Who here's whos a NEET and life failure had parents who

>>36363120
Shameless self bump. Just curious if anyone can relate.

>>36363120
OP still here. Can really no one relate? I thought there would be more...
My parents, mom particularly, didn't want me watching/reading/playing anything harry potter or pokemon, apparently because they were demonically influenced.

I can relate to #3 but #4 just seems like insanity, what did you even do with your free time as a kid?

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>>36363120
Just
>3) Gave you (as a child) no responsibilities, no things to do on your own to build confidence.
At the same time I'd get spoiled for "doing well in school", which amounted to me half-assing everything, since I'm a quick learner and that's all it took. So I had no responsibilities or challenges and got praised for doing just about the bare minimum.

>>36363212
Listened to music mostly. Drew a little bit. My mom is/was legit insane, with schizophrenia and depression. Summer was the loneliest time.

>>36363251
Holy shit dude, you're like a mirror of me
on top of 3) applying to me, I also got constantly praised for my good results at school, even tough they came naturally to me and I put no effort in whatsoever

and now I'm here...

>>36363120
#2
I still can't function as a normal adult
I missed on so much soooo much shit that I'd never be able to do now.
>tfw got my engineering degree but neet now

>always had a messy room
>would come home sometimes to find it fucking pristine, my mom had cleaned it and put everything away
>to this day I rarely clean
>I'm literally surrounded by large piles of garbage and fast food remains
>somewhere deep down inside I'm expecting to come home one day for it to be clean even though I haven't lived with my mom in a decade

>>36363358
How old are you? just curious. I'm OP I can't function like a normal adult at all. I've actually never owned a mobile phone... just no need for one before. I'm almost 30.

I have number 3

Basically my parents taught me little to nothing. Never had a sex talk. Got addicted to hardcore internet porn at 13. Learned everything i know about sex from porn and hentai.

My mom was a shut in slob who never wanted to go anywhere and wouldnt let me do anything because she thought i would get molested because i looked like dennis the menace.

Whenever my father would get extra money he would blow it on himself so i pretty much knew there was no college fund.

Poor ppl shouldnt be allowed to have children. It creates a cycle of shitty people..

>>36363251
>>36363327
I think is more common than you think
differentfag here, same story
i'm also a kissless handlholdless wizard. My invitation was some years ago

>>36363609
I learned to do cybersex when i was 13. that was my substitute for talking to grills and boning them irl i guess.
Since i'm >>36363715
and i've done it for some years, thats basically one of my biggest turn ons now

all of the above plus single mother and probably mildly autistic

aint life grand

>>36363120
I'm no NEET, but my parents did all four. It's strange, I did some in school, it was just university and the real world that fucked me up. I wasn't ready for any of it

>>36363767
I relate, though I didnt have a single mom, but my dad was just never around because he couldnt stand her.

>>36363120
Mine majored in 3 with a minor in 4.

Was anyone here also spoiled from having rich parents at all?

I can relate to 2 and 3, I think the fact that my dad was always working away until I was around 14 didn't help either. I was essentially raised by a single mom.

had the same experience alcholic mother dad not around. do your best :)

At least it's nice knowing I'm not alone.

>>36363120

Yes I also have shit tier parents

>mfw good parents

Feels good man.frogpost

I relate to all. They also constantly told me everyone in the world was out to get me. It's somehow shocking to them I grew up afraid to talk to strangers.

>>36363120
My parents were overprotective and coddled me a ton. I was homeschooled and sat in my room all day doing homework and playing vidya, then in my teens was diagnosed with AvPD. Then they expected me to be completely fine and go out and get social jobs after I finished school, and wonder why im not normie like their friends 20 year old kid who became a doctor or some shit.

>>36363120
what does Helicopter Parents mean?

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>2) Overprotective.
>3) Gave you (as a child) no responsibilities, no things to do on your own to build confidence.

