ITT we share experiences dealing with "friends" we

>>38617512
>his mommy so embarrassed, has sent us back the bras
Did you check the bras for cumstains?

>>38617555
Sweetie mommy of T mentioned in her letter that she'd washed them thoroughly. Don't know why she'd feel the need to do that unless...

>>38617512
>"friends" we secretly hate

>tfw I have no stories because I was always the friend who was secretly hated
>I just wanted people to like me

>>38618464
Did you deserve to be hated?

Why did you hate him? at first.

>>38618603
Yes I did. But it still hurt.

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>meet this guy
>seems nice, end up being friends with him
>he doesnt have any friends, but he was really friendly and treated me well
>after aprox. 1 year after being his friend i finally convince him too meet my other friends
>he becomes their friend too
>sudenly starts treating me like shit (to the point that even other people start to notice and call him out)
>doesnt even give me an explanation to why he just does
>all of our conversations are either awkward or he starts roasting me for no reason
I just want to know why he hates me so much. I invested so much of my time and energy for this person and he doesnt even give a single shit, he was the only person that i allowed to feel love for and this is what happened
I just want to know why

>>38618693
1. Because he would always be too physical. He thought shoving people, jabbing them in the sides from behind using his fingers to trigger a jump-reflex, and just generally acting like a dick was "all in good fun". Only he though it was fun.
2. It was clear that he didn't like my other friends, you know, the ones I didn't hate and actually wanted to spend time with.
3. He had a mind-numbingly annoying personality and it was as if he was aware that he was annoying, but didn't give a shit regardless.

That was how I came to hate him before all the stealing, stealing, and more stealing he fucking did. (plus stupid shit like bringing printed out images of naked lesbians with him in a red plastic folder to class and keeping the folder in his desk). What a fucking weirdo.

>asks what I'm doing
>reply and ask if they want to hang out
>no response for days
>Oh sorry! I was busy :( Let's hang out soon though!
And everytime I tell myself that I'll never talk to them again since I don't want to be that third-rate friend they only talk to when everyone else they know is busy, but I'm so lonely I always fall into the trap of thinking our "friendship" will be anything more than that. I wish she would either be a real friend or just stop talking to me altogether. I keep trying to cut off contact with her, but manage to fuck it up everytime she hits me up every few months. I've since moved to a different town, so hopefully it's all over now.

>>38618715
If it really was your fault then why do you think you deserve to feel bad about it?

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>>38617512
>Be me, eastern European
>take group Mandarin classes
>after a few group classes, this French dude shows up
>doesn't speak the native language, can barely speak coherent English due to his accent (not to mention he sounded like a retarded person when trying to speak Mandarin)
>decide to be nice and help him out at the beginning
>he takes it as if im suddenly his best friend, always wants to hang out, starts bugging my friends as well
>Even amongst the Mandarin group no one likes him because of some comments about our culture that would get him killed if he said it in front of the wrong people
>eventually he leaves for France and I'm free again

Are all French people this obnoxious or what?

>>38618847
maybe it was justified then, I assumed you didn't like him for no reason. Before the stealing.

As for my own story, I never had a friend that I secretly didn't like but I had one who ditched me for other people. At school we only had each other and would hang out a lot. But after school he made other friends and I didn't. I wanted to meet them so maybe I could befriend them as well. But he refused that and we gradually stopped talking. Maybe I was wrong to ask.

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>>38617512
i thought it was going to be an easy grab but it aint no easy grab they got T

>>38618774
Fucking weird. My experience is that nobody around me really ever changes much. T stayed an asshole, my real friends stayed great. Just about everyone I initially like turns out to be sweet, and just about everyone I initially dislike often turns out to be even worse than expected. It could just be coincidence, or maybe I have a good feeling for people.

