>tfw finally stopped worrying what others think and say about

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>>39464355

he actually believes this hahahahahahahhaahahahha
i give you a few days before your will breaks

>>39464370
it's tru tho
once you get over being a pussy bitch everything gets easier

Ayyyy, congrats anon. You're on a good path! Too much of /r9k/ doesn't like admitting responsibility for themselves and is trapped in this negative cycle.
Now that you've separated yourself from the expectations of others, you're free to build yourself into the person you yourself want to be!

>>39464370
My will already broke anon.

I simply figured that I had no control whatsoever about any events and I was too anxious about people judging me or getting rejected.
I overthink things too much when in reality I just have to work on myself, if I get rejected so be it I'm going to be rejected so many times.

Also girls and dating, it simply isn't worth it.
Think about it, I pay a girl to fuck her and spend a good time with her, it's worth more than to put up with an endless frustration of "working myself out" for girls that aren't anything special but get too much attention from losers like me.

>>39464355
Kind of wished it happened sooner and not 2nd year in college though.

>>39464355
Yeah, dude. I stopped caring and now I save a ton of time because I only shower twice a week where before I would shower every single day.

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>go too far with this mode
>become sociopath

>>39464534
Is being a sociopath bad?

>>39464559
Probably not but I feel like a ton of normies are sociopaths

>>39464578
Successful normies are sociopaths. They are called wealthy businessmen or entrepreneurs.

>>39464578
Nah just there's something wrong with everyone and normies have the most common one

>>39464355
Just wait until that extends into apathy, you'll never feel again.

This path led to narcissm for me, comfy desu
Make a tulpa too

How did you do it m8?

>>39464858
I enjoyed the delicious taste of Grape Nuts this morning for breakfast

>stop giving attention to girls
>"Anon are you gay?"

>>39464799
this
be careful op, you dont want to end up like me

>>39464858
Do everything people have criticized you for in public.

>>39464884
How long have you been with the nofeels? I'm trying to dig myself out of this hole but I've been at it for 7 years with no luck.

>>39464858
I basically realized that like .001% of humanity really matter in the end.

>>39464875
That is not what I meant.
What I meant is you should stop setting a goal as fastidious and superficial as getting a girlfriend.

Although it is a good thing to want, just stop kneeling before girls or being scared of them.

I don't know how to explain it.
But basically stop thinking about them and give them that sort of attention.

>>39464858
Doing what other people do and it never working out for me but then seeing chad doing the same thing and he gets his dick rode

>>39464968
>being scared of them.
It's not a conscious choice

>>39464858
I don't know, I just found myself.

I was so busy being afraid of rejection that I forgot that I wasn't myself anymore.

>>39465097
When you pedestal girls so much it is because you are afraid of them too.
Most robots(such as me) didn't have any proper emotional education and because of that lack of experience you drag on with age a heavy burden.
Imagine being 30yo and still wanting to date teenage girls or wondering what it would have been like?
It is pathetic.

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>>39465134
Anal sex is very healing and relaxing. I recommend a friend with a nice cock or a cucumber. All your worries will go away for the day

>>39464355
This truly is the ultimate red pill: the separation of yourself from your desires is the only way to achieve peace in life.

>>39465174
Kek.
This doesn't work.
I seriously hope no anon actually turned gay because of it.
There are many ways you can overcome anxiety or shyness towards girls.

>>39465134
>Imagine being 30yo and still wanting to date teenage girls

What's wrong with that? As long as she's legal and willing.

>>39465247
Nothing wrong if she likes you too,
it's up to you if you find this acceptable to date a kid.

What happens if she sees your attraction for her and rejects you or you start scaring her?
Do you find it good at age 30 to show a 18yo girl that you want her affection?

The point is that you are physically and mentally a 30yo man, but emotionally if you are a virgin by that age you will have a hard time to mature.

How do you feel about kids having more experience than you?

Don't be a desperate cunt all your life.
The more days pass, the more frustrated you become (emotionally and sexually) and this just keeps on aggravating as you age.

>>39465174
Oh Godddd mmm
I just tried with a cucumber i microwaved all warm first
HHHHNNNNNGGGG

>>39464858
stop overthinking

its what causes your paralyzing anxiety

>>39465219
>There are many ways you can overcome anxiety or shyness towards girls.
Such as?

