>girl acts nicely toward you >instantly fall in love with

I'm completely against weed, but I'd actually suggest that you smoke some.

>>34761296
Tried it. Only makes me paranoid and turns my memory into that of a gold fish. Rather not do it again

>>34760966
I unironically do the same thing

Not trolling

>>34760966
This is why I simply try to avoid girls at all cost. Everytime one tries to talk to me I just ignore her until she leaves I have no time and energy for this shit anymore. I'll die a virgin but at least I wont have to deal with this shit.

>>34760966
>man acts nicely toward you
>ghost him

>man acts cruelly toward you
>ghost him

I'm the same way man. Fucked up a lot of potential relationships.

I'm also the same exact way on the weed thing too. Fuck weed, I really don't understand how people like it let alone like it enough to smoke tons daily. It did nothing but make me feel like shit physically and mentally.

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>>34761345
>tfw memory of a goldfish normally
i also do pretty much exactly what you described

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOe_Y_JjjB0

Pretty sure all men who lack experience with women and can't see their inherent flaws do this

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>>34761762

I know right? Its like if anyone thinks about you at all you must cling to them. Funnily enough a lot of the people do both at the same time.

>work with a girl
>become attracted to her

same

>start acting cold toward her
>push her away and cut off all contact

cuts deep, man. especially when she throws line like "what happened the the sweet anon?" at you.

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>>34760966
>>34762337
This happened with three different girls at work to me and they all turned out to have boyfriends. Funnily enough it was the one who was the least friendly and interested in me (relatively speaking) that I fell hard for. I actually started to consider pursuing the other two as a backup plan until I found out they also had boyfriends so now I'm free to obsess hopelessly over my oneitis.

Happened to me too but then I started talking to her again after 6 months. Turns out she felt the same way about me.

>>34760966
>tfw something similar happened but with a different ending
>girl acts nicely toward you
>instantly fall in love with her
>start fantasizing about a future together
>project all the traits you desire in a perfect partner on to her
>build up your fantasy to an unrealistic standard
>self insecurities begin seeping in
>she's a lesbian
probably would've done the same thing as you if the ending wasn't different

>>34760966
Saem (literally)

>>34760966
It's for the best anon. She'd hurt you eventually. Everyone does. You were hurt one too many times, no need to get hurt again. Focus on yourself, love yourself because nobody else ever truly can.

Ted Mosby syndrome

>>34760966
>girl acts nicely toward me
>instantly fall in love with her
>start fantasizing about a future together
>she matches a lot of traits I like (watches anime, cooks, hates social media and big events, etc)
>build up my fantasy to an unrealistic standard
>eventually man up and talk to her more and ask her out
"O-oh anon, you're a great guy but I shouldn't date anyone, I'm really no good for relationships"
>stop contacting her, she stops talking to me
>two years later she's still never had a boyfriend and only has one friend, still has no social media accounts whatsoever
What did she mean by this?

>>34760966

I did that with my 3D waifu.

The feels came crashing down on me a week after I dropped her to stop the stupid thoughts.

>>34764005
She wanted Chad but Chad doesn't want her

>>34764005
try harder, be there for her. tell her you'll put up with her behavior because she's worth it if you really believe that. She's damaged I think in her own way and has closed herself so that she don't get hurt again.

>>34762735
grab the chance anon. don't let her go away. best of luck! :)

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>>34764005

It could be several different things.

>She's gay
>She's asexual
>She is a super mega turbo loner and hates being around other people
>She wants a Chad but has trouble getting one
>She's very shy and insecure
>Something bad happened to her and she's afraid to get close to other people

I'd say that her being a loner is the most likely one, from what you said.

>>34764084
Probably true.

>>34764137
The chances just seem too high that she didn't really like me and was trying to reject me nicely. I haven't spoken to her in over a year and I'm not about to go crawling back, even if she genuinely liked me that would seem way too desperate.