> have neet friend
> 31, k/hh virgin
> nice guy
> totally obsessed with everything /tg/
>only talks about dungeons and dragons, or war hammer or war machine, or magic and nothing else
>get burned the fuck out
>known him for 15 years but can't take the board game shit anymore
> calls me once every few months now to ask how I am then immediately jumps into a long talk about the latest DnD bullshit

otherwise I think he's a swell guy I just can't care about any of his made up fantasy bullshit. Everything he says instantly starts to make me annoyed, which is a shame.
I brought this up to him in may and he hasn't called me, seemed extremely butthurt about it. All I said was "let's talk about real world things for a while"

>>38617512
I would be throwing that package away, how do you know it is his mother and not a sick joke of his to trick you into eating jizz chocolates?

never turn your back on a prankster, not ever

>>38618971
My experience says French are in fact very obnoxious, and being coherent English-wise is asking too much of them.
>they think their language is as widely spoken as Spanish or English lmao, although the amigos aren't that great either

>>38619155
That... never occurred to me. Well, I'm the one who ate all of them and not my sister so who wins in the end?
>inb4 "milk chocolate"

>>38619063
Being able to notice whether or not your ranting/endless explaining is actually even remotely appreciated by whoever it is you're talking to is a social skill I wish more people had.

>>38617512
>be in middle school
> have group of friends that i'd wander around with
> they always wanted to play basketball
> i wasnt that interested in it but i plaued with them
> would roaat me constantly
> eventually they start ditching me
If we were in a store and i went to take a shit - ditched
Wander too far ahead- they'd dip in an alley
> if i got ditched i would track them down throughout the neigborhood and reunite
> just to get ditched again
> one day they just sprinted away and i chased them
> after that i just stopped talking to them
> they would try to initiate contact by saying hi in the halls at school or on xbox

Highschool:
Junior year
> dont bother with friends first couple years od school
> meet a group of edgy hipster druggies
> knew about cloud rap before travis scott
> they introduced me to weed
>i thought thwy liked me because they didnt ditch me
> eventually find out that they would chill without me
> the 3 alphas of the group began to berate me constantly
> took it because i thought it was banter
> one of them beat me up when i was under the impression that we were going to chill
> finally had enough when the kid who beat me up tried to make me throw his shit out just because i sat at the same table as them
> pissed because mum woke me up by throwing a dirty pot at my face
>smack him with my binder and walk out of the cafeteria and cut them off
At least i have weed and anime

>>38619375
Shit, I didn't think this thread would be this depressing. Well, this is /r9k/ after all. Your binder-smacking reminds me of when I punched one of my now best friends right on the nose for telling me that my imaginary friend didn't exist. He got a nose-bleed, went away for like five minutes to get it fixed, came back and apologized, I apologized even more because I acted like a real dumb fuck and we've been friends ever since.

>>38617512
I'm worried that i'm this friend. I don't do this shit but sometimes I'm just randomly a cunt to my friends and now I always have to be the first one to speak to them and not the other way around

>>38618927
Feeling bad about it was not a choice. It just happens.

>>38619698
Nothing "just happens." You're in control of your life and can choose how you handle things. Uncontrollable emotions are something we expect from toddlers.

>>38619722
Look at Mr Tuvok over here who's in denial about the fact that emotions exist

>>38617512
What is so hard about telling someone to fuck off if you hate them and don't want them around?
You're a dumb prick in equal measure for not just cutting his retarded ass off your life.

>>38619770
I'm just saying it's illogical to wrong others and then allow yourself to indulge in self pity.

>>38617512
I don't have any friends any more, but I recently realized that all my old "friends" were just using me in some way or were total shit heads.

