>notice that my "friends" are avoiding me >decide

The same thing happened to me and now it has been 2 years. After awhile I noticed that I always seemed to initiate typing to them and also my texts were the end of the conversations. So I decided to just wait and well, that was that.

>>37437379
I know this exact same feel

It's because I'm serious, combative, and pessimistic

>>37437416
Yep, although we had a group chat, so it was harder to figure out that you're unwanted/irrelevant. I rarely talked to them one on one, mostly because they avoided it.

>>37437379
>>37437416
>>37437421

28 here. You get used to it. Along with the numbing loneliness. But also why keep people in your life who don't want you in theirs?

>>37437379
just remember that feel when the times come and they ask you money or a place to sleep.

>>37437379
>>37437416

Same. It's been about 5 years so I figure that's that.

>>37437379
Same problem here. My friends only text me when they want something from me. After a while you get used to it though.

Anyone wanna be friends?

>>37437379
>only have one friend
>sometimes just sperg out and go months at a time without talking to him
>he always acts like I was never gone when I finally come back
Maybe they know your a pathetic failure and they're just giving you some space OP

>>37437527
I wouldn't mind, but I probably don't live near you

Did the same thing two years ago. Thanks for the texts every once in a while mom. :-(

>>37437551
We can chat if you'd care to. Got a kik? Only thing I can use atm for socializing. I'm also in Canada.

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>>37437379
Same here. It's an awful day when you realize that all your friends consider you to be just some guy they met at school or that one guy in that one class but for you they are the only social contact you have outside maybe your parents.
Also this anon: >>37437467 is right. You get used to being one of the worthless ones and that nobody ever really liked you outside your relatives maybe. And the loneliness eventually just becomes a part of you and you don't know anything else. You end becoming more of an observer of the world than an actual person.

>>37437527
>>37437551

Same

originolio odolio

>>37437587
It'll be fun!

I know this feel

>senior year of high school
>think I've finally figured out socializing
>made a couple dozen "friends"
>summer after graduation
>lots of people tell me we'll hang out over the summer
>not a single call out text from anyone
>don't see another person my age until I go away for college
>repeat again at the end of college

>>37437379
Just wait for another 6 I'm sure they'll realize how valuable of a friend you are :^)
-t normie

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>>37437379

this is the exact reason i deleted all of my social media and contacts from my phone

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>>37437379
>tfw I was the leader of my group of autist friends
>I had to be the one to start something up for us to actually do anything, every single time
>shit got tiring after a while
>I stopped trying and now everyone drifted apart
>I cut myself off from all social media and now I just sit alone talking to strangers on a mongolian imageboard

Yeah, that's something I can relate to. I graduated HS in 09, and since then only one time (a SINGLE time) has any one of the friends I had back then made any kind of contact with me. And that one time was a complete chance encounter. I gave him my phone number (he asked for it), and he never bothered to follow through after that. Aside from that one encounter, I have had zero contact with anyone I knew in HS.

I guess I got luckier in college, in that I still have contact with the friends I made there. But I'm sure it's only a matter of time before that changes as well. They all still live near each other, whereas I had to move back home. I visit every now and then, but they all hang out practically every day. Online contact only goes so far before they start to lose interest when you're up against in-person relationships.

I've got one friend who still includes me in group texts but they come so rarely now. it's fine though, this is part of a regular pattern. every so often my friends drift away. I may find some new ones after a while but it doesn't stick.

>>37437540
Hes a good friend value it. And thank him

>tfw I'm the one who's been avoiding a certain friend and he hasn't contacted me in two weeks

I don't feel bad really. I'm not a bad person, it's just that the guy is an insufferable, boring manchild. I showed my disdain for a long time and he just doesn't take a hint. Adapt or perish.

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mein komrades
I've been playing this game for nearly three years now.
Sometimes I wonder if I'm being petty and passive-aggressive by trying to 'test' their friendship. But then I remember that I haven't actually done anything to actively avoid them and they all still have my contact info which hasn't changed since we lost touch.

>oldest childhood friend lived across the street from me before he moved away
>he still comes back to visit his mom on major holidays
>not once has he bothered to cross the street and visit me.

>my other friend stops responding to my texts or answering my calls.
>go to his house and leave a note in the front door.
>occasionally see his parents around town and ask about him.

