How do I overcome the fact that I think I'm ugly? Sometimes

>>35828906
many Brads told me that working out gives them confidence

>>35828906
There is one way you can tell if you're really attractive. If you had many girls around at a time and none of them or very few (like 1-2 ugliest) shown any interest than you're not attractive.
Telling if you're ugly is harder. But since you're here I'd bet yes.

>>35828998
Well ive had female attention from girls that were around 7s, maybe an 8, but I just look at myself in the mirror and feel like its all a big joke

>>35828906
It depends on the type of people you attract. If you attract people that you think are ugly, then more than likely most people see you that way, but if you attract people who you think are pretty or beautiful, then there's nothing to worry about. If you think you don't attract anyone then you aren't looking hard enough

It's in the eye of the beholder. Sometimes I think I'm the most hideous person possible because my face is some-what asymmetrical, but I've attracted literal 9/10's before, so it's not that big of a deal to me. There's more important shit to worry about than your looks. Try focusing on making girls laugh or think about you.

>>35829006
in that case you should consider yourself a 7. What you see in the mirror is far from what others see. You focus on your flaws while other people are looking at your attractive features.

>>35829041
Yeah but im starting to think I have the early workings of a psychological disorder. Its almost becoming an 'obsession' to figure out whether im attractive or ugly, definitely not healthy.
I think the most fucked up part is even if someone told me they thought I was attractive, I would DEFINITELY still think im ugly. Its starting to become a real problem

>>35829006
You're only self-conscious because you think women are as picky about looks as men are. In reality, they're not. If you can be confident or even funny, you'll do fine.

>>35829070
But when I look at myself, SOMETIMES i see a 7...but on some days I see a 3. Other days its an 8. And I'm not LOOKING any differently, its just the way my mind perceives myself. Its really fucking with me

>>35828906
I feel the same.

Maybe take a pic and blur your face?

>>35829135
Then whats the point of taking a pic?
my body is fine, im thin but pull it off (i think)
Its my face thats concerning, and Im not gonna post it here

>>35829095
Try avoiding looking in the mirror as much as you can. It will take some self discipline, but it's obviously not doing you any good. If you just went about your day having no regard for what you looked like you would be 10x happier than you are, also girls don't want a guy who is self conscious about his looks. Seriously, I know exactly how you feel, sometimes I just stare at myself from different angles to try and make out if I'm good looking or not. I've never come up with an answer. But it won't matter once you meet someone special who DOES think you are, it will be enough, so chill the fuck out and worry about what's really important.

>>35829160
Honestly I really like this advice and I'll give it a go. Just before i posted this I took about 10 different photos from different angles, with and without flash, to try and 'figure it out', and ive been doing this for a few weeks now. As simple and obvious as your advice sounds, I'm really glad you said it. Disorders are a weird thing, and I hope this helps whatever I have, out. Honestly, cheers

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>>35829155
Okay, okay.

Height?
And how did other people rate you on a scale from 10-1?

Im 6'3" and at best a 7/10.
At worst 5/10

>tfw still no gf

>>35829366
I'd say im about 6'2, maybe 6'3
Im guessing they'd rate me from a 4 to a 7, anywhere in that range

>>35828906
Yeah, I stopped caring

>>35829382
In that case looks are most likely not your problem.

If you try a bit.

>>35829411
Yeah I dont try at all. Some girls have basically asked me on dates and I've said no

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>>35828906
suck it the fuck up, faggot
get real problems

>>35829444
I also have real problems

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>>35829427
>Yeah I dont try at all. Some girls have basically asked me on dates and I've said no

Why are you telling me this chad?
I thought I found someone in here that is like me.

>tfw not a single girl has ever showed any interest in me

>>35829484
I have psychological problems. 0 chance im chad. Honestly, im a confident, funny, lowest of the popular kids. Girls like all that, sure, but I hate how i look regardless. Im no chad

>>35829501
Funny, I hate everything about me, exept my looks.

I just cant ask girls out, I dont know why.

>>35829521
Would happily trade with you, fuck lol

>>35829536
Same goes for me.
You can keep the drugs if that happens.

>>35829559
Oh i do drugs too, so I'll happily keep them

>>35828906
This is a red flag for BPD.