>one guy literally only hung out with me because I had a car
>would constantly beg me to drive him places all over town like at his drug dealer's place and I would always agree because I was naive and stupid
>asks to borrow my laptop so he could do "homework" for his college classes
>just looked at porn the entire time instead and ending dropping my laptop and breaking it
>said someone broke into his house and did it like im an idiot
>would wake up early to drive him to college
>he's never ready and would have me wait for him so both of us are late for class
>one day calls me out in the middle of the night asking me to take him to mcdonalds
>i tell him no
>he says "why not?"
>i respond" dude its like 12, i gotta work tomorrow. I hang up
>one day I just ask him why doesn't he just save up his money and get a car like I did
>tells me he doesn't see a point when he can just get rides from his mom and his friends
>basically he just told me his content with relying on others because he's too much of a lazy cunt to invest in his own means of transportation
>cut off all contact with him after I got a new job and moved out of that shithole town
>tries calling me but I ignore him and block his number
>recently tell him how I really felt about him and said that he was a loser and I wasted my life hanging out with him
Its no secret that I hate his guts now. The quality of people I want to associate with has changed and I would like to make better friends but at this point I could care less.

>>38619775
Yeah, I know that all too well. I'm just too much of a pussy, and I'd rather feel like shit due to what someone else is doing to me rather than feel like shit because of what I've done to someone else. Also maybe I took a little bit of pride in being benevolent or some shit, I dunno.

>>38619836
I don't wrong others intentionally. I've always done the best I could. But I don't ever really get it right.
I just want what comes so naturally to everybody else. it doesn't come naturally to me, I don't get it right, so I guess I deserve to be hated.
But that doesn't change the face that being hated is miserable.

>>38619943
If it bothers you that much change yourself. You can change how you present yourself to appeal to the masses, or you could change yourself to learn to accept that this is just a part of life. If you've done no wrong and people dislike you then they weren't worth it to begin with.

>>38620021
I have been slowly changing myself since high school. I'm better but will never be perfect.
I'm in that uncanny valley where I'm not artificial but not fully human either. I might be stuck here forever.
but I've mostly accepted that I'll never have any close personal relationships.

>>38620062
Then just let the past go.you can't change it now so just focus on moving forward.

>>38620095
I'm trying to. I have a job. I have some intermediate technical skills. I'm more or less capable of going to work every day and completing tasks. That's all I need, but not all I want.

i don't have any friends, i'm 35 the last time i had school 'friends' was back in 1996, never kept in contact with any of them though.

>be in early Jr. year of hs
>"friend" that has been in his house for the last 3 years comes to me
call him S
>he is tired of living alone and ignored
>decide to help S
>start to tell L how to act because he hasn't had contact in years
>S and I hang out a little every week so I can help him
>S flips his shit when I don't answer my phone or respond to texts instantly
>tell him it's wrong and get him to stop
>after a few weeks i think he is ready to hang out with my friends
>during hang out S won't talk even when he is talked to
>all he says is 5 word sentences or less
>chalk it up to nerves and talk to him after to help
>S promises to do better
>next hang out no improvement
>and the next
>and the next
>the whole group is weirded out by him now
>all he does is start arguments
fast forward 4 weeks
>S gets super clingy
>texts me all night and calls all the time
>S walks into my house and just comes into my room without me opening my door
>S stalks me and my friends at the movie theater
>we all tell S to stop and i tell him i want some space because he wants to hang out everyday
>S tells me he was gay for me
>S tells me he has changed though
>super creeped out
>S even tells me he took a video of me shirtless
S is obsessed with going swimming in his pool
fast forward 2 weeks to last thursday
>all the group tells him to stop harassing me
>S threatens me with suicide
>next day he is normal and asks me to spend the night this wednesday
Im worried that he will try something if i spend the night. Ive pushed it off for so long.I don't know what to do because I cant say no another time

>>38620325
>I cant say no another time
Yes you can.

>>38620325
I know nothing about friendship but I don't think you should continue to associate with him.

