These are always fun. What are some reg flags for you personally,

>>35543180
Your red flags suck. A good red flag is a constant display of attention seeking behavior.

>asking loners about red flags

We've checked out . Herbivore man here

>>35543208
>Herbivore man here

Another good example of a red flag.

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>>35543180

>When they're left-wing leaning
>When they're not white
>They're Jewish
>They're a nigger
>They have an IQ lower than 100
>They believe the Holocaust is a real thing

Pretty big red flags right there. These are the kind of faggots that deserve to be thrown into a gas chamber

biggest red flag is (as shitty as it is) high anxiety.

Tried to date someone with really had anxiety once and I couldn't do it. We couldn't do anything, ever. Everything was too stressful or some other shit and it just was awful.


Nothing against mentally ill people I just don't wanna date one.

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For both genders, both friends and prospective romantic partners:
>Describes themselves as "sarcastic" or "brutally honest"
>Most friends are opposite sex
>Constantly deleting and recreating internet accounts
>Wants social interaction entirely on their own terms
>Doesn't ever read for pleasure
>Phone ringtones, Steam IM alerts, etc set at full blast
>Needs multiple sources of noise/entertainment at once. Blasting music while playing vidya, etc
>"Nice Guy"/"Nice Girl"

>>35543180
social media as a red flag worked out great for me. girls that don't swallow instagram, twitter and facebook nonsense all day are much better company. from my experience it's a big difference.

Are these red flags?


>Brown
>Liberal/Secular
>5'7
>Like sci-fi, techie stuff

>>35543392
>brown
>sci-fi
>liberal
heh, nah

at least you're small so that's fun to throw around.

>>35543422
>tfw dubs spoke the truth


kill me allah

>>35543392

>Brown

Brown girls are fine.

>Liberal

Most girls are slightly liberal, since they tend value feels over logic. Not a red flag unless they're shaving the side of their head and screeching about the kyriarchy.

>Secular

As long as they're culturally religious or "spiritual but not religious". Only total spergs are full-blown atheists these days.

>Sci-fi

Okay if they're genuinely interested and it's not a part of their GEEK GRRRL persona. (Note: Star Wars is mainstream enough to not grant geek status.)

>>35543180

>Loud
>Constantly asks invasive questions
>Has a "I don't give a fuck" attitude
>Acts like a cunt in public
>Willing and regularly makes jokes at someone else's expense
>No remorse
>Has a large group of friends

Never had a good experience with these kinds of people.

>>35543258
I'd argue the Jewish thing. I once knew this great girl, Israeli, a Jew, was very conservative, talked like a normal person, not nasally at all. Calm, interesting, etc...
I hung with her a bunch, but never asked her out, had a boyfriend.

Red flags for dudes

( some of these are noticeable after one or two conversations as opposed to first glance, no sure if
They still count as red flags)
> acts whiny about trivial things
> makes all problems about him
> derails all conversations to being about you
> attempts to beg for sex or a data
> when rejected, he spirals to hyperbole to attract sympathy ( " you don't want to get to know me? Okay, i'll just never talk to you again! ")
> can't make the first move, lowkey begs for someone else to do it
> fat
> has no view on politics ( a view i disgaree with is better than none)
> goes on very emotional political or religious rants with zero prompting
> doesn't shave / maintain facial hair properly
> autism shoes
> overly friendly to attractive women only, aloof to everyone else
> impolite
> doesn't thank waiters or service workers
> disparages mother without good reason ( ie. She's abusive)
> feels it's appropriating to dump the whole load of his emotional baggage of a person he's met once or twice
>no social media ( not even linked in?) , or social media with no profile pic
> no other male friends
> speaks negatively of other men
> if he has male friends, he routinely throws them under the bus, especially when talking to a cute girl (" nah me and my friends were gonna hang out but I'm free whenever you're free!") ("nah, i love them, but they can be such embarassing faggots.")
> expouses edgy opinions just to upset or provoke perfectly nice people
> thinks being disrespectful to elders is cool
> doesn't read
> doesn't have a hobby

>is a woman

That's the major redflag.

