Is it a good idea to test """friendships"""

Nope. Save it for real situations

>>38324350
>Save it for real situations
What do you mean?

>>38324403

Stress testing it makes it weaker.

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>>38324479
But I just want to see how long it takes until he contacts me, if he ever does. I mean what's this shit worth if he doesn't?

>>38324571

As a guy, when I get dropped cold like that with no explanation makes me think I'm a burden on her.

So essentially what that does is create a break where there was none before.

>>38324262
>only one friend
>he always initiates comm
>always scared to contact him
>scared to chill with him because he might find out in a loser
At this point I think he might just be doing this out of pity but I don't know.

>>38324751

What. This is my board. I'm giving you honest advice straight from my insecure robot-trying-to-be-normie self.

>>38324262
If cutting communication, even for months, kills your friendship then it was probably just one of convenience. I wouldn't try it unless you only care about strong friendships and don't mind losing friends.

Also you're consciously hurting him by deciding to ignore him as a test.

As a guy, that hurts trust built between us. What else will you throw at me as a test because you're insecure to let things happen at its own natural pace?

>>38324262
My dad has a lot of old friends whom he goes many months without contacting because he has a busy life and they have busy lives. Playing games like that, and then feeling burned that someone didn't contact you for a month is something that most people won't understand. Most people have full enough lives that the month you spent brooding over their inattentiveness will pass by them like a flash.

If you value your friendship with this person, do things to strengthen the friendship rather than weaken it.

>>38324262
What you even want to test? If someone comes running after you, or if you will still be welcome in some weeks?
It is a seriously bad idea anyway. Many will feel they are unwanted or boring for you.
Never underestimate other peoples insecurities, they might not be lesser than your own.

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>>38324844
I didn't mean ignore. Just not imitate contact.
>>38324855
I do know people that I haven't talked to in ages that I'm sure would meet up if I asked them.
>>38324966
I don't know. I guess I want to test if it's as one-sided as I feel it's been lately.
I just want to love and be loved.

>>38324855
>>38325187
But I don't know if that makes them good friends, or just good people. I guess mostly the latter.

>>38325187

Initiating conversation is work for both parties.

If it feels wrong or forced, find other friends to socialize with.

People have limits for people. Too much of one person is too much of a good thing.

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>>38324262
IF YOU STOP TALKING TO SOMEONE THEY ASSUME YOU NO LONGER WANT TO TALK TO THEM.

Don't fucking do this to yourselves, idiots. People assume that people who isolate themselves want to be left alone. Improve your friendships instead of abandoning them because talking to others is difficult. Stop "testing" things and trying to play mindgames to find out if someone is "really" your friend or not, it's a remarkably shitty and manipulative thing to do.

>>38325525
let op ruin his erp frienships, theyll never take good advice seriously

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>>38325525
But what if I'm really just pestering them like >>38325259 said and they would rather be left alone and this is why things feel one-sided?
>Improve your friendships instead of abandoning them
How do I do this?
>>38325644
You're very mean.

>>38325674

You're assuming that we would be rather left alone.

And we're assuming the same thing.

But initiating the kind of break you're talking about isn't being thrown by the guy, it's yours.

>>38325187
what are you expecting, for them to get worried and try to contact you? what your trying to do just annoys people if they know you're not busy and just giving them a cold shoulder, and just damages the relationship.
dont expect the emotional validation of them running to try and find you just because you ghosted them

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>>38324262
More Discord autism, woohoo. If you feel the need to """test""" your friendships by doing random bullshit to them without reason, 1) you're a cunt and 2) it's not a real friendship.

It's stupid and shows just how insecure you are. Your friends aren't "truer" if they are constantly thinking about you and taking care of your social needs. Don't set the double standard of "if I don't contact them, then they should contact me" even if you're the one always contacting them.

It's a shit test for petty people.

I've done it once, and my friends never contacted me. In the rare chance that I ran into them, they said they were sad that I never saw them again. They'll just think you don't like them anymore.

>>38325187
If you know people who would hang out with you, then diversify your social life a little bit. That should ease your concerns about your currently only friend.

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If you'd seriusly emulate a commsblackout for the sake of testing friendships, you need to fucking shoot yourself in the head. Not everyone's life pivots around you.

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>>38325786
Maybe I do.
>>38325774
Well, I don't know if they would hang out per se, but they would go out for drinks or whatever adult people do.
>>38325750
You're probably right.
>>38325733
All humans need validation of some sort though.

>>38325894
Then there's your answer. Get drinks and spend time with other people. Continue to talk with your other friend. Don't run experiments on your friendships. Simple.

>>38325674
>that gif
I used to do the same when I had a cat.

Anyways, I feel your pain. I'm also afraid to bother people.

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>>38325674
If you're that worried, just ask them instead of cutting them off. If people want to be left on their own, that's their responsibility and not yours. You don't control their life.

>>38324698
The same advice applies to people who are "too shy" to send the first message. Stop that shit. If you're shy, just send something stupid or goofy like a "hello" emoji or something else that's non-committal.

You'd think that with everyone in these threads always complaining about how people stop talking to them everyone would realize that this kind of shit is exactly why. One person decides that they're a bother and "tests" the other one by cutting them off, and the other person is too shy to initiate contact and assumes the first one hates them now.

>>38325980
nichijou is a good show.

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>>38325980
>>38325994
>cat at the foot-end of bed
>have to sleep in fetal position
He's dead now though..

>>38325990
>just ask them instead of cutting them off
Hm. I guess I could do that. Thanks anon.

>>38326135
No problem, I hope you enjoy your blossoming responsible friendship.

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>>38324262
>Is it a good idea to test """friendships""" with a comms blackout?

No.

Doing so is clinically retarded and invariably ends with the friend believing that you hate them and choose not to contact them. This a fucking stupid idea and anyone who does it deserves to have every bridge burned to the fucking ground that they have.

t. someone who had to deal with an ABSOLUTELY SHITTY "FRIEND" who did the same garbage

>>38325674
>You're very mean.
he's very right

>>38326958
How did you deal with it, anon?

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>>38326987
>How did you deal with it, anon?

Well let's see. My "FRIEND" did this to me about several times.

The first 3-4 times I brushed it off, because that's what good friends do. The 5th time I got agitated but didn't say anything. The 6th time I warned them that I wouldn't deal with that shit again.


7th time I said fuck it. No friendship is worth someone doing this shit. I have had a handful of excellent, close, and enjoyable friendships. This was not one of them. Why?

WHY????

because they wanted to play MIND GAMES

all

THE

TIME

REE (REE)

>>38327060
Did they ignore your calls/messages or what?

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>>38327130
>Did they ignore your calls/messages or what?
First, it was shit like randomly unfriending me from social media, then re-adding me. Then it was long time frames where i was ignored via IM/Message.

I can't be asked to call someone who is legitimately going out of their way to ignore me. I know you saw my fucking text. I know you saw my fucking IM.

>>38327189
I see, and I understand your frustration. That seems like pretty odd behaviour.

>>38327397
>I see, and I understand your frustration. That seems like pretty odd behaviour.

Yea well fuck a "friend". Do not be that "Person"

As the person you behave like that towards will inevitably stop liking you and that appreciation for them will slowly turn into hate until they just can't stand being around that person any more.