Adults of /r9k/: Do you any serious advice you'd be willing

>>37602250
>>How did you get your shit together?
I didn't. Don't be like me.

t. 30yo virgin NEET

>>37602271
I'd like to know a little more about your life story than that

>us young, lost in life, self-aware
By this are you implying that the self-awareness goes away with age? Because that would be some great news

>>37602250
>self-aware

That's exactly what you are not. You will gain it with age.

>>37602327
Well I spent eight years getting a degree. Went away to school, completely fucked everything up because I had no idea how to run my life on my own, dropped out, came home. Went to a community college, got a two year degree, lol recession, went to different four-year school nearby and finally got a CS degree.

Found out after all that that I was actually pretty shitty at real-world skills. You know, figuring things out on your own and working independently, instead of solving little canned problems in the way the chapter in the textbook this week tells you to. Also realized at the end of this that my degree was pretty much worthless to employers, they look for internships and experience and extracurriculars, not GPA.

So I went to some job fairs and got shot down like the failure-in-a-suit that I was, until some guy I had a class with was at the recruiting booth one time. They gave me a job pretty much sight unseen. You know, just to drive home that all of this is a popularity contest. I was a nervous wreck and attempted suicide after three months there, which was the end of that.

Something else I found out is that you won't get a gf or have sex in college like all the other kids if you don't live on campus. Living with your parents and being a commuter student effectively forecloses on any chance for that social stuff to happen to you.

What else? Maybe this is specific to me and not a general thing among other but I found out that accomplishing things in life didn't make me feel proud or motivated. Just more tasks to be completed. Family members would say "Oh, you have a degree and a job now, isn't it great?! aren't you proud of getting everything together?" "No, not really. It's awful and I just want to know when I can finally stop doing all this" This elicited blank "how could you possibly think that?" stares.

so I guess the moral is don't be a defective person.

>>37602250
Bad habits of action and bad habits of thought are what do most people in.
Start building good habits and you have a shot at improving.

I started browsing here in '07/'08 and fell into r9k because my first girlfriend cheated on me with a few guys around my high school. The culture of misogyny, feels and comfy greentext stories was exactly what i needed and made me feel less like an outcast.

Though as much as I'll always have love for it, this place is undeniably toxic and large doses. Its ideologies detracts from the necessity of self-development, education and constructive introspection. I was saved because of a college trip and a few real life anons that got me to start hanging out with them, during which I found the motivation to start caring about my appearance. 4chan made it easy again-- started browsing /fit/ and /fa/ in addition to here, and a year later all of my depression was gone. I entered my prime hard and started actually being passionate about life, instead of rocking myself to sleep every night with a knife wanting to kill myself.

Overall I'd say just know that the Self is a vessel that can be improved upon like a runescape or final fantasy character can be powerleveled, and the gains are where the joy is

The process can be beautiful if you let it

my advice would be find the TRUE meaning behind some of the words you are already familiar with. Like with meditation. It sounds like a some hocus pocus shit but it's really about learning to look at the world in a different way, the same way you used to as a kid. You remember those times when you did not spend a second a day in your head? That is kind of what meditation feels like. Back into the real world. Oh and look into nofap, it sounds like a meme I know but it has some profound effects.

>>37602563
please elaborate a bit more

>>37602570
that's what you get for pursuing a meme degree just for the financial security. But at least you did something with your life. You are still relatively young though. What is your true passion? Why don't start that? Maybe become a skilled craftsman. Building Houses and Boats is way more fulfilling then working a meaningless job behind a computer all day.

>complaining doesn't do shit, make your own way
>wrap your dick
>invest as soon as you get a full time job
>learn to cook good food
>stay active
>don't sweat the small stuff
>be yourself
>if you have to do something embarrassing, own it (confidence is key)
>dancing badly is better than standing there watching others (applies to non-dancing activities as well).

My first piece of advice is to exercise at least 30 minutes a day, every day. This will sharpen your mind and improve your outlook. I also recommend lying in the sun for 10 minutes on sunny days. As for accomplishing things, well, I think it helps to have a long term goal and a vocation. I wanted to be a scientist since I was a small child, so in a way I was lucky to have a clear goal from the start. If you don't have this, maybe try to do some reading on great figures in history such as the wright brothers or Charles Darwin, and see which ones you admire the most. Then, just research what the prevailing career advice is for that line of work and follow it really really well. Not having friends or a gf gives you time to work on this more than the average normie.