And this is kinda embarrassing but six months after she turned me down she saw me at college and texted me. Eventually asked to meet for lunch. We went and talked for a few hours then left. I never contacted after and neither did she. Maybe I should have but I just didn't get a vibe that she liked me, it felt more like she was trying to put her own conscience to rest over rejecting me.

>>34764271
Her friend actually is a lesbian, perhaps she is waiting for the Stacy rather than waiting for a chad.

She's really not a loner, has dozens of acquaintances and during high school almost everyone knew her but she told me she doesn't get close to people and that seemed true, never saw her outside of school with anyone but her one friend.

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>>34760966
>Meet a girl
>She likes me
>I start liking her
>I Have some kinda of 'fear of changing'
>Push her away with lies
>She has a BF now
>Miss her everyday

>>34762267
Jesus man. That made me cry. Fuck you.

>>34765101
I was about to call you a bitch but 2:00 got me.

>>34760966
I'm exactly like this. I think a lot of insecure guys are like that, normies and robots alike. At least we know it, we know the flaws we keep on making, so there's some kind of hope...as long as we don't stop trying.

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>find out qt at work has a boyfriend
>tfw actually stop caring about her

This is a good and liberating feeling

>>34765235
Lol what about it got you?

>>34765629
>>find out qt at work has a boyfriend
>>tfw actually stop caring about her
This usually works for me but it just made me more obsessed when it came to my oneitis. I don't know why my brain is making me cuck myself like this.

>identify male as a representative of ever regrettable aspect of your personality or terrible indulgence you partake in
>begin to dedicate 30% of your waking life fantasizing about running to him and becoming the worst most decadent version of yourself
W H Y
Why would my own mind actively try to destroy my life? Why are these thoughts so pleasurable?
This is almost evidence of there being an actual devil.

>>34765744
You what m8? You what m8 wot?

>girl acts nicely toward you

stopped reading there. get the fuck off this board

>>34765629
>find out qt has a boyfriend
>actually stop caring about her
Happened to me too before. I think it's because used goods disgust me so much.

>>34765791
I believe what we have here is an actual female. Their brains aren't fully developed like a male's brain so they have a very hard time writing their thoughts down coherently.

This is how it goes for me.

>girl acts nicely toward me
>go home and masturbate to pics of her on social media
>stop caring about her completely

seems like you need to jerk off.

>>34765920
I'm not sixteen that shit doesn't work for me anymore.

>>34766170
I was about to reply almost exactly this, kek.

>>34764005
Same here, although I never fell in love, I just liked her and I told her how I felt. She made up shit like she doesn't want to hurt me, she is toxic, Im leaving for boot camp. Yada yada, I got sad and angry, but next week, she pissed me off and shit. Next day she was crying on the phone asking if we ever were going to talk again. I talk to her a few days later, and I invite her to a party. All shit man. I do like her, I genuinely did. But after hearing more about her, I'm mixed. And I feel like the only reason I talk to her is to try to clean my conscious. Just let it be man, work on yourself and you'll find her in a different body.

>girl acts nicely toward you
>look her up on social media
>see picture of her with literally any guy
>insecurity kicks into overdrive
>assume that you have no chance if there's even a shred of competition from other guys
>give up completely
Every time boys, every time.

>>34760966
haha I'm the same way my dude

>>34762752
there's more lesbians nowadays than there ever has been

let it be known that you can change their minds

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>>34760966
This can get worse, anon.
>she actually does display the traits of a perfect partner
>she actuall does act interested toward you
>think that this is impossible and I'm just imagining things, she's probably not interested
>keep falling for her even harder though
>eventually decide that maybe I should just confront her about it
>literally the day before discover she very recenty got a boyfriend and he's a total fucking Chad
>my heart shatters I literally got ill because of this
>she gradually becomes further from you but she never mentions him
>at some point she casually mentions that she was actually into me

I can't fucking make it, can I?
On the plus side I got an interesting match on tinder. It's a girl, nothing much really but she's kinda cute and god she's so polite to me it's insane. I've never seen a girl this polite and respectful there.