>>39465527
>stop overthinking
Oh cool let me just stop thinking then
Thanks anon

>>39465627
being tall and having a huge cock

>>39465627
Hang around a lot of them and stop expecting pussy at every turn.

Or pay an escort to bang her and be done with it.

>>39464355
I try to get over that everyday sometines i do but when i wake up the next day its like my sleep always resets me.

>>39464355
I used to want a girlfriend, like it was all I wanted.
Now I just literally don't give a fuck, relationships are a lot of responsibility anyway desu

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>>39465174
>more gay ass shit on this board.

anyone getting tired of these literal faggots? shut the fuck up with this gay shit

>>39466758
Just let go anon.
It doesn't mean you give up or you are a failure.
Just give up expectations, from you, from anybody.
Just go to people, be humble, don't be afraid of rejection.
You get rejected? No big deal.
Nobody is your friend, don't overthink anything, genuine friends are rare.

More importantly you have to live for yourself.
I find myself happy only when I achieve somethings no matter how small it is, that is one way I keep myself busy or somehow happy with this shitty life.

Those are the only advices I can give.
What worked for me.

I just gave up on expectations and prepared myself for a tons of rejections.

>>39466749
>Or pay an escort
That won't help me overcome anything though

>>39466778
I stopped giving a fuck when I realized all my one-itis were just crushes and none was love.

And I pretty much understood that relationships like these aren't what you think.
It is just a bond like any others and it depends a lot on the person.

After I fucked some girls are just stopped feeling bad about rejection and realized how fool I was for putting above all these girls who really weren't worth jack shit.

I think our time makes men really hungry for sex, and even a 4/10 acts like she was the hottest chick.
I mean why not? She got an army of desperate guys for her.


>>39466834
Oh yes it will, I guarantee you that at least.
Chose a very cute and nice one(one that will treat you good).
You will notice some changes in your habits and how you see girls around you.

>>39466874
>Oh yes it will
Even assuming that it will, how am I supposed to be ok with the fact that I had to pay to lose my virginity? Not to mention I can never talk about it to another girl

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>>39464355
Posting picture to get source.

>>39466942
Fuck, I don't even know it. Anyone?

>>39466919
If it's not ok with you don't do it.
Why wouldn't you be able to talk about it?
You see it as shameful? If so don't do it.

Girls are only mad about it because they feel weak against a girl who sells her body.
The mere fact that a man can get what she has to offer(without effort) makes her feel less and that hurts them.

But that is only for girls who know they aren't worth anything, in which case you won't lose much.
A girl who truly loves you shouldn't care "that" much if you lost it that way.

You won't be the first man in history to do it.
Hugh Jackman lost it to a hooker...

I tell you, girls who are worth your attention and do value serious things are very rare, don't waste yourself(mentally speaking) on girls that aren't worth your time.

>>39466982
I personally don't care, so you're probably right.
How do I make sure I don't get a shitty escort though? I live in Europe so I can easily travel to germany/netherlands to go to a legal brothel

>>39464355
it'll comeback and hit you when your 30 with no friends and no gf potential. You'll think you no longer care for women then you'll have a dream about a 10/10 perfect wife

>>39467033
I can't help you with that.
Reddit has a page dedicated to it.

Try and read about experiences from others and chose from it.

But please, think real good about it, if you're not ok with it don't do it.

You won't magically become a Chad, you will just feel more comfortable around girls and stop being desperate to fuck.

Be aware that once you start paying for sex it is likely you will do it many times again.

>>39467103
I know, but now I made my peace with the choices I made.
I already have a dream like this, but my eyes are open about the reality of our modern society.
If I had to blame one type of people other than myself, it would be all those who made me hope, thinking I stood a chance to pursue stuff that were meaningless.

>>39464370
I've been living like this for almost a year now and my life is an order of a magnitude better than it was then. I'm more productive, happier, and healthier. Just stop worrying. Things may not come to you, but worrying about it certainly won't help.

I got a gf soon after this happened to me ... probably because i was really myself and genuine then

>>39467148
>if you're not ok with it
I used to think that one's first time should be special and all that but I'm 20 now so I think I should be more realistic.
>it is likely you will do it many times again
Why?

