Age Gap thread. Any guys interested in joining a group with

How old?

>>23059713
M/30/france
Frenchfrog30

I m curious to see that playrhing you're talking about

any milf?

>>23059713
Where are you located?

36/m/Chicago looking for a cute younger woman whom who's interested in a D/s relationship
skype: Albanypark36

44 m usa
Kik expod13
Will talk to anyone

24 m ger

django199109

add me id love to give a little attentiopn away.

21/m/US
Interested, my kik is soc.sucks.

45 m USA
Kik penfan88

anyone added yet ?

>>23060006

In your imagination

>>23059713
psxburn 37 m <---- thats my kik btw

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28/m/california

Easy going guy looking for companionship. Enjoys nerdy activities and pretty chill.

kik:mcboots
skype:evldcky1

21/m
I'll give her what she deserves
Kik: jimboslice943

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Floridian little girl here looking for old men to befriend.
Don't message me with dick pics, asking to meet up, or creepy advances.

Kik: bunny.4ch
Email: [email protected]

I don't check either of these frequently, so if you respond in thread telling me to check them I will. :)

>>23059713
Murlocker101.
Got a nice dick and haven't came in a few days, would love to spill my seed for your little toy.

abcqrt on kik. have a 9inches disk and have had several pets, so i'm ready to give everything

>>23065195
>9inches disk
I also have some vinyls.

>>23065089
please check your kik

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>>23065264
Ok :)

>>23065089
You might be interested in this
https://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/2015/02/28/hot-little-hands/14250420001535

Cool papa here. WM 55 Philly PA USA 215/610.
Interested IRL meetings with women under 30.
No kik, sorry.
[email protected]

>>23065278
Hey how old are you?

40+ UK please post Kik!

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>>23065498
No thanks, not into child erotica.
>In “Warm-ups”, the strongest story in the collection, we follow 13-year-old gymnast Kira from Vladivostok as she plans her first trip away from her family, to America with her coach for a demonstration. It’s simply wonderful and left my heart thumping.
barf

>>23066255
>trying to converse with me in thread instead of messaging me

>>23066365
37 close enough? fantasticmrf

29 f would bang a hot younger guy.

>>23066788
What do you consider hot?

18/m looking for older woman or even if youre just a few years older that's okay too just looking to kik maybe trade nude pics see where it goes from there BTW I'm pretty horny at times if that's what youre interested in pretty much I'm open to anything kik:coolniceguy1

>>23066788
Location would probably help, but I'm the same age as you anyway.

42/m/NYC

Kik/skype: lightbolt03

Bumpin for teenage girls who love a good Dad-bod

30m
Looking for cool younger girls to talk shit and see if anything happens. Can talk deep/philosophical, or just normal stuff.
Kik hatwearer

>>23068849
Me me me

>>23069302
How old are you? And define dad bod.

>>23069302
Hey, hit me up, bit of a dad bod as well
>>23068983

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>>23069316
Literally Google dad bod.
But to me it's an older guy (40+ is mmm) who has kind of let himself go, so he has a bit of a tummy and chub going on.

>>23065089
Btw, this is me.

>>23069316
43. Dad bod is just as described by The other poster.

36m lookin for 20 y/o
they all want sugar daddys

>>23065089
added

>>23059713
kik: flyingknee21 add me up so I can teach your pet a lesson

>>23065089
Check your kik
I'm joke14 btw and I would like to be added to the group

>>23059713
kik DrDogMan
info M/33/UK/leeds

would look forward to using/remote directing someone else's slut.
but "it" needs to know that It will be punished if I'm not satisfied.

30/m/uk Kik: BigGuyUK29 horny as fuck

19 M midwest United States love older women kik is orgoth1140

>>23066788
Would about a not very hot younger guy

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M/24/US

kik: ijima

add as you please

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44/M/UK

Nice Daddy for littles.

I don't care about experience, body shape or ethnicity.

Just looking for someone to start with an online chat, maybe a few rules and take it from there.

Come say hi

kik:flyer200

>>23065089
kik'd you

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>>23069603
>added
>>23069611
>add me up so I can teach your pet a lesson

yuck

>>23069622
>Check your kik
>I would like to be added to the group

gags

Now I know who not to talk to.

>>23066852
Tall skinnyfat dark hair good smile

>>23067233
I'm on the east coast usa

>>23070077
19 is a stretch for not hot :/ can't date someone 19 bc too big of gap

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>>23071277
>can't date someone 19 bc too big of gap
>10 years is a big age gap
>be me
>talks to men up to 60 years older than me
I guess I'll go contemplate my life

So, speaking as an older dude who just ended a two year relationship with younger woman (she's 26 now), for both the men and the women: Go for it.

Yeah, my relationship did end, but it ended really lovingly and we had a really good time together as a couple. I'm solid and grounded, excellent career, etc, but still totally open to having fun, so we got along great. Traveled when she had vacation from school (she just finished a bio degree which I had zero financial hand in, as she's always been self sufficient), her friends liked me and mine liked her. Though her mom had major issues with the whole thing.

Anyway, she liked me because I could actually hold a conversation, also enjoy science, was caring, playful, and yeah, great in the sack. Lets face it, at my age I may not be able to do it as often as a guy of 24, but I can do it a hell of a lot longer and know what the fuck I'm doing (she'd never had an orgasm or squirted until we started dating, and after a year she was like Old Faithful on a regular basis).

Yeah there were some differences. She wouldn't get some of my cultural references, and of course she'd like to have a baby in 5 years while I have zero interest in another child.

Other than that? Great time. I highly recommend the men and women here to try it out.

>>23071296
add me pls

Django199109

>>23071296
I don't date anyone with more of then like a 4 year age difference tops. And I'd date younger before id date older.

