How do I deal with this crippling loneliness? Escapism just doesn't

>>36501483
Join some community of a specific game, preferably MMOs.

>>36501483

I find journal writing helps. I occasionally talk to myself too, but I've done that since childhood.

Study something / develop a skill and give it time. You need to kick the escapism long enough to get used to being alone. After that, it gets quite comfortable.

You'll have to occasionally do something social, but it won't be the crushing need you feel right now. You'll have other things to fulfill you.

>>36501483
Oh, also, quit all social media. It's all just normies trying to make their lives appear more exciting than they really are. For those not competing in the shit flinging contest, it's a perfect loneliness-generating engine.

>>36501483
Make a tulpa. I'm the happiest I've ever been.

>>36501552
Could never really get into mmos. I'm more of a VN guy.
>>36501670
I can't commit to anything. I try for about a week but I always go back to my old habits

>>36501483

kys (unoriginal comment etc)

>>36502252
Why should I kill myself? I pay taxes. I can live how I want.

>>36502230

Trying again is literally the only thing you can do. Pick something stupidly easy for you. First to get practice in forming habits more than anything else and move outward from there.

Expect to fall off the wagon. What is important is rebounding a little faster each time.

The point is not flowers and rainbows. You're looking to go from a depressed faggot, to a depressed faggot with an iron will. I've done it, it can work. Happiness doesn't come, but a sort of acceptable calm will.

>>36501483
I wish I knew. I want to be able to be alone but not lonely. I feel vulnerable. I don't want my mood to go to shit because someone else decides to screw up plans or fuck me over.
It's weird how leaving r9k to read feels so much more lonely.

Can you see yourself getting lonely if you are around one person all the time? How many people does it take to not be lonely?

If you don't care about other's opinion of you What does it matter if you are lonely or not?

I feel like my spergy left brain is fighting with my right.

It's also weird being lonely but not liking most people.

I also see doing things as illegitimate and doing them for their own sake as legitimate. Think of travelling, why do you need to experience it with someone?

Someone tell me what is wrong with me

>>36502575
I'm kinda aiming for this, but I miss being happier as a teenager. No remedy aside from real friends?

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Sometimes I journal. I post on 4chan a lot, which is a good temporary measure. There's no real solution except for making real friends who you can really speak to honestly and openly. I've been thinking of making a private Facebook group just for recovering robots and NEETs but I can't tell if it's a good idea or I'm just becoming increasingly desperate for human contact.

>have to use real name, which reduces shitposting and spam
>using a real account makes it harder to just drop out and abandon everyone else
>encourages longer-term and more individual person-to-person interaction with other humans, unlike 4chan & co.

>>36501552
MMOs make me feel lonely as hell. Even when I do join a clan or group I realize that what I'm just doing is a facsimile of what I really want, which is for people to want to talk to me as a real person so that we can learn about each other's lives and become friends. When you log off from an MMO or any other video game people just stop caring. Which is fine, games are just games. I want to talk to somebody about my day-to-day life and I want them to talk to me about theirs.

Could also be lonely around certain people and not with others? Wouldn't want to be connected with everybody, already share a planet. Connection? That's why 4chan makes me sinisterly less lonely? Because of shared feelings?

>>36502778
>No remedy aside from real friends?

Nah, not really. This is a normal part of aging though. Most friendships deteriorate into "ships passing in the night" type affairs. As folks marry and spawn they collapse down to family units for their primary sense of belonging.

Once you're good at self-development you can strike out and pick something up solely to justify socialising, that lets you roll the dice on new friends. Understand that you're "missing out" on less than you think you are. Adult social life is different, everyone has to learn to adjust.

>>36503007
Hmm that makes sense. People will be busy with their family. Is that why people end up with shitty spouses? Because they fear being alone? I'd rather deal with loneliness then some of the shit I've seen.
.how do you not yearn for your friendships as a youth then?

>>36503007
>Once you're good at self-development you can strike out and pick something up solely to justify socialising

What do you mean by this? Like talking to people at a reading club or some other club?

You seem wise anon. What interests do you spend your time on? How old are you?

>>36501483
All of my interests are solitary but I don't want to go meet someone under the pretext I'm so lonely please love me.
I guess what other reason is there to date?

>>36503486
>how do you not yearn for your friendships as a youth then?

Personally? I had a ~10 year head start on account of not(quite) having friends at that age. Still miss that feeling of group membership a little. It just takes time, and changing your own behaviors so as to be able to entertain yourself properly. (That is, not retreat into anime or vidya)

Once you learn how to self-educate, it gets harder and harder to be bored or feel so empty.

>>36503555

Yeah, something like that. Choose a hobby to match the local scene if there's no other option.

Not so old my advice doesn't still outstrip my experience. I'm presently split between number theory, heuristics and biases, and finally knocking over Plato. Also sometimes being a depressed robot faggot like everyone else here.

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>>36503847
Thanks anon I hope I can find some peace. That's cool, I might have to look into some math eventually, either going back to school or if I ever decide to read Russel. I'm starting Aristotle now. A lot different than Plato. Feels a bit more like a math book but I read the categories a while ago then stopped. I liked Plato's Theatetus and the Meno and Apology are great

So what do your social activities entail? Got any people you hang out with?

