28 year old who has fucked over 40 women, is in a LTR of three

>>38118510
>fucked over 40 women
please leave,

thank you

So how do you do it

Originally speaking

>>38118510
Yet you are still here. You'll never escape, OP.

>>38118540
Why are you here and not wizchan?

how do I ask a girl if she's been tested for STDs
I don't want to use a condom...

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>>38118540
>please leave

Make me faggot

>>38118550
>So how do you do it

I faked being social until I conned my way into a relationship in college, got treated like shit and broken up with because I let her walk all over me, worked out a lot and got into team sports, actually started enjoying being social, developed a drinking problem from partying too much, tamed that, and many other things. It all started out with getting out of my room and into the world, even though I was deeply uncomfortable with it and knew I was going to get hurt.

I see the filter is still in place! Interesting.

>>38118568
>Yet you are still here. You'll never escape, OP.

This is the first time I've been on /r9k/ since around 2010. I took a break from 4chan 2010-2013, got back on and mostly browsed /fit/ for basic information, as well as /int/ and /pol/ for the news. Now I'm mostly on /k/, /fit/, /pol/, and /out/. I don't use Facebook or any other social media besides snapchat, so I get a lot of kicks out of dumb threads on /k/, /fit/, and /out/

>>38118570
>Why are you here and not wizchan?

I don't know what that is.

>>38118666
>how do I ask a girl if she's been tested for STDs
>I don't want to use a condom...

Always use one the first time. Not negotiable. If there's a second time, bring one, but first ask: "hey this is awkward, but I don't know if you're on birth control or if I need to wear a condom...?"

This is pretty open ended and gives her an out to not say "hey lol I have the herp".

I would really advise wearing a condom until you've been fucking for at least a month, unless you trust 100% that she's only slept with 1-5 guys (lol!) and that she's been lucky so far in that none of them had herpes.

How was your first time, give pro tips

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>>38118735
>(lol!)
just how normie are you desu?

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>>38118755
>just how normie are you desu?

I'm lowkey pretty autistic. I learned to read people's emotions and mimic social interacts until it became natural, or at least until faking it didn't feel forced. Now that I'm better looking and more confident, my autistic knowledge seems impressive when it's practical and endearing when it's not, because that's how social status works.

>>38118746
I also took my first girlfriend's virginity in her college dorm bed. She was 19 and I was 22. She didn't know it was my first time because I lied about almost every aspect of myself, including that. I wore a condom and remember saying "hey, we're actually having sex" once I was inside her. We'd fooled around a lot (handjobs, playing with her pussy, blowjobs, me going down on her, her on top of me grinding on my dick without it being in her) so we felt comfortable around each other, but she was (or I suppose is) a 5'1 little pixie of a girl and so fucking her made her cry and bleed a bit at first.

If I recall, it was entirely missionary and I pulled out but came inside the condom because she didn't take it off when she was finishing me in her hand.

This picture isn't of her/us, but I love it because it reminds me a lot of those days. She had a body a lot like this girl. I'd say she is probably still the only girl I've ever actually wholeheartedly loved.

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>>38118847
>>38118746
Oops, as for pro-tips:

>be comfortable around her. Don't rush into fucking her if you aren't. Lots of people get super nervous because of this and can't get it up.

>wear a condom. You won't end up paying child support until your 40s and you'll also last longer.

>be kind. Take it slow at first, and if she says it hurts or to stop, you should do that.

>make sure she's all lubed up from you making her wet from pre-foreplay (ie she should want your dick because you've taken her out somewhere special) and from foreplay/going down on her.

>if you want mutual feels, cuddle and talk. If not, be polite but make an excuse to make an exit.

>>38118510
what is your race and height?

also, which race of female are the easiest to penetrate?

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>>38119257
>what is your race and height?

I'm a white American mongrel with all kinds of shit thrown in. I'm 6'4.

>also, which race of female are the easiest to penetrate?
As in, easiest for me to actually physically penetrate with my dick, or easiest to get into bed?

I'd say white girls are the race I'm most frequently with, but light brown girls of all sorts from Nepali to Latina to Middle Eastern seem to be most likely to want to 100% fuck on the first date and seem most interested in me overall.