BUT my dad is very young and my best friend so that's probably why. Older men are still like "adults" or my dads creepy friends lol

>>23071316

Hey, if your father's friends hit on you, THAT shit would be creepy. And hell yeah, if dating older men (like +10 years) isn't your thing, then it isn't your thing. You do you. All good.

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>>23071316
I was just messing around!! don't sweat it.
I know not everyone likes creepy old guys lol.

>>23071342
Exactly :) I wouldn't ever put others down for their preference in age I just wanted to make >>23071349 feel better

>>23066788
18 m kik- ianbitxxh

35 m UK

kik is firstname.surname

Would like to find a younger girl who is still keen and eager, interested in life, sexy, who wants to enjoy the experience of an older guy...

Hopefully I'd tick all the boxes of what younger women look for in older guys.

43m looking for f18+, I don't care much about age difference. I think it is more important for two people to connect on an intellectual and emotional level, the rest seems to always sort itself out. I'm looking for friendship first, so something casual. If your not an age-ist hit me up Kik & Skype aromeoguy

m 55 Canada
Looking for a girl to chat with
oldcanuck2001

hey i just turned 18 and I love older men ;) im a girl from USA

kik is pachkasigaret

>>23072508
I don't know anyone who says they're a "girl from USA".

23/female/US

I'm looking for a clean chat. I'm single, but not available. Just want to vent and have a good discussion, particularly but not limited to kink/relationships. I don't have a problem with verifying my authenticity.

Leave me your kik if you want to chat. Thanks.

>>23072605
whats the use of adding you if all you want is clean

the one useful thing you possess you wont share...

>>23072605
Clean <> kink

>>23072605
Sure. I'm 34. Kik me at mesovortex.

>>23072616
Swine.

>>23072627
im ok with this

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>>23072605
>why not

>>23072605
Love to talk about kink with you. Hit me up, my kik is ronwoodward.

35/m looking to chat with either a guy or girl... (any age as long as it's legal) I am a teacher if you're into that sort of thing.
Kik:Thechard212

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>>23066788

24 and in md, kik me?

>>23072893

whoops, kik is danny.cow123

>>23072627
all men are pigs.
don't you know this, doll?

>>23071308
>So, speaking as an older dude who just ended a two year relationship ...

Hear here!

Go for it, indeed., If you don't pursue your dreams, you have no one but yourself to blame.

I am an older man and I have just married my young wife (23) after four years of living together. I'm getting my vasectomy reversal in a month and starting a new family. It crazy. Its fantastic. Its the life I want.

>>23071277
>tfw 19 short skinny and goofy as hell smile
>>23071316
Right "age gap" thread

19/m/Straight
Long blonde hair, broad shoulders, 6'3"

Would like an older woman

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47 m USA (Midwest)

Experienced Daddy Dom & BDSM mentor

I like talking to women who are into DD/lg, exploring BDSM, or looking for advice on finding a good Dom. I'll also talk to other older guys about the...challenges...of sustaining a relationship with a much younger woman.

Kik: NotoriousFAP

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>>23072616
>"whats the use of adding you if all you want is clean"
>but doesn't say that to me
(>>23065089)
shoo shoo swine

>>23071640
>friendship first
>kik name has romeo

A little inappropriate to have an emotional horny teenager that killed himself as your name bro. Especially since you're older and looking for friendship. Juuuust saying

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>>23074388
Stop being so judgemental.
If you actually got to know him instead of spouting off shit on the internet, you'd know that he's a very kind man who makes a very good friend.

>>23074388

It refers to the Italian car brand Alfa Romeo, one of which is pictured in his kik avatar, you stuck up plebeian slut.

>>23074600
>>23074448
And here we see that teasing on a Kik name is definitely changed to being both judgmental and a plebian slut. Then again I'm a catholic whore who's wedlock with a Jewish black guy that works at a military abortion clinic, so who knows, right?

I'd do the same if the name dealt with 50 Shades and looking for a vanilla and boring relationship, just saying.

Cmon guys, bunny(or is that a rabbit?).

>>23072605
Sounds like you're having some D/s related relationship issues. I'm 34, and experienced level headed Dom Daddy willing to listen and give any advice I can.
kik: zblackomenz

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>>23074657
I never said you're a whore, but you were being judgemental.
I didn't know it was common for decent guys that say they are looking for friends to get picked on over such a minor little detail.
It'd be different if his username was something suggestive like "bigolddick", but it's not.

Ahh /soc never change.

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>>23074690
>picked on
>being judgemental
Hun, you don't know me nor this particular sense of humor. Not trying to bait, being direct with you.
>minor detail
It's in the flipping name. How can I not tease someone when it's a major Shakespearean play, especially when we look at where we're posting? If it was achevyguy I'd be confused on whether that meant the actor or the car brand.

18/f/va

looking for sugar daddy to have good times with

ifyouknowwhatimean

reply with information

>>23074849

k.i.k.:

botolph

>>23072893
I don't have kik

>>23073238
There's a difference between dating and sex

>>23073143
Good for you!

>>23074849
speeder970

>>23074849
>>23074849
Kik me at mesovortex.

>>23074388
Ha-ha, yeah its perhaps a bit Freudian, but i created the kick before ever coming on 4chan.

>>23074448
Thank you sweetheart! Your the best!

>>23074600
Wow, first person to pick up on that?! Why don't you say hi? M or f idk if you got the car reference you must be interesting.

Why aren't there any older women here?

26/m/
into older women anything from 26+ to at most 50, would love a chat or more. kik:tjprins

>>23075245
Freudian. I like you, Romeo.
I might add you to Skype later, currently trying to sleep.

>>23075293
Sure. I gave up trying to sleep an hour ago.

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>>23075293
>trying this hard to cover your ass

>>23075476
I like your style. If I weren't mildly suspicious of you, I'd add you.

