Should I make an OKC eventhough I am a bit ashamed of my failure

>>37377267
Nobody is going to reply. Don't waste your time. Made a profile last year, still zero replies.

>>37377267
Effort in = effort out. You get what time you put into any dating app.

>>37377334
Ok thanks for your reply but this doesn't have to. I mean I got lucky on tinder once too in the past so it might be so again.

>>37377443
What makes you think so? You get what time you put into it.. That doesnt make any sense. Even if you try 24/7 you still might not get lucky

>>37377501
You get out of it what time you put into it. Meaning, if youre on it a lot, casting a wide net, and talking to a lot of matches, youll find a date and maybe even a gf. If you create a profile and do nothing but wait, youll probably get no inquiries.

>>37377564
Ok I misunderstood then I think

Also wont people see you browse that site desperatly? I do it on tinder like I swipe the maximum every time I get the chance

>>37377267
The people on that site are a bit different, OKC isnt really normie like match.com or Tinder is. But that can be a good thing depending on how normie you are yourself

OKC is full of pansexual queer single moms, trannies, and fat sluts. stay away.

>>37377630
im not normie but im not full blown fedora edgelord too im a bit of a cyborg hoping to find a sweet girl thats like me

>>37377693
i made a fake account and immidiately saw a few of those political correct whatever weird tumblr words they use to discribe themselves and already got irritated

>>37377599
>Also wont people see you browse that site desperatly?
everyone does it, nobody cares

>>37377899
ok thats good to know

im still not sure though

The guy who owns OKC runs a blog you should really read

https://theblog.okcupid.com/your-looks-and-your-inbox-8715c0f1561e

>>37377693
I can agree on the fat part. There are SOOO MANY fat girls on the site. I mean I guess it makes sense (since they couldn't get a bf before they made an account) but it's so tiring having to mark "hide" on so many accounts.

>>37377916
sure about what

make a fucking profile, email bitches

bitches would not go make a profile if they didn't want guys to look at it and email them, you are doing nothing wrong

>>37378004
do you email them?

can they see your email?

>>37377754
>i made a fake account and immidiately saw a few of those political correct whatever weird tumblr words they use to discribe themselves and already got irritated

I moved to a new state to go to college and set up an OKC to check out the locals...

its ridiculous. they are all fat food/drug addicts in open relationships, with children, and list lgbtbbq feminist nonsense all over the place.

only ever messaged a couple 'normal' seeming girls which just led to them revealing their 'degenerate power level' upon meeting up.

now I just keep my account open to see what kind of freaks 'like' me/message me every day. I just lead them on and then make them feel bad about themselves(because they should)

>>37377984
fat girls need love too desu

>>37378020
You message them via okcupid, I am just calling it email because it works like online email

no they cannot see your real email addy

>>37378021
yeah they use weird terms like genderfluid or whatever the fuck

i've only seen those words on 4chan in jokes, I did not actually know they existed in real life

what does it even mean? and INTJMFF or something

>there are no adorable qt3.14s on OKC

do you know what it's like to be a 20something cute thin girl with a nice personality? Guys try to fuck you all day every day, you would never sign up or need to sign up for online dating

how do you not get this

>>37378055
>yeah they use weird terms like genderfluid or whatever the fuck

That's just what's hip these days to say, if it were 30 years ago they would be using other trendy catchphrases, they are girls, ignore it

>>37378055
>and INTJMFF or something

These are Myers-Briggs personality types

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers%E2%80%93Briggs_Type_Indicator

>>37378126
Thanks I learn something new every day, personality types

this bitch had the audacity to describe herself as both introvert and extrovert

how does that even compute?

Yes im a tall guy (but i'm small)

>>37378021
Guess it depends on where you live, I live in the Southeast USA and "all" the girls here start their profiles off with:

JESUS IS NUMBER ONE IN MY LIFE IF YOU CANT DEAL WITH THAT CLICK CLOSE WINDOW

>>37378055
those people are too inside their own heads. they think everyone in the world knows about their dumb internet bullshit. solipsistic could be the word.

they could be doing it as a niche, but what men are they attracting? beta nu males? any men at all?
women are clueless because they don't approach, they don't know how to attract men, they just reveal their body.

if you can make a woman laugh, you're attractive to like 99% of women.

