Daily reminder that """BPD""" is

all women are partially bpd so get used to it

>>34548490
>BPD
BPD?

What even is BPD, really? Every definition I'd read amounts to BPD meaning someone is just unstable and unreasonable. Is that really a disease or is it just a childish and selfish personality?

>>34548519
brown poop dick

>>34548490
What about men that have it?

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>>34548536
You mean the BBC?

>>34548490

>all of the lucky souls ITT who never met a BPD

You guys are better off not knowing.

>>34548532
>Every definition I'd read amounts to BPD meaning someone is just unstable and unreasonable
Exactly, it's a meme disease. It's funny when even undiagonosed women who "think" they're BPD (you can't have it as it's not real) use it to victimize themselves and play the "B-BUT I HAVE BPD YOU CREEP" card.

>>34548532
>>34548490
Borderline Personality Disorder is diagnosed by having at least 5 of the following characteristics:

1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless
driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.

ask a BPD anything I guess.

http://www.psi.uba.ar/academica/carrerasdegrado/psicologia/sitios_catedras/practicas_profesionales/820_clinica_tr_personalidad_psicosis/material/dsm.pdf

>>34548790
>ask a BPD anything I guess.
Uhh, no thanks.

>>34548790
Every time I see things like this all I can think is fuck, that's just my ex through and through.
Her constant anger was unbearable

>>34548790
Do you have black hair? I have a good feeling you do.

>>34548790
I hate ur kind

>>34548970
No, my hair is brown. Kind of more like dishwater blonde.

>>34548935
BPD is basically what happens to kids who have controlling/manipulative or absent/negligent parents, usually mother being the former and father the latter. Dr. Jerold Kriesman and Hal Strauss have published a couple really great books on the subject.

>>34549084
My mom was like that, I turned out avoidant and incompetent.

>>34549084
I never heard much about her mother but her dad would do things like call her a whore constantly and stuff even when she's near 30

>>34549084
Dishwater brown? That is a horrible way to describe your hair.

>>34549084
How do you convince a suspected borderline to get help and see a therapist?

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>>34548490
BPD is just an excuse for childish behaviour.

The only real BPD is Bipolar Disorder. And I don't just mean typical female mood-swings. I mean Kahn, from King of the Hill, when he's off his meds.

"Borderline Personality Disorder" literally means "almost a disorder, but not really".

>>34549183
Borderlines aren't aware of what they're doing, it just happens. And if they are aware and realize there's something wrong with them, they should see a therapist otherwise they're just a shit.

why si this board obsessed with bpd women? you make this board scum fuck off to reddit

>date bpd
>give them all my love
>become what they want
>they lose interest
>ignore you
>lolok see u then
>several messages
>i-i miss you! Why are you ignoring me?!
Fucking awful but also amusing.

>>34548790
Wanna be my bpd gf?

>>34549115
BPD essentially stems from abuse, physical, sexual, or emotional. Usually one parent is the aggressor and the other is laissez-faire. Essentially what Dr. Kreisman claims is that the person who evolves into having BPD never progressed to a stage of object permanence as a child, due to an inconsistent supply of love and support. This leads them to their fear of abandonment (cannot perceive love as being present without constant confirmation) and their need for control (reckless behavior, self-harm). He also asserts that the BPD will push others away in order to speed up the rejection they are sure is already going to happen (to "get it over with already"). One last assertion is that the child who develops BPD was never allowed to naturally separate from the controlling parent and thus finds it emotionally less painful to push the responsibility for their own lives onto other people who they can them blame in case of failure, as they were never allowed to develop responsibility for themselves as children.

I bought these books so I could better understand myself and it has truly cleared up a lot about what is indeed a difficult disease.

>>34549112
Abuse affects everyone differently. I think women are more likely to develop BPD and men APD because of the inherent traits and societal pressures of each, but there are men with BPD and women with APD.

>>34549284
I try to make other robots aware about "bpd girls" in order to avoid contact with them.