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>>23075503
>mildly suspicious
LOL OF WHAT

>>23075503
Shes awesome. Don't be suspicious.

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>>23075533
who dis

>>23075503
She is my sweet defender. What's to be suspicious of?

>>23075528
>>23075533
>>23075542
I'm just mildly alarmed by her collecting. Like... Kinda the opposite of when a guy comes in to these threads and posts to everything warm and (theoretically) born with a vagina.

I know she's not being a creep or anything, and I mean absolutely no offense by it. Especially since she said outright that she's not looking for lewdness, but it just makes me wary.

Like I said, I like her style. She seems cool. I'm just a bit wary.

>>23075578
Wary of what though? Can you be specific?

>>23075589
I guess I just wonder about the motivation? I don't know. I really don't mean anything bad by it. It just makes my reptile brain nervous.

>>23075539
Secret

>>23075597
Ah. And what did you mean by "collecting"

>>23059713
Jimmyrustler90

love to give orders, or patiently watch. want to see what you got, and give some requests. 28 m

48/m/603
Looking for folks in the 18-26 bracket who are enthusiastic, smart, and preferably within New England.
Gender and orientation aren't as important as the ability to hold a good conversation.
On-line is fine for starters, but be prepared to take things IRL.
6'4" if that's something that matters to you.
Escape to the woods for a week or a weekend?
borftein on [Kik,GMail,Skype,Snap]

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>>23075597
My motivation is that I like older men. If you ask anyone I've talked to, they'll tell you the same.
I started liking older men when I was in 4th/5th grade and had a crush on my music teacher who was probably in his 40's. He had a bear-like body and some scruff, which is exactly what I like to this day.
I came to the realization I like older men physically a couple years later, and I much prefer them to younger guys (teens and 20's).
Why? Because younger guys typically have a much higher degree of immaturity. I enjoy talking to older men because they are sort of my superiors.
I'm not self-absorbed, but I am a smart girl. I like talking to men who can teach me things and are more smart/mature/cultured.
I am not looking for lewdness initially because I get really bad anxiety with men if they try to initiate anything sexual. It makes me almost have a panic attack because I'm really bad at saying no.
However, if I set boundaries, it's easier for me to say no because I'll know they know how I am.

Hope that makes sense and isn't a big blob of nonsense

>>23075605
He probably thinks I have a reverse harem and collect old guys like dolls.

>>23075601
mk Cam

>>23075601
>>23075779
Cam/Tim I meant

>>23072605
virjility
female
22
i can relate to that need for venting

>>23074849

VA here as well. Racecup459 is my kik

>>23075779
I've been an 'older man' for...20 years now...and your experience is far from uncommon. The preference for older men is one thing that women don't seem to talk about with one another. All but two of the younger women I've been involved with hid their preference for older men from even their closets friends - I wonder if that says anything about society.

Do your close friends know you prefer older men?

I'd like to know from the rest of the femanons as well. :)

And everything you say about why older men are better, totally true and I've heard the same from every single younger woman I've been involved with over the past 15 years since I started paying attention to the fact that some of them prefer older men. More cultured, mature, usually have a job and their own place, and the good ones aren't out to control their partner or see what they can get out of her. The really good older guys are nurturers, not a father figure exactly (though DD/lg is a very common dynamic in my experience), but they actually care about helping their partner become a better person, whatever that means to her.

33 m usa
Girls only please
Skype jamegumb158

>>23077044
>Do your close friends know you prefer older men?
Yeah, they do. :)

You sound like a nice guy. I like the caregiver dynamic, where if I'm in a relationship with an older man, they try to help me grow into a better person.

>>23077142
> You sound like a nice guy.
Thank you! I try. It's taken a lot of practice, hopefully I'm doing it right.

>I like the caregiver dynamic, where if I'm in a relationship with an older man, they try to help me grow into a better person
I don't know why, but helping a young woman become a better person is immensely satisfying for me. I stopped trying to figure it out and now I just go with it. Being called 'daddy' in a loving way (in non-sexual context) makes my heart want to burst sometimes. :)

>>23075790
Not Cam or Tim.

mr_me123 24/m

>>23077044
The only issue I've noticed with older guys is they're often clingy. But that may just be my experience with the few I've been with.

>>23072508
not her, someone is trolling

>>23077794
ha, one of the girls I know out west (USA) is forever searching for an older daddy type, and they all eventually flake on her. The most recent guy called her 'mommy' in a scene last week and broke down crying. SO not what she wants! She's like "I just want them to use me hard and treat me like a sex object, and I end up being an emotional pillow!"

But hey...we're all fucked up to some extent.

>>23077794
That may come from the fact that most older men usually know exactly what we want and are usually more settled and don't want to have flings. On the other hand as anon stated most young women have not "come out of the closet" about being in to much older men, so there is a certain level of "at arms length" the woman wants to keep the man. Combine these and an older man can seem clingy. Speaking for myself I seek friendship first in part to help alleviate some of the perceived clinginess. And then of course there are the stage 5 clingers. Lol

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>>23077586
Cam and Tim are the same guy.

Is this Fred? ;___;

33m / Southern California / sugar daddy / successful, wealthy, white, tall, well-endowed, and attractive

Location doesn't matter because I can afford to pay for your travel. I want to give a good girl opportunities to experience new things she wants, and in return, we can have some experiences I want, that ideally are fun for both of us!

Feel free to message me on kik: socalcapt (or reply with contact info) if you want to chat about this opportunity.

>>23065089
I just messaged you on kik

25/F/USA

Looking for mature guys aged 30-50 to chat to.

I'ma bi woman in a long term gay relationship but I'd enjoy having a mature guy to chat to as a safe outlet for my sexual frustrations.