>>38617512
>Lets call the friend O
>O is this buff Chad dude i saw few times when i was hanging out with his cousin
>didn't really like him back then and we didn't hang out that much
>fast forward few years, meet O again through mutual friend
>still the same egoistical douchebag that picks one guy and busts his balls until he ghosts him
>when we first met he was busting my friends balls about everything and roasting him
>figured "whatever not my business, if my friends wants to fade him im in" not like i was really friends with O at this point
>we end up hanging out with O a lot, apart from ball busting and roasting seems like a decent guy who keeps his word etc
>my friend fades the group for a while, i end up hanging out with O since he seemed like a ok guy
>we end up becoming friends with time
>well lo and behold the fucker starts busting my balls about everything and roasting me on every turn, low blows too nothing apart from family was beyond roasting
>get pissed at him, whenever he started going overboard i would just get up and go home
>my original friend i re met him through has returned to the group by this point
>well looks like O picked me as his new trash can for his bullshit roasting and ball busting
>keep fading every time i get too pissed off about his bullshit, he only gets even more aggressive on his roasting and ball busting
>getting sick of O but my other friend who i was still close with liked to hang out with him so it was either stay at home or meet old friend and O
>spend most of my time home, we are in same chat group where he keeps up his bullshit everyday
>should i fully ghost him he would most likely make my life hell, he is petty like that
>trapped in "friendship" with him for years
>tried to tell him on multiple occasions to stop his bs roasting etc but it only got worse after that
Im usually very selective with friends but hanged out with O too much and now im stuck with him

>>38619572
I dont know if i broke anything
Because i speedvwalked out

>>38617512
>>buys big bag of tater chips, gets full after eating half and then throws the still-half-full bag into the woods

oh wow what a horrible person

>>38620325
I'd tell a family member of his about all of this, or at the very least his threats about suicide. After that, just tell him you need some distance (or alternatively just ignore the dude, you can't be responsible for the life of someone else no matter how much you want to be the nice guy).

>>38620325

I've been in S's situation for about a year, except I didn't act so creepy and tried to supress my feelings instead. It's gonna hurt for him but I have to tell you that him spending time with you will only make things worse and make him more obsessive. You have to reduce time spent hanging out with him or (however unlikely) find someone who will want to go out with him and let him divert his attention to.

I'm still good friends with the person I had a crush on, but that's ONLY because I decided to go on a date with (and subsequently start a relationship with) a boy that was attracted to me in the hope of getting my mind off my friend.

Best of luck to you and please don't go to his house on Wednesday.

>>38617512
>bras
>not panties

what a pleb

>>38620531
I know, right? The bag itself was even purchased with some of the money he stole off that chick in the other class. He straight up told me so while we were on his trampoline. Although this was not the time he broke the radius bone in my right arm by jumping on top of me, that happened later on MY trampoline instead.

>>38620564
lmao my sis doesn't even have big tits, she's like legit salty at her shitty puberty for not endowing her properly

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>>38620536
Im just worried he will do it. He knows the guns safe code and what if he comes for me.

>>38620664
Well, there's like legit nothing more important than your own safety. If you can't feel safe at all while still dealing with this dude, then you've gotta scram. Go visit your grandparents or something for a while, let him cool off. If that is at all possible, that is.

>Only friend in Primary School
>There was like him and a kid next door when I got home from school but then he moved away when I was 10
>Me and friend went to different secondary schools
>We ended up at the same college and reuniting (Brit)
>No longer best friend just friend mostly for nostalgia reasons but he was still pretty cool
>He was the exact same guy, same personality type and hadn't changed
>He said I changed in the fact I seemed more shy at first and went back to my old self after feeling more comfortable
>We go to different universities but keep in touch online
>He comes back for Christmas and for the summer
>Each time he changes more and more
>Picks up this fake accent
>Constantly goes on about how his uni is better and how his city is better and what he does there and all that stuff and how he misses it
>Seems to constantly try to one up me in how "successful" he is and stuff
>Like got genuinely huffy about it once when he literally said the words "I... can't find a complaint about that. That's really good actually."
>Just about to finish my masters degree
>He's in his 3rd year (He had to redo 1st year again)
>Was worried that this fuck was gonna come back home permanently with university over and talk about the old uni days and how he misses his city (It's fucking York btw, he went to York)
>Thankfully he seems to be staying there to get a teaching qualifcation
>Only hang out with him out of obligation

>>38620615
>He straight up told me so while we were on his trampoline.

you guys where having a cheeky fuck weren't you?

