Advice thread, mindlessly watching streams edition. Hey /r9k/,

>>34079542
Why should or shouldn't drop out?

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>>34079542
what qualifies you as a normie?

>>34079508
Can you please help me out

>>34079570
Out of university, I assume? I dropped out the first time I tried to go, but that wasn't because of some grand plan, I just became too lazy and played video games all day instead. I'd recommend trying to stick it out, at least because you've committed to it now and going back loses you the progress you've made thus far. Up to you, desu, but that's I reckon that not dropping out is the correct move.

>>34079656
Yeah out of university in my second semester, not interested, feeling left out, no motivation

Friends, both male and female, exes, rich social life. I go out at least once a week (at least I did before exam season, and will after it), and I have various normie interests like music and films. I have other qualifications but those should suffice for now(:

>>34079650
I'd be happy try. What exactly are you asking though?

>>34079724
Should I just give up? My anxiety is hitting me highly and telling me to just give up and after being a no gfer for all my life I'm jaded to not caring anymore

>>34079684
Let me guess, you're in a university in your home town so you ended up living with your parents while going to uni? Either way, we both know that there's no real reason that makes dropping out a good idea, so if you do it you need to understand that it's because you're finding uni too difficult to regularly attend. Which is fair enough, I did the same thing, but if you can stick it out it's for the best.

How do I make friends? I've had one "friend" in the past 5 years and he moved on

>>34079542
I have literally never been attracted to a living breathing person. I have only ever been turned on by abnormal porn for as long as I can remember, and really abnormal stuff before I found any of that when I was around 12. Is there anything I can do to fix my brain and be more relatable to normal people or should I just kill myself tonight?

>>34079761
Let me just say this straight away, you almost certainly won't date this particular girl. I might not have the biggest sample size, but in my experience relationships are something that happen between friends once they get close enough, not through obsessing over a girl. How well do you know this girl? Have you talked to her before? You need to understand that if you haven't, you have no idea what she's like, and all you're doing is creating an image of herself in your mind that she can't possibly live up to.

HAVING SAID THAT, you shouldn't give up. I know it's hard to believe that you'll get a gf one day if you've never had one, but we've all felt like that at in our lives until it actually happened to us. Keep trying, do talk to this girl, because chances are even though it won't lead to anything special, she will still have a conversation with you, and you might get a rush out of it that'll motivate you to keep trying. And when it DOES fall through, hopefully you can think about what went wrong and what you can do next time to prevent that. It's a learning experience, just understand that being rejected is natural and necessary in a way.

>>34079852
What do you do? Are you in uni? Do you work? School?

>>34079872
There's more to life than sex and relationships. My best friend is a kissless virgin and his life is a lot more exciting than mine. If you're really worried about it though, maybe go talk to a doctor about it. As embarrassing as it might be to do that, keep in mind that they're there to help, not to be against you.

My older sibling is making me go with them to a fitness business convention (she believes this will help sort my life out even though I'm busy forcing myself through college) on the other side of the country and our roommates are Stacey and Chad Thundercock. I don't know how I can enjoy being at this event when I'm going to be surrounded by people I have nothing in common with in a state I didn't want to travel to

Should I go get dinner? I haven't left my apartment all day and I feel like shit but I'm starving and I want food. I'm just too lazy to get up and it might be better just to sit here and start drinking the night away, but I don't want to do that until I'm sure.

>>34080068
Also all three of them are the types that constantly make blog videos on Facebook and Instagram.

>>34080058
I've got a wagecuck job and I'm going to community college. That's about it

>>34080093
Why would you drink without eating food first

>>34080093
Order a pizza. That way you get food and can keep being lazy

>>34080068
You're in uni. You're old enough to tell her to fuck off. However, if you do end up going, I'd try to make small talk and see if they're into anything that you are. If it doesn't work out, which happens, then just grab your laptop/phone/whatever and listen to music or something when you're chilling there.

>>34080058
I'm not worried about it. I have a good job, I travel a lot, I have a close circle of friends. It just feels like my life is really unwholesome.

>>34080093
Go for it, going outside for a bit will make you feel slightly better about yourself. Worst case scenario, get some takeaway.

>>34080110
Boredom. inb4 alcoholic, I know.

