Everyone says that it's easy to get girls if you "just

>>36088640
You don't just walk around town looking for a girl op, the "just talk to her" advice is for when you're already in a situation where you could make new friends/bag a stacey.

I feel the same way

It's probably autism

>>36088668
What if there are literally no situations in your entire area where this could happen?

I literally can't think of a single circumstance in which it would be normal to converse with someone without it being creepy or weird.

not even Chads go around the street chasing girls, you dont live in a porn movie, approach them in a bar or in any kind of social activity when it is implied that social interaction is permited

Yeah don't do that at like a grocery store or the bus, but go to places where people go only to socialize (bars or something).

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>>36088640
It is a magic for normies.

I remember last month when I was waiting for my train, there was a cute girl looking at the timetable. Chad came, and he was like "hey girl where are you going", "I am going there too btw I am Chad"

They sat down and they ha a great time until the train arrived, then they left together.

>>36088723
>>36088727
>bars
What would I even say to someone at a bar? That would be the same shit as talking to someone on the street. I still wouldn't have dick all to say

Besides I don't want causal sex anyway I want a relationship with at least SOME common interests.

>>36088751
Just trying to help, either you listen and try to improve your life, or you don't. I know its scary and seems impossible, but do you have any better ideas ? Besides people are actively looking to socialize in bars, and alcohol helps quite a bit, believe me you're over analysing, these people are as hostile and unwelcoming as you think. Its all in your head

>>36088712
>clubs
>parties
>work
>concerts
Just to name a few.
Past that there's also dating apps. There's really never NOT a chance to find someone nowadays

>>36088809
Aren't*
Oopsies

Originalo

>>36088751
>I want a relationship with at least SOME common interests.
what are your interests?

>>36088712
>in your entire area
even if you're in a rural area, there are plenty of opportunities to socialise (possible even for YOU to socialise), not even just with girls
>cattle/stock sales
>markets
>dances
>fairs
theres always a reason to socialise, even just to say hello. You're just too much of a pussy to do it

>>36088854
video games
anime
horror films and stories
paranormal shit in general but not aliens that shits boring
walking at night
urban exploration

pretty weird shit overall
>inb4 the first two aren't weird
Never seen a girl who didn't only play shit like candy crush

>>36088751
Go to smoking areas and ask them how they're doing. Do it in a friendly, casual way. Ask them what brings them out, how their night is going, etc. I do this all the time. Try and find a small smoking area where everyone's packed in so it doesn't look like you've walked over to them specifically. And make sure you talk to guys too.

>>36088895
>smoking areas
Bars don't have those here. Also I don't smoke.

>>36088640
>i like things for children
then hang out with kids. just don't be sexual about it.

everyone says that because that's what it is. there is nothing interesting or profound to how people communicate as a broad subject. you're doing it now. you can do it without words. you can "get girls" if you talk to them, given enough time and opportunities. the fact that you're pretending to be too braindead to talk about something that both you and someone else would be interested in falls apart when you claim you want to have a relationship. what the fuck do you think a relationship is? since you are pretending you don't know, fuck off and continue being a loser, you've enjoyed it this far.

>>36088885
>im so special because i like cartoons
you're like those girls who say they are different for wearing jeans and not dresses. you've never seen a compatible girl because you're a piece of shit. change that part first, you can keep your interests because everyone is on the same page already with entertainment and "urban exploration" you fag.

>>36088885
Stop thinking from the perspective of "what do I say". That's just you trying to live up to what you imagine other people expect of you. Cut that weak shit out.
Honestly I talk as plainly to women as possible. Sure I have stupid defense mechanisms, like making crass jokes, or asking them how they'd deal with really stupid unrelated hypotheticals, but that's only after I've established that, even if they think I'm gross, stupid, or even creepy, I'm not bothered by their perception of me. Alot of times that seems to make them question if their first impression was too harsh, and then the smarter ones understand that I'm genuinely not acting under hidden pretenses

>>36089024
It's easy to talk to women.

It's difficult to approach them.