>>37602250
>27 years old
>nothing fucking matters, might as well get fucked up and die
>you never can be found
>everything is forgotten in the end.

>>37603606
>What is your true passion?
get a load of this guy, assuming that everyone has a passion

>>37603631
dancing was banned in Europe since the church thought it was sin and lustful, white people could have been the masters of dance

People ignored me in highschool so I ignored them. I got a near full ride scholarship to college from good grades in highschool and a having a lot of AP credit.

In college I never attended any parties, ignored most of my classmates like I did in highschool, and managed my time well enough to work a small job to keep my apartment and get my work done. I rarely missed a class and worked on assignments the night I got them to avoid procrastinating. I also avoided women and payed them no heed. Thus I was never cucked or wasted mental effort on women bullshit.

A good way to avoid burnout on studying is to take a class you want to take that has nothing to do with your major. I majored engineering but constantly signed up for foreign languages to break up the constant applied math work. It was also something to look forward to and not dread.

I graduated college with some kind of honors but no work experience in internships because I sperged interviews and the market was shit for my field of study. Eventually after about half a year of spamming applications I got a full time job and now I live alone in an apartment in a strange city where I know no one. The plus side is I have very few expenses outside of bills and have plenty of spending money on video games and hobbies. I have little time for hobbies now though because of work.

I am a wagie.

>>37603536
You're a kid. What makes you think you understand anything about yourself or the world?

>>37603663
Doesn't everyone have something they like to do most. Besides masturbating, consuming junkfood and watching Anime of course?

>>37603752
Smoking weed, it's the only thing that helps me get through all of the bullshit.

>>37603752
No. It's really common to be a no-passion person actually. Robots fap, play vidya, and watch anime, normies go out and party and watch sportsball. Many people have hobbies but not many people have a passion.

if you do have a passion its awfully rare that its something someone will pay you to do.

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>>37602778
>I started browsing here in '07/'08 and fell into r9k because my first girlfriend cheated on me with a few guys around my high school. The culture of misogyny, feels and comfy greentext stories was exactly what i needed and made me feel less like an outcast.

That was my situation, started browsing one year ago back when I was still a senior. I'm rather thankful for this place because reading all this stuff and chatting with people who share your problems takes your mind off other things. I mean, I don't get stuck in the bubble either. Due to college I have "mandatory" normie conversations and I read the news, a lot. Also I've had quite a bit of experience with girls, so that whole mysoginy thing going on here is meh.

>>37603631
>>if you have to do something embarrassing, own it (confidence is key)

I used to be very confident and lifted weightsfor a few years. That didn't stop deep-rooted insecurities from re-surfacing after a particular event really destroyed all my confidence. I've been on a downhill slope since it happenned.

See the thing that I find terrible, is that while I'm still young and a bunch of older anons tell me it's still time for me to make it into a better life, I can't find any of that inspiration anywhere. I may tell myself this or that, but I can't follow through. And as I stated earlier, the fact that I once thought I had succeeded in shelving my insecurities, and ultimately failed, makes it even worst.

>>37603845
I guess. society needs a bulk of people who just are content with an unremarkable life.

>>37603789
That's not a passion. That's just more mindless consumption and distraction.

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>>37602250
We dont have are shit together you fucking mongoloid.
Despite what you think you see, normies on this site are still few and far between.
Most of us failed life and couldnt handle the trials because of:


1. Bad upbringings that brought about specific and irreverisible life, emotional and spychological damage
2.Physically or mentally warped (i.e ugly/and or autism) and from that never experience a normal childhood, never having friends in school from elementary to highschool and so on bringing about either an intense hatred or extreme apathy for life and the people in it.
3.Betrayed by others when trust had been a bind they thought had been set in solid stone was broken, which in alot of cases depending on the type of relationship, can shatter a robots already unstable and emotionally scarred spyche.
4. All of the above


The first time this board was created, it was meant for men who couldnt talk to women and needed advice.
That was the target audience.
Young men who couldnt perform the most basic of human biological functions... simply finding a gf that cared about them.
From this, anon, could be alot of reasons why a robot cant get a gf.
They all have different problems, but all of them have fried their young brains during their most influential period of life.