>>34549377
it truly says more about you than them

I'll give you a story about what happened to me two years ago with a friend, it's very real. (He's male, I'm male, not gay, just so you don't start babbling female female female again)

>is a friend of a friend
>he hits me up online, wants to be my friend
>we start talking everyday
>both just started college
>both really isolated, maybe have two friends
>is really enthusiastic about everything, never boring, talk about everything
>he drops out of college after 3 weeks, because his terrible depression came back and he can't connect to anybody (he's always been into cybersecurity, this will be important in a moment)
>he lets it all out on me
>I say I'll just delete him
>begs me not to
>have no other friends, so I say okay
>ffwd 3 months the same happens over and over again, he started uni again, dropped out again, is now trying to start a business
>is enthusiastic as fuck about it, literally spams me 24/7
>he wants me to be a part of it
>say ok
>now he wants me to give him lots of money, like 100k
>is starting to threaten me (has a huge gun collection
>threating to kill me and my family
>threatening to kill ky friends
>he's like a ballerina on crack, one moment he screams like a toy duck, the other he's angry or crying for no reason and saying he will bash X's head in
>threatens to kill himself all the time and starts laughing like the scariest madmen you've ever seen
>contacts my friends and parents and tells them bad things about me
>I block him everywhere
>he finds me everywhere and always get around somehow and sends me threatening messages and in the next acts like nothing happened and is all happy and sorry
>phone terror
>he still writes me to this day, nearly 3 years ago
>tells me he was in an institution and has bettered himself and is now an artist

It's real, it's dangerous. It's a serious psychiatric illness.

>>34549393
Wow really? Whatever.

>>34548790
>1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
>2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
>3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self.
>4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless
>driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
>5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.
>6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
>7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.
>8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
>9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.
Because a childish woman with no purpose in life. Its a meme disease.

>>34549150
dishwater blonde is an actual shade of hair and you can see what it looks like by googling the phrase.

>>34549154
Dr. Kreisman outlines a strategy called SET-UP:
S - Support - Honestly express your emotional support for the borderline (e.g. "I'm honestly trying to help")
E - Empathy - Express empathy for the borderline's current state (e.g. "I know the way you feel has got to be awful to deal with") (note: avoid condescending "I know how you feel" statements)
T - Truth - The most important step: establish the reality to the borderline in very plain words (e.g. "You're going to have to seek therapy if you want to start feeling better and having a more fulfilling life, and to stop pushing people away")
U - Understanding - Know that this won't always work the first time.
P - Perseverance - Keep trying until it does.

>>34549183
>"Borderline Personality Disorder" literally means "almost a disorder, but not really".
Actually, the original diagnosis of "borderline" meant "borderline psychotic," meaning the patient had some psychotic symptoms but overall neurotic behavior. The diagnosis has since changed and you'd do well to stop playing doctor on the internet.

>>34549316
No, online relationships are breeding grounds for crazy borderline behavior. I'm doing fine just being me.

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>>34549255
>tfw you can't afford or go to therapy and some things will be shit forever and you won't learn to deal with
>tfw untreated personality disorder

Now I'm sad because I couldn't help her and she's making shitty life choices still and I can't see her being happy ever in her life

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Gf has BPD. She has a folder recording every photo+video of me, all information etc. Things I said, I like. It's 350MB. Blurred it cause personal info. Also very clingy.

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>>34549777
514 files

>>34548790
matate mogolica

>>34549482
>dishwater blonde

i have this also and bf always insists "no it's just brown."
FUCK YOU, I'M A BLOND WITH BLUE EYES HITLER WILL WELCOME ME INTO HEAVEN WITH OPEN ARMS.

>>34548490
I am well aware
>tfw self diagnosed BPD gf
>she often gets super pissed and throws tantrums and I don't give a shit because she never has the balls to do anything
>recently she forced me to choose between her and my only friend, when I chose my friend, she backed down and blamed it on BPD
I fucking hate everything about her but it's this or loneliness.

>>34549989
These are the kinda posts that make me super nervous.

