>One chance at life >Is afraid of getting temporary embarrassed

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>>35347122
>life is finite
>wants to waste it trying to get a relationship that'll end either with a break up or a death

explain your logic normalfag

>>35347122
Temporary embarrassment can become permanent status damage. It also becomes permanent self hatred.

Its somewhat irrational but whatever?

>>35347122
You can't control your mind or how you feel idiot. If you find yourself unable to engage or fit in the fear of failure can put you in a position where trying and failing becomes worse than your current position. and without the right type of help it's near impossible to escape a mental prison of your own design.

This realization actually hit me hard today. I have no real interest in living anymore, so I might as well just fucking swing some hail Marys out into the world and see what happens. Fuck it. No more fear of rejection, no more fear of embarrassment. Just fuck it. No fear anymore. I've spent my whole life cowering in a corner afraid of other people because I feel inferior. No more of that shit

>>35347122
But it's scary to try

>>35347122
Embarrassment has nothing to do with it. I stopped taking to women because I realized being in a relationship is not worth the "benefits" I get. Sex? It's easier(and feels about the same/better) to just fuck an onahole and watch porn. I'd understand if someone did it for companionship but I don't need that since I have like 8 very close friends. Not everyone is the dating type, that doesn't neccecarily mean they're a negative person/defeatist. Thinking everyone needs to be dating someone is what teenage girls do.

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>>35347122
With all the women bitching about the creeps that approach / talk to them. I'm doing them a favor by not engaging.

>>35347122
All the instances of temporary embarrassment have added up and have resulted in me having permanently low self-confidence. Because of low self-confidence, I no longer have the motivation to try anything because I'm convinced I will be mediocre at best, and fail horribly at worst.

>>35347160
>>35347162
>>35347162

But you can control your mind. You put pussy on a pedestal

>>35347404
I don't because I'm gay, but I spent about 8 years in the mindset of most robots because I was a broken person who had no social interaction outside of one close friend(who was also a spaz). I got help, eventually but it's not so easy as just "just be better lmao" you stupid normalfag.

>>35347404
I don't think about women much at all. Only in the abstract. I don't put pussy on a pedastal, i just remain silent often.

>>35347404
>But you can control your mind.
Do you know how difficult it is to change what you like/hate/fear? Especially when you have no external motivation. Unless you go through cbt (lol) or some other shock treatment or drugs chances are you won't change. Just control your mind breh. Fuck off.

>>35347122
>One chance at life
>Is afraid of getting temporary embarrassed so much that they quit trying

What would you do if you were in the shoes of an underachiever who got shamed, beaten, battered, mocked so much he can't properly function ?
What would you do if you were perfectly concious about your situation yet couldn't even begin to fix it ?
What would you do if failing was so normal to you, you wouldn't actually understand the concept of winning something, to the point a paycheck makes no sense to you ?

Seriously you have no idea how most of /r9k/ would like to be alive.
The point is these people just can't. They are trapped into a void.

>>35348435
>bro you just gotta like put yourself out there.
> Don't you see that you can control your mind?
>Just be yourself

It's pretty bad that they don't even give detailed and concrete advice. It's the same bullshit generalities about asking out 100 chicks because it's a numbers game or going to the gym when you already struggle getting out of bed. But that can be forgiven.

The worst part is the complete lack of empathy. They assume that just because they are able to do it that others should be able to do so and if you can't then you're simply lazy.
>You should be grateful for being born.
>How can you complain when there are people who are being tortured and starving right now.
And once they resort to these types of responses, you know 100% that the discussion is over. That they are not interested in helping (no one asked for their help desu), they just want to boost their egos.

>Do something
>Regret it
>Don't do it again

That's my logic

>>35347122
this statement is too real

>>35347122
>>Is afraid of getting temporary embarrassed so much that they quit trying
A complete and accurate description of my life.

I have just too much anxiety about everything.

>>35347122
I'm afraid that if I get a gf I'll have to justify my life choices.
I don't want to have to answer to anyone why I get bad grades or play too many video games and watch anime.
I don't need another person telling me how useless I am, I already do that.

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>>35347361
>Tfw listening to radio head - creep

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>>35347404
YOU CANT CONTROL MENTAL ILLNESS YOU FUCKING CUNT

>>35347193
*blocks your path*
nice bluster kid, back to your mommy now.