And now, they sit at their PC at 10 AM explaining what makes a robot to some bait OP thread on a beutiful friday afternoon, instead of going outside and meeting people or getting a gf.
That shipped has sailed, no matter how much hard work you think we havent done to fit in.
We cant get ourselves together.
We are the tiny insignificant minority on this massive world, destined to be farts in the wind.
Just like your life OP.

>>37603606
>What is your true passion?

I'd like to be a porn actor but given how skinny I am I'd probably be featured on the receiving side of a gay hardcore video.

>>37602250
>Do you any serious advice you'd be willing to share with us young, lost in life, self-aware robots?
>How did you get your shit together?

>/r9k/
>having its shit together

come on now kiddo

In all seriousness, though:
- Get your driver's license.
- Get a job and save money.
- Don't fucking drop out like me. You will just make your life harder for no reason.
- Either go outside or get on tinder and start grinding to meet people and make friends. You will be rejected a lot.
- Don't be a thirsty betanigger who treats women like they're gods. That shit's disgusting to everyone.
- Most people have problems. Committing to a friendship means being there for eachother when either have issues, but having an energy vampire in your life isn't good either. If you're constantly bitching about your feelings to everyone else and you don't really want to get better, then your friends will leave you because it's too much for them.
- Relationships are really fucking hard and being in one is a long-term commitment. You don't have to participate in the sexual degeneracy of youthful horniness, but you will never get to know someone if you don't take risks of being hurt/wasting time.
- Get help for your depression / anxiety / assburgers if you have it. Either talk to your parents or go to a real therapist.
- Buy bitcoin and go long.

Most of the problems of memepression can be solved by changing your daily routine and being independent. For almost all Americans/Euros, being "stuck" in your life is your own choice and realizing that is important to improving yourself. You're not in a 3rd-world shithole where you're doomed to pick up trash for the rest of your life. But you can easily fuck up your chances by being apathetic.

t. 24

Respect others and recieve it in return.

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>>37604044
>destined to be farts in the wind.

we are lost...like tears...tears in the rain

>>37602250
>How did you get your shit together?

Don't bother doing this.

Everything is just as shitty as before but you'll have a bunch of obligations on top of it.

Don't make it your goal to be happy, because you might never be. The way I think of it is if I exercise, eat right and work hard I won't be as miserable as I would be if I didn't do those things. I'm still depressed but at least I don't feel physically awful.

>>37604049
just lift bra. Also how big is your dick?

>>37603632
Anon...
you are me ...
wow

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>>37604067
>- Get your driver's license.
>- Get a job and save money.

How the fuck can I do that with

>depression
>anxiety

and if I'm too ashamed to come out in the open with those problems?

And tbqh
>i did try to integrate in society
>i did take care of myself
>i did get fit

In the end it didn't get me anywhere, tell me why the fuck should i bother climbing this hill again if I've done it and fallen already? isnt it easier to just sit here eating and playing vidya...giving up?

>>37603681
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ueJ4-lTa1s

Are you saying white people can't dance faggot?

>>37604145
>just lift bra.

See:
>>37604165
>>37603864

Those are my posts. I'm a little bitch that keeps crying like a faggot on a Vietnamese ink painting forum.

Also my dick is about the size of a soda can

Young people are incapable of receiving advice.

Literally every time I figured something out painfully and laboriously and far too late and with immense sacrifice or expense, I'd been told that very same thing many, many times by older people. I thought they were memeing platitudes at me and disregarded them.

Love and friendship are the most important things for happiness. The only way to get those is to be open and vulnerable.

Forgive and forget.

Competitive success is empty and unimportant. You must set your own personal goals that match your situation, values and needs. That's the only way to be content.

Be humble.

Other people are never as powerful or scary as you feel. They're just like you.

You're not as ugly as you think.

>>37604165
>and if I'm too ashamed to come out in the open with those problems?
Ask your parents to help you learn how to drive. Afterwards, you go to a doctor and you spill your guts 1-on-1. They'll recommend a psychologist.

Your family doesn't have to know if you don't want them to.

>In the end it didn't get me anywhere, tell me why the fuck should i bother climbing this hill again if I've done it and fallen already?
Because you won't get better by trapping yourself in this loop.

>isnt it easier to just sit here eating and playing vidya...giving up?
Yes. I was a NEET for 6 years and I did exactly what you're doing. It is easier, until you realize that eventually your parents will die and you don't qualify for NEETbux. Then you're either going to be homeless or working at a grocery as a cashier at the age of 50.

