Hey robots, cyborg here. I'm in need of help.
I'm turning 20 this september... And well I'm a virgin. I know many of you people have it worse but I'm just looking for advice.
I'm very lonely. And by that I mean opposite-sex lonely. I tried the depression online test that sometimes gets posted here and the result was severe depression with moderate stress.
I'm ESTP which means I don't really have a problem with social interactions. The problem is my self-confidence has been insulted out of me throughout school. After elementary school I went to study engineering and didn't really make any girl-friends since there were none in our class. I've never been in a relationship and I've only made out with a fat drunk girl while also being drunk.
When I posted on /soc/ I got rating from 5 to 7. And I think that I could be a very unphotogenic 7.
I'm chubby with stretch marks on my belly (dermatitis and fast weight gain when I was 16) but I'm losing weight. (6'1, 95kg).
What can I do to get a girl to be my close friend? I'm just looking for cuddles and affection. It hurts. A lot.
Better yourself and you'll attract grills anon. Go to the gym and lift. Eat well. Find a hobby. Be social and find people with mutual interests. Good luck.
>>38520256
I love skateboarding. But there are only a few people who skateboard in my small 60k city. I have friends. But they are all guys. I am really social but I can see that girls are not interested. You know, I saw ugly guys with girls and yet I'm here, hugging my pillow. And I guess I'd cry as well if I could.
sorry for the self bump guys
do as I do, take a huge dump and everything is not as bad as it seems
It's hard to just meet a girl. You can't just cold approach women, you have to be in an appropriate setting. My advice (and basically the only way I know how to pick up women) is to check out local shows at venues and bars around town. If you see two girls sitting by themselves and notice they're alone for a while, walk up to them and ask them how they're doing and questions about the place/band/whatever event is happening.
Just be like "Hey, how are you guys doing? I was wondering if you knew anything about the band tonight." Try to keep it short, say things like you don't come here often and see if they have any recommendations. Don't linger too long if they're not looking obviously interested, thank them and then leave and maybe go back later on and make some sort of small talk. You need to not think of this as a way for you to get cuddles and pussy, but as a way for you to work on approaching people and learning how to handle yourself socially with strangers. Everybody is different and you can tailor it to your interests, like maybe you hate live music and like reading. Go to book stores then, etc. It's hard to explain how to meet women because it's literally just reading the situation, not being overtly desperate, and being polite and actually listening. I was a virgin until I was 21, and then I started caring about not being a loser so I started going out more and now I have a pretty wide circle of friends and women that I can talk to, hang out with, or fuck some of them. It's not hopeless, anon. Don't let this place ruin you. It's okay to be normal.
t. normie
>turning 20 in September
shit nigga me too
>>38520180
>cyborg here
>>>/reddit/ is that way friend
>Obligatory "/r9k/ is the worst place for these kind of advices"
I am sorry for you dude. I am not sure what you can do. Have you tried the normal ways and see what happens? like using tinder and shit.
>>38520180
Link to the depression test?
>>38520922
https://www.depression-anxiety-stress-test.org/take-the-test.html
Here. Post results
>>38520828
I would have no problem doing that. The problem is that my body language might tell them, what's up. As I said, if there's like a birthday party I don't have a problem talking with girls. But I don't know how to tell if she's interested. Like I know a lot about body language and nonverbal signs that a girl likes you, but since my circle of friends is guys who are at least 8+ i'm mostly the ignored one.
>>38521227
"The funny friend of a friend". I feel like I'm mostly there just because I'm friends with the guys and the girls don't really care
>>38520883
Europe and Tinder don't really work :/
Also, I am fucking off for a while now. If this thread won't die I'll return :)