>24384949
That's murky territory, bro. She ever compare you to past lovers to tease you?

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>>24384956
Smart man. I aspire to be like you one day...a male sub who retains his integrity as a man, and enjoys relinquishing control to his queen.

>>24384960
Never in a harsh way, no. But I get her to tell me all the graphic details, I love to know all about it. Also she split up with her last bf for me, so I guess I cucked him.

>>24384963
I worship her, seriously. I literally kiss the girl's ass.

>>24384968
Do you guys evet have sweet discussions about that kind of behavior afterwards? This might sound selfish but a girl who tells me how much she appreciates my worship is super hot to me

>>24383431
Yeah that's it. Kinky fuckers all of us :p
>>24384703
Yeah buddy, wish I knew why I liked it, but since it gets me off I'm happy with it

>tfw no qt domme gf to beat me to a pulp and then ride my face for hours
why even live

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I don't even have any problems with my mom, but I kinda want to get a sweet gentle switch gf that keeps me as a house husband and lets me call her mommy. Ladies I am available as heck

This doesn't really seem to be a contact thread, but if any dominant females (or even girls who are just curious about femdom) are reading and would like to talk more about this stuff, please contact me. British guy, 49, very submissive.

kik: redgrouper

>>24384705
I like mommydom or whatever it's called

>>24384705

Yeah, one of the biggest problems with findom is that legions of camgirls who've never had so much as a dominant thought have figured out that they can open up a whole new revenue stream by posting a few enticing pics and charging money to tell guys their dicks are tiny. There are girls out there for whom the money is just a bonus, another tool with which they can inflict punishment and suffering on willing subs. They're just as rare as blue lobsters. That's why I've been looking for a financial domme for so long even though BDSM communities are practically overflowing with them.

>>24386123
I love motherly, caring dommes but hate incest and incest RP. I just wanna be a girl's good boy, not her son.

>>24386126
How do you think a findom relationship between gf/bf would work?

>>24386138

Some findommes just like to have bank account access or total budget control, that's definitely a realistic possibility in such a relationship.

That wouldn't work for me though - what I like about findom isn't to do with the money or not having control of my own finances as much as it is to do with sacrifice. How cruel is she going to be? What will she make me give up for her benefit?

You just have to understand the mindset. Imagine being some pleb peasant working night and day to raise a couple of sheep, when you've got enough wool you work your fingers to the bone making a blanket, and it's shit. It's coarse, rough and scratchy. But it's the best you can do. So you take it to the princess in her castle to present it to her and she just laughs in your face.. She has never known anything less than the finest furs and silks her entire life, what use could your shitty blanket possibly be to her? She laughs at it, and she laughs at you as she throws the result of your many months of hard labour down onto the floor and wipes her feet on it.

For me, findom is an extension of that burning desire to feel worthless and demeaned. What's the most important thing I can give up, and what's the most useless or frivolous thing she can spend my money on instead? Psychologists probably dream about meeting people like me, lol.

>>24386328
I'm genuinely disgusted and genuinely hard. It's sexy but I'd absolutely loathe for a woman to have no heart to this extent. I think in this case, my morals override my arousal.

I think this is how dominant men are born lol.

>>24382714
Let me level with you. Heterosexual females, generally speaking, desire dominance in the opposite sex. Heterosexual males, generally speaking, desire submission in the opposite sex. Exceptions aside, this is the way it's been for thousands of years. It's in our hardware and software.


>>24382698
>share stories, experiences,
Sure.
I'm in sort of a "traditional" relationship now, but was with a kinky switch for about a year and a half. When she was with me, we alternated, and she liked it rough when it was her turn to get it, but boy did she love to domme.

We did some fingering, pegging, flogging, and once caning (only recommended on weekends and for those with high pain tolerance).

We broke it off because she was a bit too loco for me (coke, drinking binges, money problems, emotional instability), and now I think is a "daddy's cummies girl."

If I were to sum it up to one experience:
>we agreed for a consensual-non-consent situation (look up RACK vs SSC)
>wore a thrift shop button down, slacks, and boxers I didn't care about destroying
>she got me drunk off my ass to make up for the size difference
(once again, only recommended if you laid everything out beforehand and you have full trust in your partner, as well as a contingency plan for if thinks go south)

>cajoled/pushed me to the bedroom
>cuffed my arms and legs to the bedposts
>blindfolded me
>gagged me with a breathable gag
>wriggle to add realism
>bedposts solid as.. well trees

>she knew I liked feet
>rubbed them over my crotch over my pants
>slowly rubbed them up my body to my face
>covered my face, pinched my nose
>told me to lick, obliged
>stuck her toe in my mouth
>gnawed it a bit like a brat ;}
>PAIN
>smacked my balls with a folded belt
>continued to suck her toes
>alternated with light CBT spanks that got increasingly harder

>starting to get more uncomfortable
>starting to wriggle more
>trying to make noises through the gag
>futile
>spanks get heavier
>subside

(CONT?)