Change, or you are doomed.

>>37602250
Learn a trade, something useful
Or have a clearly defined career plan

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>>37604165
Yes, its just easy for normies in a way we will never understand.
Our problems stem very deep friend.
Im working part time at a grocery store and recieving neetbux on top of my weekly check.
I think, if i WERE to try and get fit, id do so wouldnt die young or something.
But since i can feed my lazy lifestyle, and im actually HAPPY this way.
As an adult i have no actual obligations except my 4 hour work day 4 days a week.
Taxes? Ill give it HR block down the street and let them do my tax bullshit for like t0 bucks.
I live in cali? Ill get a perscription for medical marijuana.
Too many normies outside today?
Quickly buy some liqour down the street and order a pizza at home, get high play vidya.
Im feeling a little more down than usual?
Ill go for a walk tonight and listen to music, and this time ill bring along a joint i learned roll eariler this week.

My point is, if you arent tied to your family or some sort of obligation, you can make your life fun and worthwhile.
With freedom anon, i found joy.
To any underage robots lurking here, i feel for you.
Whatever circumstances led you to r9k as a teen must have been as bad as mine.
Being young is like being trapped in your own mind as well as the restrictions of being a minor.
Just do what makes you happy, and live seperated from all the bullshit.

>>37604274
>Change, or you are doomed.

Shit. That must sound pathetic but I can't. I tried several times. As I told you I tried some time ago and ended up in this situation again. The story goes like this: Every once in a while, a comment or some small success like a good grade boosts me up. Then I realize how long the way is, how I've crashed last time, and when I look inside myself for courage, inspiration, that Rocky spark...There's just nothing. Which scares me, given I'm not an oldfag yet and i should feel fulfilled.

Ik that I could end up working shit-tier jobs, but this isn't the reality yet, it doesn't connect.

>>37602250
You do not want life advice from any (((adult))) that frequents this site or board. No well adjusted, well to do person comes here.

>>37604367
>Just do what makes you happy, and live seperated from all the bullshit.

Harder to say than to actually do anon. We can't all live in Cali. Part of me wallows in the way I am but part of remains empty, unfulfilled. So many great things I could do but I simply can't.

>>37602250
Look at bite sized philosophy channel on YouTube

>>37604383
>Shit. That must sound pathetic but I can't. I tried several times. As I told you I tried some time ago and ended up in this situation again. The story goes like this: Every once in a while, a comment or some small success like a good grade boosts me up. Then I realize how long the way is, how I've crashed last time, and when I look inside myself for courage, inspiration, that Rocky spark...There's just nothing. Which scares me, given I'm not an oldfag yet and i should feel fulfilled.
There was no "Rocky spark" for me. You either do the thing you want to, or you don't. I do things out of necessity because the alternative was worse.

Every year you wait makes that alternative worse though.

>Ik that I could end up working shit-tier jobs, but this isn't the reality yet, it doesn't connect.
I know. It took me until 22 to fully realize the impact of what I was doing.

You will too, eventually. Either it will drive you deeper into depression or the guilt will be enough to change you.

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>>37604252
>Literally every time I figured something out painfully and laboriously and far too late and with immense sacrifice or expense, I'd been told that very same thing many, many times by older people. I thought they were memeing platitudes at me and disregarded them.

This, 100%. Nothing about our experiences are all that unique, but our egos REFUSE to listen to people who've already been there and done that. Even when you dumbasses ask for advice, you don't trust us and spend more time trying to reason why you're different, your situation isn't the same, and the advice doesn't apply to you than actually following the advice thathas a very high chance of being helpful.


All we can do is let you fucking retarded retards fuck your shit up over and over again until you come to the same realization, and then we'll accept your apology

>>37604484
Damn. i hope you're right. But some problems that have accumulated over all my childhood and teenage years...Not just the meme "le no gf" but the fact that I can't be normal around other people. There's no going around that.

>>37602250
So you're telling me that all my friends that have significant others are also depressive?
Fuck off normie, good bait nevertheless.

>>37602250

>some people are born with everything
>will live life with very little real problems

>some people are born with nothing
>will live life with constant stress

>dude just man up your bootstraps etc

>>37604592
Oh, this is for dealing with young adults in general, not about /r9k/. I'd never give advice here

>>37604484
>>37604367

Anyway. thanks for a good bit of conversation anons, but I must go now. These are people like you who make this board truly nice to browse.