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>>38617512
I suck at greentext, but whatever.
>be in high school
>need volunteer hours for one of my classes
>get invited to mom's dumb work barbecue
>she's basically a social worker for tards and their families
>"oh Anon, have you met D yet?"
>D turns out to be the daughter of mom's work friend
>awkward, annoying dyke whose only method of social interaction is showing people 2009-era memes on her phone
>ends up being a massive attention whore who never shuts up
>forced to be friends with her 'cause she's actually a covert tard
>eventually block her on Facebook because I was sick of seeing statuses like "I'm upset and I don't wanna talk about it"
>deleted her and cut her out of my life after she fucking changed her Facebook pronouns to he/him
>confirmed degenerate
>"anon, how come you don't talk to D anymore?"
>be completely honest
>"'cause she's fucking annoying as shit"
>mom looks disappointed
>don't even care at this point
>avoid her work functions like the plague from now on
>mfw finally free from this bullshit

>Have this friend M
>He's a really good friend in all other aspects
>But he knows I'm a permavirgin and uses it against me all the time
>Constantly talks about all the stacies he talks to
>He's no Chad though so at most he gets a blowjob unless the girls that desperate
>Always talks about it and try's to give "sex tips"
>I fucking hate him whenever he does this
>Again I actually consider him a great friend except for this shit

>>38621095
You seem like the only person in this thread who actually do something about his shitty friends instead of being a pussy and not doing anything

>>38621220
This board is full of pussies, my man.

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>>38620160
This conversation feels like someone just read my mind and put it into 4chan posts.

>>38621605
You need a better mind friend.

>>38621822
Oh yeah guess I just gotta forget who I've been every single day of my life and everything I've ever been thought since birth and be born again to start over, that should do it, Mr. Great Mind your highness sir.

>>38622170

hey that's not very nice, i was stalling for time once and pretended to want to join the army and they did an IQ test in their recruitment office.

they told me i had an IQ of 134 and that i could pick any path i wanted.

>be me in hs
>Friends from primary school (I guess elementary for Americans)
>We chill all the time and he's constantly bullying me
>I'm super beta and I think that's what friends is at the time
>Fast forward a few years and I get first gf
>It's his cousin, and things are all going smoothly
>One day I get a phone call.
>My gf cheated on me with her cousin
>Ghost him for a long while
>Eventually reconnect because I wanted drugs
>Things are fine for a while
>Getting high and playing vidya it's pretty great
>One day he insists that he comes to mine to get baked with a mutual friend
>Constantly making me smoke, whatever I'm ok with it.
>Eventually i pass out
>I wake up in the morning and they aren't there
>Neither is my phone, my hard drive, my laptop, my 3ds and a bunch of other shit.
>Go to the police
>They do nothing because they sold all my shit for quick cash, so no evidence
>I have terrible trust issues now and I refuse to get high with anyone.

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>>38619063
He's a legit autist by the sounds of it, they're characterized universally by a lack of knowing when to shut the fuck up already about their niche interests, and not having even the slightest amount of emotional intelligence required to realize when they're bothering someone.

>>38619856
Nice. Feels good when you sort yourself out

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>>38619856
>I could care less.

So you still care too much?