I'm 24 M looking for a female dom, nothing excessive
kik: ellykelly_1993

Are there any actual femdoms in this thread who want something other than a sissy?

>>24386739
(CONT)
>feel coldness on my hole
>seize up
>it's KY
>"open up. relax"
>she slowly starts putting a finger in there
>in
>out
>in
>out

>feel something new make contact with my asshole
>it.. it's going in
>it went in.
>it's small.. but spherical?
>again
>and again
>again
>and again
>wtf?
>realize it's anal beads

>PAIN
>spanked my ass for wriggling
>"stay like that for a little while"
>hard as diamonds

>new sensation
>whatnow.gif
>pain.. burning.. heat? HOT
>hot wax on my chest and testicles
>dripping at random intervals
>can't get used to it
>trying to hold in anal beads
>wriggling

>new, new sensation
>whendoesthisendohgod.webm
>cold
>ice cubes
>"i'll break down ( i.e. untie me, remove anal beads, end rp) when they melt"
>wait
>wait
>wait
>feel like testicular frost bite is underway
>shivering
>cold water from melted ice running down my leg
>feels like for ever.

>feel a tugging at my ass
>plop
>plop
>plop
>all gone
>feel being wiped with towel
>feel wax being picked off
>unblinded
>ungagged
>uncuffed

Pic related is a crude drawing of how I was. My legs were above my head so blood was somewhat going to my head. My ankles were affixed to the top "bulbs" of the bottom bedposts for better anal access.
>>24383070
>Femanon here.
>being pegged
Hey anon, I hope you don't take this the wrong way, I'm really liberal about the gender/sex dichotomy, but for clarification of others and purposes of discussion it might be better to come out as MTF.

For example, it took me 5 minutes to know if I was reading that right or not.

>>24384674
asian pretty boy here who likes dominant white/asian little girls. contact?

i'm also quite large and muscular so the smaller the girl who is dominating me, the more thrilling it is for me. top fetish is orgasm control.

>>24386798
I also love bossy short girls. What does it for you? The "irony" or cuteness of it?

Findom is swell, but it feels a little odd when I make more money than my subs.

Anyway, it's difficult keeping longer relationships with someone when I have this professional, aloof attitude all the time(people tend to like it to a stern teacher) or finding someone who isn't too clingy and understands that I work a lot. I just want a submissive companion type that has some kind of free will when I'm away but surrenders that to me when I'm present. Why is this so hard to find? Everyone wants instant gratification.

>>24387000
I personally feel like I can govern myself and be proactive and dominant, but the allure of a girl being dominant is intoxicating. Are you always stern and professional, even when intimate with a sub?

>>24387000
probably because of the lack of dominant females in the community and when a sub comes across them they're terrified of losing them, thus clinginess proliferates. Though obviously it would depend one where you've found your subs

>>24387017
I tend to be most of the time, yes. I mean there are times when I can be warm and nurturing but those are rare moments.
>>24387022
Ah, that's true.

>>24384899
Just trying to understand that fetish, I thought that was the point of it?

>>24387047
>>24387000
And i dont really get the problem with the professional attitude the majority of the time, surely that would make the rare occasions where you are warm and nurturing all the more intimate and special for the sub?

>>24386793
I think I just used the wrong terminology, I'm biologically female. I just like being anally penetrated with a strapon, assumed it was pegging, my bad.

>tfw a transgirl into gentle femdom

Where the fuck do I find dom fujoshis at

>>24387047
That's probably what turns a lot of subs off. Even those of us who like cruel dommes need some sweetness to balance it out. Or maybe not. Idk.

>>24387083
I would assume so, but it's not the people under me that have issues with it. It's more everyone else I interact with.
>>24387116
No, no. The subs I've had had no problem with how I am.

>>24387067
It's hot in theory, but actually being betrayed and cheated on and shit?? Nah. I can fap to cuck porn or get into a girl saying cuck stuff to get me off, but if i were cucked for real the hurt and anger would outweigh the arousal.

>>24387124
Ah. Then I guess thoae are different kinds of subs. As a teen/early 20's I was into harsh cruel stuff. I still find that somewhat hot, but my fetish has become a lot less hardcore over the years. I want less of an evil bitch and more of motherly domme. Maybe it's me entering my late 20's...I think I'm entering dad mode and find nurturing women hot cuz they can love and care for my babies. Idk.

>>24387124
>but it's not the people under me that have issues with it. It's more everyone else I interact with.
then why do you care?

>>24387138
Ah.
>>24387146
I have my moments of introspection.

>>24387090
Actually I think it was me who was being stupid there.

In my mind pegging had the sole connotation of female on male.

>>24387067
Well there are a whole plethora of fetishes and fantasies people get off to, but would never try IRL.