Kik: nikkiearmstrong

>>23077908
o.o jeez, I hope she finds someone.

>>23077926
Which I totally understand. But the two or three I've been talking to were definitely clingy. Kept asking me where I was when I wasn't talking to them, kept asking if I'd ever leave him (this was five minutes in).

>>23077951
No. Not sure you know my name.

Not really important, was just saying that you were a nice girl.

>>23078081
Ooohhh, stage 5 clingers. Ha-ha. There are girls and women like that too. That insecurity is not attractive. I like it a little after I have gotten to know someone, then I think it's kind of cute.

>>23077908
Is she in wa?

>>23078081
Which I totally understand. But the two or three >I've been talking to were definitely clingy. Kept asking me where I was when I wasn't talking to them, kept asking if I'd ever leave him (this was five minutes in).

Ugh, knowing where you are at all times...that's a huge flaming red flag. Can mean a lot of things, most of them bad.

43 / male / Australia

Interested in chatting to younger females.

kik : thebeedee

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>>23078106
Did I talk to you on my main Kik, with me as the profile pic?
I feel bad that I don't know who you are.

>>23078127
I admit that I qualify as quite clingy. Part of it is because of the relationship type I seek. Part of it is because my trust has been betrayed in both small and large ways by women I'd talked to for days, others for just a few hours.

When you difficult time trusting, you get that way. Having a clingy person you're talking to may not be your cup of tea, but try not to judge why they are that way.

>>23078116
I used to be a clinker with my hs girlfriend. But I noticed years ago that I kind of tend to get attracted to several different women at once. I've had my fair share of insecurities, but now, at the age of 41, I feel a lot more comfy in my own skin and have finally given up on monogamy, which I think just wasn't for me. I probably wasn't ready for it until now. I'm still in an experimental phase right now I'd say, with all this. This being poly, ddlg, younger women, kinks in general. But I have enjoyed learning how to own my intentions, and not feel like I should be the person someone thanks I should be, just so they'll stay with me.

>>23078127
Yeah, totally. I mean it depends on the level of the relationship, but keeping tabs on your partner minute to minute, even hour to hour, that's too much. And it can change from person to person. I was in a brief ddlg relationship online earlier in the year, and I was so into this girl, I'm not surprised if I came across as sort of clingy. :/

>>23077908
where in west coast?

>>23078180
Your bunny gif's are so freakin cute! I love fuzzy little pets.

>>23078229
L.A.

>>23078265
To bad. I try not to be clingy, lol, and I don't have mommy issues.

>>23075779
I would love to speak with you sometime if possible. My kik is sajl63
Full disclosure, I will probably ask for more pics of bunnies because they're adorable.

>>23078222
In hs I had the attention span of a knat and had constant new crushes and would break up with the current gf to go chase new crush. Probably why I stayed a virgin until I was 19. Ha-ha. Then I started chasing crazies. Great sex, but not stable. By the end of my 20s I got things figured out. I enjoyed being single well into my 30s before I started to want to settle down.

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Cjohn05 looking for an older girl 25+

>>23078106
she is a pretty chill gal and qt to boot

kt_rollster

Kik: otherside200

Add me

>>23074849


[email protected]

adamb3ard
19m milfs are cool

18 f Canada
Kik: gen537

>>23080374
What age were you looking for?

>>23080395
Pretty much any age older than me, but I prefer way older

>>23080402
Where are you located in Canada?

>>23080645
BC

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18/f/usa. I just lost my daddy of 3 years, he was in his mid forties. I'm really struggling, it was so sudden and now my life is upside down and I've been suicidal and lost. I hope you others are having a good night because I am not

>>23080683
Sorry for your loss

>>23080676
Me too

>>23080683
I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope that he is in a better place and that in time you can find another to fill his void.

>>23080683
If anybody wants to chat my kik is " tinyflyer "

>>23080703
>>23080734
Thanks you guys. I hope there's some other life out there.

>>23080769
You're quite welcome

>>23080645
Hi, i messaged you.

I would love to join the Kik group though I may be a bit late, I'm a young sub femanon.

I won't meet or give noods so don't get your panties in a bunch. But anyone is free to add me if you wanna chat about stuff.

Kik: mynabree

>>23080809
>won't meet or give noods

Literally why are you here then

>>23072605
kik is thecpa, im down for venting & chitchat!

ANYONE ELSE WANNA CHAT MESSAGE ME. 28/m/usa

>>23080769
Sorry, don't use kik. I hope the others are able to console you. Tell me, where in the country do you live?

>>23080374
I messaged you

>>23080828
The Midwest

I would love to join the Kik group though I may be a bit late, I'm a young sub femanon.

I won't meet or give noods so don't get your panties in a bunch. But anyone is free to add me if you wanna chat about stuff and things

Kik: mynabree

>>23080374
Messaged you

>>23080837
I'm in Chicago myself. Are you close by?

>>23080848
Ohio, so not too far but not very close

>>23080848
Depending on where you are it could a few hour drive or a quick flight. I wouldn't want to presume you're looking to immediately jump back into something though. Would you happen to have skype as well as kik?

>>23080865
Of course, I replied to my own posting instead of yours. Do you have skype?

My kik is KickinAnon and I've never really done anything like this so it would probably be a first for me.

>>23080934
I don't think a relationship is right for me right now, just looking for friends. I don't have a skype currently.

>>23081082
I completely understand. You should take the time to find what's right for you.

>>23081082
Girl, you are going i think you are talking too much
He didn't even mention anything about relationships lol
Always welcome people who are willing to help, and don't imply.

ps. Stop dreaming.

(btw I know kindness is so rare these days people counfuse it with flirtation, but hey, there are good people still...)