>>38118679
>It all started out with getting out of my room and into the world
How do you start going out when you're completely friendless? I honestly think that if I had a social circle I could find a girl eventually, but my problem is that I'm completely alone (I'm not in college, school or anything else BTW).
What the fuck am I supposed to do? And don't say
>just go out, lol

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>>38118510
>a loving GF (and has a girl on the side)
What do you mean by this? A mistress? Your girlfriend knows?

>>38118510
21 year old KV but pseudo-normie here, should I lose it to an escort so that I can become less awkward?

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>>38119475
>What the fuck am I supposed to do? And don't say
>just go out, lol

Redesign yourself using a template of what you *want* to be rather than who you think you are. Don't be afraid; shoot for the moon here. You need goals.

You also need to make a radical change. Move to a new city. Once there, join an intramural sports team or some kind of group where physical activity is done. You will be looking for male friends, NOT women. Women don't want someone with zero social capital. Once you have friends, trust me, the women will come.

Depending on the group you fall in with, make alterations to the design template you've chosen for yourself. Take note of what makes people uncomfortable, and take note of what people like. Some things (being tasteful, kind, generous but not a sucker, etc) are universally admired and should be in your template to start with.

Yours is a pretty broad question though. Do you have any more specific details about yourself and your situation, or any specific questions?

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>>38119567
>What do you mean by this? A mistress? Your girlfriend knows?

Nope. It's a girl I know who knows I have a girlfriend. She's also in a relationship, her boyfriend doesn't know either. The more naive among you might hate me with a passion, but this situation is disturbingly common, especially among people who are attractive. Temptation is real, and a hard thing to deal with.

>>38119595
>should I lose it to an escort so that I can become less awkward?

I haven't personally indulged in this, but the potential for feelings of shame, guilt, and inadequacy coupled with intense sexual satisfaction from fucking an emotionally detacted 8 to 10/10 who is taking your money pretty toxic, and something that you could get addicted to.

IMO it's a better idea to just take it slow and stumble into a normie situation (given your description of yourself this shouldn't be impossible) where you can lose it with minimal commitment and drama; ie, go to a bar with some friends and hook up with someone equally drunk and desperate.

>>38119715
>go to a bar with some friends and hook up with someone equally drunk and desperate.

That doesn't really work here, in this country girls usually won't go this far with you unless you are already in her social circle and if you are you start wondering whether making a move will work or just make everything awkward and ruin your friendship with her

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>>38119715
I think that kind of signals that you don't really have a healthy relationship. I don't like you, because you're probably really hurting someone. Especially at your age, when your girl is probably thinking she might want to marry you. She'll probably be devastated when she realizes the whole relationship was a waste of her time and vulnerability.

R9K is full of people with emotional intimacy issues, but I tend to like them better than philanderers -- at least they usually only hurt themselves.

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>>38119840
>That doesn't really work here, in this country girls usually won't go this far with you unless you are already in her social circle and if you are you start wondering whether making a move will work or just make everything awkward and ruin your friendship with her
>unless you are already in her social circle and if you are you start wondering whether making a move will work or just make everything awkward and ruin your friendship with her
>unless you are already in her social circle

Sounds like you already know the answer to your question then.

It seems as if you need to just make a go of it. In the course of your life, you are going to not only lose contact with people, you are also going to ruin friendships and other people are going to ruin their friendships with you.

This is life. Shit or get off the pot. If you fail you fail. It will be awkward. She will probably gossip about it. And then in a couple days no one will care and life will go on. Eventually though, maybe even the first time you try, you will succeed.

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>>38119885
oops, forgot my trip...

>>38119877
>I don't like you, because you're probably really hurting someone.

If it blows up in my face and she gets hurt, that's life, and she will move on and be fine. Life isn't a romance film; there are no perfect relationships and there are no happy endings. Even in most marriages, one or both partner will be unfaithful at some point.

Don't like it? Think it's cruel? Don't think it's fair? Then give up and MGTOW out of intimacy and the genetic pool.