>>35543511
I know exactly what you mean! I hate when they sound bitchy as all hell and say "fuck" every other word. Or they'll act like they're "all that" and better than others. Loud, invasive, etc...
Horrible.

>can't cook beyond boxed meals
>can't chop vegetables without risk of cutting off fingers
>has no goals
>has cheated on a past partner
>has nipple/genital piercings
>has chipped nail polish
>watches mainstream news and doesn't fact-check against primary sources
>has a facebook account for anything other than business/career prospects
>has pictures online with their face tagged
>has activated fingerprint security on anything

>>35543570
> invasive
Hitting a little too close to home.

Care to elaborate?

> tfw I am pretty loud and extroverted ( passing normie) but am secretly a mentall ill autist with piss jugs

>being a girl (female)
Really my only red flag

>>35543530

> speaks negatively of other men

It's funny. I gave up warning girls about other guys(He cheated on his last two girlfriends, etc) at a young age because it doesn't work. They just think you're jealous of their TRUUUE LOOOOVE.

But jealous beta backtalk seems to work on -me-.

Anyone else know this feel?

>>35543357
Very much agree with all these points. Especially the have a bunch of opposite sex friends.

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Any tattoos beyond a small upper arm religious symbol(or tribute to family) or cutesy ankle flower.

>>35543608
>Elaborate
Well, what I mean by invasive is someone who will do or say things that would normally be beyond most people's normal comfort zone, especially when they do or say it loudly or very noticeably as well.

>Talks loud in public
>Curses in public to a degree where other people can ear
>Gets really close, to the point where they're grabbing or touching you aggressively sometimes
>Acting things out, making a scene
>Overall acting like an autist in public

It's like, do they even realize that literally NOBODY else around them in these public areas are acting like this? Save a few 5 year olds running around.

It's just cringey as all hell and shows me they aren't the type of person I want to be around. Even if I have common interests, and I get along well too, it wouldn't matter, because I can't comfortably be within 100 ft of them in public.

TL;DR Rant about cringe lords, sorry.

>>35543695
> tfw i am this person

Well, fuck.

> it's okay to touch people and be tactile if you're friends, r-right
> it's okay to ask invasive questions if you're alone or in a friend group, r-right

>>35543695
>Acting things out, making a scene

Don't forget about them overreacting and making even more of a scene and a fuss if you complain about it.

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More than two opposite sex friends. If he's gay or they've known each other since childhood he only counts as .5

>>35543530
>exposes edgy opinions just to upset or provoke perfectly nice people
>on 4chan
i know 4chan is not all le so edgyXD but it's still kind of ironic

>they think pizza's some godly food
>18+ and still thinks that Harry Potter is 'good'
This is true for everyone, I can't fucking stand plebs. I have some other ones.
>talks about moeshit anime in real life
>binge-watches shows
>musical taste consists of top 40's
>has absolutely no fucking hobbies or interests
>obsesses over their grades too much in school

>>35543357
The first one is especially true. They're generally very pretentious and have an inflated ego.

>>35543530
Long laundry list, but pretty reasonable. Why, are these all traits your ex bf had? Now you know better than to date someone from /r9k/.

>Posts snarky Facebook image macros
>Overshares early on(hard childhood, she was raped in college, etc)
>Dyed hair, if over 20.
>Is a single mother

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Green flags:
>Doesn't use social media -or- only adds close friends and family
>Dad is a tradesman, military officer, teacher, farmer, etc
>No tattoos
>No "guy friends"
>Keeps exes at arm's length
>Has done volunteer work
>Likes animals and children
>Dresses modestly

>>35543513
Israeli Jews are in no way, shape, or form similar to diaspora Jews,

>>35543810
Huge difference between posting inflammatory shit on a Mongolian Bread Basket Site and saying it IRL.

>>35543852
Yep. People who call themselves "brutally honest" or whatever are just trying to justify being tactlessly rude.

>>35543985
I'm pretty guilty of oversharing myself, but damn if I don't agree it's red flag-y.

It's a pretty clear sign that they not looking for You, but any 'you' who will temporarily serve as an outlet for their problems.

