i fucking DID IT I SPOKE TO A RANDOM GIRL IN THE PARK IRL You

yeh that shit is fun, I wish I gave a fuck about getting a gf, rejection is nothing

>>38368052
tomorrow you will remember it and regret everything

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>>38368136
I think not, my friend, as i will be going out to do exactly the same thing. I actually feel pretty boss about the fact i didn't ask for her number. She was a complete stacy, all she cared about was her career and going travelling. She gave me this look as i left like "aren't you supposed to ask for my number now?" HAHA I DONT THINK SO

>>38368073
All the power to you if you don't want a gf. I think it's a shame more of us robots don't do this and share our experiences, we need to stop complaining. Social skills are a muscle and y'all are like neo when he comes out of that goop in the matrix

Remember. "there is no spoon"

>>38368052
Enjoy the "high", lad. About a year ago I was bumming cigarettes off of random qts and walking up to them and talking is thrilling. If you do it long enough (just be careful not to come across as a creep) you'll stop shitting your pants.

>>38368241
mah boi! It's a fascinating experience, i literally missed out on two qts who eventually walked out as i couldn't muster up the balls to go over. I felt so much anxiety i thought i was gonna be sick, but i knew fully that the feelings i had were completely insane, yet they were still there.
Thanks m8, gonna try and aim to speak to 1 new qt a day from now on. That's 365 qts a year, and one of them is bound to be a winner..
How come you dont do it anymore?

>>38368228
>All the power to you if you don't want a gf. I think it's a shame more of us robots don't do this and share our experiences, we need to stop complaining. Social skills are a muscle and y'all are like neo when he comes out of that goop in the matrix

If I ever want a gf I'm gonna do a challenge where I try to collect 100 rejections. Going into not even wanting to win just puts you in that optimum idgaf mode.

>>38368334
yeah thats actually a really good way of looking at it

i think you want a gf really man. DO IT

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>>38368228
Hmm... pic reminds me of this kid

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>>38368323
>How come you dont do it anymore?
I don't need cigarettes anymore.
I remembered one time I got rejected.
>walk up to two girls smoking
>ask them for a cig
>one of them kind of laughs/scoffs at my face and just says no
10 minutes later I couldn't care less that this happened. I was terrified of any kind of rejection previously and then I learnt that it doesn't matter.

>>38368423

ha maybe someday. I'm just a degenerate NEET now with nothing to offer so theres little point.

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>>38368546
I hope i can reach that point some day. That is the way we should be. When a pigeon gets rejected by a female you don't see it moaning about it for a week afterwards, it just moves on to the next one.

I want to become the pigeon.

>>38368052
There isn't a park in my neighbourhood, i'll try it at school though

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>>38368576
Hey so am i bruh, but i have enough confidence in myself to know i have a lot to offer (just not money or security).

I read an interesting perspective on this matter. While we think women all want a guy who displays the typical attributes of success, there's actually a large percentage that are aware almost all guys are trying to display these things to attract a mate, and after a while they get bored by this. It's why you see so many women with complete burnouts and wonder what the fuck happened. It's because they offer something different from the norm.

I think it's also right to remember that in your situation actually attempting anything like this is very brave when you have little to help you (imagine what you'll be capable of when you are actually back on your feet).

>>38368641
dude you're at school, you shouldn't have to do this. Just socialise, i would do anything to be back in school again.

Whatever you do if you're gonna start talking to randoms at school, DONT STOP. Otherwise you'll be known as "that weird guy who spoke to me once and never spoke to me again", and you'll be constantly seeing them around which could be awkward. When you talk to randoms you're displaying a persona of a highly social individual. You need to keep up that image in a school.

>>38368595
Exactly, but not just with women but in all aspects of life. Self-pity doesn't do anyone any good. We should be more stoic.

Getting a job as a cashier has helped me a lot desu, I used to have really bad social anxiety and was unable to make small talk with guys let alone girls but now I only have a little social anxiety and I can decently make small talk.

>>38368732
>>38368732
Amen brother. We can all drink from the cup of prosperity, but we must fight for it tooth and nail. Maybe i should start using a trip and come back with reports and things i learn from my regular escapades.

My great fear is that i wont get the strength to do this again, i need to maintain the momentum.

I think i'm going to go to a club sober tonight to see how i fare in that situation. I enjoy clubbing but generally spend the entire night dancing rather than socialising, and probably miss a lot of social cues. It will probably be horrific, but fuck it, hopefully it is, because then i'll have something interesting to talk about when i get back

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>>38368662

Interesting. I might need to put in some work then. I get a lot of looks but I never feel worthy enough to try anything. Plus I'm just jaded as fuck.

