>crush on coworker >already imagined marrying her, what

>>38720621
You have to act as quick as possible. Invite her outside work hours. Best way to heal crushes, no matter if she says yes (success) or no (you're proud of yourself for trying, and begin to resent her, hate her, then forget her)
Give it a shot.

try = you fail and memories will haunt you forever

Dont try = Regret will haunt you forever

Kill youself = all your worries dissapear like a fart in the wind

>>38720950
>>38720920
you're right. I don't fear rejection at all desu, I'm more concerned with making her feel bad/awkward or even telling me yes out of pity which would prolong her misery. Shes a really sweet girl

>>38720966
>making her feel bad/awkward or even telling me yes out of pity
idk her age, but usually girls learn quite early on to think of the consequences of accepting something.
of course there are bitches, and tomboys, who never learn, but if that girl is sweet she will not lead you on.

>>38720966
if you dont fear rejection go for it and just talk to her see where it leads,


>dont fear rejection lucky bastard T_T

>>38721005
>>38721020
I'm mostly just afraid of the moments afterwards, like she'll never be able to talk to me as just a friend afterwards

Why do you fear rejection? Worst you get is "uhhh no, sorry" and some awkwardness

>>38720966
That's sweet. Then your best bet is to try to get her number or add her on normiebook and ask her there, that way it's a lot less awkward and there's less pressure on her to say yes.

>>38721107
>I'm mostly just afraid of the moments afterwards
Yeah it may be difficult with coworkers. I never did it 2bh.
The embarassing situation I'm mostly used to, is when you show interest, and at once the girl drops the "my boyfriend..." bomb.
You have to act natural, as if she'd just said "my sister" or "my cat", yeah it's awkward, and then you either remain friends, or you don't.

Of course when you still have to work together, it may be a bit more difficult.

But sure these things will feel awkward. Esp. if your self-esteem is not too high. Hell, girls tend to like awkward, better than the stuck-up colleague who never smiles and is only after moving up the ladder.

>>38721141
I'm at least self aware enough to know I'm usually at best a burden to maintain conversation with. Or a straight up annoyance at worst
I actually got her number already, but through trickery. Me, her and the manager were waiting outside with her because her ride had not yet arrived, and she said she forgot to take a pic of the schedule, so I took the opportunity to ask if she wanted me to send a pic, which she did and gave me her number

>>38721201
my manager thinks we'd be cute together, so she already found out for me that she has no boyfriend, so at least that excuse is out of the question. if she just could give me an honest "no thank you anon" I'll feel fine. I just want things to remain normal as if I only offered her a stick of gum or something

>>38721238
>as if I only offered her a stick of gum or something
yeah then try to downplay the marriage and children thing, just think of her as a cool human being you'd like to know a bit more before deciding if you want more.

>>38721267
I can't help it man, I think about her a lot and one "I wonder" leads to the next

>>38721305
idk, I have *some* experience though not a lot. Maybe try to focus on anticipating the pleasure of watching a good movie with her (insert w/e plans you have)
Because 2bh I think in such a situation, the girls doesn't take being invited as a life/death question. If she wants to hang out, she hangs out. Period.

(reality : took me 2 years to invite my college crush, couldn't do it before I had my 1st time with another girl, and still, I spent hours sweating on the phone before calling)

>>38721384
>Maybe try to focus on anticipating the pleasure of watching a good movie with her
not easy for me. the wild fantasies are easier for me because they're just fantasies, but the realistic shit like watching a movie with her just makes me paranoid about all the shit that could go wrong