>>35543876
I don't have an ex, but some of these are my friend's exes.

I based a lot of these off things that bothered me about men that hit on me, and who later turned out to be literal predators.

Like the hyperbole one? My TA tried that with me after I told him I didn't comfortable getting drinks alone with someone I only knew professionally and who was responsible for my grades. He starts boohoo-ing about being so selfish, so tactless, " don't worry, I'll quit tomorrow and you won't have to feel uncomfortable anymore!". I try to appease him by saying " we can be friends" but after growing up with a BPD mom, this shit creeped me out.

I told all my friends and they said I was being melodramatic and felt sorry for him. A year later I discover:
> he hit on my other TA when they were both undergrads
> she said no
> he starts photoshopping her face into porn scenes, distributing them amongst the undergrads
> tells everyone they did ass to mouth
> his stories are obviously lies because his timelines didn't fucking match and the photos were obviously the same ones as her Instagram

And
> went after my classmates sister, tried to convince her to get drunk with him after she was hospitalised for a suicide attempt

So yeah, my intuition was dead fucking on.

>>35543180
>non-virgin
>muslim
>no hobbies

>>35543530
>no social media ( not even linked in?) , or social media with no profile pic
The only social media account I have is twitter, but with no profile pic and I've never made a tweet. But social media is fucking cancerous.

>>35543180
>expressionless bland look
>they become aloof if you question them about it
>quiet deathly quiet even if you force them to converse they still only mutter a few words and sentences
>they'll retreat to the side of the room or even seek the dingiest lowest point they can find basements or rooms off to the side and out of the way
>daydreaming
those are the cunts i avoid
they start showing any of those symptoms its better off to avoid them.

>>35544902
I don't disagree that it's cancerous.

However, we're talking about red flags. For every well-adjusted dude who has concerns about social media, there's ten creepy weirdos with anime avatars masturbating to their high school crush.

>>35543180
>They're American-born.
>They believe democracy is the best, and that races are a social construct.
>They are of Middle Eastern descent.
>They spend more then 1 hour on social media a day.
>They have a black male """friend""".
>They are liberal.
>They have an IQ lower then 115.
>They are vegan/feminist/black lives matter supporters.
>They have a Tumblr.

>>35543180
>red flags
3D

>>35543530
You do realize, the reason he begs for sex, is because that's LITERALLY the only thing a female has to offer?

A male friend can do everything a female friend can, but BETTER, and in a more fun way.

The only reason I even need females in this world is because of TWO things.

>You have a vagina, and a vagina feels good to be inside of.
>You are required to continue spreading the human race.


My point could have been debatable in 1950, but not anymore.
All women are simple sluts nowadays.

>>35545023
Lemme guess, you begged for sex and she still didn't bite?

>>35545111
Look at those trips of truth.

Oregano ivano

>>35545111
No.

I never begged for sex because I've never had a girlfriend.
>Hugless.
>Handholdless.
>Kissless.

So fuck off.
But yes, I hate women because they're cunts to me.
I hate everyone that's socially active to be exact.

>exists
>hasn't ascended beyond this reality
>can't bend the metaphysical matter according to their will
>isn't at least a demilich
>hasn't forced at least three lesser gods to do their bidding
>doesn't wash hands after pissing

>>35544307
Sounds like you dodged a bullet indeed. Incidentally, that TA sounds a lot like how virgin robots of /r9k/ would act.

>>35543180
>attracted to me
I mean really, have some self respect

>>35544044
>Dad is a tradesman, military officer, teacher, farmer, etc
I'm not seeing the relation between teacher and farmer. Do you just mean to say that her dad is not a lazy bum?

>>35543530
>> speaks negatively of other men
>> if he has male friends, he routinely throws them under the bus, especially when talking to a cute girl (" nah me and my friends were gonna hang out but I'm free whenever you're free!") ("nah, i love them, but they can be such embarassing faggots.")

Have a """Friend""" that does this shit and still has the nerve to say we're like family to him.

