/r9k/, I write this with the most respect possible... But how

Most faggits here were abused and/or had an unhappy childhood somehow. So probably the best thing you could do is try not to make a situation like that happen.

>>38618609
Make sure you and the mother have good genes.

>>38618609
Don't worry about it most of us are straight

>>38618609
Get him involved in sports or someother group activity, always encourage him to workout and stay fit, let him be independent from an early age, let him buy things on his own, let him cook for himself, etc. Always encourage him to talk to girls for whatever reason, let him get comfortable with girls just as friends hell develop relationships better this way. I pray and hope that your son is never one of us

Socialize him at a young age, don't be a fucking asshole to him, but also don't give him empty praise.
Having a dad already minimizes the chance- most of these poor bastards were abandoned.

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>>38618663
Don't project your shit tier parents behavior onto others family, end yourself you abused fucking faggot.

>>38618680
Wait i might have misunderstood what you meant by "growing into you". Your pic related made me think that was a sexual innuendo. my bad

>>38618698
>Get him involved in sports or someother group activity
Underrated advice
literally force him if you have to, but this will provide many facets of life experience

>>38618609
step 1: don't have a kid with aspergers or high-functioning autism (not always avoidable)
step 2: don't abandon the mom
step 3: ensure they develop social skills properly

t. born to a single, teen mom, diagnosed with aspergers, and deprived throughout childhood of the proper social contact to remedy it due to stepdad's employment

>>38618728
>family
>clipboard02.png
>the edge
Also OP, don't let your shithead middle school boy use his phone to post on this image board.

Care for your son at least a little bit as much as you do for your motorcycle.

>>38618762
>non reply
You were abused because you're the trash offspring of trash.

Keep him away from the internet. Tell him to talk to people in school and try to make as many friends as possible. Maybe introduce him to an instrument preferably guitar and teach him to get fit and look after his body at an early age like using straws if he drinks soda, etc to keep him teeth white, for example.

Also, try to get him into sports. That's a given.

>>38618751
At what age were you diagnosed with aspergers?

All the robots, wizards and incels I know irl share the same kind of childhood : parents who were not straight up abusive, but really hated and despised them, and kept belittling everything they did or said. It's also heavily political, only white male children with left-leaning parents were hurt in this way.

When everything, from parents to school to media is dedicated to devirilize you and make you guilty of even existing, yes, you turn out either severely messed up or a bitch boy. There is a lot to say about this trend. Anyway, just my personal experience. Something I noticed about other cultures is that, for all their faults, they do rarely actively destroy their kids psyche.

So in short, the surest way you can make sure your son doesn't end up like us is loving him, not using him as an emotional punching bag, and making sure all the messages he will get through schooling and media about his worthlessness are not true.

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>>38618609
Teach him to accept that humans are and behave as chimpanzees, especially when in groups. Pray to god that he does not find any dispute with the way humans behave and let him join some football team or group activity to have him practice human social interactions. An intact family life with many siblings will also ensure that he wont get into shutdown mode once he will likely be mistreated in school. You could also infuse him with a drive to succeed. As in be very disappointed when he fails in life. This might drive him to chase success and not worry too much about idealism.

I cant find anything inherently wrong with being a robot or loner or what have you. Outcasts drive human evolution. Being a robot is only ever relevant when you think in societal terms. I am sure you can find a way to love your son even if he isn't a great success.

Best wishes

Yeah OP you have to be the one to give him that push off the best so to speak in different areas of his life; don't ever give up and push him to be better.

>>38618857
not sure
the age at which either is diagnosed is between 3 and 5

Have him take the Myers Briggs Type Indicator test yearly. If he ever scores INTP or INTJ, shoot him behind the ear.

>>38618751
>>38618857
>>38618905
oh and i should mention my dad's "employment" is the military
so do not
and i repeat
DO NOT
have kids while you are in the military
unless you're a high enough rank to where you're able to get out of PCS

>>38618609
>But how do I prevent my son from growing into you?
If he's going to be a real true khv robot not the I have meme depression and am invading the board robot, you can't stop that it's entirely up to looks and weather or not he manages to get a gf around the time he hits high school, if he misses out on that critical point of development he's fucked.

impregnate a woman with good genes

>>38618972
the parent can take steps to ensure he develops properly and well enough for this to be a possibility

>>38618859
Why would you make up that you know any other robots?

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Send him on as many fucking play dates as you possibly can

make him socialise by the time he learns to walk, socialising starts fucking fast and if he isn't caught up he will be behind.