I would be called a normie by most on this board because I'm 6'4" and have banged 3 girls and hooked up with quite a few more. That said, I'm incredibly autistic and also hate socialsizing and dealing with people, especially girls. I just have a drinking problem and do too much coke so I find myself around women a lot and some low tier ones like me. I have never wanted a gf really and I don't even particularly enjoy sex. I definitely hate emotional intimacy because I don't feel any so I just use and lie and take what I can. So anyway, point is I just moved to a new city and there's a girl (actually a few but this one I think I might have a shot with) that works at the place next to my job. I don't even vaguely know how to approach this one because she's a nice girl and I'm used to hanging out with absolute scum like myself. Any pointers on this? She (and her coworkers) often but their lunch and shit from us so we give them a discount and free stuff sometimes. I have talked to her a bit and I think she might like me but I have no idea because autism. Any help is appreciated. And don't even get me started about my actual female co worker. Fuck I want her

>>38118510
How tall are you?
Are you white?

If you answer yes to both questions, then it's obvious that you'll be attractive to women.

>>38120038
*Are you above 6 feet tall?

>>38119612
>Redesign yourself using a template of what you *want* to be rather than who you think you are.
Interesting advice. Gotta think about that, I'm not sure now...

>join an intramural sports team or some kind of group where physical activity is done.
Meh, I used to go to the gym, and I didn't make a single acquaintance because I'm the usual sperg. Now I workout at home.

>Yours is a pretty broad question though.
Well, I need the basics. I never learned how to make friends, and the few friends I had in the past approached me, basically.
I can't figure this shit out.

>>38119885
I currently live in a shithole small town where everyone basically knows each other and that sounds a bit too risky to me. I really don't want to become the "loser who got desperate" and started hitting on all his female friends out of the blue. Guess it's better for me to wait until I move to a different country this Fall where social norms are different

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>>38120063
>Meh, I used to go to the gym, and I didn't make a single acquaintance because I'm the usual sperg. Now I workout at home.

Working out in a gym is not a social activity. You need to join a GROUP. A soccer group, running, hell, even ultimate Frisbee.

>>38120063
>the few friends I had in the past approached me, basically. I can't figure this shit out.

Again, I would advise placing yourself in a large group activity. Be friendly and polite.

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>>38119947
I feel bad for the both of you. And for the girl you're fucking on the side, for that matter.

I hope R9K anons can take some of the "just go for it" advice you're giving out in this thread, and discard the rest.

>If it blows up in my face
This wording strongly suggests that you're thinking of this strongly in terms of yourself. There are a lot of reasons people cheat; most of the time it's a mechanism to prevent emotional intimacy in the first place. The fact that you're already ready and willing to hurt your girlfriend if not for the cost solely to you kind of points out to me that infidelity for the purpose of "distancing" is what is going on here. And then the rest of it is justification.

>Even in most marriages, one or both partner will be unfaithful at some point.
This is justification after the fact. In most healthy marriages, no, that is not true. And if infidelity occurs, it usually REALLY hurts one partner -- usually ends the relationship!! if not putting serious strain on it.

It's a good thing you're not gonna get hurt by all this cheating that's going on though, right?

Why not try knocking down the flimsy "life isn't a rom-com" defense you have going on here? It would probably help you understand yourself and your relationships.

>>38120033
>have never wanted a gf really and I don't even particularly enjoy sex
>Fuck I want her

Wait, what are you getting out of this then?

>>38120114
>Working out in a gym is not a social activity. You need to join a GROUP.
Alright, got it. To be fair, I didn't go to the gym with the purpose of meeting people, I just didn't have any equipment at home yet. But I told you that because even if I'm among people, I usually never fit in...

Not sure what kind of group activity I could do. I'm actually thinking that I'd like to play in a band. I've been playing guitar for 12 years and I'm pretty good, but I was always too autistic to join a band so I always played alone. I don't know if I can even find someone to play with.

>>38120233
No idea. I have reptilian urges but once I'm really there I don't care at all. Like I don't like being on top because I'm bad at it and I don't like them being on top because I don't last that long and i don't like blowjobs because I'm too sensitive and I don't like going down or fingering them because it takes forever and frankly it all just sucks and is gross

But I want it

>>38120274
PNW? Looking for new band mates

>>38118918
>ie she should want your dick because you've taken her out somewhere special
lol fuck off

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>>38120038
>>38120062

See:

>>38119366

However, I've met and know many guys who are under 5'10 and not white who do great with women. If you use this as a crutch to "allow" yourself to fail before you even try, then yeah, it will be what stops you from getting laid and being happy.