>They unironically voted for Trump "Just to make people mad"
>They refuse to better themselves
>They can't understand why workplace drama should be avoided
>They tend to instigate most workplace drama
>They can't explain why they like their hobbies, or aren't willing to at least try getting some new ones

I'm just a fucking snob when it comes to TV and film and literature. If somebody tells me their favorite movie or book is Harry Potter I instantly look down on that person

I got into a conversation with some old friends from college that drifted toward movies and this one guy said Pirates of the Caribbean was his favorite movie and I just sat their biting my tongue so I don't start off on some autistic rant about how shitty those movies are.

>>35545184
>women are only good for sex!
> they're cunts to me!

Nah, they just have your number.

>>35545198
Well, I met some nice people on this site so I'm reluctant to fall back on the " lol this site is a bunch of loser autists" meme.

But yeah, shooping cum pics is standard /b/tard procedure.

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>>35543180
I think you should able to accept her flaws and she the same, unless like she tries to murder you in your sleep or something.

>>35545199
Honestly. When someone likes me it's like, 0/10, pleb taste, kys faggot.

>>35545184
> being this unaware of yourself

>>35545255
Fuck that guy.

Not even "bros before hoes", just basic fucking decency.

>>35545257
Well why should you explain your hobby? You like something or you don't.

>>35545281
Same.

>>35545290
> bubblethreads
> shopping cum
Good times.

>>35545290
Literally the ONLY way you can prove my comment about women being only for sex, is by telling me something you can offer, as a friend, that a regular male friend can't offer and for cheaper, without me having to fork over shitloads of money.

>>35543513
You realise that jews unironically consider gentiles inferior and akin to cattle. It isnt even a hidden fact. If you touch a hasidic or very orthodox jew they have to go and wash themselves in sanctified water (i have always wanted to meet a hasidic jew and poke him because of this). They are encouraged to lie to gentiles if it furthers the cause of the jewry because a lie told to a gentile is not a sin as gentiles are not of god. Some orthodox jewish circles will literally excommunicate your from their society if you sell property or other assets to a gentile.

Now, i imagine most modern jews arent really aware of this or dont take action upon it. However, this is their scripture and they cannot be trusted as a result of it. Its analogous to taquiyya in islam.

>>35545281
If I met you I'd start talking about Dostoyevsky, Thomas Mann or Stephen King just to trigger your /lit/ autism.

>>35543530
All reasonable but
>lowkey
That's my red flag. Speak normally and not like a lowlife.

>>35545400
I like Dostoevsky quite a bit though. I prefer Gogol and Tolstoy though.

>>35545255
Tell me more, anon.

(Stop being friends with that creep)

>>35545281
I try not to be this way but I am.

I don't even care if someone shares my taste since I know it's niche, but I just hate people with boring, unoriginal taste. I hate when someone tells me their favourite movie and you can guess the rest of their interests.

>>35545352
Here's the thing dude, you're so crippled by your resentment towards women that no matter what I said you'd insist that it wasn't good enough.

I know I'm a good friend because my male friends who have (1) gotten married, (2) have girlfriends, (3) are gay, (4) have said they weren't into me, and (5) knew I was gay still hang out with me.

Normally I'd say I'm sorry your perspetive of human relationships is so cynical, but you honestly sound like an over-emotional cunt clinging to sweeping narratives which resolve your self esteem. That puts put in league with SJWs and fundamentalists.

>>35545351

>Friends birthday was coming up, we we're gonna go out and have dinner and chill for a bit.
>"You're still comin with us tonight right?"
>"Nah man I can't, I got practice with this cute girl"
>It's some random bitch who keeps orbitting him and has already rejected him a few times.

Nigga would rather get orbited than fucking come have dinner with the people he calls family.

>>35543357
What's wrong with music and vidya? I do that shit all the time. Or some ask vidya like runescape and tv

>>35545471
Yet you still fail to provide a sufficient enough response.

Instead of pity-responding, maybe you could stand against my point and provide a valid one to counter it.

>>35543530
>she says lowkey

>>35545471

He's like a /r9k/ caricature, except any of you faggos would probably value friendship more than this nig nog does.