>>23081134
I'm sleepy just let me and my typos, its 7am here, cba to fix paragraphs lol

but make me so mad when people reject other good people. its just contradictory, needs help still dont want to get help. LOLOK

>>23081141
Don't worry, I didn't take her response in that way. I understand it's not an easy time she's going through right now.

23/M
kik: torin777

looking for a mature woman or a young lady interested

>>23073646
This guys a necrophile.

>>23081239
He likes the dead? Did you mean necrophiliac?

>>23080374
I messaged you back. Mesovortex again. We should talk again.

>>23078222
what happened to the girl? did it end because she wanted to be monogamous?

>>23081753
I think there was stuff in her life that was pulling her away, and I might have been a little too intense, but I imagine she would've broken it off anyways. I don't want to talk to much about here because it's probably insensitive to do so as she frequents some boards here. It was a wonderful time, and an equally painful thing to lose her. But I have no regrets.

any milf?

>>23083084
yh m8. ur maw

>>23083088
Thanks for your enlightened contribution.

>>23081141
Eh. Sorry stuff came offthat way. I'm talking to a few people, I'm not just here to have people pity me. I just wanted to make it clear that things wouldn't suddenly move irl. I wasn't rejecting them.

>>23078265
What's her kik? Or fetlife?

18 M virgin looking for older women to Kik
Cougar_Hunter007

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>>23073646
>>23081239
Necrophile is a stretch. He saved pics of me without asking and seems like he saves pics of every girl he talks to.
If you're a girl in his saved pics, I'm sorry for posting this and having all the world to see..
Better to know than to not, right?

>>23085226
What is this a screenshot of?

25/m/straight/usa/black

boredbeyondreason1

For dirty females only. For clean anyone is welcome. I tend to get great clean chats because people either have questions about America and its affairs, or questions about me being black in America. Im bored! Lets chat.

>>23085340
He sent me a screenshot of the pics he's saved on Kik to prove he deleted pics of me.
If you zoom into the "screenshots" folder, you'll see how he highlighted and clicked delete on 7 pics.

>>23085421
Can I talk to you on Kik or something? Have questions about this guy since I've been talking to him too.

>>23085452
Yes. my Kik is bunny.4ch

this bunny girl is annoying as fuck. is she gone yet? I just want to be able to scan for older men without scrolling past her autistic bunny .gifs

;-)

>>23085769
You lost interest in talking to me for some strange reason I guess.

34m oh

kik - maxjenius81

>>23085769
Your id changed?

>>23085830
And she'll blame you for putting zero effort into any conversation.

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>>23085830
Here's a bunny especially for you.
Clover tribute!
Good luck getting that stick out of your butt!

>>23085948
Yeah, I am on my phone. When it connects to a different footprint, my IP address changes, therefore different ID.

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>>23085850
>You lost interest in talking to me for some strange reason I guess.
>>23086027
>And she'll blame you for putting zero effort into any conversation.

Literally all I said is yes, I lost interest because I got bored in our conversation.
Then you flip the fuck out and call me an asshole.
I'm sorry for being upfront and honest about why my messages got shorter and stopped.
But now you've shown your true colors and you're just embarrassing yourself.
Just please calm down and get over it.
>being this entitled about talking to a girl

36/m/Chicago
Looking for a cute younger woman interested in a D/s relationship
skype: Albanypark36

kik: dean83m

32/M/Germany

I will blitzkrieg your slut and make her my german shepard.

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>>23085830
Careful what you say to Bunny, or I'll sick bunny kill kill on you!!

>>23086147
You put no effort into talking. You actually have to try to get to know someone you know.

18/m/631
Looking for a milf, 30+ at least

>>23086286
>being scared of little girls

yeah no

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>>23086308
>asks why I'm not interested anymore
>receives an honest answer
>throws a tantrum on 4chan
Ok. Goodbye.

>>23086342
No. I'm trying to knock some sense into you. You're young (underage I might add) and know very little about a great number of things.

>>23065089
Sent a message to kik. Plz check

Another thread another shitfight...

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>>23086353
Stop it.
I don't like you.
Leave me alone.

>>23086412
What is his other account?

>>23086412
That's the truth. Don't like it? Tough.

>>23086422
I'm hardly ever on it so it doesn't matter if you find out.

>>23086422
Something with a Pomeranian profile pic.

>>23086425
Eh, I wouldn't sweat it, bro. Some women are under the assumption it is up to the man to amuse/entertain them. They don't get that it takes dual effort.They don't get that the type guys that are into coddling women are usually just doing it for the wrong reasons, i.e. sex. Don't spend any more time with this one.

>>23086455
Point taken. Cheers.

I like how these threads, along with the ddlg threads, always turn into some sort of drama thread.

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>>23086409
It's not like anything involving the topic was going to happen anyway

>>23086485
I know right. And it always seems to be the guys act like entitled cunts.

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>>23086455
What
That isn't even what happened!
I held a convo with him, and eventually it hit a dead end. I am not interested in him, and I don't see how that makes me a bad person.
Then I became distant, he asked why, and I told him.
I'm not expecting men to "amuse" me. I am very good at carrying convos when I'm interested in a person and enjoying talking to them.
That wasn't the case with him.
Shame on me for not liking a guy, right?

>>23086485
>>23086502
I'm sorry for contributing to the drama fight. :/ I'll stop posting about it now.
Sorry.

>>23086519
I was not referring to you. You have every right to defend yourself.

>>23086502
i think a lot of older men think that they're going to find a girl who will idolize them for no reason other than being older and father like

And a lot of the girls think they'll just find a sugar daddy or someone who wont care that they're total brats

>>23086519
idk ive talked to you and known you for a bit and know your'e not really the drama type

You would think that some of you guys are the younger ones in the thread. Act like a fucking adult, do you bitch at someone like that when you meet them in real life and you dont get along?

