Is there any anon here who got to date a girl or his would be

Normie here
>ib4 get of my board, no I'm staying

Sometimes you just go for it and hope you luck out, sometimes you know there is some chemistry going. It's never black and white anon.

There is no reason the be afraid, however she reacts the world will keep on spinning, worst case scenario you'd need few drinks that evening. But approaching people is the best way to learn how to socialise, to make it easier. And it's downhill from here. Try asking her for a coffee, something casual for the start. And spoiler alert, people prefer to talk, talking just the right amount about yourself has many benefits.One being not saying stupid stuff.

Talking to ranom girls is a youtube meme. 99% of people do not approach strangers and ask them out, unless it's a house party and it's a friend of a fiend or something like that.

>>36145216
I thank you for the input and I will remember this.

But I burned out of girls now.
If I get rejected by this girl, I'm done.

I just need you to answer my question, and tell me how it was for you when you asked a girl out and how you made contact with her.

Did you already suspect you had a chance?

>>36145503
Last girl I dated I just met, it was a house party and I asked her out next day after getting her number on said party.

And don't give up, I got turned down more times than I care to count.

I once got a gf.
I was at a small party full of betas and I had recently read a book on seduction so I put my newly found knowledge to use. I quickly became the alpha of the group and the one girl I had been ignoring the whole night suddenly jumps at me. We made out, she asked for my number, then sent me the first message and asked me when I was free. I basically did no effort.

She eventually became my gf. She eventually realized I was a loser. She eventually dumped me. But in the whole process all I did was be cool once and try to be as congruent as possible with the first "me" she saw.

I'm banging a girl atm. Similar situation. She approached me and I kissed her as soon as I could, then she asked me to bang, then she asked me when I was free so we could bang once more. Zero effort from me.

I've never once approached a girl and ended up seeing her again.

>>36146043
Are you me? Fuck, that's similar to my experience. A beautiful redhead I ploughed, but she could tell I was a loser afterward and it was all ogre. I did the exact same thing trying to LARP as an alpha, but I'm really a pussy. I wish I had just been myself, literally. Probably could have cultivated it at least for a lot longer than me banging her once.

One cute mixed girl (white dad/black mom) I banged multiple times. Sometimes I feel like hitting her up again but it's been 6 months and that'd look bad, so I just fap to hot black girls and my biology is satisfied.

>>36146320
Just tell her "hello, haven't heard from you in a while, tell me how you've been".
Did that with my ex after six months. We almost fucked (made out naked while rubbing my dick against her cunt) but she didn't put out. Pretty frustrating and then I fucked up and ended up getting friendzoned. However the whole "I'm curious about how you've been" thing almost got me laid again.

>>36145920
>>36146043
Thanks guys but it doesn't really answer my question.

I'm asking if I should go for a girl I like, even though I feel it's not going to work.

I need to know how it was for you?
Were you confident in your chances of success?

I mean the GIRL came to you.
It typically never happened to me.

Best I has was a girl constantly turning back to stare at me, and smile when I looked at her.
She would maintaint eye contact ofc, but with time I realized it was nothing but a way to say hi.
And I gave up because she never showed any more sign after that.

Isn't it safe to assume that a girl who likes you will at least sit near you when she gets a chance?

So REGARDLESS of appearance confidence is an aphrodisiac for women and a trait they look for in a romantic partner. That being said appearance does matter too. So why not just project confidence if it improves your odds of getting the girl.

>>36146640
This is bullshit.
I'm confident but girls still won't give a single fuck about me because I'm not a looker.

I dated a girl. I absolutely hated her before we started. She was a complete sympathy and attention whore, who had zero self awareness. She approached me and I said sure because I didn't want to die a kissless virgin. She was as horrible as I expected by I am no longer kissless, nor am I a virgin. I guess my technique was to show no interest in them and get approached eventually because I'm 6'3", white, and not fat.

>>36147596
Horrible how?
She cheat on you or something?

You suspect she could cheat on you if a better looking guy hit on her?

>>36147819
Mainly because she had a terrible temper, was a complete attention whore and desperately needed sympathy 24/7. I'll green text a couple examples.
>throws a huge tantrum at least every 2 weeks, in which she tells me that I'm dumped just to fuck with me
>eventually tell her I'm finished, just before Christmas, she promises she'll change and stop throwing tantrums
>give her a second choice
>on new years she was out drinking with friends so I was playing gta with my only friend while talking to them on discord
>get a call from her, which I pick up
>she's telling me she saw a funny advert on television
>finish call after about 2 mins
>she calls back 5 mins later
>don't pick up cos I'm busy and last one was trivial shit.
>she explodes at me the following morning. Says I care about my friend more than her and have to choose between them. If I choose him she'll leave
>I choose him
>turns out she doesn't actually leave and was just trying to manipulate me into getting rid of my only friend who I've had for like 5 years so she'd have more attention.
>this was less than a week after she promised this shit would stop.
I eventually stopped it in early February when she called me a fucking cunt and said I was dumped because I didn't sympathise enough when she called me saying there was nothing for dinner in her house. She didn't actually mean it, but I just went with it, and when she tried to take it back I didn't accept it. She then smashed her head against a wall and threatened to kill herself, in a desperate bid for sympathy and attention, which she unfortunately didn't do.

