>tfw no BPD gf who beats me in a fit of rage and then apologizes

>No BPD gf to train and improve, graduating from forcibly restraining her to logic and therapy.
>She starts to be able to control her episodes, but connects physical desire to being restrained, so she continues to act up until she is disciplined.

I had this. You don't want this.

>tfw am the BPD gf
End these threads. None of you actually can handle my crazy.

>>37031699
>tfw no fear of BPD gf ever leaving me because of her abandonment issues

>>37031976
Is that a challenge, roastie?

>tfw no BPD gf to fuck in the ass

>>37031983
I used to think that too. Until she came home at 8am one day and told me she cheated on me

>>37031976
It was you who couldn't handle me.

does anyone want a bpd bf?
i wouldn't hurt you just myself

>>37032013
This. Girls with BPD WILL cheat on you

>>37032022
No it was I who couldn't handle you handling her handling you.

>>37031970
Same. Shits fucked.

Bitch would get black out drunk come swinging at me with an axe, put a hole in the wall and then blame me for putting holes in the wall the next day. And keep blaming me for weeks.

>>37031976
oh shit!! ooh! i am too! we should be BPD buddies!
Actually, that would be bad, I've made incredible progress. but still.............

>>37032013
>>37032033
oh shut up you whiney nugget, you just want to think that she cheated because it was inevitable instead of accepting that she was just a shitty person in general. if you blame it on her BPD you don't have to fully accept that she wanted someone else

>>37031970
As usual, a normalfag has to chime in with his anecdote. Just because one person has a bad experience doesn't mean we all will.

>>37031976
My sister has BPD and I learned how to deal with her but she moved out and now I'm lonely.

>>37032011
>tfw no BPD gf to fuck in the ass after she fucks me in the ass

>>37032087
you sound awful toasty there

>>37032033
>tfw literally don't care if she fucks chad right in front of me as long as she doesn't leave me
>tfw hate cuckold more than anything just that desperate

>>37032112
yeah, because I'm a BPD girl and it's fucking insane how people have the stereotype that we'll cheat. I'm so obsessive that even looking at another person seems impossible, how could that kind of person be a cheater?

>>37031970
True.

You'll get sick of the gaslighting and love/loathe thing real quick.

>>37031983
Incorrect. I will think about leaving you before you can leave me first.

>>37032022
Two crazies shouldn't be together. Crazies shouldn't be with anyone.

>>37032068
Good to hear anon, I'm getting better too.

>>37032050
Jesus. Mine never came at me with an axe, but I did get hit, punched, hit with wooden spoons, shoes, had shit thrown at me a lot.

>>37032103
OP thinks an emotionally unstable and abusive girlfriend would be cute and it would play into his sexual masochism or whatever. He doesn't realize that this kind of relationship is a rabbit hole that will traumatize you and demolish your self respect. But what do I know?

>>37032148
>Two crazies shouldn't be together.
can deeply attest to this.
>Crazies shouldn't be with anyone.
FIRMLY disagree

>>37032148
Not if I think about leaving you before you think about leaving me leaving you.

>>37032141
Aren't there different subsets of BPD?
Some that create behaviours that make infidelity likely?

>>37032202
It's incredibly easy to have sex with them.

>>37032202
...that's true, you're right.
Impulsive behavior is pretty common among people with BPD, but that manifests itself in so many different ways than just sexually (if at all). So it's frustrating to see the same generalization all the fucking time

>>37032143
>You'll get sick of the gaslighting and love/loathe thing real quick.
I have BPD and even I get sick of it, but I can't help it. I know when I'm doing it but I can't help myself.

>>37032175
>FIRMLY disagree
Nah. It's not fair to make other people you don't pay to deal with it.

where to find bpd gf JOI porn?

>>37032237
>tfw only girls ever interested in me had BPD

makes me wonder if they ever even liked me at all

>>37032253
>I can't help it
yes you fucking can. You're enabling yourself by saying you can't. This is coming from someone with BPD too, I'm not just pulling this stuff out of my ass. I used to sit on that "I can't stop it!" mentality for years, and yeah, sometimes I get sucked into some sort of black hole and the feelings seem like an unstoppable force. but you CAN take control, first you have to stop telling yourself you can't

>It's not fair to make other people you don't pay to deal with it.
Listen friend, everyone who's in a relationship has to deal with their partner's shit, mentally healthy or not. If someone likes you enough to want to be with you even when things get tough, that's their call to make. Yeah, it does suck when you hurt someone, but being with someone you love is an incredible motivation to better yourself.