>>36089024
So "just b urself"

>>36089042
Its not difficult to approach women, it's difficult to get over your preconceived notions of what they want from you

Generally it starts with a funny comment on something. So if you're at the bar and there's a fight over something trivial, which is every bar fight, then just make a funny remark out loud and sometimes you might get a response back and you go from there. Like I was playing poker last night and ended up having a conversation with someone after they made a comment about a cross dresser so I started singing "Dude Looks Like a Lady"

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>>36089070
Why would you waste your time with someone who wasn't ok with who you actually are?

Meet people on dating sites. That way you can get it all out in the open that you're into cp and Pokemon. Then it's just a matter of waiting for the women who are also into that stuff to come to you.

>>36089100
What are the first things you SAY to them?

I get maybe a hello. Say that and they'll maybe say it back.

Then fucking what?

>>36089126
>normies tell me to bee myself
>myself is being shy and anxious and waiting for the girl to approach me
>all of a sudden normies tell me I can't be myself and I have to be someone else who approaches girls and is not myself

>>36088640
you can't approach people as your low-status autismo self. you ideally want to fake (or pick your target for this purpose) being the same status as them (ideally a little above the girl)

everything is a stupid gay status game

>>36089149
I already told you to stop thinking from the perspective of "what do I say," anon. You could go up to a girl and ask what she'd do if she met a Thomas the tank engine that had her face and he said to her, "heeey you're pretty cute," for all they care. The point isn't what you say, the point is being self assured in the individuality you've cultivated for yourself over the years

>>36088640
Make friends first, go out to places with said friends. It all falls into place then.

>>36089156
If that's who you are, and you're happy with that, then go for it. Just don't complain when no one approaches you, and don't ask for advice on how to approach women. Is that really hard to get?

>>36089263
I've had friends since fifth grade. Nothing has ever "fallen into place" for me.

>>36089263
>tfw haven't made any friends since high school
>tfw high school ended 10 years ago

Hahahaha, "just go make friends anon" HAHAHA

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>>36088743

what would Chad do if they weren't going to the same place though?

Do they think that shit through on the run?

It would take me weeks just to create a script to talk to a girl,and then I would probably not even have the courage to walk up to her

fucking normies how do they do it

>>36089308
Might just be unlucky, doesn't matter if you do things right, sometimes life just beats you over the head repeatedly for no reason.

they have to be attracted to you first. you can't pick up girls if you're ugly. how do you know if you're ugly? you can tell because girls aren't eyeing you out on the streets or trying to get your attention.

>>36089625
i-is this true?... a-am i really ugly?

>>36089776
Most likely. Pic?

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>>36090236
please be honest with your feedback

>>36089776
yes you are.
i know this because i have been ugly for most of my life, except for this past year when i got a plastic surgery, a good haircut, better clothes, grew out some facial hair and started working confidently with a straight back. now girls aren't repulsed by me anymore, and they don't avoid me on the streets. some of them even look at me and try to get my attention, like they want me, which is something i've never experienced before in my entire life. that's what attraction is all about, being drawn to people with attractive appearances. you gotta be confident too, but that's easy to build if you're not ugly or fat.

>>36089042
This
Origoonal

>>36090525
i can't afford plastic surgery. i can't grow my hair out (balding). my faicial hair is already grown out. i guess i could get better clothes....

>>36088640

People who say "just talk to girls" make the assumption that you know how to talk to people in the first place, they think that your only problem is that you see girls as some special creatures, very different from your dozens of male friends. They dont understand that if your goal was to go out and make friends, you would be just as lost.

All the friends you ever had, you have met by change, they are the other loners you had lunch with, those you were assigned to do school project with, leftovers, those you met through someone you already knew. There was no effort from your part, you just ended up spending time together for what ever external reason. You dont really have much in common with them, but you dont know whats it like to have a real friend, to have someone you can really share a life with, so you stick with them.

Getting to know girls is just as simple as getting to know anyone. How its done? I have no idea...

>>36090449
Lose some weight and the only excuse you could have would be attitude/mood

>>36088640
What they mean is that you should "just talk to them" if you're 6'4 and attractive

>>36088878
>cattle/stock sales
>markets
>dances
>fairs

City normies actually think this is what rural life is like

>>36090449

>hairline

sorry but you never stood a chance

>>36089625
Whenever I lock eyes with a woman they always look down or away.
What this meant?