I had fucking no interaction with other kids by the time I hit JK and by then I knew I was already outed as weird. I had major anxiety and I could barely get along with others unless they themselves were abused and such. Yes I really did become a robot by the time I was in Kindergarten.

Don't fucking sabotage him. Support him and be invested in him just a little bit. Take his side if the mother won't. Don't let her have the final word if you don't agree with her.
Give him some allowance and a chance to make more (either by allowing him to take summer jobs or do extra housework for money). Fucking talk with him.

>>38619003
If he has a fucked face then nothing will save him, remember that girls are being raised as sluts these days thanks to all the social media bullshit and options they have, it's a meat market.

Your daughter might grow into one of us too.

>>38619045
the money part is most important. let the kid understand money for fuck sakes. don't spoil him, give him a solid bit of cash to spend on friends and let him understand the value of saving at a young age. again don't over do it and spoil him.

give him 15 bucks every week, that's fair. don't do something every second week.

>>38619024
Socially awkward, mentally ill, average to ugly males between 25 and 35 who spend way too much time on the internet ? Yes I know several people like this. I'm one of them of course.

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>>38618823
>Making fun of abuse victims

If you can make fun of someone like that I fear to ask what made you so mentally fucked in the head. Seriously this is some sick fuck tier shit.

>>38618609
1.) Discipline, but not so much discipline that your kid becomes listlessly unhappy and doesn't know what to do without instruction.
2.) Encourage exercise and healthy diet.
3.) Listen to your son. If he doesn't want to follow the religion you follow, that's OK. If he does, that's also OK. If he's gay or likes music you hate or whatever, just go with it.
4.) Also don't be poor

>>38619119
>excusing faggotry
no

>>38619085
t. salty abuse victim

>>38618823
Kevin, clean your room or Nana's not getting you the new Slipknot album for your birthday.

For the love of god, put him to work at age 16.

>forces him to socialize with thousands of people
>teaches him the value of a dollar
>ensures that he won't pick a shitty major in college since he's suffered through retail for two years already

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>>38619178
No anon, you can't call everyone who disagrees with your sick fucked up opinions an abuse victim. My parents are fine, I was raised well. My mistakes and mishaps in life are a whole different story. You need to get help lad, you make the worst of pedophiles say "the fuck man".

Be there for him, be a man infront of him, encourage him. Be the dad mine never was.

>>38618609
Drop him on his head so he's too stupid to question the status quo.
This is the start of a trend dude. The withdrawn male.
It's the most rational coping mechanism in a society increasingly hostile to masculinity.

>>38619281
Sorry to sound like a /pol/tard but it can't be stressed enough that it's only -white- masculinity that is shunned.
The winners in this race are those who will have avoided the self-loathing brainwashing. That can be your children, if you do it right.

>>38619246
>you make the worst of pedophiles say "the fuck man".
He's just being an edgy puke- there's one for every sob story posted. Most of us don't see internet people as real.
Honestly it almost "helps"- my oneitus died and I'd come here to whine about it. Edgelords would joke about her getting rammed in hell and about how it was just desserts and shit and I actually ended up laughing a little bit. If abuse victims can learn to laugh at what happened a little, they can get on the path to moving on.

>>38619353
The muck gets spread desu senpai white racemixing has the end state of everyone being a self loathing brainwashed tool of the state.
Like you capitulate to the agenda or fight it either way your descendents are disenfranchised.
Have daughters.

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>>38619453
>Learning to laugh at your parents abusing you

I don't see how you could learn to laugh at your parents permanently ruining your life.

>>38619453
No shit. I can't imagine getting upset or offended over the internet. At worst you just have people sitting in their bedroom or on their phone somewhere with a straight face or a smile talking shit about you.

Don't treat him like a retard when he's a kid.
Don't let your wife get obsessed with him.
Don't teach him nothing, insist on doing everything for him, then expect him to suddenly develop all those human skills overnight
Don't jump on him and tear into him about every little thing he does slightly wrong
Don't instill him with fear and doubt

>>38619532
After you're out of the situation how much of your life is ruined is up to you.

>>38619878
>Humans magically get rid of their upgringing when they leave their parents
You are retarded. When your parents made it very clear you are worth less than dogshit, it scars you for life.

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>>38618609
Make him play minesweep until the age of 18.

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>>38619078
Where do I meet people like this?

I just want a friend to play video games with and occasionally have some weed with, wageslaving without any friends on the side is fucking soul crushing.

>>38620039
Honestly the only way to meet me would either be 4chan or... I dunno... I don't even play games anymore. You'd have to be lucky to meet me, I don't do anything regularly in public.

>>38619859
I cannot properly stress how important this is.