>>37032168
>OP thinks an emotionally unstable and abusive girlfriend would be cute and it would play into his sexual masochism or whatever.
No, I just know that I'm very patient and I want a girl who will have eyes for no other person. How are you to know how a relationship will end? You can't simply assert that it will end that way. Other people are not me.

>>37032202
Yes, girls who say "lul I have BPD! Treat me nice!" are doing it just for attention and are actually sluts. Meanwhile, my sister is deadly loyal, and has never broken up with a boyfriend, nor cheated on them.

>Wife has been diagnosed with BPD.
>Explains a lot of her behaviour, stuff that I had attributed to her just occasionally being a bit of an arsehole (I'm not in any position to judge on that).
>She has the libido of a Giant Panda.
>Once every few weeks and even then I am always initiating.
>Quite often she doesn't do anything, just lays there and it's like I'm fucking a microwaved onahole.
What's the deal, I thought BPD made you sex crazy?

>>37032364
Sounds like the average married woman of this age, probably got a meme diagnosis.

>>37032364
She is just not with you dummy

I have a crush on a girl with BPD, what do?
How do I make her love me?

You don't want a BPD gf. The sex is great but they are physically and emotionally abusive. They will attempt to harm you, physically or mentally. I am relatively emotionally stable and this BPD slut reduced me to nearly committing suicide. Don't fall for the meme or the "fembot" roasties. Don't get a BPD gf.

altho she did let me assfuck her with no lube and that was gr8

>>37032384
Eh, her psych is pretty qualified (and thus expensive) - she's been seeing her for about a year now, so I'd trust it not to be a meme diagnosis.

>>37032388
She's always been like this, from day one.
It's fluctuated over time with her medication, but she's unmedicated right now.

are all women with BPD inherently self centered are they capable of truly thinking of others?

I have yet to meet one that ever thinks about other people

>>37032424
>>37032364
>>37032363

its almost as if people with BPD are still human beings with different personalities and preferences

>>37032449
No. They're not. When you grow up, you'll realise the world is a lot simpler than you think.

>>37032448
??? people with BPD tend to become very obsessive and hyperfocus on others, but usually just a handful of people who they feel are important to them

>>37032449
>BPD roasties.
>Human beings.

>>37032465
so they just don't care about anyone they aren't fucking

>>37032465
>Tfw BPD gf.
>Recently figured out she's obsessed with my mom, and I'm just a stepping stone.
The sex is worth keeping the charade going, but I'm worried she may kill my dad.

>>37032495
you can always get another dad but you can't get another sex

>>37032448
That's true of all women desu.

>>37032424
>The sex is great
The only reason to ever fuck with these worthless people

>>37032517
Exactly, mate. Root and boot. Don't get involved.

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>>37032449
>its almost as if people with BPD are still human beings

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Did Evangelion get it right than?

>>37032479
I mean, you could say that.
I have BPD and I care deeply about my SO, he's definitely top priority and I probably care in a way that extends beyond "normal", so in a way you're right. Naturally, I care a great deal for my friends and family too, and it's not like I just don't give a shit about anyone else anywhere, but I definitely don't put the effort into holding back my anger/general unpleasantness with regards to people I'm not close with. I think that's where the whole "nobody with BPD care about anyone!" comes from, especially when you consider that a lot of borderline people with freak and try to push people away just as you start to get close. I'm sure that leaves a pretty bad impression. Only caring about one's self is more in line with NPD, which to be fair is also cluster B so I can see how those things get mixed up.
>>37032461
>>37032472
>>37032553
I know I shouldn't take the bait, but fuck it. Like that person said we aren't all the same, if any of you want to take the time to actually try to talk to someone with BPD I'm happy to converse with you guys. It hurts to think so many people have such a negative image - if hurting was what you're going for than I guess that's all done, but if you actually want to understand I think you'll find that that anon is right.

>>37032363
You should date your sister desu

>>37032615
I wasn't baiting. If you're having difficulties, get better medication or put yourself into an institution. I have family with varying degrees of mental problems and they didn't get on the mend until they gave themselves up to therapy. Stop thinking that you can help yourself. If you can't afford this, stop living in a shit country.