>constantly looking for pity cause he used to be middle class but now's a poorfag like most of us
>he's older than us by a couple of years, still act's like finding a job and working is a huge responsibility and not just how life works
>brags about working like we don't all have jobs, despite this is still broke 24/7
>like legit never has money for anything ever, but then mentions how he spent money on some dumb shit
>brags a lot about random shit, like he's constantly in a dick measuring contest with everyone around him
>when one of us does some stupid shit and we all laugh at him he goes the extra mile to put on a very exagerated cringe and SIGH very loudly

I could go on for days, he's a very good person but he's also got a lot of things I hate

>>35545487
What the fuck.

Like, if he wants to see her, he could have invited her to the get together. He shouldn't be ashamed of his friends or his potential love interest.

Here's mine:
> friends with dude since high school
> he's obsessed with this bitch who constantly uses him for money and deliberately sabotaged his one healthy romantic relationship because he wasn't being her orbiter
> she wants to go to an anime convention
> he makes her a fully articulated weapon from the vidya
> she doesn't finish the costume
> he pays for her travel, hotel, food, posters, entrance, etc.
> she fucks other guys on the trip
> he keeps buying her things

A couple months later,
> a mutual friend wants to visit us from Alaska for his birthday, can't make the air and bus fare
> I try to lend him all I have, but I can't make it
> ask for the remaining ~50 bucks from friend
> he says no

And then another friend who barely knew Alaska bro helped out.

>>35545470
> tolstoy
My nigga.

>>35545627
gotta add some more shit cause god damn.

>extremely competitive over everything.
>gets really subtly pissed when he loses whatever "competition" we have
>still thinks drinking alcohol makes him "cool"
>wastes good beer by shotguning it like a 20 year old frat boy

>>35545531
> gave you literally five pieces of evidence

Listen, dude, I'm really sorry Chad fucked her throat in a Denny's parking lot, really.

>>35545627
> acting like a job is a huge deal

It's sort of like an ethical Dunning-Kruger. People who think the bare minimums of adulthood are these ardous tasks are just revealing their immaturity.

My mom does the bragging thing all the time. She constantly begs me for money ( fellow poorfag here) but if i suggest mildly that something's out of her price range she buys it. If i were more manipulative, I could have worked her credit cards to my advantage years ago.

Sorry I said to toss him anon, I trust you when you say he's normally decent, but this guy sounds really immature for someone who's older than you.

>>35545339
Red flags aren't "flaws", they're signs that the person's fucked and they're probably going to fuck you.

Relationship red flags are the social/emotional equivalent of meeting someone that likes to bash puppy heads in with rocks.

>>35545710
Let me guess, he's the sort of guy to kill anything fun by making it a super intense competition when he's winning, but the moment you one up him and brag a little he tells you to " calm down, dude".

Jeez, anon, you're more patient than me.

>>35545754
I requested THINGS a woman can do as well as a man can.

>>35545772
This. Like not all red flags are necessarily bad things of themselves.

Like someone with dyed hair might be really nice, but it's usually a sign that they're going to tell you that only POC can make white jokes because whites who do it are distancing themselves from racial oppression or some shit.

It's like fedoras. Person could be totally fine, but it usually indicates someone who masturbates to K-On while listening to Sunset Mission.

It's about the average.

>>35545808
Which I addressed before.

If I say I'm smart, you'll insist I'm not. If I say I'm funny, you'll quote Hitchens at me. If I say I have similar hobbies to my friend, you'll say that women only enjoy the affectations of a hobby to appeal to men.

There's no way to objevtively prove anything to you, and even if I did, there's a good chance you wouldn't accept it. You're a dime a dozen, anon, and I've had this conversation before.

>>35545802
Yes, very much yes. He'll turn digging holes in sand into an honorable duel for the hand of the fair maiden in his fucking head and tear his arms out digging. He won't quite realize it's just a fucking hole in the ground and there is no fair maiden until after everyone ignores his hole and keep digging their own.

>>35545987
Yeah, he sounds super insecure. I feel a little sorry for him. How big is the age gap between you/your other friends and him? Are you and your friends making any positive changes in your lives? What about him?