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>>34764084
This is the most correct. I actually know at least two girls who did the exact same thing and they actually eventually did get a Chad bf but one that is older and no longer fucking all the girls in proximity.

>>34766585
How new are you here, mate?

>>34760966
If you're that insecure about your life, get off your ass and fix it. There are plenty of decent paying jobs out there that require no experience. They aren't pretty, but you can make a living. Fix your ugly body with excercise. You don't even need a gym, just cardio and bodyweight will do you fine. Get a haircut. Put yourself in more social situations.

>>34766675
>Fix your ugly body with excercise.

>brb getting better face by exercising
>brb getting bigger bones and wider clavicle
>brb getting larger penis

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>>34766460
>tfw got to kiss two lesbians at different instances of my life
>Both had perfect personalities
>Later on they act all insecure and cut contact with me because muh sexuality

I always get mad at the it's better to have never loved than to have loved and lost meme but this shit destroyed me hard

I'd rather had stayed away from them or had got rejected instead of building up for nothing
Also posting thread ost:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SJoS1LcPSM

>>34766554
I honestly would not push it mate, but if i were in your place i'd do it just because i'm retarded as fuck, even if my brain knows it's a terrible idea

How's tinder for an average guy? I tried it for two days and kind of got disgusted at the thought of just flipping people off because of their appeareance

>>34766716
sorry, we aren't all perfect. Fix what you can and you'll be better off than most skinnyfat losers.

>>34766777

Not good enough when the majority of women are comparing you to the Chads that fucked and dumped them in high school and college.
If you have low potential, exercise doesn't help much.

>>34766769
>I honestly would not push it mate, but if i were in your place i'd do it just because i'm retarded as fuck, even if my brain knows it's a terrible idea
What are you talking about here?

>How's tinder for an average guy? I tried it for two days and kind of got disgusted at the thought of just flipping people off because of their appeareance
It's alright. You'll get a few matches, most will be girls unwilling to talk much but there are some you might connect with. The good thing is that you know that those girls are at least remotely interested in you so it's much easier to talk to them. Also it's a fantastic practice at talking to girls, even better if you actually meet them in person. First few dates may be meh but eventually you'll stop being scared of girls or dates and start having fun. Don't expect to fuck a lot though.

>>34766861
>what those strangers are doing privately on their own is affecting my mental health
Yeesh.

>>34766884
I was talking about you talking to the girl who's dating chad now

Unless you are really attached to her and you need to do it before being able to forget about it I'd strongly advice against it

>>34766965
>I was talking about you talking to the girl who's dating chad now
I won't do that. There's no point now. I think she knows I was interested in her. I'm already on my withdrawal from her. I liked her and she felt like that one in the million but there's just no way this could work now. Even if he dumps her, I'd still be at best just a rebound and that's really pretty terrible to be honest.

It only makes my heart sink to think that there's always gonna be a Chad who's better than me at everything and he's always gonna snatch the girl I'm after, no matter what girl. She was never really the instagram 10/10 slut type.

>>34766460
idk man I've been doing some basic things to try to sway her
>talking to her constantly
>hitting on her in a casual sense
>inviting her to hang out with some of my other friends
she hasn't even given a sense that she likes me in a more than friendly way...

>>34767009
I'm not sure if i can help you with those feels because it's a feel i'm way too familiar with, i guess we have to bear with it

I guess that what keeps me going is that maybe there's a girl that thinks like me, one who does not see people as more or less compared to each other, one who is not actively thinking "I could be doing better than dating this guy", i know it might be naive but if i stop believing that i'd be even more miserable than i am now

You can also stop giving a shit about looks/personality and go full economic chad like philip price: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BmvddRFokbs

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>>34760966
>Forced into group in college class
>"Introduce yourself to each other"
>Hear a bit about some girl who says she primarily watches anime and wants to live in Japan
>Think about a relationship with her
>Think about her personality and life
>Think about how a relationship wouldn't work
>Think about how much of a disgusting, ugly, loser, asocial, antisocial retard I am
>think about killing myself
>have OCD so "Nobody will ever love you" repeats over in my head
>On the verge of tears
>I want to go back to the ward
>I don't want to live with this

>>34761697
This. It's especially hard when a girl seems interested in me.
I just imagine she's found porn on my computer after I've gone through and deleted the scattered images I've saved over the years.
Then a she breaks up with me in my day dream.