>>37031699
Reminder that people with BPD can't process love like you and I can, love to us isn't love to them, the way they know 'love' is part of their pathology of behaviour as they're completely incapable of feeling stable, lasting or real attachments because of how their own self perception of identity and position in close relationships work.

You cannot, I repeat, cannot have a loving relationship with a BPD person because they cannot comprehend what love actually is beyond the manifestation of pathology.

BPD is a >personality< disorder. A disorder of the personality - of the thing that is you, with repeatable, common pathology across everyone who has it.

I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Literally homewrecker clones.

>>37032615
Mate, I was just playing with you, you pulled the "human bean" bit - couldn't resist.

I mean, honestly, I'm lurking this thread because I want to know how to court a girl that has BPD - I have the biggest fucking crush on her.

>>37032676
You don't have to court them at all lol. All it took for me to sleep with my BPD ex was asking if she wanted to spend the night with me

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tfw no yandere bpd gf to obess over me and make sure i can never do anything but love her

>>37032676
Simplest answer: don't. Find someone else. You will just be unhappy. Maybe install Tinder or something. You're wasting your time with "crushes" dude. Meet random people and find what you really want before you try and hook up with someone that is mentally ill. You can't help them, only a doctor can.

>>37032654
In general, there isn't medication for BPD. I'm in therapy and groups, but I'm not by ANY means struggling enough to need to be institutionalized. Nowhere in any of my posts did I even imply that I wasn't getting treatment. Thousands of us are
>>37032655
This is absolutely completely untrue though. Having a personality disorder doesn't drain you of human emotions. Maybe if you're a socio/psychopath, but that's not how BPD works. It definitely amplifies emotions, so being loved by a borderline person can be really intense, but it does NOT make one incapable of having stable/lasting attachments. I've been in a committed and loving relationship for years, as have many of the people in my BPD group.

>>37032615
>>37032655
Last question why do you guys always sound like you're preaching like a cunty tumblr nub.

>>37032695
>>37032702
Eh, we just talk a lot (tumblr, I know, fuck off), and I haven't met another girl who I can talk so openly with.

I've had 5 year long relationships that I couldn't talk as openly to, plus she's cute - I've already put my dick in crazy before, might as well try it with crazy I like as a person.

>>37032720
Good for you. No sarcasm intended. A lot of people never seek help.

>>37032733
Keep her as a friend. You don't seem invested enough to have a relationship with this person.

>>37032676
If she likes you, you'll know.

t. BPD

>>37032738
yep, especially because it's so stigmatized, a lot of people don't want to admit/accept that it's something they might have. That's why I'm so keen on stopping the spread of misinformation and misconceptions about BPD.
I mean, don't get me wrong, it can manifest itself in horrifying ways in people who don't get help, I've dealt with that firsthand. But we're not all monsters.

>>37032639
I've considered it but we'd have to abandon our family, they wouldn't condone it. Shitty part is I'm 80% sure she'd be game, we get along really well and she always dates dudes who look like me. There was even a time a neighbor asked me why I was walking around holding hands with my sister, I had to explain that that wasn't me, just her bf that looked like me. Final reason I won't do it is because I'm just not really attracted to her, knowing how she was when she was a child really kills any potential attraction.

>>37032720
>does NOT make one incapable of having stable/lasting attachments.
It does, by definition. You're not able to comprehend.

>Maybe if you're a socio/psychopath, but that's not how BPD works.
Redirection. Nothing to do with sociopathy. BPD is intensity followed by hatred to do with improper self identity and inability to comprehend the dynamic of a functional relationship.

>Having a personality disorder doesn't drain you of human emotions.
Never said that. You can't say things I didn't say and then go on to explain a correction to something I never said.

What it is is that you have the incorrect/non functional version of emotions that act in ways incompatible with functional relationships.

Part of the art and craft of BPD though is being a master at mining for pity.

>>37032807
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>>37031699
Wrong. Here's what would actually happen
> tfw no gf cheats on me because she thinks I don't love her or """"understand"""" her and then calls me at 3 am saying how she feels so worthless and dirty and how she's going to kill herself (but not really?

>>37032754
?

Life is only so short, I want a relationship with someone I can talk to for hours without getting bored/making up bullshit smalltalk.

>>37032775
I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual.
She comments on all my selfies/complements them.