>>39468731

First, you won't be stopping soon because if you chose a really good girl, she will pleasure you so good that you won't forget her, the sex you get from a working girl is 100 times better than what you get from a your gf.

Second, the fact that it's good sex and company with no effort other than the money you sweat to get.

Third, you are really right about what you say.
When you do this, you will suddenly get red pilled on sex and relationships.
And get this, literally every man goes to a prostitute sooner or later, most do it during their 30s when they finally realize what they missed.

I myself can't stop feeling bad for all these idiots doing to a girl(that's not particularly special or good looking) that doesn't give a fuck about them but use them for attention or friendzone them.

I know Chads telling me how they have that "fantasy" of being with an escort but not sure about it like its some amazing shit when all you do is just spend money to have a good time with 0 frustration, 0 dating bullshit and no need to commit with her.

Wait some more, 20yo is a little too young if you ask me(even if my friends in HS used to go at 16yo...) you may still get a gf by your own mean, which is still a better option.
You should consider hiring a girl as a way to gain experience and grow up emotionally nothing else.
Just don't be a virgin at 25.

Do something though, while its nothing to be ashamed of its nothing to take pride in either.
And never EVER let a girl know you paid for sex.
They like to live in that bullshit where their man didn't spend time with a girl thats more desirable than them.

>>39469055
WHat if I end up in a good relationship, should I just lie to the girl if the topic of our first sexual experiences comes up?
Also why is 20 yo too early, most people lose it when they're 17

>>39469273
I cannot tell you that.
It is up to you and whoever you meet(which I wish for you is a very nice and mature girl).

20 is still too early to go on paying for it.
You're still in your prime and you may not control yourself to the point you give up relationships to just pay to fuck.

Most people lose it the normal way by dating or ended up with a hooker for many reasons(like their uncle paying for it...)

At your age it would be for the best if you try to get a girl by your own mean and improve yourself personally there is still time for it.
Don't listen the idiots who tell you that you should have done it before.

>>39466791
this board made me hate faggots

orignaelaelelareael

Venturing out of the dwelling shortly, will keep this post in mind, cheers OP.

Am trying this right now and I'm feeling lonely as fuck and extremely depressed.

>>39469342
I understand. Thanks for your advice anon.

>>39464355
there are only two reasons to announce this shit:
1. you're trying to do that "mind over matter" trash which works only temporarily when it really doesn't matter what people think either way.
2. you just got rejected again and this is how you cope.

when people say "stop worrying about what people think" they mean that you should stop wasting your time trying to please everyone/avoid conflict, and focus on the outcome you want. some people are going to insult or hate you regardless, but if you don't care about anyone then you just become some random selfish prick living in his own world clawing for attention. anxiety is good, fear is good, sadness is good, just don't make your whole lifestyle revolve around them and you'll make progress.

>>39469487
No problem man.
If you want more advice I would tell you to just not waste time to go outside and talk to people and girls.
Just do it with no expectations, it is important you don't, for instance, go meet a girl with the idea of having sex asap.

Don't wait to be any older to develop yourself socially this is the one way you won't be a failure.

And if you can, hang out with people who are the way you want to be.
Don't suck nobody's dick though.

>>39469574
This is a good way to see it, and I respect your philosophy.

However you are wrong, I did not get rejected in any way and I'm not getting my mind over matter.
Just saying how I feel because it is the first time in my entire life I feel so liberated.
I certainly hope its not temporary.

>>39469602
I don't have any kind of social circle at all so that's gonna be difficult
I should go back to college.

>>39466942
>>39466967
http://hentaihaven.org/series/nuki-doki-tenshi-to-akuma-no-sakusei-battle-revolution/?sort=title

>>39469830
Yes you should.
And get a job.

In that case don't pay for sex, if you have no social circle you will just build up more frustration and a total failure.