>>34550072
Why? These people aren't insane, they don't threaten you or hit you or anything like that. They just absolutely crave sympathy, and say they have BPD to get more sympathy, that's all. Once you figure that out, it's super easy. You don't even have to be good at pretending you feel sorry for them, they'll lap it up anyway and stop bitching. Here's some more details
>had a former mild aspergers bf who used to hit her
>brings him up at least 90% of the time we're together
>tell her how sorry you feel for her and suddenly she's content
Also
>often tells me that she thinks most people would commit suicide if they'd been through what she's been through
>often fakes illness to garner more sympathy
>talks about how its sexist when we're at a restaurant and the waiter accidentally gives her the diet coke I ordered
>claims she would've been a marine biologist if she wasn't held back by her mum being a whore, when in reality she just has shit work ethic
All they want is sympathy, and on top of that, they get super pissed when someone else might be more deserving of sympathy
>talks about how one of her ex-bf's was a huge pussy for having a tough time when his parents got divorced
>when I was ill in bed she called me fucking pathetic, says its just a cold, and talks about how her cough that she had last week was actually a "virus" and she has it so much worse than anyone else etc etc
Women are shit, but slightly preferable to loneliness

>>34550341
From the opposite end. I don't have much sympathy or fear for someone who stays with someone they hate without any responsibility or real threats interfering.

>often tells me that she thinks most people would commit suicide if they'd been through what she's been through
>often fakes illness to garner more sympathy
>talks about how its sexist when we're at a restaurant and the waiter accidentally gives her the diet coke I ordered
>claims she would've been a marine biologist if she wasn't held back by her mum being a whore, when in reality she just has shit work ethic
All they want is sympathy, and on top of that, they get super pissed when someone else might be more deserving of sympathy
>talks about how one of her ex-bf's was a huge pussy for having a tough time when his parents got divorced
>when I was ill in bed she called me fucking pathetic, says its just a cold, and talks about how her cough that she had last week was actually a "virus" and she has it so much worse than anyone else etc etc

On the other hand I don't do any of that and I doubt my bf is that pathetic, so I'm safe and happy then. In all honestly that sounds way more like typical narcissism. Did she actually get diagnosed as bpd? If so you should keep in mind it's extremely rare for therapists to let the patient know they're bpd unless they're sure they'll work to fix it or that they're a lost cause.

Borderline anon, does it bother you that there are those of us who I'll outright refuse to interact with you or others like you at an emotional level?
Been severely fucked over by BPD women as have friends of mine and now I just assume you'll all do the apexact same things because you're mostly more disorder than human

>>34550492
She's never threatened me or anything like that, she's just kinda a big pussy who talks a lot. I could leave any time I want, but I prefer this to the alternative. And no, she never got diagnosed, or made any effort to see any sort or therapist or specialist or whatever. She read about it then diagnosed herself. I'm believe that BPD is a real thing that does effect people the guy in >>34549400 sounds pretty fucked up. I was just posting because my gf is """BPD""" rather than BPD, like in the OP

>>34550610
Nope, we were never going to interact to begin with. Even if we did it's extremely unlikely we would get along or have anything but opposite interests for the most part. Honestly I literally don't talk to anyone but my bf and didn't talk to anyone outside of family before that.

And t.bh it's perfectly reasonable to not interact with people you don't want to interact with. I've had horrible experiences with every person I've met and seen who are into certain specific things for example, so I don't bother with those people. Legitimate physical or mental abuse is more than enough reason to unless you're trying to avoid all men or women. Then at the very least it's best to get help if only just for your sake.

I think I'm becoming codependent with a borderline. I'm avoidant though, I'm also kind of narcissistic but not outright. Usually ignore them when they have episodes of anger cause it makes me nervous. Also feel extreme guilt for doing so but don't show it. Very withdrawn with my emotions. I don't yet fully understand how that affects the other person but they make me feel drained when they have episodes so I avoid them until it's over then pretend it never happened.

Nothing worse than a man with BPD lmao you just act like a deranged woman

>>34551086
Avoidant here's who also became dependent on a borderline.
Get out now, they aren't dependent on you no matter how much their love bombing shut may lead them to tell you. They will just manipulate some other sap into being their emotional punching bag shortly after.
They're not people

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>Daily reminder that """ADD""" is just another meme disease that men use to get away with their bullshit/responsabilities.

>Don't fall for these misogynists, my fellow womyn. Good luck.