>>37378152
>this bitch had the audacity to describe herself as both introvert and extrovert
depends on what she meant, this could be valid and insightful or complete bullshit, hard to say

>>37378158
>Guess it depends on where you live, I live in the Southeast USA and "all" the girls here start their profiles off with:


I totally believe thats true. I went from east coast, to cali, to PNW, the 'type' of crazy depends on location

liberal cities are dystopian

>>37378203
Nothing like a site full of single moms telling you Jesus is number one in their lives and who will only date christian men

>>37378184
well at least they know internet, I know internet, we might have something in common then?

>>37378188
>valid and insightful

it's contradicting however you see it

>>37378237
yeah you'll have something in common: you'll hate Reddit and she will love it, you both know about Reddit, i guess that's having something in common.

>>37377267

Eh, I tried OkCupid last summer, and I didn't like it. Too many fatties, non-passable trannies, and weirdoes. At least Tinder has more hot girls to look at. The only dating app I've gotten real life dates from is Bumble. Maybe cause it's more female-friendly, idk.

>>37378237
>it's contradicting however you see it
Depends

Just like you can be anxious in some situations and at ease in others you could be extroverted given the right situation and introverted in others

>>37378258
Never thought about it that way

I just dont wanna end up in some fucking image "look at this dude im so disgusted by his world views"

>>37378184
>they could be doing it as a niche, but what men are they attracting? beta nu males? any men at all?

most of them list bisexual/queer/demisexual/pansexual/etc so they are virtue signalling to other 'snowflakes' that they are 'woke'

>>37378266
What is bumble? i dont have it in my country I think

>>37378293
WHAT THE FUCK ARE EVEN ALL THESE FUCKING THINGS


YOU ARE EITHER STRAIGHT OR A FAGGOT

STOP MAKINMG UP FUCKING WORDS

WHO FUCKING WHJIGWJIL:GEHJK: EWHWT H

WHAT THE FUCK IS EVEN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A BISEXUAL AND A QUEER

JESUS FUCKING CHRIST THEY ARE BOTH THE SAME FUCKING LEVEL OF GAY

>>37378312
>WHAT THE FUCK IS EVEN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A BISEXUAL AND A QUEER

A queer woman will only fuck other women, a bisexual woman will fuck women and men

A demisexual person will only fuck you once you have formed a strong relationship and is not physically attracted to people, but is attracted to people sexually once a relationship has formed

A pansexual person will fuck anybody and does not care about the other person's status as a tranny or straight or gay or whatever

>>37378312

Bumble is a dating app where women message the guy first. It's a decent app, barely any "tumblrqueer" weirdoes, and not a lot of "Stacy" thots either.

I made a fake account pretending to be a lesbian before, it's fucking hilarious.

>>37378363
>I made a fake account pretending to be a lesbian before, it's fucking hilarious.

I have seen guys do this ( or just generally pretend to be a girl on there with stolen pics) and it's always comedy gold

>>37378312
>WHAT THE FUCK ARE EVEN ALL THESE FUCKING THINGS
>YOU ARE EITHER STRAIGHT OR A FAGGOT
>STOP MAKINMG UP FUCKING WORDS
>WHO FUCKING WHJIGWJIL:GEHJK: EWHWT H
>WHAT THE FUCK IS EVEN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A BISEXUAL AND A QUEER
>JESUS FUCKING CHRIST THEY ARE BOTH THE SAME FUCKING LEVEL OF GAY

from what I have gathered(could be 100% wrong)

bisexual - fucks dudes and chicks(possibly in only specific 3sum only situations)

queer - no longer means gay, now it means 'different', so queer can apply to any of these. i've chatted with straight 'queer' women.

demisexual - supposedly means they can only be sexually attracted to someone after forming a strong emotional relationship with them. i believe this is label is used by women who like to lead men on for free stuff, not appear like a slut, and as a way for women who to rationalize odd fuckbuddies like 60 year old 'daddys', etc.

pansexual - means they can love anyone and anything. these people most likely fuck dogs and morally rationalize prostitution as 'sexual attraction to money'

sapiosexual - supposedly means attraction to intelligence, most often used to meme attraction to articulate virtue signalling

Bumble is a stupid name for a website

>>37378685
just made an account, but do I actually like people or just wait it out?