I don't know why they did this. I thought we always had fun together.
Did they always secretly hate me?
Did my optimistic and supportive attitude prove too over-bearing for them?

>mfw this isn't even the first time this has happened.
When I was twelve one of my friends suddenly gave me the cold-shoulder halfway through the last day of school.
I didn't know what I had done, but I tried asking him, I tried apologizing to him, I tried asking my other friends and even his own siblings if they knew anything.
Even though we continued to attend classes together and I continued to be friends with his two brothers, he never spoke to me again and I never learned why.

All I want is some closure.

I only have one friend. We sometimes go a few months without talking to each other because he ignores me when he starts orbiting a girl he met in a mmo.

>talk to some one online
>good convo going
>they disappear
>is it something I said? Do they find me annoying?
Happens IRL too. Great time with someone, they want to meet again next week. Disappears.

>>37437379
I haven't texted anyone outside of my family in 2 years.
It is a stoic feel, you learn about what matters.

Is this not what happens to everyone?
I have the consolation of friendly house mates but it still sucks to see them going out places while I sit uninvited anywhere.

I used to have the opposite problem so I started doing my best not to engage in the first place. I slipped up about three months ago for the first time in 6 years, met a dude over a common hobby and we started talking. I thought I'd feel friendship emotions or something after a few hang out afternoons but there was nothing so I had to distance myself a lot, he stopped trying to contact me after three or four attempts.

I feel bad for him, he was a cool guy. At least now I know not to do any of that stuff again, I don't want to make anyone go through that again.

>>37438052
Sometimes people are just mean.

>>37438162
>Happens IRL too. Great time with someone, they want to meet again next week. Disappears.

I got a similar feel
>meet someone
>try to be interesting and pleasant as all fuck
>keep conversation going, make them laugh
>be good listener
>generally a peach
>everything going great, have good time
...aaaaaand two weeks later they don't remember my name.
It's like I'm a freakin flare, I shine for a few moments and then I'm gone. That or people in the big city are incapable of having meaningful relationships.

>>37438182
How do I become this?

>>37437379
I know how you feel anon.
I'm always the one "friend" that everyone likes fun at. I'm the one who is casually left out of plans. Whenever I confront then it's

>anon no one has a problem with you! stop being so paranoid!

Yet the tweets and tumblr posts they make about me that they think I can't see say the complete opposite.

If I stand up for myself and ditch them, they won't care and I'll just be stuck at home 24/7 again.

>>37437527
>>37437490
>>37437464
>>37437416

How did you end up friends with them in the first place then?

>>37439939
Not one of them them but I can guess it's the same thing that I realized after I finished high school. You become friendly with someone, and maybe hang out a bit. After awhile, you consider them a friend, but to them, you weren't much more than an acquaintance. Only in retrospect do I see that pretty much everyone I considered a friend in HS probably thought I was just an acquaintance.

>>37437379

>Anon, you're like my brother ! My best friend yadda yadda

>Never starts a conversation
>Decide to not message her either
>6 Months and she doesn't notice

Just blocked her and stopped caring about her really. Why doesn't anybody even start a conversation with me?!

>be nice to the sad and weird guy
>he thinks you guys are best bros now
Every time.
It's a conflicting situation. I can only imagine how bad it must be for women. You want to be a nice person, but at the same time you don't want these people to become attached to you and think of you as anything more than the most transient source of company. Maybe it's wrong to even give them hope...

>>37439094
please have some self respect and just ditch them

>>37439939
I'm the first guy you replied to

knew the guy since elementary school but I always started the conversation first and if I didn't then he doesn't even talk to me

it's some bs I'm not going to hang out with him anymore

also another friend who just wanted to smoke my weed, then got mad at me that I have all this weed for him to smoke saying he wants to quit or some shit when he's the one that went out of his way to come to me in the first place
told me I don't do anything but smoke weed even though it's the fucking summer, I'm off of uni and working, make music and photos in my spare time, and go on hikes while his hobbies entail the following: he has 8 credits until he can graduate highschool and he was supposed to graduate a couple years ago (8 creds is a whole year worth of school)

and wtf does he do? Bikes, smokes weed (more frequently than me), and takes shitty photographs with his dslr.

