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Ok, I have a philosophy + romance question.
I'm the kind of guy that likes to do nice things for girls. In my mind, I figure if I get a prospective mate cute clothes, a new blanket, games on Steam, whatever, that this might ingratiate myself with them. I know you can't buy love, but I feel like it should set me apart from all the cheap chads that just want to shoot & scoot.
However.
It's come to my attention that this is not how the female brain works. The more work the woman puts into the relationship, the more she loves the man.
Thus the theory goes that if you want a girl to love you, you get HER to do shit for YOU. You give her tasks. You ask for favors. You make her expend energy for you.
This makes her start to think that in some way it's her job to take care of you. Any guy can get her gifts. Any guy can take her shopping. But she's the only person that can take care of YOU.
This is evident as a trope in all Japanese media. The man rarely does nice things for the girl, instead creating situations where the girl has to do things for him - leading to the woman inevitably falling for him.
What do you think of all this?
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A woman won't do shit if she has the choice. Women have typically raised kids throughout history, and that's been their job. Now we have all this female empowerment bullshit, and they think they're the fucking golden calf.
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>Thus the theory goes that if you want a girl to love you, you get HER to do shit for YOU.
This is a trick, she'll dump you for doing this
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>>34917359
its all about power, you need to be nice to her , flirt whatever but never show your whole hand, hold back any true expression of attraction or interest
be desirable to the woman but dont express any desire towards her, this will drive her mad, then you can make her work towards any affection from you
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>>34917359
The problem with this is that a woman's mindset is set long before she met you. If she grew up in a household where the mother did that kind of stuff for her husband, she's more than likely willing to do it for you. But if she didn't, good luck.
Japanese society is still pretty patriarchal so it works over there.
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>>34917558
Then how come women gravitate towards cocky asshole control freaks?
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>>34917359
she'd look good with a BBC in her
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Getting gifts from people makes me uncomfortable
If someone kept trying to buy my affection I would assume there's something wrong with them and they can't make friends otherwise
I am a man though
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>>34917721
Kari was always too good for porn.
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>>34917359
I think people should forget the gender and do what feels right in their heart and mind whether they are male or female. Forget "oh I'll do this as it makes me more manly" or "oh I can't text him again as he will think I like him more" JUST LIVE HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE REGARDLESS OF GENDER. Each person is different and each relationship is different. BE YOU.
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>>34917359
If a random person bought you some clothes, Steam games, and a blanket, would you fall in love? These are all nice things to do for someone but a romantic relationship cannot, other than disingenuously, be based on buying gifts.
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>>34918785
>BE YOU
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>>34917359
Yes it's called the Benjamin Franklin effect
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Franklin_effect
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>>34918839
I would not fall in love, I'm pretty sure no one could. There might be people that claim to be in love because someone has showered them with gifts and this has clouded their way of thinking. I would also not accept such things from a random person.
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>>34918839
Funny enough the only people I've heard of who start to "love" someone after said person gives them shit were sociopaths.
It makes sense if ya think about it.
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