1) Firm and unmoving boundaries
2) Church
3) Socialization at a young age
4) Healthy relationship with his mother.
5) Be a good role model. He will model his behavior off of you
6) Mental and social activities at a young age
7) Have family time, where nothing else is allowed but family bonding. Do this once a week at least.
8) Push him to excel at stuff he is good at
9) Do not give him praise unless he deserves it and do not hold back praise if he deserved it
10) Make sure he competes at a young age and understand that his actions have consequences and influence the world around him.

make sure to teach him how important learning and school is

make him do his homework

>>38620083
Do you enjoy grand strategy games or something?

>>38620039
In my case I met them through mental hospitals or related places. The loneliness and guilt make some of us snap. Where I live health structures for the mentally ill are actually functional and very liberal, not just places to throw away the unwanted.

Just to make it clear, I only had to go there because they absolutely need to send suicidal people there, and I was homeless for a time. I still visit once in a while, even though I found some shit job and live on my own now.

>>38620291
Used to be homeless myself, it's funny how most homeless people could easily fit in /r9k/ perfectly.

>>38620288
I enjoy bicycle, walking my dog and airsoft. But I either do those activities alone or once in a blue moon. I'd probably be more out-going if I could afford a car, but I'm a NEET.
I did enjoy playing CS:GO, but unfortunately my family bullied me into quitting.

>>38618609
Don't home school him.
Don't move if he will have to change schools as a result.
Don't be verbally abusive toward him, but let him see you tell off people who disrespect you.
Don't be overprotective.
Don't reward crying and displays of weakness with comfort or attention.
Don't beat or spank him.
Don't be excessively/abnormally religious.
Don't try to limit fun activities like video games.

Put your woman in her place when she behaves badly.
Fight to stay involved even if your marriage/relationship doesn't last.
Let him have friends over.
Let him do what he wants sexually when he gets to be that age.
Make sure that he can participate in after school activities and clubs.
Involve him in masculine skills/hobbies that you enjoy.
Let him dress the way that popular/famous people his age do.
Let him have the hairstyles he thinks are cool.
Insist that he get a part time job as a teenager.
Make sure that he learns to drive as soon as he'd old enough.

>>38619453
>If abuse victims can learn to laugh at what happened a little, they can get on the path to moving on
If it was really that easy there would be no fucked up people in the world.

>>38620039
I tried those zeemaps treads but to no avail. I literally just want friends in the same position as me who I can also make imageboard-related jokes with.

>>38620039
Internet duh.
I joined a 4chan guild on a videogame and seven years of trials and tribulations later we're all budz long after the game we played is dead.
Ambition to all move into a non-homo mansion and get swole.

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>>38619057
Thanks, funniest post I've read today.

>>38618609

Don't let him stay alone

>>38619859
This is the only sane advice itt.

>>38618609
just bee yourself hahaha :)

>>38620542
I have an e-friend from v4c from years ago who lives in a different country and may be coming to mine in September. I want to meet him but I fear it will awkward as fuck.

>>38620266
Church is the guaranteed way to make your kid an atheist

Your son? Don't you mean your wife's son?

>>38620687
These things are, but everybody's awkward so who cares.
It's really too rare to meet people like yourself to pass up these chances.

>>38618698
Do this, exactly this and you wont have to worry about him turning into one of us

>>38620266
A good theory. Let's see if it holds up. I had:
>1) Firm and unmoving boundaries
check
>2) Church
double check
>3) Socialization at a young age
check
>4) Healthy relationship with his mother.
that's a check
>5) Be a good role model. He will model his behavior off of you
had role models, not sure I modeled my behavior but w/e
>6) Mental and social activities at a young age
check
>7) Have family time, where nothing else is allowed but family bonding. Do this once a week at least.
check
>8) Push him to excel at stuff he is good at
check
>9) Do not give him praise unless he deserves it and do not hold back praise if he deserved it
check, although I probably should have been praised more for action that innate talents. That probably didn't make me a robot, though, since my siblings are fine
>10) Make sure he competes at a young age and understand that his actions have consequences and influence the world around him.
check

Still ended up a robot, though

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>>38619878
>After you're out of the situation how much of your life is ruined is up to you.

Yeah, your brain is absolutely not shaped and rewired by past events, it's all about the present and ur attitude bro PTSD is not real xD, FUCK OFF RETARD.

After 18 years of parental abuse, bullying and social deprivation, I ended up homeless for a few months, now I've been living alone for quite a while now and I tried countless times to live a normal life and make friends, I have been told by several people that were completely unrelated to each other that I should try going on benefit or get locked up in a mental hospital.