I don't have the greatest acumen for social cues, as you may have guessed.

since when is bpd a desirable trait its terrible

my search for an online neet bf continues......

>>37032823
Why are you so uptight about this? Fucking normalfags waltz around here with their abject morals like they own the place. If I want to discuss potentially having a relationship with my sister I will discuss it and there's nothing you can do about it.

>>37032815
>>37032825
>one BPD girl acted this way, so they all must act this way
Anecdotal evidence is moot.

>>37032885
>since when is being a neet a desirable trait it's terrible
>since I can use them as ways to validate my low self-esteem

fuck off roastie
go back to tumblr

>>37032815
>It does, by definition
I don't think you have a clear definition of BPD. If you want to take 5 minutes to look in to it and explain exactly which part of the diagnoses you believe makes people unable to have lasting attachments, go ahead. Until then, it doesn't really make sense for you to make these claims.
But again, speaking from DIRECT EXPERIENCE, it simply isn't true. I have friendships that have lasted 15 years and counting, and a 3+ year relationship. If those are not "lasting attachments" then I don't know what is. There are plenty of married people with BPD, we make lasting friendships and bonds just like anyone else.

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>>37032885
yea right here
am neet

>>37032885
and here comes the orbiters

>>37031699
>BPD
>and then apologizes
lol nope. You wish...

>>37032891
>Anecdotal evidence is moot.
None was given to invalidate. Gas lighting.

>>37032928
https://bpdfamily.com/content/how-borderline-relationship-evolves

You don't have a clear definition of yourself let alone one of what I can see. The definition of your personality disorder that I know is the one provided by the material for your diagnosis.

Anecdotes don't mean anything, by the way. You yourself wouldn't know or be aware of the pain you've caused others during those years because of your pathology.

>>37032978
If she gets angry and stays angry all the time she's not BPD, she just hates you. When my sister had fits she always was really sorry afterwards and embarrassed about it, it was kinda cute desu.

>>37032885
For once I want a gf who considers me the centre of her universe, I'm tired of being in one sided relationships.

>>37033011
>You yourself wouldn't know or be aware of the pain you've caused others
yes, because nobody ever expresses their feelings of hurt. I'm well aware of the pain I have caused which is exactly what motivated me to seek treatment and is a continual motivation not to lapse into unhealthy behaviors.
Anecdotes do have meaning because they represent the reality of the mental disorders. You can have a clinical list of criteria, but that's not going to give you the outcome.

Even the very link you gave me doesn't state that we're incapable of forming lasting bonds, just that this is a "common and very confusing failure pattern." By no means is this pattern set in stone, it's not some sort of destiny that we're bound to. Amazingly enough, we have free will.
I'm not denying that these patterns are real. I know I've gone through all of these things (anecdotes are all I can give, I'm not a psychologist) such as feeling intense adoration for my partner, or becoming angry to the point of being detached - from others, from reality. This doesn't need to sever bonds, though, especially if you become skilled at restraining or the outward manifestation of your emotions (or finding more constructive and healthy ways to express them)

>>37033073
My bf is the centre of my universe and I treat him like a king, but on the flip side whenever my paranoia starts getting to me it's not so nice being the centre of my universe.

>>37033071
One of my online friend (I met her here) is not always angry with me, bet I've never seen her apologize.
She get angry and she come back few hours later like nothing really happened.

>>37033203
I can cope.
I'm habitually dependent, which has killed a lot of my relationships.

The term "smothered" has been used.

I was even given an "out" to fuck anyone I wanted, because my gf at the time thought I was just horny - never took it, never even thought of it.
A girl that is as obsessed as I am seems like a dream come true.

>>37033223
She's probably too embarrassed to talk about it, because she feels bad about it.

>>37033243
In that case you'd probably be a good fit. I wish my bf was more obsessed with me. He's the only person I'm clingy with. But you won't stop the paranoia, no matter how smothering you are.

>>37033297
I do the same thing. People get sick of hearing the apology.

>>37033337
I'd give my gf full access to my phone, internet history and online accounts; provided she did the same for me, was as freaky as I am in bed, and was as obsessed with me as I would be with her.

>>37033297
Yeah, it's either as you say or she's just uninterested in apologizing. I don't know. Sometime I'm feeling like I'm always on the edge and she can drop me anytime.

>>37033297
That makes sense.
All I'd want from a BPD gf would be just for her to come back and say she didn't mean it, no judgement, then we'd cuddle until she felt better about it.