>>36090963
What about being 5'6

>>36091003
Probably not attracted to you. There's this misconception that women are naturally shy when looking for a potential partner. It's the exact opposite. When women see a guy they like, they will do ANYTHING TO GET YOUR ATTENTION, including going up to you and talking to you.

I had this problem too, and I could never understand why since I'm 5'5". I now realize that it's because I'm a low-tier male who they don't want any contact with. But who knows? You might have gotten lucky.

>>36090973
I meet both of those qualifications but no one ever wants to talk to me. They can tell by the way I carry myself that there is something missing inside me, even before I actually speak. Not complaining though, because I enjoy being alone and can't be bothered with most people, but I just wanted to say it's not all height bad looks, it's mainly attitude and the vibes you give off.

>>36090449
You're average, but average dudes still get women. Judging from those pics, smiling more would make you a lot more approachable. Gotta work on that resting angry face.

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>>36091007
Nigger I'm 5'5" and most my gf's were taller than me. Even my current one. Stop projecting

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There's this girls at my college who tried starting a conversation by asking what have I being studying at that precise moment. However, I kinda gave a straightforward answer and the talk basically ended at that.

It's now a challenge for me to approach her since not only I'm socially awkward but she also leaves the campus in a hurry most of the time. I sim[y can't catch her. Hopefully I'll have another chance.

Is weird if you don't talk to them. Obviously not in crowded place or if she's walking fast or with friends. All other times are a go:

Comment on surroundings.

Hi, *smile* you look ____. I'm (feeling) ___

I've just been _______ (say what you're doing here, further comment on surroundings, how they relate to why you're there.)

Ask her a question like, Why are you here, what re you doing? why are you wearing _____?

Read how she's reacting to this. If she's worried take a step back and keep talking. If she ignores you, you can leave, I never do that, I just say stuff heaps louder. Be funny to yourself.

if she's smiling or comfortable keep going.

Try and think of it like you are approaching yourself, and you're being interesting to you minus the anime and nerd shit. Do stuff that makes yourself react well.

Its ok to seem full of yourself or just using her to talk, or clarify stuff to you.

If she's a tourist or a local you can go on about local attractions in the area. If she's a student, what she's studying.

There'll be stuff wrong with what you're doing at first, you have to practice on lots of girls. Maybe you don't look at her enough or too much, do not ask her too many questions. The ideal conversation is purely in the moment and you're not asking about her life too much. Try and be upbeat, cheery, rather than monotone serious.

After you leave or it doesn't go well, think about what you did, correct yourself for next time.

You'll be nervous as hell but after a hundred or so it wears off, or you can take drugs.

It's natural to talk to a stranger who's hanging around and looks interesting.

>>36088743
This happens to me all the time

Just sit on a bench at a station and put your bag or jacket on the next seat, if a girl comes over you already have an excuse to talk to her and then it can flow from there

>>36092495
I'm sorry but feminists and passive women who can't say what they want and shift the blame to you have brainwashed me too hard to never attempt that because DA CREEPY

Tell me how to make friends, I don't care about male or female but I'm not looking to fuck, I just wanna meet someone who I can get along with. I'm sure if I had one friend then I would be able to get introduced to other people and would be okay from there. It's not a case of me being unable to speak to women because I'm attracted to them, I'm not attracted to anyone and I still can't speak to ANYONE.
I am 6'3 and not unattractive, I probably have virgin traits that people can pick up on though eg the way I carry myself and project my voice is beta. I am okay at speaking to people once I am in the middle of a conversation so please just tell me how I am supposed to approach a perfect stranger and introduce myself in a way to get conversation moving. I'd also like to know how I can tell whether someone is the kind of person I should bother talking to before I try this, I don't want to waste my energy on a person who I won't get along with at all as it will just harm my confidence further when they are cold to me.
Basically all I am looking for is a first step that I can use to start talking to people. All the information online is shit like "be yourself", "go with the flow", "improvise on a person-by-person basis" but this is useless information for me because I don't understand conversation to begin with, it's probably all written by stacies who had no problem socializing to begin with. Surely there must be a robot who was able to turn it around for themselves who can provide actual useful advice?