I used to be normal as a wee lil lad, a bit shy but normal, but now I'm absolutely FUCKED in the head by all the shit I've been through, and I have to get reminded that constantly every time I try to fix up my life.

How about I break your fucking legs and put you in a wheel chair for life and tell you "Just stand up bro it's all about your attitude"

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>>38620278
Studying never stopped anyone from being a bot.
You're just projecting your insecurities as a brainlet.

>That probably didn't make me a robot, though, since my siblings are fine
>siblings are fine
>fine
blaming parents not self

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>>38618609
>FORCE HIM TO EAT NOTHING BUT HARD FOODS WHILE GROWING UP
>TEACH HIM HOW TO MEW
>DELETE SOY AND ESTROGENIC FOODS IN GENERAL FROM YOUR DIET
>FORCE HIM TO DRINK THREE GLASSES OF MILK A DAY
>INVEST IN FORTIFIED CEREALS
>PLAYING A SPORT IS A MUST AND MORE IMPORTANT THAN SCHOOL

Boom, CHAD CHING

>>38620699
Not necessarily, the intelligent will rebel in their youth but the morals will hopefully stick.
Bring a child to church has nothing to do with salvation. It is all about making them a functional member of community.

>>38618735
>force him to play sports
I'm pretty sure half of /r9k/ had dads that forced them to do shit they hated, and the other half's dads just didn't care enough.

OP please be neither.

>>38620817
So you've chosen "the entire thing", then?

lets do a bit of a comparison for myself
>1) Firm and unmoving boundaries
not really my parents were kinda flaccid about punishment and setting limits
>2) Church
no im jew
>3) Socialization at a young age
no, other kids thought i was weird
>4) Healthy relationship with his mother.
yeah
>5) Be a good role model. He will model his behavior off of you
my dad is a great guy but he's beta as fuck. unless you count customer service/money management where his alpha side shows through.
>6) Mental and social activities at a young age
just reading, nothing social
>7) Have family time, where nothing else is allowed but family bonding. Do this once a week at least.
fuck no
>8) Push him to excel at stuff he is good at
check
>9) Do not give him praise unless he deserves it and do not hold back praise if he deserved it
F A L S E. my parents praised me for literally fucking everything
>10) Make sure he competes at a young age and understand that his actions have consequences and influence the world around him.
kek no. my parents encouraged me to do team sports but i was too insecure about my physical body to perform well. and this started at age 9. also i wasnt punished nearly enough to be hardened off, if my dad were to yell at me now id still tear up and retreat into a shell

TLDR do a lot of character building shit, don't be afraid to discipline, but still love your kid and expose him to lots of stuff that he likes

>>38620871
>delete estrogenic foods
>he doesn't eat beans
Never, ever gonna make it

>>38618609
change his name to chad

only give him distilled water or water that has been through a reverse osmosis system.
there are many bad things in the water that can reduce masculinity, such as atrazine and xenoestrogens. also dont let him eat foods with xenoestrogens

If you throw him out at 18, you don't have to worry about him anymore.

>>38618609
Lecture him, be there for him, get him a hobby, teach him something, like a skill.

And raise him well.

>>38618609
Make sure to raise a good looking son and you don't have to worry about anything else. By good looking I don't mean his facial structure, that can't be helped, but introduce him to sport and later on in fitness. Sport will also teach your son how to behave in society. Also, if your son has protruding hears, operate him ASAP, other kids will pick him up a lot about this. If you notice that he's shorter than the average, consider going to an endocrinologist and giving him some growth hormone therapy.

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>>38618609
>implying some people aren't just born fucked

>>38618609
get him involved in a lot of different activities, but make sure he knows if he doesn't like it, he can quit (e.g. you want to quit a sport? ok just make sure you exercise, here try this other one, if you don't like it after a while you can stop)

also encourage him to find something he is passionate about and support him pursuing it

>>38620699
Yeah but I met a lot of my best friends in church
I'd gladly do it all over again.

>>38618609
There's nothing you can do. It's genetic. I was a fairly normal and happy kid until high school. Was nothing to do with how I was raised

>>38618698
>>38618735
Shit advice, I've been playing rugby ever since I was 8 and I turned into a fag
The best advice I can give is to make sure that your son always sees the best in females

>>38618609
id say limit their internet access so they dont find out about this place

but i hated it when my parents took away my games/internet

Set a good example. Have friends and invite them over, talk to him about girls, let him be comfortable with you. My dad is a anti social shut in with no friends, never talked to me about girls and I'm 20 and still timid with him and we never talk because it's always awkward and we have nothing to talk about. Also he coddled me and never set any boundaries or responsibilities so there's also that.