>gf basically ignores me and my needs, never seeks me out, I've gotten suspicious to the point of putting a RAT on her phone and tracking her movements every day.
>Occasionally snap at her for no reason, feel ashamed and then either pretend it didn't happen or beg for forgiveness.
>I legit think I would kill myself if she left me.

Does BPD exist in guys as well?

>>37033498
Yep, and normalfags who can't deal with it say that we're crazy for wanting it. They just hate the idea of a clingy gf, they want short term flings, which a BPD girl is not suitable for.

>>37033635
Yeah, but less common because usually guys have more emotional restraint.

>>37032891
I have plenty of experience with BPD and I like to read about because I have a fascination with those 'crazy girls'. I feel like you don't really understand how severe BPD is. It's not something lite, it wrecks lives. If you have a girlfriend eith it, it's not going to be "oh she gets upset sometimes but apologizes after and everything's fine". That does not happen
People with BPD are self destructive by nature and will drag you down with them asuming she wants to bring you for the ride. I pity you because you're going to meet someone with real BPD and you're going to be emotionally slaughtered

>>37033635
>>37033715
Just read
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-almost-effect/201405/men-borderline-personality-disorder
And a lot of it rings true.
I'm not violent, but everything else is eerily similar.

What sort of psych would I need to see to figure out if this is real or if it's just a case of WebMD hypochondria?

>>37033740
Nigger if you read the thread you'd see my sister has BPD. It's very real and I can see how she's different from other people. Regardless, I'm able to deal with her. Perhaps you can't, but it's something I learned to deal with.

>>37033740
So, I've had a lit of experience helping mentally I'll partners cope.
I had a five year relationship with a partner who was a severe manic depressive, coupled with extreme anxiety attacks (as in shaking, catatonic and literally pissing herself) - is a relationship with someone who has BPD more or less effort?

And if you have BPD, do you tell someone before you get into a relationship with them, or is it a buyer beware situation?

>>37033223
>Have online friend with BPD.
>Don't want to date, just like talking to her because I have no friends IRL.
>She's really cool and enjoys a lot of the shit I like.
>Want to talk to her all the time, but she just ghosts so often.
;_;

I'm sorry if I'm a creeper Steph, I really don't mean to be, I just like having a real friend.

>>37032364

But she rides chads dicky like a horsey. Hahahhahahhahaha. You got cucked.

>>37032702

Your one thick fuck. Your telling him to stop doing one thing, then telling him to do exactly that by using Tinder.

For fucksake normo.

Trust me though, you really don't. Don't get me wrong though, life is exciting as all fuck when being with BPD chicks, but you'll have to be REALLY good at spotting lies and manipulation and even then it's always a short-lived thing, because they won't just suddenly stop playing games even though you don't respond like most people. I can tell some stories if you guys want.

>>37034059
Are you A.?

>>37034229
Last name is.

Having a BPD gf is fun when you have BPD. They're the only girls that snap back when you snap on them, you can spot their manipulation and pain seems to be a common turn on.

The only probably being they're possessive as shit until they lose interest

>>37032364
I've been there mate. Here's some advice that really helped me: Pretend she's oatmeal.

>>37034195
please tell us some stories. bpd fetishists wont be put off by them, but the rest of us would be willing to listen to some of the crazy shit that goes on

>>37033779
Go to your GP, they should refer you to the appropriate person/place if they think you need it.

>>37034361
Well, I'm shit at storytelling, but I'll try

>be 16
>live in group home with mostly other teenagers because I got kicked out by my dad
>only guy there except for a schizo who's plain crazy, so naturally I get a lot of female attention
>one of these chicks has BPD as well as severe ADHD, basically always psyched as fuck about everything, super intense
>usually hang with Jamal and Mustafa from her special ed school or whatever
>at this point I'm the polar opposite of the people she usually hang with, but we compliment each other nicely
>hang out all the time for around 6 months
>we talk about everything, and seeing as I somehow could see through her manipulation, she uses me as a kind of therapist
>tell me I'm the only person in the world who really gets her
>suddenly start getting really flirty every time we're alone
>stuff like trying to get her hands down my pants even though I tell her to stop
>this required a lot of self-control because she was a smoking hot petite Indian
>the day after she made a move she would always act as if it never happened or that she was blackout drunk
>we had been drinking most nights, but she always bragged about being able to remember everything no matter how drunk she got, and she was barely buzzed most of the time
>for example, one night when we hung out she had brought chicken nuggets which I ate some of
>the day after she'd be talking to her girlfriends like "who the fuck stole my chicken nuggets, I don't remember eating any before going to sleep, this is so weird" while I'm in the room
>obvious gaslighting, but I just find it amusing
>once we actually got naked, but I pussy out last second
>spend the night in my bed
>leave just as I wake up, and act like it literally never happened

