tfw I have literally given up trying to trying to fix my Avoidant

OMG ARE YOU GOING TO BE OK

STAY STRONG

POOR YOU

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>>34624280
It takes work. Everything in life takes work. If you really think there's nothing you can do to change, I don't believe you. There is always something. People have been living life for millions of years. Stop being a pussy. You're not special. Get out and bust your ass into gear.

>>34624360
already tried , didnt work

>>34624280
kind of sort of fixed mine at age 26

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>>34624308
tfw im not autistic enough to not see the sarcasm in this post

you're fucking weak

man up or off yourself

eat 1800 calories a day, buy a 30 dollar pull up bar, buy nicer clothes, stop jacking off

boom 6 months from now you'll not be fat, you'll be confident, and you'll be ready

source: did exactly that and i am well on my path to become a normie

>>34625621
already lift and not fat, makes no difference for me,

>>34625652
you didnt address the other two points

>avoidant personality disorder

you made that up didnt you?

>>34625710
but no fap is a meme? isnt it

>>34625710
he doesnt need to, youve proven youre just spouting random normie advice

>>34625727
your brain gets conditioned to thinking huma contact = emotional pain, even physical pain

if you cant see how thats plausible, you dont really know much about the subject.

>>34625741
and avoidant personality disorder isnt? the mind is powerful, set a BS broscience goal and meet it in 3 months or so and you'll be free. Look up research of placebos, it's very interesting that even when patients are told their pill is a placebo often they are effective. Think of a weakness you have, do a google search on how to fix it, click the first clickbait title "top 5 ways to stop doing x" do what they say, boom fixed.

>>34625761
i want to correct myself, rather than THINKING human contact = pain, it ASSOCIATES the two

>>34625768
placebo is literally dopamine though, so youre saying i should drink heavily

>>34625768
a lifetime of conditioning fixed in a simple google search. hmm

>>34625808
negative, if you're going to take a substance take amphetamine but only if you can stop yourself in a few months. Dude get it together. Are you ugly? Are you stupid? What is the deal and why cant you go out into the world? Why cant you talk to people. Give me a real answer and it had best be along the lines of "i was molested for the first 10 years of my life" or some shit, and even that shouldnt stop you

>>34625836
whats your problem? advicing somebody to start taking fucking amphetamines? what?

>>34625827
It is hard to believe, isnt it? Do it. Do it right now and you will blow your mind. If you convince yourself you're better, you'll be better. Many psychiatric disorders are not physical defects, just barriers the human conscious has set up. And you are strong, you can fight these by selling yourself on an idea to fix it.

>>34625853
bad advice, i agree, but dont fuckin drink. im trying to help this man, i was once in his shoes

29 here

I cured my AVPD by buying a bunch of suits and wearing them anytime I go out. Something about a suit makes you get admired and immune from social ostracism, especially if other people are in casual wear.

>>34625836
not that serious, was a very cute child became an extremely ugly teenager everyone started treating me like a subhuman reguarly called ugly by friends and family told i was jealous of people by by aunt because of how ugly i am slammed my nose with a hammer, (it didnt fix the problem, so basically i went from being loved alot as a child to being completely unloved in teenage years

>>34625866
first of all, please realise right now that youre only seeing this from one perspective; yours. you clearly dont know how it feels to be a reject that gets glared at frequently solely because of the way he acts and/or his looks.

you only have YOUR experiences to share, and to say a real mental issue (a barrier of sorts, as you said) can be fixed as easily as you're saying is simply inane. yes, the op has to work towards fixing himself, but dont tell him that his mental problems arent real and can be fixed in 3 minutes.

you dont know how it feels.

>>34625944
im a genius bud, sorry, but i have intuition and instinct that over powers any words you can type

thats a joke, yes OP if you feel you have a problem you could always go see a psychiatrist (see my post at >>34625936 )

>>34625933
you still with your family or on your own? whats your job? any education?

>>34625984
yes i still live with my family, i quit my job because i found no point in working if you're socially retarded and am constantly interrupted by painful thoughts about how much i failed and wasted my life

>>34626033
how do you live? does your family pay for everything? How smart are you? (potato->dumbass->stupid->normie->smart->genius) If you're actually slow I cant help you, but if your somewhat smart we should chat (voice preferably, discord or some shit) cuz you are literally me 2 years ago. I remember making this same exact thread with almost the same wording, im going to try to find the archive

>>34626033
hey bud, i also "quit" my job (i dont know if thats the right work. i simply started missing work for days in a row and eventually stopped going altogether) because it became very painful having to be there 9 hours a day and being completely alone while surrounded by hundreds of people. i was completely left out and was treated almost like a sub human by everybody.

alone together.

>>34626076
>>34626033
you two should become friends. exchange steam accounts and help each other out

>>34625898
Thanks reviewbrah, I'm glad I can count on you.

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>>34626109
haha, how nice of you, but i dont want to talk to anybody. im trying to change, but that doesnt involve talking to strangers, i wouldnt be comfortable with it.

>>34626165
neither would i, origijalksally

>>34626109
really tho, thanks for the help

>>34626165
Not even kidding when I say going into random teamspeak servers a few years back really helped me approach people.
Try developing a stronger personality. You have any passion? I bet theres a local club about it. That might be a bit much though. I would start with finding a new job and try being more social. Just know that everyone is way more concerned with themselves (just like you) that if you do something weird and stupid everyone you work with will forget about it the next day.
>>34626216
dude you're gonna make it, the world is yours, chin up and smile. also, stop watching porn

>>34625866
You sound like you read one too many self help books

>>34626252
nah im just really fuckin high on adderall and am cross posting on like 11 different threads right now trying to make my anonymous internet friends feel better about themselves and more hopeful

Dude, I'm the same age and I totally get it. I've given up too and I don't think anything is going to change that. My avoidance of interpersonal relationships with women is one of the strongest emotions I have - almost an identity. Every day is a struggle where I feel attraction to them, but something deep inside me refuses to have non-business reactions with them. I can't even keep track of what it is. Too many bad experiences? Lack of positive influence or affection from women? I don't even know anymore. All I know is that it's not going to happen, ever.
Oddly, it doesn't extend as bad if it's just work-related. Like I can hold down a stable job (albeit in a male-dominated industry) very well. But if you want me to open up about myself...my real personality...I shut down.
So at least I can support myself well enough. But supporting just myself is exactly what I'll be doing for the next 60-70 years.

>>34626074
>>34626033
hey guys i found my thread i made in 2014
https://desuarchive.org/r9k/thread/10114595

since then ive been laid many times, make six figures, and am currently in the best relationship of my life with the woman ill probably marry.
was 22 then and overweight, worked a shit job, lived at home, and had never even held a girls hand