I mean best of luck to him in the future but it doesn't look like he has one lol
we had a falling out and now I see him posting photos on instagram with some other loser that do

Can you suck me off if I become your friend?

>>37439939
I'm
>>37441050
I meant to finish it off by saying that the new guy he's hanging out with does the same shit and doesn't even look like he's graduated highschool yet.

Not to mention that the dude I had a falling out with pretty much spammed instagram after our falling out

seems like he's going through some weird crisis or something

I would be too if I didn't graduate highschool yet. Guy's an idiot, but what can you do. I'm an overall better person than him but that's not saying much because he's a real piece of shit.

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>>37438387
This is happening to me with a coworker i recently started hanging out with. I used to really dislike the guy, but after a while of getting to know him we found that we have a lot of similar interests and outlooks. We hang out sometimes (I usually initiate) but he still just feels like a guy I work with. I think I forgot how to feel friendship towards people I haven't known for 15+ years.

>>37437379
yo my dude, are you in georgia? If so you may be someone I know but am too awkward to contact.

>>37437379
>have female friend
>message each other daily
>eventually realise she's into me (spending an evening flicking through old porno mags was the first giveaway)
>eventually become FWB
>feelsgoodman
>one night she's messaging me about how horny she is
>would normally head over and fuck, but not in the mood because depression
>goes from being sympathetic to bitchy on the turn of a dime
>suddenly we're not talking anymore, and somehow it's my fault

I never thought that a woman older than me could be so childish.

>>37441457
Chads price to pay for a warm wet hole is to have to deal with the rest of the cunt attatched to it. Enjoy.

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I want to believe that this shit is a problem with the rest of the world and that none of the pressure is on me to be interesting enough to talk to.
But I have had to consider a lot of things, and I have come to the conclusion that I am not particularly interesting and that I am not a good initiator. The human brain will blot out useless information, and people have a lot more concerning them than staying in contact with some minor background character.

Though regardless of how hard I try, the people I generate a modicum of concern for just slip through my arms and walk right through. I suppose that when making friends I tend to marginalize regular interactions because they are not things that I normally do, but to them it is just a drop in the bucket of their own daily interactions. Sometimes I just can't help but feel as if I am being taken for the fool - oh who am I kidding, I'm not even that.

I feel like I should just give up hope entirely.

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>Have friend for 15 years
>remained friends from preschool to primary school to high school
>our parents are even friends because of our friendship
>he starts not inviting me to events he plans
>only find out because another guy mentions it
>mum keeps asking me why we haven't hung out recently
>don't know what to say

I'll be honest I don't even want to be his friend anymore. He was always kind of a cunt and getting a favour from him was like pulling teeth.

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>>37437379
>tfw I did this with my family
>tfw it's been a year since I've spoken to my mother
>tfw my sister that I want to screw only called because my grandfather I never met is dying

I've had this with my home friends for years, recently decided to just forget about them and make new friends at college. Worked great and got a GF and a real best friend but now the GF has broken up with me and I'm far away from all my other school friends. Getting insanely lonely and boring. I hardly even talk to my brother any more and we're still living together rn. Sucks having the normie life for a while and then having to watch it all fall apart on you again

>>37441902
Why are you estranged from them anon?

>>37440922
Self respect isn't worth being a shut in again. I only get to leave the house once per week as it is now, and I hate being alone.....

I don't text anyone first, ever

Feels good, man

>>37442024
fuck if you lived in Canada I'd love to be your friend, I left all mine since they don't give a shit about me and use me

>older brothers
>anon we will help you do this or that you only have to ask
>ask them a few times
>always too busy or can't right now
>stop asking
>many months later have a breakdown
>bros are angry at me for not trying to reach out to them
>I tell them "well I did remember, you were too busy"
>the look on their face

they get so salty when called out. Fucking normies.

>>37442001
I'm not entirely sure.
I mean, we don't hate each other or anything, but we don't share any of the same interests and they never call or text me.
I'll find out something big happened, like my younger sister getting into a good university, months later when I'd go over because I felt guilty about not talking to them.
I suppose that I never really felt included.

The sister that I want to have sex with does share similar interests with me, but she's an incredibly social person and whenever I'd try and catch up, I'd always have to go to one of her parties.
I think you know why that wouldn't work.