>>38120090
It sounds like you aren't happy where you are and want desperately to leave. However, keep in mind that many women in towns like these stay in them *BECAUSE* they want to marry a local guy, settle down, have kids, and live a quiet life in that same town. The only way this happens is if local guys hit on them, dummy. Just understand boundaries, avoid trying to get with close friends, and learn subtlety as well as how to pick up on hints that someone isn't interested. Again... there's no harm in trying as long as you are polite and aren't literally telling every girl you know that you love her and/or want to fuck within the space of a year.

>>38120162
Some of what you say is probably true, but I'm a selfish person. I am trying to work on it though. I actually have pretty much broken it off with the side girl (despite a lapse last night) and will try my best to be faithful from here on out, largely because I can actually see a future with my girlfriend.

>>38120307
No, man. I'm a eurofag. What do you play anyway?

>>38120312
this is assuming that they are in a relationship already, dipshit.

>>38120312
girls dont want sex with you if you take her out somewhere special
thats how you end up in frendzone
they have sex with you if they see you can take them on an emotional rollercoaster
money
looks
dick size
status
dont matter

>>38120353
I do shitty punk vocals

>>38120354
ok i misunerdstood

>>38120162
I agree with this, but at the same time it can come off as slightly preachy. I think the best thing anyone can do is try to do things "the right way", whatever you might consider that to be. Living your example helps prove to yourself that it can be done, most of all. Just imo.

All these stories about men who were once virgin weirdos and now slay pussy regularly all have one thing in common.

It's the fact that the men were already physically attractive, so all they had to do was meet people to get laid.

You can be below average or even average as a male and be the most socially adept person ever and you still won't get laid.

Face+height is the only thing that matters to women. Prove me wrong.

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>>38120331
Everyone is selfish, but it's like that famous prisoner game. If both prisoners trust one another, they both get off scot free.

I don't know you, but life's challenge is to trust other people, because that's how both prisoners get the best outcome, so to speak. Actually doing it is very difficult in practice. I want you to have good relationships and I think you can.

Fucking two women and pretending for as long as possible is like testifying against prisoner 2. Not only is it incredibly hurtful to prisoner 2, but it also isn't even the best possible outcome.

By the way, when you actually trust your girlfriend and put some emotional stock into the relationship, you won't feel tempted and you won't have to "try" not to be unfaithful.

>>38120386
I wouldn't mind playing some punk, I never really did it before. I mostly play hard rock/metal.
To give you an idea of how I keep myself busy, I almost finished learning hangar 18 by megadeth (I'm mostly a lead guitarist).

>>38120419
Sorry, I know. I agree with you. It is difficult for me not to get a little upset reading that kind of thing, and then want to vent at the guy.

>>38118679
>faked being social
So you're just a failed normie. No one "fakes" to be social, if you can do it you are clearly social. I find it incredibly stupid. You're successful, yet you still try to fit in with us robots by saying shit like "I was faking it." What the fuck. I don't want your fucking advice, you're not welcome here, get the fuck out.

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>>38120458
I was not physically attractive.

I became physically attractive by taking care of myself, dressing like a normal person, and working out. However, physical attraction matters much less for women than it does men. Women and men have different biological objectives when seeking out mates, and failing to take this into account is a common mistake.

Women are attracted to social capital, or at least to shorthand signals for it -- having friends and seeming like you have your shit together will do far more for you than a perfect body or a chiseled jawline.

>>38118510
Roleplaying is really sad, dude. Don't play pretend.

there's no moral to your story and you can learn nothing from it.
>go outside
wow

you're just a random Chad. Loner Chad is still Chad.

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>>38119366
>white
>6'4
So you're telling me black manlets can have as much success as you? You're a joke man.

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>>38120548
>So you're just a failed normie. No one "fakes" to be social, if you can do it you are clearly social. I find it incredibly stupid. You're successful, yet you still try to fit in with us robots by saying shit like "I was faking it." What the fuck. I don't want your fucking advice, you're not welcome here, get the fuck out.

I'd been a "weird kid" since I was about 8, and had been almost completely socially isolated from around 12/13 until my early 20s. When I say I faked it, I mean that I was so desperate and lonely and tired of being alone and feeling helpless that I just forced myself to imitate what I saw successful people doing, and tried to put aside some of my autist pride about being "smarter" or "better" than the people who were normies. This approach was imperfect and embarrassing, but like anything else, the more you practice, the better you get.