>>24387125
>>24387187
Ok, but I see other forums in the internet where they are really into it, so Mutch so that the husband gets castrated, i can't grasp what people get out of it other than that are mentally ill

>>24387268
Yeah....well if you can kinda grasp my level of being into it....just imagine that snowballing out of control and voila

>>24387000

Findom where you make more money than your sub is the best type of findom. I'd even go as far as to say it's the only real type of findom; if you need my money to pay your rent and keep your car on the road, who really has the power in that relationship? It'd be more of a sugar daddy thing, and you sternly demanding my money would only be an act. For findom to work for me I need to know I'm disposable and that my money is just there for a domme to waste.

>>24388797
I don't even spend the money most times. Demanding it is just point of power and control; I own you and everything in your possession is forfeited to me whenever I wish to take it.

>>24389205

That works too.

I understand what you say about people looking for instant gratification. I think the sheer number of fake findommes in the community feeds that sort of behaviour - you can go to a site like FetLife, scroll through a list of identical "give me your money, piggy" adverts and pick whoever's online. Three messages later you've sent them some money and they're telling you what a pathetic penis you have. It's like an instant fetish vending machine. I wouldn't even go as far as to call it a business transaction; its basically the equivalent of a vanilla dude being able to log onto Pornhub at a moment's whim and start beating it to "Anal Milf Creampie 7: The Revenge of the Scorned Dong" or whatever it is people are into these days.

The art is being lost.

I haven't really looked for a findomme for a while. I am far too poor to be of any interest to most. Moreover, I'd have to stop paying for trampling sessions, which would break my heart. It's the things we love most that destroy us ._.

>>24389321
It's pretty disappointing when guys come to when I can they're just desperate for a quick masturbation because it's hard for them to find females to attach themselves to because nowadays it's just catfishing and the likes. They're in a rush to get me to tell them things or show myself to them so I just ignore them.

No such thing as too poor to me because again the amount doesn't matter, it's the principle behind it. Those that tend to care are the people you mentioned in your post. They're also the types that drain people dry too fast. I've always made sure my subs have money to sustain themselves before taking what I want. I don't think driving people bankrupt is nice or the sign of a good leader/master. There has to be some trust that I won't ruin them.

>>24389348

Well, you're right. "Safe, sane and consensual" has always been the BDSM rule of thumb and that extends to findom too. Do you think the thrill of having the power to demand money from a sub and have it given to you is increased by knowing he had to sacrifice something in order to meet that demand?

>>24389403
>Do you think the thrill of having the power to demand money from a sub and have it given to you is increased by knowing he had to sacrifice something in order to meet that demand?
Yes and no. When the sacrifice is a necessity like to pay bills, no. But say a luxury he likes like some form of entertainment like a new game or something, then yes. It's also mainly the feel of having the power to demand it that feels good, like being deified and having subjects pay tithes.

>>24389450

Well, to prevent this from becoming a findom only thread, I'd be interested in talking more. My kik is ceremonialteaset if you'd like.

>>24389555
OK.

I was a Domme for about 8 years. Part-time since I had a regular job. Out of it for he past 10 years but thinking of getting back into it. The money was good and I'd have more time for it now.

>>24389734
How much did you make? Like was it based on act, or just a standing rent for whatever they wanted.

>>24389738
Based on time. $150/hr. 6-8 clients that I met every 1-2 weeks.

>>24389758
Any hard no's? I could see being a domme as tough if you're not into what they're asking for.

>>24389788
No sexual contact, except with a straight, female client. When I say no sexual contact, I mean no sex. I did CBT and pegging but never fucked or sucked (except for the female).

>>24389799
Why was a straight female visiting a domme?

>>24389822
Why not? She likes being dominated and humiliated just like the guys did. Her husband wasn't the type to do it and she didn't want to be with another guy, so...

>>24389837
Might just be my inability to comprehend bdsm without a sexual element, but it seems contradictory to me.

>>24389890
Not at all. Tying someone up, dominating them, inflicting pain and that person wanting pain inflicted on them. Doesn't need to be sexual but it can be.

I think my clients associated pain and humiliation with sexual pleasure. But I had a guy who did nothing but dress in a maid outfit (how cliche is that?) and clean my kitchen for an hour. No sex, no pain, just taking orders from me. Best $150 he spent.

>>24389837
Very hot that a straight woman came to you for humiliation. It seems to be very common for professional domes to have rules against sexual contact, you'd think there'd be more overlap with 'straightforward' prostitution. I love to worship a woman but to me that involves sexual contact.

>>24389987
The only time I've talked to other Dommes was at DomCon in Atlanta. The general consensus was that most did not participate in sexual contact except for pain purposes. That's not to say you can't find a prostitute who will flog you as you fuck her. It's just not what I did.

bumping to find sadistically minded dommes to chat to.
>>24389890
bdsm doesnt have to be sexual for both parties, one party may gain intense sexual satisfaction from being whipped while the pro-domme doing it to him feels nothing sexual at all.
obviously it being sexual for both is the ideal but people dont always find the right person for it?

>>24390161
if you want to hit me up on gmail it's inkedrunner1972