>>37378721
I don't know, I think you have to like people but only girls can send the first message

confusing

>>37378739
how do I like people? or swipe?

>>37378752
i dont think i can swipe

it just shows a girl and I think after 24hrs it shows a new one?

the girl it currently shows me is way out of my leagea though

>>37378852
Does the site not have instructions?

>>37378919
nowhere it says anything about swiping

I think you just make an account and wait?

>>37378935
Nevermind I found it

you do swipe actually

I met with three girls from OKC, with the third I had sex. She drove me because I have no car or a driver's license. This was actually the first time I had sex, but I have received handjobs and made out with a girl before.

>be a robot
>make okcupid profile
>still can't get laid
pls somebody help me

okcupid.com/profile/thesthes

>>37379474
how long have you been on, how many girls do you message per week?

>>37379412
sounds good this gives me hope

tell me more about how you got onto okcupid and how you went on messaging etc if you want

im new to this

this 'dating apps' never work for me bcuz i dont have decent pics nor i like to take them

>>37379613
this is my biggest problem

i dont have friends, i dont have interesting backgrounds or scenarios

how do I make good selfies?

>>37379511
To be honest, you chances are highest when a girl messages you first. Make sure you have a decent photo of yourself. Your profile text should stand out so check out guys profiles, and do the opposite, make sure your profile is funny and or interesting to read, but the way your do it should reflect the type of girl you are looking for (looking for a serious relationship, doesn't take herself too seriously, etc).

I did however start the conversation with the girl I had sex and I did check her answers and saw she was kind of promiscuous so I wrote her a message and referred to something she wrote in her profile, which you should always do to show you read their profile, unless you have something really good to write.

>>37379818
I might try to make a profile whenever I have a free day to polish it

but my problem is >>37379762

I dont have any good pics

everytiem I take a selfie (after taking like 30 and picking out the best one) i immidiately get told by my whatsapp contacts that I look angry or whatever

it sucks

>>37377267
Virgin loser here. Most girls will respond if you are average but many will just want to text and never go on a date. I was surprised at some of the girls who were talking to me.

>>37379883
>>37379762
>>37379613

Photos are everything, hire a photographer off craigslist if you have to

nothing is more important than good photos

>>37379917
what the fuck does it matter if I take a pic of myself or someone I pay money to?

also im not gonna ask someone hey come over to my place and take pictures of me thats weird as fuck

Women on dating sites are after one of only two things:

1) Chad
2) Betabux

You will find nothing but roasties. Don't bother unless you want to toast a few for keks.

>>37379946
Have them do it at a park.

You were asking how to do it, I am giving you a way to get it done.

Why have you not taken good photos yourself yet?

>>37379883
my two photos are selfies which were well received on facebook, but there were girls who didn't like it as much

do you have a female friend whom you can send selfies and ask for her opinion?

and by the way, a selfie is actually not a good type of photo to have on a dating site, you should have a photo with some kind of pet and a photo with a female, preferably attractive, this will improve your chances significantly but this is isn't a must since I did well with two selfies and I am really average looking

>>37379906
What do you mean? That they are just lookign for a chatbuddy?

>>37379978
>Why have you not taken good photos yourself yet?
I did but they all turn out horrible

I cant smile and always look completely tired and done with life

Also hiring a photgrapher to take pictures of you alone in the park is even more desperate than trying to do this yourself

>>37380043
No I do not have any friends or family who could take photos of me so they have to be selfies

I tried making selfies when I was out on a walk but they just made me look like some forest creep and it seemed unnatural. Also nature in this country sucks so the setting doesnt make sense, might as well make selfies in front of a white wall in my house

>>37380087
>Also hiring a photgrapher to take pictures of you alone in the park is even more desperate than trying to do this yourself

People who do things for a living are not ashamed of what they do. Part time photographers are always taking photos of staff for a business or shit like that, they don't make much money and don't give a fuck about taking your photo if you pay them.