This is the gist of it. After moving out on her own she got into a relationship with some Mohammad dealer. Went to visit her once, scariest experience of my life tbqh. I could tell that story too if there's any interest.

>>37034288
As a BPD person who dated someone else who had this, I can tell you it's fucking intense and scary. True that you can both snap at each other, and there's a strange comfort in that. But if you're not both getting help I think it would genuinely end in someone's death

>>37034562
that would be a good story to listen to, pleease continue!

>>37034361
My gf once broke my $150 headset because I wanted to game instead of watch YouTube videos with her

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It seems a lot of people don't understand the difference between quite borderline and loud borderline.
99% of you want the quiet one and complain when you get the more common loud borderline.

I'm a quiet borderline, I would never hurt my partner but I am EXTREMELY obsessive and possessive. I get upset at myself if he were to even breathe in the same area as another female (I would never take it out on him, I just would be sad for an hour or so.)
I have no desire to speak to another male other than my partner because casual friendships/conversations don't mean anything to me.
I would live happily ever after in a single room with my partner looking after him forever with no other contact to humans.

>>37034444
Thanks.
What sort of treatments do they give people that are like this?

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>tfw bipolar wife who goes into fits of rage over the simplest things
>she then gets depressed that she can't control her rage and starts lying in bed crying and/or hurting herself

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>>37034878
>I would live happily ever after in a single room with my partner looking after him forever with no other contact to humans.
Sounds good to me. Too bad I will never have this.

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>>37034974
I don't think I'll ever find a guy to do it with either.
Guys are always obsessed with female attention and/or aren't a virgin. I've saved my virginity for this long not about to give it to some guy who has had sex before and then also expects me to be a virgin.

>>37034878
This is very acceptable. I like feeling possessed. It makes me feel like I have the strongest connection with only one other person. If we get along, she's literally all I need.

>>37034878
you're just stroking your ego, you would not do any of this

>>37034842
Alrighty, here goes

>haven't talked to her for a few months
>she hits me up with a text asking if I wanna come over at like 8pm
>consider if this is a booty call, but I can't imagine her being single while living alone
>go anyway
>tells me about her new bf and that she's usually not allowed to talk to other guys, but she convinced him I was ok
>he comes over, turns out he's a real badboy, like every guy she's had a thing for except me
>his friends are here too to cut up some coke in her kitchen, but leaves right after, leaving me, the chick and the bf
>we small talk, tell him that I hope he's good to her as she means a lot to me
>he laughs and says "if it wasn't because she told me such good things about you, I sincerely would have beat you up for asking a question like that"
>ask me if I ever did anything with his GF
>"n-no"
>begin getting a bit nervous, so I break out the old spliff and smoke it with him to calm down
>door knocks
>bf get hella paranoid, as he's always beefing with other dealers and shit
>he goes to open the door in the other room
>the door is KICKED open and a fight ensues
>hear shouts in Arabic and the bf falling to the floor
>all this while I'm high as fuck
>just sit there in silence for 5 seconds, thinking this is my time to die
>huge Mohammad comes in, smiles and introduces himself as his brother
>meanwhile I hear the bf swearing and leaving out the front door
>turns out his brother is really educated, and we talk about politics and stuff, nice guy
>he notices leftover cocaine packet thing in kitchen
>starts arguing with the chick, saying that she shouldn't let them use her kitchen to cut drugs
>"last week it was a gun that I found, you have to leave my brother, he's bad for you, go find a guy like Anon instead"
>brother leaves
>bf calls chick, he's LIVID, saying that he's coming home in 5
>book it the hell out of there before he comes back

I missed a lot of nuances here, but I'm too fucking lazy. Lesson is, be careful anons.

>>37035059
I did it for 2 years and then my "ex" decided he didn't enjoy the obsessive/possessive relationship.