This was my mom, who never let me do stuff with dad, like House maintenance, excursions and faming.
I blame her for this sometimes, but someway it's also my fault for being too passive.

>>36363120

All these. I wasn't allowed go out and play, buy my own clothes, or even dress myself most times. I wasn't allowed cook or do other things either. Now I'm a reclusive hermit, who would have thunk it.

>>36363120
A mix of 2, 3 and 4. Ultimately growing up with a single mother and a father who was occasionally around constantly throwing narcissistic temper tantrums damaged me.

>>36363120
My mom constantly i dulged me and never forced me to do anything until I was 16 and she kicked me out. My dad was verbally and physically abusive ad well as being a drunk. My step mom insulted me all the time and abused me because she was jealouse of any attention my dad showed me or my brother.

>>36366122
around to throw**

>>36363120

Number 3 for me

>>36363609

>Basically my parents taught me little to nothing. Never had a sex talk. Got addicted to hardcore internet porn at 13. Learned everything i know about sex from porn and hentai.

Pretty much the same, but my parents weren't particularly bad parents, they just weren't strict.

Everyday, come home, play video games, ignore homework, eat dinner in my room while playing video games, sleep. Poor hygiene, no hobbies, no chores etc.
My parents never corrected this behavior and any attempts to get me to do something other than video games failed because I was a quitter, a whiner and had social anxiety.
Always saw friends as something to get you through school until I can be on my own at home again.
Still have the same life today, video games, internet and sleep, no social skills and no compulsion to make friends.

But how can you know if they made you this way or if they were responding to how you already were?

Apart from #4, of course.

>>36363120
Part 3) and 4) were not true for me, my parents weren't that bad. But they were always worried about me, plus my mom was disabled, so she was literally always home and I could never do anything without her knowing about it.

>>36363251
Exactly this senpai, must be common with the drop outs of life

>>36366306
differentfag here
>parents weren't strict
my parents were actually reasonably strict. but there was also the factor that i'm a bit dysfunctional and argumentative lol
oddly enough i'm not a quitter in vidya, usually
quitter irl though
>wanted to play softball
>dad signs me up
>i can't catch ball
>calls me stupid
>calls me stupid for a variety of other reasons too
thanks dad ;-;

>>36366469
Oh yeah, we tried sports-

>Be 6-8 years old
>shortest kid in school
>want to play basketball
>Dad being sporty always wanted me to play sports
>Dad takes me to afterschool practice hoping I do well
>no one passes to me for the entire game
>give up, never go again


I took me a long time not to quit on my first try. I have a nephew who is the same, he never wants to play a game after he's lost once.

>>36363120
This sort of describes me. Parents were very conservative Christians. Don't approve of drinking, tobacco, drugs, premarital sex, porn, etc. They would get irrationally upset over things like over sleeping for church or swearing. They also never had an actual conversation with me that didn't devolve into preaching. In my teens it made me paranoid, depressed, I had a lot of anxiety and was to scared to ever go outside my comfort zone.
The thing is though you can't keep blaming being a NEET on them. If you are 18+ you can go get a job right now and move out. If you want to live a normal life you have to take the initiative. Most of this board is still relatively young and can still do whatever they want with their lives.

>>36363197
My daughter was becoming one (too much vidyas and utter antisocial seclusion). I change that shit when she was 17 (by doing family trips to nature [mountains, lakes and beach {SoCal here}]). Now she's 20, married and has a kid. She plans to go in to law enforcement when the kid is going to school and I'll watch him.
Hard truth kid, the military might save you. training in skills that translate in to the civilian private sector, stay in service and retire early with a decent pension and gain discipline your parents *no offence love, I'm guilty of it too* failed to instill.
t.37y.o. granny
>inb4 how/why R U here? I'm a /pol/lack newfag that discovered 4chins during the election

>>36363120
My parents were the opposite, never really gave a shit what i did. Was left by myself almost all the time even as an infant. Went to an experimental art school that had drug problems everywhere and never got punished for anything.