It took me about half a decade to be able to feel comfortable in (and by that I mean simply used to) social situations without having the constant fear of being exposed.

>>38120479
Fair enough. As I said before, I'm working on it, and I'm actually making a go of being faithful now.

>>38119947
>she will move on and be fine
people literally kill themsleves and need therapy after partners have cheated. you will damage her and she will have trust issues.

>>38120552
"Taking care of yourself" means absolutely nothing to ugly or short men. Grooming, lifting, hygiene will not help you at all if you are below 6 feet.

Tell me, do you think a 5'8" man with plenty of friends and a well-paying, high-status job has more or less chance of obtaining casual sex from Tinder or nightclubs than a 6'4" male model?

And women do fucking care about looks. If they didn't, then 20% of men wouldn't be having 80% of the sex. It's men who have low enough standards for fucking morbidly obese women.

>>38120605
Unless you are under 5'4 there is hope for you.

However, if you want to keep making excuses for yourself and prophesying the inevitability of your own failure, then you're probably right. Also, most white women don't want to be in a relationship with black men unless the men are absurdly successful, the woman is very low on the social totem, or they are deeply damaged. That's not fair, but it is human nature. There are plenty of beautiful black and latina women out there though.

>>38120552
I think you need to kill yourself if you believe this. All you did was get /fit/ and change your wardrobe. So you already had the face and height. Fuck you.

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>>38120533
All good my man.

>>38120331
>It sounds like you aren't happy where you are and want desperately to leave.

That's because this place is boring and depressing and I'd still have to leave for academic/career reasons.


>However, keep in mind that many women in towns like these stay in them *BECAUSE* they want to marry a local guy, settle down, have kids, and live a quiet life in that same town.

Eh not really, the majority of girls I know want to leave as well.

Either way I'll try to do as you've suggested, but chances that I'll fuck up my social life are still high

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>>38120671
Like I said to a different anon... life isn't fair, and some people have advantages.

That doesn't mean your situation is hopeless and that you should give up.

>Grooming, lifting, hygiene will not help you at all if you are below 6 feet.

This is utterly stupid and not at all right, and I know that you understand it's hyperbole rather than fact. Failing to do any of these things individually will be a dealbreaker for almost every decent quality girl out there. Doing them will likewise help immensely with the way people see you, and most surprisingly, with how you see yourself.

>>38120653
point taken.

>>38120629
So you still "faked" it but passed. Kek. Shucks, you had a lonely childhood? Try being a lonely adult in your late 20s fucking Chad. You will never know the pain we feel.

>>38120653
this guy has zero morals and is an absolute piece of shit alcoholic douche bag Chad.
this is the exact guy that you imagine when someone says, "im dating an asshole, but i love him :)"

women go for any novelty/label you throw at them. punker? cool. biker? hot. surfer? so hawt. rapper? wow, sexy. bullfighter? courageous.
it's all ape-minded bullshit, a game we all play.

>>38118510
imo if you want to fix your self you should watch real social dynamics

>>38118510
>(and has a girl on the side)

You became what you hated. Congrats.

>>38120783
i literally hope he dies
>i want to be faithful now
>after cheating
fucking retard and the sad part is stacy will still stay with him

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>>38120736
My face looked like shit. As you build muscle, lose excess fat, and your skin clears up from physical exercise, better diet and hygeine, your facial features improve as well.

There's a photo of two faces side by side which I can't find after a minute on image search, but the results are pretty stunning: in one photo is a photoshopped image of a guys face with a skinny neck, in the next, with a thicker neck from working out.

It increases his attractiveness quite a bit. Actually working out and developing muscles in your neck changes your face, makes you look more attractive and masculine, and even gives you a developed jawline...but whatever, I'm probably just lying to you to... uh... I don't know? Increase the value of 24 hour fitness stocks? Chicken and other lean meat farms? Whey futures?

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>>38120783
>it's all ape-minded bullshit, a game we all play.

If you understand how to win the game, why not try playing instead of flipping the board over and sulking in your room with your tendies?