I'm glad I became the quiet type that's for sure, but stroking my ego? Eh, probably not.
I'm so picking when it comes to dating because I want this kind of relationship, if I wanted to stroke my ego I wouldn't talk about how I hate having other women 10 feet near my partner.

bipolar asian guy here.

im in love with the guy of my life and sometimes i just throw a fit at him when im angry and then just cuddle and cry afterwards

life is hell being bipolar
you do so much stupid fucking shit when you're on your manic spree

i smashed my laptop totalled my car and all i have to say is that im glad my bf hasnt just dumped me yet or else i totally would kms

>>37034878
My wife is like this, and it is tedious

I can't spend time with my online friends playing video games, she gets jealous. Single player only.
At my old job, she would call me EVERY SINGLE BREAK. My new job I just tell her I don't get cell phone reception and set it to airplane mode.
I ended up deleting my facebook because she ended up spending more time logged into my account than I did.
If I end up giving a co-worker a ride home from work, it's a huge argument because I'm 10 minutes late coming home.
If I spend time with my family, she texts me every few minutes, and if I don't respond she assumes I am pissed at her and ignoring her on purpose (sometimes true) then she hurts herself because I'm mad at her.

Y'all just say you want this stuff because you're lonely. I'd almost rather be lonely.

>>37035093
>if I wanted to stroke my ego I wouldn't talk about how I hate having other women 10 feet near my partner.

spoken like a person who's stroking their own ego

>>37035069
you dodged a bullet there. good to see you made it out of there without getting hurt

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>>37035020
I fit your bill but I have other problems and propably live on the other side of the world anyway.

>>37035093
What you want is not rare on /r9k/. There are probably five people reading this who want to drop contacts.

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>>37035149
>>37035151
It's not a lifestyle/relationship for everyone, people have to be the same way and actually want it. Another reason it's not "stroking my ego" Iol, less than 5% of the world would *actually* want something that I'm offering.

Although, I play video games and I would play any video game my partner wanted with him if it was co-op but ya, would dislike him playing with other people when I would play with him, he doesn't need other people.

The whole family/work thing, as long as I knew 100% you were at work/with family, I wouldn't want to disturb you. I have a lot of anxiety with my BPD which would make me worry I'm being annoying so as long as I 100% knew I wouldn't do it.

>>37035154
I'm Australian :(

>>37035230
Yeah. If the timezone difference between the States and Australia wouldn't ruin me then I'd be trying to let you possess the life out of my very being. Oh well.

>>37035230
>The whole family/work thing, as long as I knew 100% you were at work/with family, I wouldn't want to disturb you. I have a lot of anxiety with my BPD which would make me worry I'm being annoying so as long as I 100% knew I wouldn't do it.
That's exactly it, you never 100% know, so the anxiety sets in, and after month of suffering eventually you give in to the intrusive anxious thoughts and start pestering. Or you get so frustrated that you work yourself into a panic attack.

I know this because I have an anxiety disorder and so does my wife, and I've been dealing with it for 5 years. The difference is, I've gotten help for my anxiety and she hasn't. Friggen effexor mellowed my ass right out.

>>37035230
>im not stroking my ego i swear!
>look how different i am from these other girls and how few people actually want someone like me!

you were saying?

>>37035230
Australian? Sign me up senpai.

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>>37035271
Majority of this thread is people complaining about loud borderlines, I don't expect someone who's uneducated in BPD/HPD to understand.
If that's how you feel though friend that's how you feel :) I'll be happy to say I'm stroking my ego if it can land me someone who is the same as me.

>>37035243
Shame :(

>>37035312
I almost want to drop email just because I find hearing about what you want out of a relationship interesting.

>>37035312
its amusing to see you grasping at straws and writing it off as ignorance of your "condition".

you can certainly land someone here to talk to because you have a few thirsty orbiters already but i can assure you it wont last. you'll need the pick-me-up though, because of your bruised ego

>>37035335
[email protected]
If you're interested drop me your kik/discord

>>37035407
I had emailed you the other day and you suddenly disappeared from the thread. Why did I find you again?

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>tfw diagnosed with BPD, but I'm a guy
>tfw there is no hope for me
>should commit suicide at this point, but too scared and keep talking about it
Feels bad

>>37035468
>wondering why people with BPD do the stupid shit they do

you are really activating those almonds there anon

>>37035543
Consider my almonds activated. It seems to be happening again.