If you can't figure out how to cut your hair so it looks good, does having someone cut your hair seem desperate?

>>37380117
>might as well make selfies in front of a white wall in my house
not the best idea

>>37380144
I do have had a haircut but I cannot hire a photographer

>>37380170
Then find another solution.

>>37380162
then what setting do I use to make a picture?

goddamnit i hate this fucking life I want to kill myuelf so bad at least that will end this miserable shit

seriously this life just isnt for me, ive failed with everythign and cant do anything right

no friends no family no facebook no self respect no photos

not even trying to get attention, its just what it is

nevermind guys this is turning out into nothing really i dont even know why i still try lol

>>37380200
>then what setting do I use to make a picture?
Depends on the lighting conditions bro, it's not like I can just tell you what Fstop and aperture setting to use

>>37380117
well my selfies were taken at my desk with the laptop's webcam which gives a vibe of a porn addict (a girl who started a conversation with me on the website told me this when we met IRL) but it doesn't matter all that much

>>37380200

Go look at 50 guys profiles on OKC (lol gay) and pick the 2 or 3 you like best then copy what they did in their photos

photos work on a subconscious level to make people like you

>>37380212
i dont even know what fstop and aperture is

>>37380238
how about if I just smile really bright and hold up my middle finger or girls wont get the joke?

>>37380254
>how about if I just smile really bright and hold up my middle finger or girls wont get the joke?
nobody would get that joke

>>37380254
I don't get the joke so I'm not sure

>>37377267
Don't waste your time its full of trannies, whales, feminists and thirsty pinoys

>>37379906
he means they want to text you for 12 months before they decide if they wanna fuck or hang out.

>>37380278
>>37380282
im autistic

orignamamaiuial

>>37380061
Yes. They like to talk to you, but often times it is whiny shit where they expect you to reinforce them. I had one agree to a date and then the day before she said she just wants to talk and not meet up. I had one who kept crying cause her friends were all getting married and she wanted to date then she didn't then she wanted to and then she didn't so I just stopped giving her attention.

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If you have social problems and can't take a good photo and wind up taking selfies alone in your room


you are going to look exactly like someone with social problems who took photos alone in his room

girls can smell that shit a mile away, don't do it

My wife messaged me on OKCupid

Two years later we got married

Ask me anything

>>37380380
is she fat

is she cute

>>37380380
please dont lie about stuff like that it gives me false hope

>>37380397
She's tall, 5'10, not fat but wide hip'd. She has a nice ass but tits are alright.

She's a cutey.

>>37380410
Dude anything is possible.

I was at a point in my life where I hadn't been with a girl in a few years and was getting lonely. I tried the bar scene, but it was stupid. I don't do bars, why find someone there that does?

I signed up for OKCupid and mostly wasted my time there. I want to say about a month later she messaged me, and we exchanged a few comments and decided to meet up at a book store.

What I learned from someone online was this; if you have a conversation going just jump straight into meeting them.

>>37380430
please tell full story but make it quick

>>37380511
ok thanks for the advice, ill try to work on an okcupid but my main problem still is pictures

I mean if I dont succeed on tinder or bumble why would I succeed on okcupid?

>>37380539
I haven't kept up on the thread, but I stuck with OKCupid because of the question system.

That's its biggest strengths. So if you say have a hard line question, you can see where they fall on it. Also, I felt it matched my wife and I fairly well.

As for pictures, try taking one while you're outside. Find a nice park or a trail and snap a picture there with good lighting. Don't overdress yourself, but shave and whatnot.

Taking a picture inside a small room looks bad, nature can fix that though.