>meet girl in class or whatever
>have some kind of positive interaction
>start doing the whole fantasizing thing, you all know the drill
>somehow without you ever mentioning it other people pick up on it and constantly break your balls about it

I'm starting to legitimately believe that people are reading my fucking mind

>>34760966
>tfw she was stone cold lying in this webm

>>34760966
that's called neurotic

>>34761296
NO it makes this thought pattern twice as bad you idiot

>>34760966
who is this C-men D-mon?

>>34760966
it's amber heard and some movie isnt it

>>34766170
>no fucking idea how to aproach to a girl and get a fucking gf
>calls others inmature

>>34760966
iktf senpai

Try looking up AvPD, you might have it. Although I wouldn't self-diagnose.

>>34769331
Youre probably obvious and creepy

Stop.

>>34769331
Social cues anon, you're not a very guarded person. go learn some body language, watch videos, read scientitic journals ect ect

>>34769331
Maybe they spoted you looking at her to much

>>34769525
>>34769527
>>34769581
This isn't a one time thing, it's been happening for like 10 years, the last few of which I've intentionally stopped displaying any body language or facial expressions as much as possible to avoid shit like this and it still happens without fail

>>34769679
>trying
If you have to try, you're not "doing"

My guess is that you're an easy read. Your expressions, demeanor and posture all sub conciously reveal what your trying to conceal.
You're like an anti-actor.
Like tommy wisseau

>>34769679
To elaborate, it's even happened where people will start giving me shit before I even develop any abnormal thoughts about the person in question, at least once before I even became aware of her existence

Pretty spooky desu

>compare all the girls in your social circle
>prefer one of them
>she happens to be the one to be interested in me
>I go into cognitive dissonance and disbelief-mode because what are the chances, that can't actually happen in real life
>autistically fail to respond to flirts for months
>still have the V card and also the non-handheld card apart from arranged pair dancing that was part of school curriculum

This happened to me twice in my teens and those "missed out on teen love" threads are fucking killing me

>>34769724
Spooky indeed, stop letting other people determine your thoughts you sponge-minded fuck.

>>34760966
What if
>talk to NEET girl from r9k every day
>she used to say shit like "she's gonna fall in love with me" after talking on skype for the first time
>asked for a picture of me after about 10 minutes of talking, told her I would take one the next day
>next day tells me she doesn't want to see what I look like
>says it's because she doesn't want to "get hurt again"
>sends me cute pictures of herself
>very clingy always wants me to talk to her
>says she wants me to give her attention but she always just wants to listen when we talk
>start to actually like her, but now she just wants me as a voice
>fantasize about being with her but I know she doesn't want to meet
>still messages me a lot and demands skype calls
>asks me to send her pictures of certain body parts
>sends me gif of a girl being treated like a pet and says she wants that

What's going on here? I can't wrap my head around this, why would she unironically want to talk to me all the time? I'm talking most of the time so she's not even venting or anything. I know for a fact I'm not that interesting. Also why am I getting these mixed signals of "don't want to see what you look like" and "send me a pic of your eyes, legs eyebrows etc"?
I thought she was gonna ghost me after she realized how boring I was but it hasn't happened yet.

>>34769708
I'd believe this except that I've been told by multiple people that I'm very difficult to read

Maybe I just fried my brain too much with drugs and I'm imagining shit that isn't actually happening

>>34762586
Similar things here.
Give enough time and I can quite reliably know if girl has a bf even if she has not mentioned him even indirectly.
Reason why I do not bother asking, at least it cuts the possible
>sorry but I do have a boyfriend
>oh... then, well uhhm, right...
awkwardness.
So for it to happen it'd have to be girl asking me but that is not gonna happen ever so whatever.