She doesnt find you interesting. Get over it and move on instead of embarrassing yourself in front of everyone.

>>23086592
Another femanon here. Relax. He asked her one question then she went off on him. Then he messaged her privately and then she put him on blast for all of /soc/ to read his private messages. SHE embarrassed him in front of everyone. Pretty uncalled for.

Wow!! It is amazing how theses grown men act like immature adolescents! I feel bad for the girls here willing to put themselves out there and then have to deal with immaturity and bullying. I presume that's what they are trying to avoid by seeking older men. Sorry girls, we aren't all bad.

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>>23086592
You're just trying to drag this out aren't you?

So back on topic.

Any younger girls want to chat?

26 m. Will go as high as 45 and 15 for age. Females only. Kik. Sofaking26

I have spent quite a bit of time getting to know Miss Bunny. She's a good friend and we always have amazing talks together. It's refreshing to meet a younger woman who is intelligent and can carry a conversation on pretty much any topic. I am happy that I have her as a friend and think that you are all overreacting about her. It's not her fault she isn't interested in every guy that talks to her. Some click and some don't.

QuiGonJinAndJuice

28 M, Ohio. Probably not doing meet ups but like to chat. Preferably women. I've been in two long-term D/s relationships if you like or are interested in that type of stuff. I'm cool with just talking though.

>>23086412
Even older men are such babies sometimes

>>23087149
Basically this. I drafted a big long blog along those lines and more dramatic but no need, you nailed it Mr.

23/F

Looking for some discussion about anything really! I don't care about your genitals, I just want some good conversation without being bombarded with dickpics.

Just leave your kik and I'll get back to you! :3

>>23078265
Hot damn. I'm in LA, and I'm down with that. Hook a brotha up.

>>23087828
Sure thing. Kik me at mesovortex anytime you're free. Thanks!

>>23059713
kik wcl2016
30/m/usa

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>>23087149
>>23087508
Okay guys it's over nobody cares anymore

>>23078265
Dude, show her to this thread. Enough of us around here that should satisfy.

>>23087828
thebeedee

No dick pics guaranteed

>>23087828

kik - maxjenius81

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27/M/CA
Northern California Bay Area. DDLG mostly. Dipping my toes into BDSM and ideally would like to have my next girlfriend be a sub of some kind.

Kik is bestdayever2

>>23087828
Sofaking26

The conversations here always make me lose interest quickly. If any younger girls want to chat one on one, message me. 38/m

KIK: taco_jones

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>>23084222
>>23087881
>>23088153
Girl in question here - If you're actually old enough for age gap and you're kinky, let's talk - Kik me at PlushBby

>>23090917
If you just want to be used as a sex object, I'm pretty sure I could accommodate you.

>>23090917
What kind of age gap do you like?

>>23072605
Seabassbeard

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>>23090930
Oh fuck off. She never said anything like that.
Don't trust creepy disrespectful guys (>>23077908) who talk and exaggerate about a girl's personal and private life behind her back.

Ew...Why are men so gross...

>>23090988
And who are you? Some kind of neckbeard white knight faggot?

>>23091046
Reading comprehension: The Post.

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>>23091046
Are you a newfag? I'm Bunny, and I'm a girl.
I know the girl and guy who posted about her. He is a lying, disrespectful, and creepy jerk.
She told him stuff in private, and he embarrasses her by posting about it here and completely over exaggerating.
Take your entitled self and shoo pls

>>23091084
Is she good people?

>>23091090
I like her.

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>>23091090
she good people
much nice girl
:-)

>>23091110
I may consider hitting her up, but I think I'll wait until the tidal wave of requests recedes. Sadly, I'm a bit far.

>>23091084
Which bunny? The annoying fatty, or the ex fatty Asian Australian?

>>23073143
Note he is getting married but checking age gap threads. Does no one note these things?

>>23086686
White knighting is pathetic.

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>>23091262
Uh. Neither? >>23065089
I'm 5"6, 105 lbs. Pretty sure I'm not fat and never been fat.

Also, the Australian girl is sweet.
If she used to be fat, then good for her that she lost it.

>>23091267
I know right?! I cringe when guys talk about their wives on here in a loving way. I always assume they are coming from a camwhore thread they just jerked off to.

>>23091267
You don't know the dynamics of his marriage, so no point in just assuming the worst.

>>23091409
So you aren't the pushy bossy Bunny who was running that dd/lg Skype group?
Why are there so many Bunnies anyway? So confusing.

>>23059713
kingmantisjr

23,m,bi. interested in your worthless slut :)

>>23091409
You get it.
>>23091420
You are a positive person but naive when faced with blatant truth. He's scoping age gap threads which are for sexual gratification even if it only ever happens via phone, text or cam. Not all who add themselves here will get satisfaction but that ~is~ each ones hope.

>>23091470
So what if he does? It's not like he's actually cheating on his wife.

>>23091470
There are poly threads on soc all the time. Hell, I start some of them. He could be a sleaze, or in an open relationship of some kind. I don't assume it's the latter but you shouldn't assume it's the former either (at least, not and call him out publicly).

>>23091480
Intent or desire to cheat is also bad imo.

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>>23091421
Nah man, I don't touch Skype groups.
I think I know who you're talking about though. She is a little pushy.
My friend tried to join and she was told to take a pic of her passport or something to prove who she was.

Also bunnies are cute, I'm cute, other girls are cute...

>>23091420
I don't, but as I said it's my first impression.

>>23091480
Then why are so many married men secretive about it?
Cheating is objective in my opinion. Some couples are open, open with limits, mono with loose limits, etc. Every relationship is different and up to the partners to decide what is allowed and not allowed.

>>23091470
Yes! I've learned to expect the worst from people I don't know on a deep/personal level honestly.
Naivity just gets you hurt.

