Dating Profile Rate/General Advice Thread I have a hard tim

>>24290971
I have a similar problem, I'm also just looking for friends on OKC but all the women there either want the love of their life or just a quick hookup, no friends (despite tagging it).

But you made interesting experiences, quite different from mine, when it comes to women on OKC now.
Most girls there want to chat for weeks first before meeting, while I prefer to meet them pretty early on to see if we click or not.

From all the dates I had with girls off OKC pretty much all but a few turned out to be single for a reason, which is why I dropped that idea and am just looking for friends now.

But every woman you message will think you only want to get your dick wet, that goes for every social site/app, not only OKC.

Are you purely looking for a friendship or also with the possibility of more? Are you working or studying? City or countryside?

>>24290971
Your profile is pretty good, in that it's well thought out and has information about what you enjoy. I'd also put some lighter stuff on there, you know? Put some dumb shit you like talking about, what you do for fun that isn't dangerous.

Urban exploring, and... what. Hiking? Binging on shitty TV shows? It just sounds like you'd be rather deep to hang out with, which is fine if that's how you are all the time. But if you have lazy, fun guy moments, give a glimpse of that, cause that's more attractive sometimes than even the most well-spoken busy-body.

Plus your pictures aren't great. Get a close up of you out with your friends, having fun. The other two are cool, but your close up is really close at a laundry room...

I met my man on POF and we've been together for 3 years, so. I also hate meeting up before we've talked for a few weeks, so I know that struggle. It took me like 8 months to find someone i clicked with, and a lot of weird dates before that happened, so don't lose hope.

>>24291103
>>24290971

To answer your other questions, a lot of women present more aggressively feminist on internet dating sites than they are in person because it weeds out the dudes who threaten to rape you if you don't find them interesting. I always put "feminist" in the description, just because it gets the whole conversation out of the way before it ever happens. If a dude messages me and says "You'd get a lot more hits if "feminist" wasn't in your description," i know right off the bat we probs won't be buddies. Saves us both time.

As for meeting people outside of bars, go do things you like, and hope that ladies are there. I wouldn't suggest picking up interests that are female-dominant in order to pick up women, because you're gonna end up meeting women with different interests than you. Just get more involved in your hobbies, make sure you look and smell nice when you go, and make friends.

Hope that helps somewhat :)

>>24291020
I live in a major city. I'm aiming for a girlfriend. I work, in addition to my creative side projects.

>>24291103
>>24291122
Thank you for the advice. I only added the laundry room selfie because there are no pictures of me smiling. I'll try to take some photos of myself next time I'm with people.

As for other hobbies...I watch pro-wrestling, pull pranks, walk to the beach and watch the lake.

I don't have a television anymore, but I used to watch Alaskan Bush People, Moonshiners and Billy The Exterminator.

That's a good point about including feminism in the profile.

https://www.okcupid.com/profile/Traveler1295

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http://tinder.com/@thatweirdguychase

I just wanna chat with a girl over coffee or drinks, but it seems even that bar is too high. After some marginal success a few months ago, my matches have slowed to a crawl. Gotten one match in the past month that wasn't a bot, and the convo fell off after one night. Got the sense she was drunk Tindering.

>>24292985
You give too much of a fuck.
Go in it like you don't want matches, talk to them like you couldn't give less of a fuck about them.

Two sentences and one picture and I get mild mannered, quiet, bland and boring dude.
No offense, but you gotta let go and stop wanting it, it'll come.

>>24292985
Have to be fun and more playful is my advice

>>24292996
Any way of expressing that I want to be more adventurous and getting out and party? I hate being a shut in.

If you go out in the World and do things you like or maybe try something different, I.e. go to an artist's showing or an open mike night, volunteerin a soup kitchen, you increase your odds of meeting someone. (I do volunteer work each week, an I hooked up with other volunteers).