avoidant anons, do you have a safe person? i haven't

I don't have one person. I switch off telling things to two of my sisters so neither one realizes how awful I am in my entirety.

>>37144664
>tfw avoidant but too schizoid to be safe with anyone, even myself

>>37144664
>avoidant anons, do you have a safe person?
My best friend and I go way back to kindergarten. Around him I display much fewer Avoidant behaviors and thought patterns. I still haven't told anyone in real life what I'm going through though, and that includes him too. As far as he knows I'm just another normie, but based on the description you gave he should still count as a safe person I guess.

But I think the norm is for your 'safe person(s)' to know what you're going through and that you really open up to them to talk about your issues. I just never do that as I'm scared it will have negative consequences for our friendship long term.

The act of revealing my true self is terrifying so the idea of a safe person wouldn't work for me. Couldn't do it.

>>37145074
yeah thats probably the case for me too
ill have to kms

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>ywn be somebody's safe person

I'm tweaked out and alone on meth anon, I only have myself, two bumps, a cigarette, and a bottle of Jim beam honey

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>>37145632
>ywn be your safe persons safe person

My sister I guess but I don't share much about my life with her. But we joke around alot and she's the person I feel most comfortable with. I'm glad I have my family or I'd be really lonely

>>37145653
Oh god that would be amazing.

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>>37144664
I have 2 friends I can go to, but I usually only talk to one of them about my personal problems. Not sure what I would do if he were to go away.

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I'd feel like a burden on that person, better for everyone if I keep my mouth shut.

I always find someone to talk about everything with pretty quick. Like if I go to a new job, new school, new etc. I kinda find a person to talk to then never socialize again outside that person

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>tfw nobody will ever find your presence comforting

>>37145588
I think I've finally figured out that I use dissociation and escapism to cope with anxiety and other difficulties, even when it's something I could actually deal with normally, and that's why I can't stop that dissociation from happening even when I don't want it to.

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Is that really a disorder thing? How many people legitimately wouldn't benefit from having someone they can be closer than anyone else with?

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>>37144664
I've never had someone who I could really talk about anything with, not even my parents. /r9k/ is the closest thing but it obviously falls short.

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>tfw no dependent AVPD gf

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There is nobody I feel truly comfortable around.
>tfw you'll never have a safe person gf

>>37145758
There's probably a happy medium between "gush about everything to them" and "never reveal my inner thoughts and emotions," though I can imagine moderation is difficult.

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>>37146019
>tfw you always have that empty feeling in your chest, but if you ever loved someone that deeply you would have such horrible pain and be even worse than you are now if they ever died/left you.

>>37144664
Yes!

My best friend.

>>37145847

It's a pathological thing.

It's that one person who gets a free pass no one else would.

and the avoidant chooses them above all others

>>37144664
>TFW /r9k/ is your safe person because they'll never know who you are.

>>37144664
My tulpas

Just remember anons, that while solitude is a constant, chronic pain, it is far preferable to the intermittent agonising stabs of betrayal.

Eventually you will get used to your own company. There's worse fates than a lonely life.

>>37144664
No, they would be able to use their power over me to exploit me.

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>>37146224
People need love and if they don't get it they fall into a depression and start deteriorating. But people also can die of a heartbreak, which is the result of losing someone you love.

In the end the conclusion I come to is to learn how to make your suffering easier on yourself because life is suffering.

>>37144664
I have one girl I have been messaging on Kik for over 2 years that is my safe person and i'm hers. We support each other. We can talk about anything and we often roleplay as mommy or daddy for each other.

>>37147263

Tell me more anon

(But do so originally)

>>37147382
Wh-what do you want to know?

>>37144664
nope and somehow I doubt this is seriously even a thing.

>>37147406

What's she like?
I want to live vicariously through you anon.

>>37147681
N-no I don't know you. I-I don't trust you. (Avoidant personality kicks in)

>>37147708

I'm avoidant too, we can be each others safe person <3