>>23091550
>She is a little pushy.
Sorry then, didn't mean to insult you.

>Then why are so many married men secretive about it?
Because they know it's not a big deal, but it would blow up out of proportion if their wife would find out. It's about the same thing as imagining someone else than your partner when you're masturbating.
Even more if your partner doesn't want to have sex as often as you, or whatever. That dude may actually be doing his best to keep the relationship working, and you all act like some kind of moral holy inquisition.

>>23091643
If their wife isn't ok with it, it's cheating. If it hurts her feelings, it is a big deal.
Relationships become toxic and essentislly worthless if both partners are secretive.
In my opinion, anyway.
Most married men who do this wouldn't be OK with their wife screwing around with men, which is ironic.

Also, it's OK. The only thing I'm known for on here is posting stuff about shitty guys to warn girls not to message said shitty guys.
But I feel like I'm doing a good thing since girls can avoid crazy assholes.
A few have stopped posting because of me, a few have thrown tantrums in threads.

>>23091550
I actually wasn't responding to you. That's why I had linked someone else's post.

26/m/USA

kik is ormedt. Looking for inexperienced girls.

>>23065089
I sent you a message.

>>23091729
I know, but I felt like contributing my 2 cents. Sue me.

>>23091550
I have to admit, after reading through this thread, I'm a bit confused. I'm still not quite sure if you're a nice girl and those guys were jerks to you, or their complaints about you were justified. Or something in between.

new thread soon pls

>>23092287
Nope, have another 250+ posts left

new thread soon pls

>>23092321
Go make one.

>>23092118
I'm a nice girl. I'm just brutally honest.
I used to lie a lot, but I realized I'm happier when I'm an open book with friends.
If I don't like you, I tell you. If you're annoying me, I tell you.
If I like you, I tell you. If you're making me happy, I tell you.
Some people aren't used to my honesty.

For example, >>23091774 messaged me and I told him right away I'm not interested in men in their 20's. He thanked me for my honesty and parted ways.
Then there's the guy having a tantrum when I told him I didn't like him after he asked why I wasn't being chatty.
/shruggu

Also, I think it's unacceptable when men betray/disrespect me or girls in general. So I make it public for girls to be aware they're bad news.

You can always just message me and find out if I'm decent.

>>23092460
>So I make it public
That's a step too far. I wouldn't want to try to chat with you and end up being posted on /soc/ when you throw a temper tantrum about something. And I'm a pretty decent guy, so I have no reason to think I'd do anything to make you mad, but you seem to get riled up a bit too easily. Seems not worth the risk to try messaging you.

>>23092578
this

>>23091348
Why? Is it wrong for me to speak my mind? I don't like to see people be abusive or rude particularly when they hide behind anonymity. I know a few of the girls on here and hear about the crap that these guys try to pull. It is shameful and outright wrong in some cases. Many of these girls are trying to find a positive older male influence. If they wanted a child they could date within their own age group.

>>23091710
On point bb. A relationship needs to be open. If one partner refuses to communicate or keeps secrets things will fester and die.

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>>23092578
You don't know what these guys have done to me. I don't think you're in the place to say that.
I've been treated HORRIBLY by men in my few years frequenting the age gap threads. To name a few things, I've had a guy physically hurt me when we met up, another blackmail me, a bunch try to turn my best friend against me, a bunch cheat on me, a bunch spread basic lies about who I am...
I have every right to warn girls who want the same thing as me; a kind, mature older man who isn't going to hurt us.
Such as this post >>23085226 by me. I had a few girls talk to me about this guy, and he's not good news.
If you see a problem in that, I don't think you're the type I'd want to associate with.

>>23092688
Nowadays respecting women is considered white knighting I guess, idk.

Bitter so pic is related.

>>23092578
>throw a temper tantrum about something
Additionally, that was very belittling and condescending.
I'm not a toddler who screams and cries when I don't get my way.
I don't throw "temper tantrums", I inform girls of abusive men.

>>23071277
20m masshole here! Where on the east coast?

>>23092578
You'd be fine then. She's been pissed at me, I apologized, I don't get called out on here, we move on. This isn't about minor stuff it's about things like safety.

>>23093009
Well, I wouldn't have called you out even if you didn't apologize. That's just petty, and I don't care that much about disagreements/arguments.
It matters to me when a guy is destructive and manipulative, then I'd call them out if I saw them post so history doesn't repeat itself.

>>23092809
You sound like Batman without the personal ethos

>>23093044
NUNNA NUNNA NUNNA
bunnygirl

Nah, I just follow girl code.
chix before dix, am i rite ladiiz?¿? B~)

>>23093056
Even chicks before old man dicks?
Please say it ain't so!

>>23093090
I meant dicks as in guys who are jerks, but hypothetically...yes lol

>>23093142
I knew what you meant I just like twisting it

Plus they would be so wrinkly, in complete contrast to said chicks

>>23093240
>I just like twisting it

go twist mine, faggot.

>>23093240
I know if I was a young girl and had a choice Id choose another girl

>>23093265
I'll decline, with all due respect (ie SFA)

Kik: johnmario2
19 m ny
Looking to talk to an older woman

m/30 USA
my kik is thechard212
I'm into talking with anyone younger(18+) or in their mid40s. I am a teacher if anyone is into that sort of thing...

>>23094073
Any student/ex-student stories or even just tension/flustered?

maybe...kik me

>>23072605
talking about things is good
hit me up
kik frankgrimes019

29/f/us looking for m 40+ (not a hard rule just a preference). I use kik so will check again (sorry, not posing mine but I'll add you if you have a nice profile pic). Into bdsm, switch, exhibition. Enjoy a good hard pounding from a strong older man

>>23072657
>Putting your kik name as a file instead of typing because you're hiding this from your girlfriend and don't want the keyword in the archive for that reason
Hmmm

>>23092809
That sounds like a self-defeating cycle. You have had bad experiences in the past, and as such have trust issues. That's kind of redflaggy, so decent guys stay away, and you are left with the jerks. And thus it continues.