Also, I don't have a drinking problem anymore. I described that situation to you to illustrate a way in which my attempts at self-improvement backfired (ie trying to be social but overdoing it), and how I faced failure and corrected myself.

>>38120803
>>38120819
>You became what you hated. Congrats.
>I hope he dies rrreeeee

Die a NEET or lift long enough to see yourself become a Chad.

>>38120776
"Advantages" in the sexual marketplace mean everything.

If the vast majority of women will only fuck 6' and above men, then there is no point in getting rejected hundreds of times just to find a woman who would be okay in fucking a 5'8" man.

>>38120915
>If you understand how to win the game, why not try playing instead of flipping the board over and sulking in your room with your tendies?

this is why i don't like Chads. i had a bunch of them as friends.
if you don't also enjoy what they love, they see you as a faggot.

so if i don't enjoy doing what you do, i'm sulking in my room with my tendies?
riiiiight.

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>>38120917
>the vast majority of women will only fuck 6' and above men

this simply is not true. Many women prefer taller partners, but it's similar to hair color for men... something pretty cool but largely irrelevant unless her hair is the color of algae...but some guys even prefer that! The same goes for guys under 5'5.

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>>38120945
>so if i don't enjoy doing what you do, i'm sulking in my room with my tendies?

My point is that you complain that the game is rigged because it's human (and female) nature to prefer strong, dominant men in the bedroom or as leaders. Yeah, women want something novel, dangerous, admirable.

You already said you understood the reality of this situation, right? Well... you aren't incapable of providing that, I promise you.

>>38120954
Now I know you're just a troll.

No guy ever says "blondes only" on his dating profile, while the majority of women demand 6' and above on their profiles.

I can't even go for very short women because they would rather hold out for a tall Chad than fuck an average man like me.

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>>38120954
let me make this clearer:

6'0 and up are blondes

5'10 and up are redheads or bruenettes or whatever

Are you telling me no one will fuck this girl with black hair because many guys prefer blondes? No, of course not. She has other features that are desirable, just like you, if you're 5'6, can be fit, charming, kind, socially or financially successful, etc.

>>38120983
>Well... you aren't incapable of providing that, I promise you.
are you getting back at me because i said bad things about you?
i'm not the one cheating on my make believe girlfriend, stupid alcoholic.

i don't care what women want. all i care about is living my own life how i want to live it.

>>38121013
>the majority of women demand 6' and above on their profiles

I have looked at hundreds of dating profiles and gone on dozens of dates from them and have only run into this demand a handful of times, almost always from stuck up bitches who are 90% there to troll for attention rather than looking for real dates.

>>38121045
there are no IDs on this board, so I wouldn't know it was you. And it didn't get under my skin at all, I get that it's a reasonable criticism.

And please reread what I wrote: "you aren't incapable of providing that"

That means that you are capable of it. It's a compliment. Lighten up buddy.

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>>38118510
h-how do i start conversation senpai?
this is my number 1 reason that i am scared of approaching/being around girls
i can sustain conversation very easily, but starting it is succ
also im poor
like, i only have 50$ spare poor

>>38121059
Even if they don't explicitly say it out loud, they still won't go for short men.

Do you deny a 5'8" man will have far worse dating prospects compared to a 6'4" man?

If so, what are the solutions?

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>>38121109
It's something you're going to have to grind out at and fail at over and over again until you're comfortable.

This is a major reason I recommended being in a large social groups like mixed gender intramural sports. The more women you talk to casually in non-sexual contexts, and who you come to see as speak to as equals rather than something you are "hitting on", the better you will be at hitting on girls. Making small talk isn't hard is you aren't putting the pressure of wanting to fuck her on yourself.

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>>38121083
>it's a compliment
oh i misread that.

i won't become a novelty for women. for some reason i hate it, i'm not sure why, but it's not isolated to women. i can't become a novelty for anything, not even Halloween, a temporary moment.
i have some weird conviction about me, pride, I dunno.
i do dance though, but i'm not good at it.

i should just make dancing my niche desu.

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>>38121160
>Do you deny a 5'8" man will have far worse dating prospects compared to a 6'4" man?


Like I said earlier in this thread... sure, many women would prefer someone taller. 5'8 is easily doable for most women though. Will you be at a disadvantage over someone "perfect"? Yeah of course you fucking idiot. That doesn't mean you have zero chance, or even that your chances are low enough to not even bother.