>>37441764
This feel sucks. I had a best friend since the 3rd grade. When we got to 11th grade he got a gf and stopped talking to me for the rest of the year. In 12th grade he started talking again to me but was a total normie. When we got to college he was basically a completely different person wouldn't even hang out with me by that time.

you're all a bunch of faggots. 42 people replied, not one said how much they wanted to fuck the asian in OP's picture.

been in that situation for years with the few people I've managed to become "friends" with
don't know what to do

I had a friend group in hs. They always do things outside of school and during the weekend then had the nerve to ask me "why didn't you show up to random event?" Maybe it's because I wasn't invited. I was ok with not hanging out outside of school though. When the group was together I sometimes felt like a tag on. I was lucky to have them as friends though, they talked to me sometimes, and sat with me during lunch. This basically prevented me from being even more of an outcast and being bullied.
A couple of times they would invite me to go do something on the weekends. I would prepare, ask my parents for money and was just super excited to hang out. I finally felt like i belonged. They said that they would pick me up at a certain time. When the time came I would look out my window. This was basically my thought process.
>10 minutes before they pick me up: They should be here soon
>30 minutes later: Traffic must be pretty terrible. I wonder why they didn't text me though
>2 hours later: I don't think they are coming but i still look at my cell phone hoping they would come
>4 hours later: Did i give them the wrong cellphone number. Maybe they'll come a bit later.
When I ask them in school why they didn't pick me up. There reason was "We didn't feel like it".
Why the fuck did they invite me then? I never asked to be invited because I knew my place. I was content with just talking to them during school. This was fucking terrible but when my parents asked me what time I was going out and I had to make up a bullshit excuse and pretend that I didn't want to go that badly in the first place. I just went to my room and slept, If I stayed awake I would have probably cried.
It took me a couple of times before I learned my lesson and started declining their invitations. Oh well I've learned my lesson and have made sure it never happens again. I have friends now but I'm not attatched to them. I stopped feeling lonely.

>>37437467
Because you have some one. True its not a best case situation, but at least it's not a situation where you are completely alone.

>had two friends who were like that
>showered them with enough attention and care that I broke through their non reciprocation barrier
>as soon as they started to reciprocate effort I was instantly and permanently repulsed
That's the thing when nice parents and a nice childhood teach you that love should be distant, hard to get and painful and then you start to get easy problem free affection. I almost entirely bailed on two people who love me so I can chase a third one whomst is ghosting me for 3 months now.

>>37442804
You're so gay, this is why you will never bang a hot asian qt and op's pic

>>37442874
go fuck yourself fagboy

>>37442909
The closer people claim to feel to me the less I feel for them. There were people who claimed that I was more important to them than their biological families, people who claimed I changed their lives and inspired them, and as soon as they started to come out with shit like that they would start to emotionally mean less to me than furniture. It's not something I want and it's not something I'm proud of, it's just how I am.

Need friends?

Kik group:
#tinfoils

No brainlets allowed.

Glad to know this is more common than I thought. The best option is to just close off to avoid getting hurt. I messaged a couple recently added "friends" on normiebook(thanks for the add, hope you're doing well lately type shit) and they couldn't even be fucked to reply back. What the fuck did you add me for? Now every possible interaction will be awkward.
Social media ruined everything.

>>37440888
Nice try roastie toastie

>>37443122
>Social media ruined everything.
not really. maybe it didn't work for but it is a net positive for millions of lives.

next person to reply faps to fat girl porn

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>>37442804
>It took me a couple of times before I learned my lesson and started declining their invitations. Oh well I've learned my lesson and have made sure it never happens again. I have friends now but I'm not attatched to them. I stopped feeling lonely.
are you me?
i kind of accepted nobody truly wants me as a friend and im merely a secondary
this idea made me feel much more satisfied in my role and took away the pain of rejection
i do kind of wish people wanted to be around me though

Same here anon. I dropped Facebook and people seemed to have sort of dropped me. They hardly include me in their plans and they never co-operate when I tried to make plans with them.

I had one mate invite me over to his house and the next day when I called to see if he was still keen, he said he'd forgotten all about it. How the fuck do you forget that you invited someone over.

>>37442060
I've always wanted to go to canada anon

if you're rich you can buy me a plane ticket