Maybe you could try a do-over. Start fresh again. There are plenty of decent guys out there. Don't reject people from the bat, who knows, they might turn out much better than you expected.

>>23095342
Hi, I'm a 41 year old straight male from Seattle. I'm into DDlg and kink in general. I can give you my fetlife if you want as well. Hit me up if you want to chat. My kik is ronwoodward

>>23095685
How is it red flaggy when most guys wouldn't know her history unless she said so? I imagine soc is a small part of her wider experiences. People dont walk around carrying signs stating their life experiences.

32/m/Seattle

Reading this thread I genuinely don't understand why an older man would abuse the affections of a younger girl. I suppose it feeds pathos and fetishes regarding dominance and patriarchal illusions, but to me it's a matter of having a young, beautiful and intelligent young girl (consent is 16 in Washington, but up to 21 for me) to be affection toward you and to treat well and show her the finer things in life. Go to a play, have dinner, dress up and, yes, have plenty of passionate enjoyable sex.

I don't want an accessory, but a girl that will compliment and enhance this relatively successful life I'm living and help her to become a more mature, complete person.

>>23066788
21, fit, tall, I'm white with dark brown/ginger hair. 9.5 inch dick and Australian, you should get snapchat and add me on there.. (Ddddarius)

>>23095842
You know how girls who have been in abusive relationships somehow seem to always end up with abusive guys time and again? This sounds like such a case.

And a girl who has such a history often shows it. Sooner or later it becomes apparent.

Hello, I'm a french 21 yers old girl...

>>23096458

Good morning. What kind of man are you looking for? Older, younger? Into a relationship or just kinks?

>>23096458
Hi, maybe you can tell us a bit more? Such as what you are looking for? And if you want, some contact. Or just lurk and wait for guys to post theirs.

>>23096458
Bonjour mademoiselle

>>23096352
You don't know much about the girl or the situations so please don't jump to conclusions.

I'm not going into any details, suffice to say that is very much NOT the case with her.

>>23096458
On peut échanger des billets doux sur kik à camerasonata

23/m/Scandinavia

Kstaalion -> kik

Will listen you need to vent
Clean chats Mostly even though im single but Can talk about everything even kinks.

>>23097424
Doesnt case about age

>>23097436
Fuck are you doing in this thread, then?

18/F/Houston
Kik - neverbitchy
Say where you got my Kik or I'll ignore your message.

29/f/Midwest tomboy nerd into bdsm. Looking for older men to chat clean or dirty with. Post your kik info and I'll check you out

24/m/WI, looking for a younger girl for online dd/lg or in person. have experience at it.
kik: kenmeri

>>23095685
>changing the subject to psychoanalyze a complete stranger and make her appear bad
Who said anything about trust issues? I don't have trust issues, I'm not daft enough to think every guy is the same.
My point is I have dealt with shitty guys because a lot of horrible men (and good ones too!) frequent this site. I want to warn girls of the horrible ones so they don't get hurt.

People who refuse to talk to me should not be passing judgement of who I am as a person unless you have actually taken the time to get to know me on a personal level.

>>23098248
oceanblew1212 kik

still looking for that philly, jersey girl under 30 for RL meet up.
[email protected]

>>23098248
Any chance you would chat over skype?
36/m/Chicago looking for a submissive younger woman.
Skype: AlbanyPark36

>>23099005
Don't message this guy. He lies about his age and location all the time. Do a quick Google search of
>"oceanblew1212" "4cham" "archive"
Exactly how I typed it without the >
Note this age and location changes in every post he includes an ASL.

>>23099073
>"oceanblew1212" "4chan" "archive"
Is what I meant. Sorry.

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This bunny chick is pretty quality, girls with aspergers and daddy issues are a special kind of freak.

I wonder what happened to her that broke her this bad? Who knows

>>23099107
I can see the daddy issues and freakiness but Asperger?

I think you're grasping at straws now chum.

>>23099080
Thanks for the heads up

>>23099037
I chat over Skype. Prefer kik but I'll look you up

>>23099171

I ain't your chum wee pal, I'm a son of Scotland.

>>23098248
32 from california.

alongstoryago is my kik

>>23099171
Dont you know, Aspergers is the new black.

>>23099107
And if it wasnt for Daddy issues then this thread wouldn't exist.

>>23098248
Psxburn. 37 m

>>23099107
>acknowledging younger guys are immature and not worth a girl's means she has daddy issues
Would you like some pepper with your salt?

>>2309917
You're welcome.

>>23092578
>>23099073
>>23099080
>>23099175
Exactly what I said I'd do.
This isn't throwing a tantrum, FYI.

>>23099333
>>23099175
>You're welcome.

>>23099178
I'll be online all evening.

32/m brisbane, australia

looking for much older or much younger (e.g. 10 years)

>>23097777
Don't bother. Doesn't reply anyway.

21/F United States, looking for guys no older than 40.
Kik: meowychan

>>23099547

Same here .

Post should read..
"18/F/Houston
Kik - neverbitchy
Say where you got my Kik AND I'll ignore your message"

>>23099547
>>23100241
Personally sometimes I don't respond to guys if
1) Lame profile pic (ex: anime pic, mirror selfie of them flexing?)
2) Weird name (ex: hugepervert, Horny Daddy)
3) Uncomfortable greeting (ex: Hi [a lot of girls dislike this], Hey baby girl [too familiar and sexual], What's up [very awkward when they don't know me])