>>35350654
I feel you anon, sad part is I dont tell myself im usless
I just dont give a fuck
Aplha AF

>>35350654
>I'm afraid that if I get a gf I'll have to justify my life choices.
a gf shouldn't be your mother afaia

>>35347122
my dad wasn't around

>>35347122
The idea of publicly failing is so utterly horrifying to me the very notion of it purterbs me. I have never dealt well with failure and have always done my best to avoid it. As an example, if i want to learn something i will always self teach before going to classes and will try to know everything before they teach it to me because the idea of publicly not knowing something or being wrong is too embarrassing.
Doing something even minorly wrong can put me in a bad mood for weeks. I was crossing the road at a point without a crossing when a car came speeding past and beeped its horn at me. There wasnt really anyone else around to see but this put me in such a bad mood i went home and didnt leave my house for 2 days following it. Since then (over a month ago) i havent gone near that road and i changed my commute in order to avoid it adding about 15 minutes to my journey just because i dont want to be reminded of that. Arguably, i wasnt even in the wrong since it was a 20mph zone and they were certainly going faster than that but it was so embarrassing to me.
If i avoid trying then i avoid failing. Even if the chance of failure is only 0.01 i would rather avoid it entirely than risk the shame.
Another event was cookery classes. I wanted to learn how to bake bread so i began self teaching and became reasonably able to make bread so i signed up for classes with the hopes of getting even better. During the 3rd class we were expected to make sourdough which i had never made before; my bread did not rise properly. In spite of the fact that nobody else's did either i felt awful. I remember physically shaking and ended up leaving almost immediately after that. I had paid for 2 more classes but would never and did not attend them. I have also not cooked bread and rarely even eat it since this event which was over a year ago now.

>>35351142
iktf

I am so beta i literally start shaking once I leave my house
small barely visible muscle cramps and sweat af

>>35351142
>>35351729
I can top both of you, fellow anons: I gave up a once in a lifetime chance to hold down a comfy and decent paying job because I feared failing and the following embarrassment. It was so bad that I broke a promise with my boss so he was really short-handed from my sudden quitting. He sent two emails begging me to come back and to help me out with my issues; I still declined.
Now I'm a perma-neet, and my former boss probably hates me, and hey, I do too.

>>35347193
Every time I have been in that position, I have started acting more spontaneous around people for a day or two. Everyone just looks at me with disgust and I realize that I am getting LITTERALLY nothing from doing it.
Is it better to think you could have had a decent life without having one or to be hyper aware of how fundamentally flawed you are?

Pearly penile papules you fucking cunt
I'd rather avoid embarrassing myself when my dick looks like something Lovecraft would write about

>>35347122
>Explain your logic robots
There is none, phobias are irrational

>>35347122
>Is afraid of getting temporary embarrassed so much that they quit trying
It's not that. It's the countless failures and the sadness and regret which they have caused which made me give up. I can't really bear to suffer that much more failures since I fear that would do me in for good.

>>35352716
You tried not jacking your meat so much so they go down?
t. A quick google search

>>35353903
>implying that's what it takes
I'd like to see the source of that google search

>one chance at life
>voluntarily spend it taking risks and getting hurt for literally no reason at all rather than just staying indoors and browsing 4chan all day
Explain your logic, normies. It's almost like you don't like being /comfy./

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>>35347122
Oh I've tried, and I've had a taste of the normie life. It really wasn't all that so I went back to being an autistic fuckwad.

>>35352716
>Pearly penile papules you fucking cunt
I have them too and I don't care. It's neither rare nor bad for anyone's health. If a girl ever taunts you about them, laugh in her face and joke how she has never seen a penis in real life.

>>35353903
>You tried not jacking your meat so much so they go down?
A truly brilliant internet advice, anon.

>>35354344
But mine are pretty visible and on the underside of my frenulum too so it looks like a fucking disease.

>>35353903
t. gullible retard
theyre an extremely common affliction actually. Im glad i dont have them but they arent caused by wanking.

>>35354402
Remember that self-confidence makes a lot of your image in the eyes of others. I know this is a "b urself" tier advice, but it's really what it boils down to. Don't let it bring you down, it's not your fault that you got them.

>>35347122
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>>35354556
im sorry, this is just unintelligible
skcu? skucs? cusks? cucks?
what the fuck? Ive more chance with arabic.