>>37604597
Yeah there is.
Practice and repetition.
You're gonna get it wrong a lot, but with repeated attempts it gets easier and easier. That was my problem, I stewed in my own inability to socialize for too many years.
'fake it til you make it' isn't just some chad-tier bullshit advice

>>37604592
I actually listen to most reasonable advice I get and act upon it. Brought me fucking nowhere though. Best advice is to stick to your gut-feeling, always - even if you might be incorrect about something, better a few times sorry than your whole life.

>>37602250
Force yourself to socialize and become more extroverted, the world is full of people learn to like them

>>37604748
This. Trial and error. Being antisocial is the psychological equivalent of being fat. You can't just diet for one week and expect to lose weight and get in shape. It takes repeated, sustained effort and gets easier and easier the more you stick with it.

>>37604044
>The first time this board was created, it was meant for men who couldnt talk to women and needed advice.

actually no, this board was exactly like /b/ only a bit classier (less gore and porn of little girls) then for some reason the sadvirgin theme of /adv/ came over a couple years

Is 21 too late to change my life? I still live at home, virgin, just signed up for community college, and thinking about going for an associate's degree in cyber security.

>Le just suck it up life is bad xD
>t. normie with no problems in life

l m a o

>>37604822
No, I'd say 25 is the tipping point when people start realizing something is wrong with you.

You're a little late, but nobody's going to blink an eye if you lie on your resume about working shit jobs from 18-21 before going for a 2y degree.

>>37602250

May not help you find your way, but, a few of the things I've picked up on the way:

>Do not under any circumstances fuck with the roof over your head. If you're on your own, rent comes first, no matter what. If you're living with someone, play by their rules until you can get a place. It's shitty, but it's the path of least resistance.

>Be very careful about being dependant on other people's income to pay your bills and having joint accounts. Make sure you live within your means and can pay your bills of they leave or flake out.

>On joint accounts: there is no "our" money. Your money is your money. Especially with a significant other. You need your own account.

>If you have a car, pick up a Haynes or equivalent manual and learn basic and routine maintenence for it. Make sure you have the proper tools and keep an emergency kit with money in the trunk.

I have more if anyone's interested.

>>37604796
You are wrong, this place was called relationship advice when it was first made.
Stop pretending you know what you are talking about anon, oldfags know when youre trying to smugly fit in.

>>37604796
Nigga do some research, this place was relationship advice before it became a shitty /b/ 2.0

>>37605005
>>37605030
see /adv/

>>37605005
Are you fucking retarded, this place was always just a testing ground for the robot detection system, some fun little board that people used for greentexts because that was the best way to get around the filter
It never had a defined culture by moot, it developed its own

>>37605005
>>37605030
there is a page on ED about the history of this board if you are interested

>>37605213
>>37604796

he gets it. At the start it was basically

>le epic gentleman xD

And discussions. And good greentext stories. I'd love to go back

>>37602250
I'm only 25 years old, I don't think I have it all together but I'll share my opinions for those who care. One day you will hopefully realize you are the most important person on the face of the planet as far as you're concerned. Take care of yourself mentally and physically. Learn to understand your emotions but do not let them rule you. You may have not been given the best hand but your life is the only one you get to experience so take pride in who you are and what you can do. All in all learn to love yourself in every facet but try your best to continue building a positive character, if you do good you'll feel good

>>37605306
eh I just remember frequenting both r9k and adv, then noticing r9k becoming more and more like adv

>>37603733
You've done a good job of taking care of your life

>>37602250
Something is better than nothing so just keep moving forward. Don't get caught up in the "what ifs" of the future because no one can compare that. Also, do not compare yourself to other people because you can never get a clear picture of their life and even if you do have one you only invite insecurity.
Oh, and start working out and eating better. Even if it's just running for 20mins 3 times a week and counting calories while still eating fast food. Any little bit counts.

>>37602250
>Just deal with it, the way everyone else does.

Dragging everyone else around them into a spiral of madness, becoming embittered husks lashing at the world, filling their mind with delusions and staunchly defending their castles in the sky against the dreaded dragon wing of reality...

Yeah, we're doing that already, just being vocal in-between delusions.