>>34080118
Did that last night, and I'd do it again if I didn't always go to the same place for pizza

>>34080154
Probably will if only to get out of the house. I forgot how miserable it is not to leave. Discounting running to the store and picking up a pizza last night I haven't done anything of value in the past three days.

>>34080188
You could order chinese then

>>34080104
Well, you have TWO different ways of making friends then. I'd try talking to people at your college, maybe start a conversation about the lecture, ask what their plans are for tonight after that, and just talk for a bit. After that, the next time you see them, say hi and chat for a bit more. As for your job, what are the people there like? Have you tried talking to them?

>>34080135
That's fair enough. Go talk to a doctor or a therapist if you're feeling unfulfilled, they're meant for that sort of thing. At least give it a shot(:

>>34079965
I'm crying while typing this because I just have no hope in myself and it just sounds cliche to hear "don't give up" because it's all I hear but when I put a little effort into it i get stepped on and I'm tired of it. I appreciate the advice but we're all here because we have vices and mine is that I'm just a pathetic waste of a human who will never accomplish anything

>>34080188
Yeah, I know the feeling of doing nothing and staying in your room all day, I've done it plenty. Go outside for a bit, it really helps.

>>34080241
They're mostly older than me, like mid thirties. They kinda do their own thing

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>stacy and I are good friends, for a long time
>I am cyborg and somewhat handsome so stacy kind of likes me
>after 4 years of being friends we hook up with each other, a few drunken nights
>kinda drift our separate ways due to complications, still end up being friends
>stacy gets a bf
>hit in the feels, but I deserved it because karma
>tired of being always thinking about her, seeing her name all the time, talking to her
>delete her off everything, he phone number, her steam
>she adds me back, tells me to stop deleting her
>I deleted her again
>have to see her at university next semster
>shes is very direct
>"Why do you keep deleting me anon?"

what do I say?

I am tired of orbiting, it's kinda fucking me up when I try to talk to other girls because I am always thinking about her. She knows how I feel guess it doesn't matter tho.

>>34080282
You can give up and have no chance at all or keep trying and maybe make something for yourself. Your choice

>have pretty bad hyperhidrosis
>armpits look like I've just been through a monsoon half an hour after I put a shirt on
>tried everything available OTC, nothing helps at all
>finally get sick of it and go to a dermatologist
>get a prescription for Drysol (strong as fuck antiperspirant)
>actually works
>but the shit absolutely destroys my skin, armpits almost bloody raw with horribly painful rash
>can't decide if the pain is worth not having to be burdened with the constant embarrassment

What say you, lads?

>>34080282
Truth is, you always hear that advice because it's good advice. However, I think you might be thinking too big. You will eventually get a gf, I'm sure of that, but that might not happen for a few years and such. What might help you is having smaller girls. Don't worry about a gf and stuff, right now your goal should be to talk to a girl. When you do that, you should be proud of it, because it's a step in the right direction. Baby steps are the way to go, and that way even if you get rejected, you can think about how far you have made it this time. Good luck anon, wish you all the best.

>>34080400
I know it's a day and night comparison but I'm so lost in life right now that I just want it to end already because it's going crappy. I'll try tomorrow but all I can do right now is cry

>>34080463
I'll try but it's certainly a hard mountain to climb in my current state of mind

>>34080323
I'd go with the community college route then. Are you ok at talking to people? If you're decent enough, it shouldn't be a problem for you. If you aren't, well, you might need to practice a bit.

>>34080469
Hey I get it man I'm there too. It's not like you have to get shit done right now. Do it when you're ready

>>34080496
I can talk to people fine but I'm not outgoing at all. It's kinda been my downfall cause I just never put myself out there

>>34080328
Tell her the truth, that you're into her and that you needed some space because it hurt you to see her dating someone else. If your friend started deleting you off stuff and you didn't know why, I think you'd want to know why, so I feel like you owe her that, considering you're not losing anything by telling her that.

>>34080452
I say say that to your doctor and see if there's another treatment method. Then IF there isn't you can come back to this question.

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>>34079542
A customer who comes in often to my job asked for my number like a week ago. He was a dick about it.