>>37035563
See, it's not all sunshine and smiles.

>>37035789
Well it's very odd that they would seem so interested right to the point of where they might get what they want. Then they disappear.

>>37035812
>very odd

it's really not, considering how vocal people were about people like that being shitty overall.

next time dont let your dick do the thinking

>>37035149
Yup, exactly. I used to think I wanted a clingy girlfriend, but it's never as great IRL as it is in your head. Do a small favour for an acquaintance? You might as well push your SO off a cliff because that's what they'll feel like you're doing to them by acknowledging that other people in the world exist besides her.

>>37035828
As if my dick could cross the Pacific ocean. You wish.

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>>37032530
>implying you can have sex with a BPD who likes you without stalking and suicide threats

BPD people can become obsessive for the smallest of reasons, you can't just pump and dump.

>>37035149
This is the first accurate post in this thread. All these "BPD women will drag you to hell with them!" posts just fuel the crazy girl fetish.

While there are some high-drama explosive moments, living with BPD partners is much more like this. A combination of feeing smothered and obsessed by someone paranoid, and constant fights spaned and fueled by said paranoia. More than anything, BPD people leave you feeling tired and warn down by bullshit.

>>37031699
>tfw no BPD gf to spank in self defense when she assaults me

>>37034678
Indeed. I don't have BPD, but BPD is very troublesome disease. Because I have to flee from BPD male now.

Ive seen really interesting comments in the thread so far.

Can I ask why the BPD is appealing in particular?

I get super violent sometimes and don't think anyone should have to be with someone like this. Especially when I've seen those fucked up parent threads.

>>37036048
I had three BPD girlfriends. They all ended up with a restraining order banning them from attempting to contact me or approach my house.
All of them faked suicide at least once, and used talks of suicide as blackmail material.
Two of them falsely accused me of rape, one of them pressing charges and the other not pressing charges because "cops will not believe a mentally ill victim, boo hoo."
They would all turn either vicious whenever I got friendly with other girls, even relatives. It's not a nice experience to reunite with your sister only to find a dead animal on your porch and painted death threats on your door. Sometimes the paranoia also applied to male friends and they couldn't stand me having friends without their approval and control.
Two of them sent me to the hospital at least once, I got knife wounds, facial wounds from broken bottles, various bruises and plenty of kicks or punches to the dick.

Borderlines are the real life yandere, OP. If you like being stalked and potentially blackmailed, isolated and / or on the receiving end of physical violence, go for it. Seriously, it's mentally exhausting and nobody should ever date anyone like that.

>>37036352
Because were broken people who want someone to obsess about us as much as we obsess about them.

Plus I have literally no life, so I could devote every minute of my life to her.

>>37036352
Because they're desperate for you. As I said I dated three women like this, and everything they did stemmed from an intense fear of abandonment. If you do everything right (which is fucking exhausting), they will love you intensely. If not, it's a road downhill from mild stalkerish and clingy behaviors to full-blown yandere shit.
Maybe lonely brobots like the idea of someone loving them this much. BPD partners sound like they will never ever leave you alone.
It's not even true, though. BPD girls don't love you more than any other person, they just have deregulated emotions that make them act on what they feel in a much more intense way. They can get tired of you and cheat on you like any normal person.

If he is BPD patient, I can understand his conventional terrible behavior for me

>>37036505
broken and lonely looking for the same not just bpd but bpds are broken too. Makes sense. Okay okay.
Guy below you says if you do everything right it could be okay. So devotion sounds like you have a slim chance.

>>37036518
>they just have deregulated emotions that make them act on what they feel in a much more intense way.
Its so hard for me as a 27yo hkv to see the difference but I believe you that there is one.

>>37036594
I was the one who said if you do everything right they adore you. But you're also under the constant threat that your smallest mistake might end in BPD rage, complete with verbal and / or physical violence.
If you're broken, do you want someone who will hate you for the smallest mistakes?
Besides, doing everything right means becoming someone you're not full time.

There are BPDs who manage their condition properly and get adequate therapeutic help, and there are people who are level-headed enough to read between the lines and defuse a bad bpd moment. But the "we'll obsess over each other it will be fucking intense" thing? Not healthy.
Not to mention, giving in to a BPD's obsessive / unhealthy behavior is just enabling them to get worse. It's not healthy for them either.