>>36146575
Yes you should, if she says no, at least you tried and that's more than most do. And if she says yes you got yourself a girl who might just make you happy.

>Were you confident in your chances of success?
Sometimes I was, sometimes it was along shot.

Go for it anon, if you try you might fail, if you don't you will fai;.

>>36147596
>>36147819
My gf went on 2 week long holiday and came back pregnant, I haven't given up.

>>36145032
> asking girls on a date

I don't know why robots keep falling for this meme over and over again.


I never went to a single actual date with my girlfriend, we just hung out a couple of times until it evolved to the next level

Ezpz

>>36148088
Christ.
Literally my type of girl, I dream of a gf who I can mentally fuck with.

Is there any downside?

>>36146575
If a girl doesn't come to you, you're severely fucked most of the time. You're competing with the thousands of guys who come up to her. Some of them are pretty smooth and still get rejected.
For normal guys, you have two options. Constant exposure through mutual friends/common environment and them coming up to you. Approaching girls requires you to do everything right and it depends mostly on the girl's circumstances. To fuck a girl through cold approach requires hundreds of attempts.

If you really like this girl, stalk her a bit and meet her friends first.

>>36148162
You haven't given up meaning given up on women? Or given up on her? If you're still with her then what the fuck. I can understand people being desperate for a gf if they've never had one, they've never experienced it and wanna see what they're missing. but once you've had your first kiss and lost your virginity, there's no point. Its like going on holiday somewhere. You just wanna experience it. But once you have, you're not gonna be desperate to go back.
>>36148265
Yes there is a downside. Being a huge sympathy and attention whore, she heavily exaggerates anything bad that happens to her. For example, she reported one of her ex boyfriends to the police for "abuse", but conveniently dropped the charges after he'd been arrested, so it wouldn't actually go to court. Also she tries to mentally fuck with you. However, if you were to do the same to her, that's abuse and you're probably gonna find yourself with a criminal record. Oh also you can't trust her with anything. I was initially hesitant to tell her fetish stuff I was into, and she acted super compassionate and understanding, saying I could trust her because she's my gf. She then immediately betrayed my trust, told her friends, and got anything with me when i wouldn't trust her with anything in the future.

>>36147482
Well you still do better than an uggo who is shy and passive (comparatively speaking)

>>36148385
I given on up on her the second she told me.
Giving up on woman is not an option, although younger guys are fucked with how girls are brought up these days.
The problem with woman is that life with them sucks, but it sucks a bit more without them.

>>36145032


It can work.>>36148265
>>36148265

I fucking lol'd hard at "she unfortunately didnt do"

>>36145216
>Talking to ranom girls is a youtube meme. 99% of people do not approach strangers and ask them out

Then how do you ask a girl out if you don't know any girls?

>>36148809
You
>make friends
>meet them at a club/party
>dating apps
>meet them through hobbies/common activities
>wait until something magically happens

>>36145920
>>36145920
'
how
did you get her number exactly

>>36146043

i dont believe you at all

>>36146320

i believe you.

I'm basically doing the same thing except it's been 3 years and she still thinks i'm alpha.

probably because i bothered learning all the BDSM shit that i knew she was into. :/

>>36149081
>i dont believe you at all
What's so unbelievable about my post?
Everything I wrote is 100% the truth. Those are the only two girls I ever fucked as well.

>>36148865
>make friends

how

>>36149119

>recently read a book on seduction

what is this, /redpill/???

>>36149252
Well I was completely clueless on how to interact with women until then.
Fun thing is that shit actually works. It's like magic. But then I started reading more and more on seduction and just clouded my perception. One source of advice is enough.

>>36149295

I am aware, sadly.

It is the only way I got laid after I broke up with my 5 year gf.

I had 5year gf, 2 years of feelign like shit and reading shit online that made me hate women, 1 year of redpill and playing golf (18 holes if you know what I mean) then I met current gf, the 3 year one who still thinks i'malpha when i'm not (this wasnt a problem with the golfing because most of them were just hookups / ONS / etc) but basically i was lying the whole fucking time.

>>36148809
see this >>36148865
>>36149081
>how
>did you get her number exactly
Asked my mate to introduce me, talked to her and asked to trade number, it's not hard at a house party.

>>36149232
>>make friends
>how
Step one leave the house,
Do you work ? Go to uni college ? You have to have that makes you leave your room if you want to make friends.