>talk in conversation
>"can I have your number?"
>awkwardly don't answer and continue
>he seems sneaky
>a minute later he hands me his phone with "add contact" already open
>"....so when am I going to get your number?"
>as I do it I openly tell him I'm going to regret this and might not respond
>floods me with excessive possessive texts

The more he speaks the more I realize he's one of those charismatic manipulative psychopaths. All the conversations are him trying to convince me to go out. He said he's 100% sure he can win me over, when I asked I got all if this (pic related) I think it's schizophrenia or at least he's delusional.

>>34080492
I know, it's hard to do, I've been there too, but it's doable, and you will get it done, you just need time and effort.

>>34080607
Let him down gently. Tell him you're not interested, but say something like you're not dating right now

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>>34080607
Another picture. He said in a whole bunch of texts that since I'm shy I need someone who comes off as strong...as if he knows what I want. Then he contradicted himself and said that I only need HIM.

What do I do? If I block him I'm afraid I'll miss any death/stalking threats he'll give me. Should I just give him a chance?

>>34080545
That's fine then, you don't need to learn anything, all you need to do is keep in mind that you need to talk to others if you want to make friends, so hopefully the next time you have an opportunity, you'll remember that and feel motivated to put yourself out there and talk to people. It's not that difficult, just a matter of going a bit out of your comfort zone.

>>34080698
Thanks man. I've been trying to talk more with my coworker and noticed some improvement so I'll keep opening up

>>34080606

Talked to her and she told me to stop applying it daily and do it only a few times a week, which cleared the rash up, but then I started to sweat like a motherfucker again when I wasn't doing it every night.

Next step would be Botox, which would be expensive and shitty.

>>34080607
Block him. Fuck those guys, you can't actually date someone who manipulated his way into your life. If you DO give him a chance, you know things won't be any different, and you won't be happy with a psycho like that. If you're genuinely worried about him, mention the guy to a coworker or something, cause if multiple people know about him he has less of an incentive to do anything crazy. Don't go down this road any further, trust me on this.

>>34080729
Perfect, you're on the right track, just keep at it and you'll be golden. Good luck anon(:

>>34080733
Hmm. I'm sorry, I can't offer any meaningful advice here, it's a major decision that you need to make, not base it on something some random guy on the internet who knows nothing of your issue told you.

>>34080582
she might come after me for saying that
I had a gf for a long time...she wanted me to leave my gf for her..it's why things got complicated..I don't want to get into it...too many feels

She will say:
>"Now you know how I felt anon. It's too late, I have chad bf now. You're too skinny for me anyways."

>>34080857

Thanks for listening, lad.

I don't know what to do either.

>>34079542
nh i'm cool faggot

>>34080733
I've heard of a surgery where they remove sweat glands on certain areas. Don't know the specifics though

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>>34080811
Alright anon that's what I needed to hear, thanks. That gut feeling told me he's bad news from the beginning and to not fall for his sappy romance shit.

>>34080865
Never said that she'll come for you after you say that, but you can't have expected her to be back in your life after you tried to cut her off completely. It probs not end perfectly, but if someone truthfully pours their heart out like that to you, you at least let them down gently, you don't kick them when they're down.

>>34080885
I'd still talk to the doctor to see if there are any other solutions. If you don't want to try botox, let her know (is it her?) what your problem with it is, and try to find a middle ground with her. She's trying to help, not just check off another patient, so I reckon she'll be happy to try and help.

alright normie i need some advice

what should i do if i am completely friendless and have no social life at all, and i've been this way all 29 years that ive been alive?

I'm a recluse at my house when im not at my shitty retail job, and at my shitty retail job i dont talk to anybody, partially because thats my nature, but also because i get the distinct impression that nobody actually wants to be around me unless im doing something for them to make their job easier.

for example, at work i bust my ass to make sure the areas im over are running smoothly while my managers in those areas go sit back in the assistants office all fucking day. if they ask me to do something i come running to do it. if theres something that they dont do, i do it for them.

but they dont like treat me that well despite that. like im completely disposable. theyre not my friends, they dont talk to me outside work or add me on facebook or any other normie shit

im just a tool to them

>>34080892
Good to know m8.