>>38368711
>Whatever you do if you're gonna start talking to randoms at school, DONT STOP. Otherwise you'll be known as "that weird guy who spoke to me once and never spoke to me again", and you'll be constantly seeing them around which could be awkward. When you talk to randoms you're displaying a persona of a highly social individual. You need to keep up that image in a school.

This is so true. I got over my fear of rejection while I was in the loony bin. I was so bored there was nothing to do but hit on girls, and once I established myself as that guy who hits on everybody it was just easy and everyone knew I was harmless. Half of the battle is just steeping out of your normal introspective character.

i need someone to talk to bros, i sent a pic of muh dick and now she's sending it to everyone i know why the fuck am i so stupid??? all i do is sit in my room and as soon as i saw a chance i took it but life just wants to keep fucking me over

>>38368711
>"that weird guy who spoke to me once and never spoke to me again"
That was me in college before I dropped out. When I back in 6 months, I won't make the same mistakes. I could have fucked at least 5 girls who were begging for my dick but I never made a move on them because of how low my self esteem was. It's still really low, but not as low as it was. Hopefully things will be better when I go back.

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>>38368836
You're worth it man, YOURE FUCKING WORTH IT. I'm jaded too, but i know 20 years from now i'd be kicking myself if i didn't do anything to improve my situation. People in general might seem like shit, but as a basement dwelling neet i realised that many people who looked like boring idiots online actually turned out to be great people IRL. Also i wouldn't consider myself massively attractive, but i did this once a few years ago and dated a legit 9/10 for a few months. That was after just two tries, so i guess i got lucky. I'm trying to remember that when i speak to these women. I've done it before, so i can do it again. And as awkward and painful this process is, you are guaranteed results if you keep doing it over a long period of time.

>>38368843
kek, why did you do that my man? Either way don't get upset, they're just being childish.

>>38368894
Fuckin jelly, just don't forget to do it. You gotta take those chances. You will never have social chances like at college again, for the rest of your life.

>>38368833
>My great fear is that i wont get the strength to do this again, i need to maintain the momentum.
Oh yeah, that can happen. Whenever I retreat back into my apartment and spend less (or none at all) time just being around other people, the fears come back just as strong as before.
Now like I said before, know your limits. There are posts sometimes about guys asking out literally every woman they see. Don't do stupid things like that because you'll just get bad reputation in your area. But do maintain the momentum.

>>38369135
Note taken, hopefully i should be alright as i live in a medium sized city, and am gonna keep it to just speaking to one a day

>talking to random girls at the park
How? do i stop running and say hi

>>38369135
>There are posts sometimes about guys asking out literally every woman they see. Don't do stupid things like that because you'll just get bad reputation in your area.

Yeah there's actually a more balanced approached, the shotgun method is some new age pua shit, you're really suppose to use eye contact to gauge interest and go from there. I avoid eye contact all the time, but I've felt it before but just ignored it.

how do you start a conversation anon?
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A shred of dignity and self-awareness is what separates the Betas from the Omegas.

>>38369337
well become a decent conversationalist first. Also i dunno about doing it whilst you're running as you'll probably be sweaty as fuck, but then it's also an indicator that you have a degree of self respect so thats good.

If you're worrying about what to say then your brain is already trying to stop you doing this. You have to just get the fuck up and go and do it. As long as you're not literally autistic you should be able to maintain some semblance of conversation. Just try not to think of it as an interaction you're getting something out of, try to think of it as making someones day, or sharing life advice with each other.

That being said, there should really be a reason you want to talk to her specifically, maybe she looks interesting for some reason, you can comment on that and say that youre curious.

Avoid physical compliments, but clothing etc is fine. I actually find this has worked well in the past as it immediately puts them in a positive mood. Sometimes i will just say it to shop workers and you can see it brightens up their dull shitty day. Just say it and go. No expectations.

>>38369341
>not sure if i never receive eye contact or if i just dont notice it.

I think im pretty intimidating looking so i think they're afraid to look at me

Also, funny story, when i spoke to that girl today. I asked her if it's okay to sit next to her, she said sure. Then i asked if she'd like to talk. She said no as she's feeling ill. I laughed and told her the only reason i was there is because i felt like talking, so i just sat there with my back to her for like 10 seconds then she started initiating conversation with me and wouldnt shut up.

Women are fucking mental i tell you, i wonder if that was one of those "shit tests" puas speak of

>>38369664
do you have any videos you would recommend that can help

>>38369764
theres no harm in watching some daygame pick up videos just to see what these interactions are like and to get ideas, but i think a lot of PUAs spout a lot of shit to keep peoples attention and sell their e-books.

I do recommend reading the book "the power of now" as it explains logically with the help of eastern philosophy why a lot of your fears of rejection etc are complete bullshit. i've also found PUA e-books which you can find for free can be quite helpful as they dont use the hyperbole/word salad they use in their videos and actually get into techniques that can help.