>If so, what are the solutions?
See my earlier posts. Being in shape is important. Having social capital is also very very important.

Let me describe an anecdote to you: when I've tried to hook up with girls for a one nigh stand outside of dating apps (these remove the necessity for this), say, in a hostel, if I am with friends of make friends with a group of strangers, I have a shot at getting laid if I play my cards right, have a little bit of luck, and meet up with a group of girls.

If I am by myself, it is not impossible, but much, much, much less likely. Women want men who are ADMIRED AND LIKED BY THEIR PEERS. That is the gold standard. That is what for men would be the physical signs of fertility in women. We are social animals, and mate selection is largely determined in women by the ability of their potential male suitors to exist successfully within that hierarchy.

>>38121196
>i do dance though, but i'm not good at it.

>i should just make dancing my niche desu.

Whatever you want. But the most important thing is that other people, not her, like whatever you do.

>>38121262
>Whatever you want. But the most important thing is that other people, not her, like whatever you do.
>be reminded of ape minds and status again

eh, nvm, think i'll just die alone.

>>38121167
>Making small talk isn't hard is you aren't putting the pressure of wanting to fuck her on yourself.
... what if i dont have that pressure rn but i still have problems talking to people
am i failure?
thanks for the grinding advice though

>>38119947
You're a piece of shit. Cheating exists in life because scum like you exist and cause so much misery in the world.

>Life isn't a romance film; there are no perfect relationships and there are no happy endings.
Fuck off with your uninspired attempt to seem wise. You're a lot less mature than you think you are. We're not naive to hate scum like you.

>Even in most marriages, one or both partner will be unfaithful at some point.
Don't go pulling that one out of your ass. Also the fact that you use other people's wrong doings to excuse your own makes you shittier.

All in all, you're a terrible person who will cause suffering to the person you supposedly love, then shrug it off with whatever awful excuse you come up with. I sincerely hope your girlfriend doesn't marry you and finds someone better than trash like you.

>>38119366
>6'4
Well I guess we found the reason for your success. This 26yo kv will show himself out of the thread.

>>38121262
Is you MBTI type by any chance ISTP?
And what was the worst part about having to pretend you're a normie and participating normie activities?
I personally just act like myself and show my open hate for normie culture and shit like taking pictures, Instagram, snapchat, people being loud and using stupid phrases, yet no one minds and think that makes me "cool" or whatever. I never really pretended to be anyone else but myself and I'm a malicious asshole, never show people that i care for them, never share personal stuff, never offer support, never get excited by someones "cool" ideas, but for some absurd reason people think that's cool and like me even more for that.
I guess every group has to have "that guy".
Everything in my lap just fell in my lap and i actively did absolutely nothing to deserve any of it. I'm a robot with a beautiful girlfriend who i actually love, a circle of friends who consider me an irreplaceable part of their group, doing well in college and for some reason like by everyone. The only person i show love and compassion for is my girlfriend and that's because the shit she makes me feel i didn't even know existed.
The only things i can think of playing in my favor are me being 6'3, fit and kinda good looking. Is looks really all it takes for people to like you? Are people really that shallow?

Sorry for turning my post into a blog i got a bit carried away. My final question is, do you think you could pull off the same thing while just being yourself?

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>>38121542
>The only things i can think of playing in my favor are me being 6'3, fit and kinda good looking. Is looks really all it takes for people to like you? Are people really that shallow?
honestly? yes
that gives u an amazing base, its like giving u the stage to show people the kind of person you are in a positive light
most ugly people don't get that opportunity

as for me, i can relate to your paragraph
almost everybody i meet seems to love me, usually for my mannerisms, comedic value, method of talking, and ability to speak up against people. they usually call me "savage" i fucking hate this term or really funny. it got to the point where people would laugh at almost anything i said/did. that granted me a lot of popularity, but i honestly hated how they just liked me for that. but w/e, i digress
i can also relate to the part where u say that many people call u cold hearted and whatnot by not caring about them. many people seem to perceive that i am very selfish even though i am just too shy to show my care of people most of the time. i love to help people, give stuff to them, and be there for them, but nobody thinks of me like that.
i am technically being myself when getting these things, so maybe. everything just falls in my lap, just like u.
also, i think im an ISFP, possible ISFJ, i cant tell

>>38121977
>>38121542
not op btw homiesapian

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It's another "normie projects his own success onto people he's never met, in the process getting to feel morally and functionally superior" thread.