>>37380598
yeah which was my thought taking pictures outside but one girl said that I looked like a rapist that would creep up from out of the bushes

really fucked with my self esteem

i thought it looked unnatural, me being alone outside on a walk, i dont know i guess it isnt really a hobby here or something

what question is the one you and your wife had/

>>37380670
oh and im also unable to smile for some reason so I always have this depressed im totally done with this shit life look and I look tired always

>>37380670
Maybe get an urban shot. Or say, take a picture with a sign if that makes sense. National parks have really nice, big "WELCOME TO STATE NATIONAL PARK". That way, it gives the viewer a reference. "Hey, he's at the state park" instead of a shot of you in the woods "Hey he's on a rape journey".

What I ment is some people have hard line feelings, like you must feel this way. Take abortion for example. Say I'm anti abortion, and the girl isn't. If there's an OKCupid question on that, I can see what they answer and then proceed from there.

It's been almost three years now; but I remember my wife and I meshing on the question section so I went ahead and talked about meeting here.

>>37380776
yeah except i live in a shithole called netherlands and there is no interesting stuff here to take pictures with

cant i tell the exact question you guys matched on? just curious about it but i dont care

Okcupid is dead, everyone moved to tinder.

Seriously, currently there are 7 girls on it in my entire city.

>>37380807
tinder has been dead for 2 years

>>37380805
That sucks man, maybe find something interesting as a backdrop. Like say a nice piece of architecture.

Sorry, I straight up don't remember.

>>37380840
ok np

yeah i guess, maybe i can get water as a backdrop somewhere

i guess thats my best chance then

>>37380837
Then what is the current hotness?

Just think about the kinds of girls that are on OkCupid. 80% of girls can get dick and dozens of guys talking to them very easily on tinder or bumble. As a female, unless you are obese, a single mom, tranny, or tumblr tier feminist hippy trash, you have no need for OkCupid.

So who's left? Those 20% of undesirables.

That's not to say that you have no chance of finding someone decent there. The pool is just much more shallow.

And if you think about it, the pool of desirable women is so small that the few who are attractive with good personalities are getting bombarded with hundreds of messages. If you're anything less than a 8/10 you have no shot.

>>37378074
said it best

Good looking females in their early/mid 20s with good personalities and no baggage have no problem meeting and dating/hooking up with guys in real life (or on tinder at the very least). Apps like OkCupid and POF are for the rejects

>>37379978
i have no idea how to take good photos desu
tried smiling or outdoors etc always feels like somenthings wrong

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>>37381092

You would be surprised. I met a very cute 24 year old nurse on OKC. She moved to my city after nursing school and worked the graveyard shift at a nursing home.

This meant she didn't know anyone her own age in town and had a fucked sleeping schedule.

She was a total normie though, a cute nice college educated girl

and she let me put my penis in her vagina and ejaculate onto her cervix

>>37381294
the best pictures are ones that are
a) not taken by you (selfies)
b) seemingly candid/not posed

selfies or other posed pictures seem way too forced. you need to at least give the illusion that you were actually doing something fun/interesting and weren't just posing for a picture on a dating app

>>37381294
If only there were people out there who went to school to learn to use a proper camera and make a living taking people's photos on a per session basis and are trained how to make you look your best when photographing you.

Too bad no such people exist and too bad they are not always looking for work

>>37381348
Yeah like I said, it's not impossible. Just statistically much less likely. Probably helped that you were in a major city.

>>37381387
yeah i will see about this idea thanks anon

>>37381387
>If only there were people out there who went to school to learn to use a proper camera and make a living taking people's photos on a per session basis and are trained how to make you look your best when photographing you.
>Too bad no such people exist and too bad they are not always looking for work

There are people like that anon! They are called photographers and they are not too expensive!

They won't even judge you for giving them work!

>>37381408
I live in Birmingham Alabama near UAB hospital

the hardest part about making an OkCupid account for me is the damn username. This isn't middle school AIM chat, why can't I just use my name?

>>37381557
You can, just run it together

my username was

"desuanon"

>>37381599
it's taken, i have a generic American name

>>37381824
yournameyourcity
yournameyourstate

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tfw no grimey gf

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>>37382478
>tfw no grimey gf
why even live desu

just made an account

preparing for complete disappointment

>someone liked me

>it wants me to pay to see who it was

Not today, Mr. Shekelstein