>>35829575
I dont think im bipolar. I was definitely depressed for a while after my friend's suicide, but generally my emotions are stable (i think)

>>35829587
I like you, but you still need to fuck the girls that want to go on a date with you.

>>35829599
Thanks friend
And no i dont want to
I was molested as a child so it makes it hard to form relationships/get intimate with people. None of my family knows this. I'm GUESSING this is the source of my insecurity. I fucking hate it

>>35829587
not bipolar, borderline. Their self image is incredibly unstable and they are deeply insecure.

>>35829587

Whoops
Of course is this not original... What was I thinking?

>>35829565

>>35829619
Yeah that sounds like me. How bad is BPD? Do you know anything about it?

>>35829617
Huh,

the same happened to my friend but he is chad now and jumps from "gf" to "gf"

>>35829654
I dont know, the fact that your friend told you that it happened shows hes a pretty different person than I am (not in a good or bad way, just different). Be good to your friend, it sucks

>>35829671
He told it like 3 people.
No one out of his family though.

I know him for like 14 years. I think thats the only reason why he told me.

>fairly attractive (6-8 depending on tastes)
>have terrible teeth
>literal 2/10 teeth
>to poor to get them fixed, will cost thousands
>can never be more than a 5
>always try not to let them show
>sometimes laugh or smile when talking to a girl who is interested in me and see the exact moment that they realize
>slight cringe on their face as a tall, fit, handsome dude suddenly becomes unattractive and slightly sickening
WHY
I got so many genetic advantages but that one thing fucking ruins it

>>35829671
What do you do for a living?

If you are rich, nothing else matters anyway.

>>35829692
Yeah fair enough
Not another soul knows what happens to me, and it sucks, but i cant tell anyone either
...except losers on anonymous boards

>>35829705
>terrible teeth

Poorly cared about them?

>>35829705
Damn that sucks. I was lucky and got braces which really makes a difference. I feel for you
>>35829713
Im a student, but if I had to guess, I'll probably be rich later. Ive definitely been groomed for it, so I'll probably marry a money-grubbing whore

>>35829715
>...except losers on anonymous boards

Hahaha, I know that feel.

>its another episode of 'anon uses r9k as a discount therapist'

>>35829764
Im on a student budget, I cant afford therapy. You boys will do just fine

>>35829775
Where I live a therapy would be covered from the welfare system.
But I would never go there.
Imagine telling someone how you feel, and he actually knows who you are.

Terrible thought

>>35829792
Its probably covered here too, but my parents would find out and then I'd have to tell them why I have to go.
I'll pass on that

>>35829802
Are you underage?

You know that minors should not be here... right?

>>35828970
Working out made me depressed because I wasn't making any progress. I'm a skeleton and even eating 3.5kcal a day I wasn't gaining weight

>>35829730
Genetically bad (crooked af, uneven and don't close properly at the front) and poorly cared for as well so now they are all stained and a couple are decayed beyond saving.

>>35829822
That alone made you depressed?
You seem pretty weak minded.

>>35829822
Then eat 4k cal a day dumbass. Were you getting stronger?>>35829831

>>35829819
Im 18...but if I randomly asked for my medicare card my parents would just check where the payments were going so...
>>35829831
That sucks

>>35829851
>>35829864
Fyi he isnt OP
Im op

>>35829868
They can do that?
Where do you live?

Sounds terrible, there is no way to make a therapist more unattracive?
That goes against everything that a therapy is good for.

>>35829882
Yeah, we know.

Not everything is about you.
Duh

>>35829913
Well i wouldnt pay for it myself. So if i used my medicare card, my dad could just log onto the site, see where the payments went, and be like 'oh anon, whats this?'
And if i paid for it myself, it would cripple my bank account and my dad can still check where its going
Might have to rely on free university therapy

I've asked my 2 female friends and they give me a 7.
I know they want me to feel good and may have bumped it up, but at least I know I'm a 6.

>>35829924
Just clarifying knob

>>35829942
I have my own card and we dont have such a website.

You live in amerifat? Right?

>>35829955
Rule #1
Never ask family or friends.

>>35829965
Nah, Australia
Down under

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>>35828906
It's a blessing in a sense. Not having good looks means you don't have looks to lose. People who are beautiful now but who will lose their looks in 10 years will go through a lot more trauma about it than an unattractive person who continues to stay unattractive.

>>35829978
You can ask them.
But always subtract 2 points.