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If you think that fucking over 40 women, having a LTR and cheating on the side is something to brag about I don't think we have the same values. Seems like most people here have better hearts despite "losing" at life.

>>38122511
Be a good person or enjoy life as much as possible.

>>38122587

"or"

Really? You think it's either/or? You must be joking man.
Tell me you meant "and".

>>38122511

This.

It's not even that hard to fuck lots of women. Even the ugliest 50 year old pot-bellied morons can fly over to the poorest parts of the Philippines and sleep with lots of women.

>>38119612
>Once there, join an intramural sports team or some kind of group where physical activity is done.
I've actually thought of this but I'm incredibly uncoordinated. Hesitant to join anything sports related because of the flak people would give me back in HS.

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>>38118510
>28 year old who has fucked over 40 women is in a LTR of three years with a loving GF (and has a girl on the side) here.

>>38122511
The worst thing is, he brags about it on this mongolese chopstick forum.
>>38118510
>Ask away if you want any advice
>advice
>from someone who is such a subhuman that he brags on r9k about sex
Top kekle

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>>38120983
>Yeah, women want something novel, dangerous, admirable.
>so I give them all of that, because I like to please them as much as I can and proxy hate on everything they do, like a good little cuck.
You're nothing more than a glorified orbiter, degenerate.

>>38122660
No I meant "or" because OP is enjoying life and isn't being a good person. Most normies aren't good people anyway.

>>38120629
"She's lovely Hubbell."

How /fit/ are you?

>>38123010

I would argue that seeking short-term chemical and social rewards is not the same thing as enjoying life in any real sense. If you enjoy life you don't come to /r9k/ to lord it over less fortunate people - there's something missing. If you sleep with 40 different people and can't commit to one, you're trying to fill a void.

I'm not going to argue with your point about normies not being good people because I'm cynical about human beings in general. I have hope that we might evolve into a good race one day.

>>38123234
>there's something missing. If you sleep with 40 different people and can't commit to one, you're trying to fill a void.
All the normies say this. They think they're damaged goods despite having everything.

what to do when my normie facade is showing cracks. I'm still a virgin and lied about it yet i still get the question sometimes. I'm starting to see people can see through my normie act

>>38123274

"Having everything" is a stupid turn of phrase. If you even try to have everything, you'll never be satisfied with anything, and always need more.
This is what causes many normies to lead shallow, empty and materialistic lives. They are damaged goods, but they usually aren't aware of it or exist in mutually supportive bubbles. People who know better are not normies by definition, but you wouldn't know that because it seems you are a member of the terminally stupid cohort that joined /r9k/ after it became *9001 who despise anyone who isn't a miserable failure.

>tfw this thread made you realize you have to be a borderline sociopathic monster to be a functioning norms

Fuck y'all if this is what you normies do to each other, you can have at it.

>>38124866
what else would it be? we're inundated with systems

Education, work, taxes, the rat race, qualifications, culture and consumerism.

To survive you have to work each system. The systems are inhuman and to adapt to them is to be inhumane. You have to understand you don't lose your humanity by engaging in them unless you let yourself. Others unknowingly adapt to them but you don't have to be one also.

>>38120479
Nice post originnally

>>38118510
>fucked over 40 women

why not fuck the one - the best - and happily marry her?

>>38118847
yours dick??

>>38124866
You just learning this now?> You are too pure to be normal.

>>38118510
Seems like youre trying to covince somewho who isnt me.

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>>38122725


432a04007

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>>38126136
>why not fuck the one - the best - and happily marry her?

because the best girls aren't interested in marriage until their late 20s to early 30s, after they've been through the ringer.

>>38126206
This guy is wise.

>>38126160
No, like I said, that photo isn't of me or her, it's just a random photo.

>>38122825
Like I've said before: play the game or don't. I don't do things for women or spend money on them. My whole point is that you have to understand how humans work, and part of social dynamics is that people admire other people who are skilled and well liked by their peers. If anything, most of my advice is make MALE friends and bond with MEN.

>>38122511
Yeah okay, great.