>>36502841
Got any plans to achieve this goal?
Can't really complain about it if you aren't trying to remedy it? Although I can understand frustration

>>36504207

Russel is my fucking nigga. Read Human Society in Ethics and Politics if you haven't already.

>I do not say it can be done tomorrow, but I do say that it could be done within a thousand years, if men bend their minds to the achievement of the kind of happiness that should be distinctive of man. I say the kind of happiness distinctive of man, because the happiness of pigs, which the enemies of Epicurus accused him of seeking, is not possible for men.
>If you try to make yourself content with the happiness of the pig, your suppressed potentialities will make you miserable. True happiness for human beings is possible only to those who develop their godlike potentialities to the utmost.

>>36503007
Well fucking said, my man.

Nuke all the niggers

Learn to be happy alone.
It's the only way. Stop relying on others to be happy.

>>36501483
Did you forget why you're alone robot? People are fucking assholes.

Have a nice hot bath. Works wonders for me.

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in a metaphorical sense, even 2d girls are real

>>36504541
Cool. I'm not super into the Manifest Destiny type stuff but I'll definitely check that out when I reach him. Thanks anon

>>36504207
>So what do your social activities entail? Got any people you hang out with?

Ah, sorry. I lost my shit too quickly when you mentioned Russell. I have one older friend I see probably once every month or two. I'm keeping socialising low at the moment while I work on my baseline. (Though, it's not as if I have any choice quite yet)

>>36504565
That's impossible. Humans are social creatures. Asking a person to be happy alone is not possible, validation from other people is just as important as food or water.

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>>36504565
I want to do this but I miss fucking around with friends and
>tfw no gf

If you had the ability to create any life for yourself, would it not be one with a nice group of close friends? Then again I guess it's just up to taste

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>How do I deal

Find a distraction. Find anything that will let you become an unconscious. Fully engaged in something other than yourself.

>tfw death is the best option

>>36504656
Yeah I guess I gotta find a good balance. I see my friends anywhere from once a month to every couple cause of distance. I like having time to myself and looking forward to seeing people holds the loneliness just at bay enough to not go crazy with it. There are times where I wish I could see them every day but I guess that was high school

I also need to find what I value. I pretty much threw everything and everyone away when I was depressed, so wanting friends again when I previously didn't feels weird. However I guess I would get that feeling with anything when you're not sure you want to continue

>>36504577
Yeah I'm not fond of most, but some might be enough. I also sometimes wonder if I'm the asshole.

>>36504817
>I pretty much threw everything and everyone away when I was depressed

Sometimes it has to happen. Better to go through this now, I think, than to remain happily unthinking and become slowly stuck in one's ways. Chad and Stacy have an easy time of things, but they more easily remain the same person they were at 21 forever. The older I get, the more terrifying that seems to me.

>>36505001
It might not be bad to have things figured out, but I don't think I would want to live an unexamined life.
In a weird way I both do and don't regret it. I know it isn't what I wanted at the time.
It's also better than living a lie, although I wish I could just be content with things like before.

>>36502781
Well this is 4chan so I can see the anonymity clashing. Aren't there already recovery discords?
I can see the Facebook thing but personally I would be hesitant and some of us probably don't have one

>>36502562
It's the internet everyone wants everyone to kill themselves, why do you think robots like it so much?

>>36501789
Well depends if you want to double down on being alone or want to try and meet people

>>36501882
Well meme'd my /x/ friend

>>36501483
Pick up a productive hobby.

>>36504673
You just have to be part of the schizoid master race.

>>36501483
Just like to say thanks for the thread, kindred spirit.
I hope you find a way to be self-satisfied

>>36505457
>>36501483
Well that made it sound like I wanted you to be alone lol.
What I meant was, whatever you choose, I hope you are able to find satisfaction in that.

>>36501789
>tfw you realise normie social media is bullshit and lowers your self-esteem, and increased your loneliness
>tfw you got rid of it
>tfw you realise you can't remember any exciting shit that's happened to you
>tfw you go back to it to use it as a photo album as a way to remember all the times you had fun.

Is it nonsense if id like to fall asleep and die but im afraid to kms or die in a wreck or something?

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>>36506025
Nah you fear pain it's natural.
I'm the same way. More energetic after having a slight breakdown from loneliness and remembering summers where I was happy. Hopefully I can muster up enough energy to try before I decide to leave forever

>>36505995
How would one go about recreating them? Why can't you have fun now? If you work on it there is a chance in the future no?

>>36501483

i just made a chat so enter if you want.

>>36506164

damn the link

https://chatstep.com/#rk9

>>36506137
even thinking about going outside and using a shotgun makes me nervous even though i think it would be instant but at the same time if i could press a button that would give me like 2 weeks before i just fell over i would

im probably just a pussy

>>36501483

I keep seeing this. Ik it's from tohou but which video ?

>>36506185
Well if you weren't afraid of pain I feel like you would live life. Ironic that it is what makes us want to die but evolutionarily it's what keeps us alive.

>>36506238
Ai channel on youtube

>>36506183
Thanks anon, too bad it looks like thread is on the way out, let's hope for more loneliness and suffering so we aren't alone lol