Nowadays i have no motivation and no respect for authority whatsoever. I'm not anxious about anything, I tend to be under-anxious to the point of antisocial because I don't care about anything.

>>36365932
parents who hover over their kid (like a helicopter) and watch what they do and shit

its a pretty common phrase

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Mother always was like 'let me do that for you'. Told me I no one would love me like family. Going to city is very dangerous, even though I later saw thousands of young people enjoying it. Father was remote, there physically and having a career, but didn't talk to me much. He had violent temper at times. Mom: don't bother your father or get him mad. I'm fucked up in late fifties. Thinking about anhero. Reading spiritual stuff.

I was number 3

They were pretty good in every other way though so I can't blame them entirely for my failure.

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3 and 4. I just played video games all the time not socializing with anybody. Even in the summer I'd just stay inside and play vidya.

Since I lived in a rural area I didn't ever go to a friend's house or anything. Plus there was nowhere to go and since I was a kid I couldn't go anywhere by myself. This is why I'm socially anxious and awkward.

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>>36363120
I CAN RELATE TO ALL OF THIS srry caps lock.
#4 and #2 and halfway on 1&3 I'm glad that I can at least elate to someone on this,even though id wish it on no one.
ive managed to grip onto a little bit of my teen years but other than that I resent my youth mostly and I have plenty of egotistic fuckers to blame, and another reason on my list to kill myself. lifes a joke.

This is weird because my parents "grew up" with me. The older I am the less strict they are. But even when I became 18+ I couldn't stay overnight at someone's house because of their beliefs. I can't stay at girls hause because religion and at friends (I have none now) because it's just not right. Even though I'm 20+ now I just can't go anywhere. I was never drunk, like actually drunk because the lynched me for that. When I was young lad they didn't give me anything to do but now they expect me to be good at house keeping things. I love my parents but dad never really cared he's a manchild and ma is overprotective but lately she says I either go to work or I can pack my things.

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>>36363120
1. Helicopter mom and distant/abusive/autistic father
2. of course, that is implied with the helicopter parenting.
3. nah she made go to like summer soccer games and swimming lessons
4. We had no video games at my house and that prevented me from knowing how to form real friendships. Also because I had no friends besides other autists who I used to play vidya at their house, I never learned banter and rough-housing as a kid so in high school I would just cry and think I was bullied if someone just made fun me a little bit one time.

Really if you answer "yes" to helicopter parents, then everything else is implied to some degree.

We also didn't have the internet at home until I was 17 but that's just because I'm old.

>>36363251
>emphasizes the importance of doing well in school over everything else
>school is fucking easy

I never had incentive to apply effort, and now it's insanely difficult for me to apply effort to anything in my life, it's like a nonstop pressure on my mind that drains my energy

that might just be me though, I don't blame my parents

1. yes
2. yes
3. yes
4. yes

I fully blame my parents for turning me into this, so they must now support me for the rest of my life.

>>36363120
My parents did all 4 of the things you listed except I was allowed to watch tv and use the internet

2 and by far 3

Parents never gave me anything to be responsible over, they usually did it for me.

>>36363120

I'm just bitter my mom never ever got a job even though we were constantly broke. It was clear we could take care of ourselves but she still never got one. She's depressed, obsessive, and literally can do nothing else but be involved in local liberal political activism. It started during the Bush years and just kept spiraling out of control.

She basically barked out orders constantly, stayed at home, and treated her family like a slave labor force for 10-15 bullshit tasks a day. It only got better when I could drive and could finally avoid her for a while. Still she bothered me for a long time until I left home.

>>36373585
All of it. I'm in medical school now but even that wasn't my choice. One day I'm going to go off the rails, since I never really got to enjoy my childhood and also all the money and freedom Ill get. Probably die speedballing on a boat with prostitutes.

>>36363120
3/4 just fuck my shit up senpai oreganobost