>I only have two friends i regularly hang out with
>Current friend J.
>cool guy at times
>passive aggressive fucker the rest of the time
>sometimes J mistreats our other friend who luckily has been patient all this time; like, as soon as our other friend says something vaguely wrong, J is ready to get aggressive and lose his patience; i guess he thinks he can act however he want since he's "right"
>he generalizes when criticizing stuff then has the most basic tastes ever
>he always needs to have an opinion abot everything; the other day we were eating something and my friend told the chili was damn hot; J started saying he had tasted way hotter chilis and began a useless debate where he kept talking about the stuff he had tasted
>he said he dislikes Queen (the band) even though he onlt knows We will rock you and we are the champions
>he writes like any other hipsterish small town guy
>his language skills and vocabulary are low af yet he thinks he can talk for 10 minutes straight about pointless stuff
>whenever we discuss about something he needs a fuckin huge Occam's razor as he keeps talking about irrelevant stuff

Fuck you J. Im glad his gf makes him notice his arrogance and haughtiness every now and then.

>>38622734
>TFW all my "friends" have either stolen from me or started treating me like shit as fast as something better comes along
shit sucks dude, had a "friend" break into my house and steal my motorcycle in HS, he sold it for beer money and acted like nothing happened, distance myself from everyone who try to be friendly with me because i dont want to be robbed again... feel like people in general suck ass

>>38617512
Well, I didn't really hate them at the time because they were all I had even though they were a bully, but here's how my "bad friend" treated me and how I dealt with it:

>be me, 15, very obnoxious about interests but quiet all other times, always choose weird words to say, just be a generally socially awkward 'DS at lunch table' kid
>somehow 'befriend' popular girl (she just approached me once, and then kept doing it over and over again, and at the time, I thought she was my friend)
>she probably targeted me since I was a aspie fat girl with no visible friends
>she calls me a retard all the time, no matter what I do
>"hey, I like what you did with your hair today." I say to her one day
>"It looks the exact same, you freak"
>"I was just trying to be nice. I wish I were pretty too."
>"well, anon, you obviously don't try, so stop fucking whining!"
>she says to me and storms off. we never talk again.

We spoke alot, actually. well, she did. she would mostly just rant at me about her boyfriend while I played pokemon. If I ever said anything though she'd just go "did I ask you, tard?"

I guess I just dealt with her, in the end, by trying to be nice.

>>38622734
Hang around drug users and drug dealers. What you expect?
Lay down with dogs, walk up with flees.
There is a reason adults told you not to do drugs, and it's not becuase they were "so square"
Sort yourself out.
This shit will only get worse unless you get clean.
You've been warned

It doesn't get better as an adult.
>Guy from out of town approaches me in game store.
>"New here, want to hang out"
>Sure
>I'm his only real friend in town for 2 years
>hang out all the time, go to events, see stuff he wanted to, watch movies, play games together
>he is super depressed becuase tfw no gf
>listen to all his depression whining
>ghosts me the SECOND he makes new friends
FUCK YOU
Chinese aren't human man

>>38623361
Huh, I had a chinese friend who ghosted me aswell.

>childhood friend, lets call him "F"
>we're not that close but have a lot of the same interests and have stayed in touch over the years based on this alone
>socially awkward autist who comes from a rich family
>really fucking full of himself and treats everyone he has no use for like shit
>none of us really understand why. he's got a great life, really supportive family, good job, etc.
>uses me and another mutual friend for weed and booze
>never invites us over to his place
>never pitches in on weed/booze runs despite making almost 2x as much as the two of us combined
>dated another close friend of ours, we'll call her "N," for two years
>treated her like shit
>eventually dumped her
>we're pretty sure he was cheating on her with the girl he's with now
>N had to move to another city over an hour away because he and his family were paying for their apartment, so we don't get to see her anymore
>brings his new gf over when we all hang out all the time now w/o asking
>she's really boring, won't contribute to any conversations, just gets high and plays mario kart, etc

we've been calling him out on his shitty leeching behavior for years and it's made no difference. he just laughs about it and acts like we're joking or gets defensive and says we all just don't understand him. we're thinking of staging one more intervention with a few more of our friends and if it leads to nothing we're just going to cut off contact with him.