>>39469889
>get a job
Can't manage that and college at the same time though.
>build up more frustration
Why? I could have kept the social circle I used to have in uni before dropping out but I just didn't feel like it. It's not that I can't make any friends, it's a combination of preferring to be alone most of the time, and just not putting myself in situations where I can make friends

>>39464370
Lol you wish OP is absolutely right about it i stopped caring about pussy or how others see me and i simply have achieved the most perfect feeling.Freedom is so sweet.I laugh at these whores and betas who actively try to get laid and get alughed by everyone at MOST YOU WILL FUCK A HOOKER who will only agree to a blowjob lol.

>>39464355
wait until you have to worry about your health

>>39464858
AT first even the thought of stoPping caring about "muh social norms" and " XD JUST GET A GF" was quite farfetched and crazy,But then one day it just hit me like bus and i am not shitting you and heavy wave of fear overcame me like i was meddling with powers above me.I was scared shitlees for rmoment and then i realizd i lived my whole life until that point wrong.
Yes i am ugly.Yes i am propably going to be a KHV all my life.But who gives a fk.Started going to the gym for myself to become healthier,fuck anyone who says "go to the gym to get pussy bro :DDDD" thats complete bullshit.Focus only on the really important parts money and knowledge disregard bitches and normies.

>>39465342
>18 yo sucking cock like there is no tommorow
>lost her virginity at 13
>sex partners reching hundreds
its a kid bro wtf are you a pedo??!! i am calling the cops1!!!!

>tfw finally accepted my ugliness and how I'm never going to have sex
>now I don't despair for days and think about any of that shit when I am outside
I feel like I've made it bros. You don't have to give up when certain things are in question, but sometimes you just have to let it go. A smart man knows himself and his limits.

>>39464355
I could never pretend to not care what people think. I cant stand getting into arguments because even if Im right, its complete poison to me. I think about it so much and feel like shit

>>39464875
aka stop putting the pussy on a pedestal

I still look but I'm not worried about making an impression or asking anyone out

it's actually pretty relaxing. enjoy your hobbies and life and don't worry about what others are doing. i mean, if you're a loser NEET then it feels bad man, but you have to play the hand you were dealt and not worry about the optimal life strategy if you were born into the right place

you must reach the ultimate point where you KNOW people are thinking a certain shitty thing about you, that's not true, at all, but you just dont care enough to correct them.

>>39472000
t. I'm fifteen and just finished watching Fight Club

>>39464355
ya alright but that doesnt mean it doesnt matter

>get a job
>dont care about what people think
>people dislike me
That's implying I get a job without caring what the interviewer thinks btw.

>dont care what people think
>no friends
>lonely
>I-I dont care
You do

>dont care about girls
Easier said than done. Hopefully there'll be some sexbots someday.

Yeah but I'm a 25yo NEET KV with assburgers so I should really try harder to not care. But boredom is a bitch and being locked in my room isnt fun anymore.

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>>39464355
OP's little high is going to be so short-lived and fuck him because

>anxieties just won't let go of you but all your problems are your fault only

you get one, ONE little shred of happiness and you go full on normie. aren't you ashamed of yourself, OP? have you taken no wisdom or knowledge form being a robot? I hope you stay robot forever because you can't handle power and are incapable of empathy.

>>39465134
>i just found myself
>OP didn't have to do anything. it just came naturally
>acts like it's due to his actions
>anxiety is your fault guys!
>anxiety is a choice

i hate OP

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this is some deliberate, well thought out bait.

>>39467103

Don't know how anything will come back when he wasn't likely getting shit to begin with. Someone who is ugly won't have gf potential and the type of women they can get is not satisfying.

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>>39466822
>It doesn't mean you give up or you are a failure.
>Just give up expectations, from you, from anybody.
Not that anon but I'd just be lying to myself that I wasn't a failure. Just the thought that I will be working 40+ hours a week for next few decades but getting less money out of it than many other people is disheartening. I cannot help but compare, only to be reminded of my inferiority. Since money is so important, there's no way I can just ignore the reality that I'm too incompetent to have a decent salary and of course unhappiness inevitably follows.

>>39464858
Just b urself anon, it's what I did

>>39464355
This is me but now the tradeoff is that I'm a bit of a sociopath and also a hardcore narcissist, I don't like it as much. Not giving a fuck is an amazing feeling though.

Too many anons have convinced themselves (or been convinced) that gf is the only thing that matters in life. Sad.