>>34080913
Glad to hear it. This is more advice for girls than for guys, but you mustn't be afraid of rejecting people. My hug buddy feels horrible whenever she gets asked out and she says no, but it's not as if you can say yes to everyone, and even if you could, trust me, you wouldn't want to. People who are possessive in pursuing you will be possessive in relationships.

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I really miss this one girl I've had feelings for. We used to hang out quite a bit these past months, but have recently not done much of anything. I haven't texted her for at least two weeks, and the whole time I'm hoping she would take initiative to text me. I want to message her just asking how she's been, would that be weird? If she seems to be receptive then maybe we I'd ask her to go somewhere with me but I'm out of ideas. We've already done a lot of "date" spots like galleries or cafes. Any help, ideas, or guidance would be appreciated. I really like her but at the same time I don't know how she feels or if I should tell her how I feel.

>>34079570
I dropped out of uni on the second day of classes. I just felt overwhelmed and didn't think I could go through. I spent that year living the neet lifestyle, visiting therapists, and working when I was stable enough. I regret dropping out the first time though. I think it's important to have a well thought out plan of what you will do with all your free time if you do drop out. I'm at a different uni now and it's a bit better and less overwhelming. I'm happy to be doing something with my days, even if classes are boring and sometimes difficult.

>>34080941
>Never said that she'll come for you after you say that, but you can't have expected her to be back in your life after you tried to cut her off completely. It probs not end perfectly, but if someone truthfully pours their heart out like that to you, you at least let them down gently, you don't kick them when they're down.

true. nah better to just cut her off and never talk to her again. she'll understand..shes done it to plenty of boys...shes done it to me before even

>>34081050
Why do you care so much about things running smoothly? I feel like you're seen as almost a boss's pet that people can use as a doormat, so I'd personally try to chill out more and just become a bit more relatable to the others. They're normal people working in a shitty job, how can they relate to someone who's seemingly obsessed with it? They'll go for someone else who feels tired out and disillusioned by it, so try to take your job with a pinch of salt. I don't remember any people I wanted to talk to that really liked or cared about the job when I was working in a pub, so don't be that guy.

>>34081135
Nope, not weird at all. I enjoy getting messages from people I haven't talked to in ages and catching up. Recently I met with a friend I hadn't seen in 8 years and we had the loveliest time drinking in a pub.

As for date ideas, really depends on the person, but my standard one with peeps from Tinder was going to a bar, getting a few drinks and just talking to the person and getting to know them better, then kissing them at the end of the date. Worked most of the time for me, but, again, it depends on the person.

>>34081322
I disagree, I feel that it's unfair to just cut her off like that without at least telling her why. Besides, you'll see her next semester, so you're not fully cutting her off anyway. But it's your choice desu, you do what you feel is best.

I desperately need normie help. I met a girl in my bowling class (20 yr KHHV here) and felt an attraction I'd never felt before, so after one class, I plucked up the courage to ask her out for coffee, the first date in my life.

I thought it went great, and I even got her number and set up a date for dinner at a diner the next week. However, today, two days after the coffee date, she barely said a word to me in bowling, and quickly walked away from me whenever I tried to talk.

What the hell happened? Did I mess up?

>>34081527
Is the next date set up already? While it's possible that she got a horrible impression, maybe she's just shy, so I'd personally just wait it out until the next date and see where you stand then. The main thing is to not overthink it - if the date goes well, that's cool, if it doesn't, oh well, whatever, onto the next girl. Just be chill, and you'll be fine, at least in the long run. Again, don't overthink it.

>>34081668
Thanks, man. I'm just going to text her in a day or so to confirm the second date, and if she's still onboard, I'll assume I'm being an overthinking sperg.

>>34081769
Good plan yo. If it does fall through, don't get too upset over it, these things happen, just try to move on and not let it eat at you too much. Plenty of fish in the sea and all.

>>34081818
Honestly, once she realizes I'm a mentally ill loser it'll end either way, so I'm trying to extremely temper my expectations.

Unrelated, but people keep telling me that I have to find ways to touch her on dates to build attraction. I'm uncomfortable doing this, because it sounds kinda skeezy, but I'll do it if it's true. If so, what are some good examples of times to do that?

>>34081953
Haha don't put yourself down like that, you might have the whole wounded duck thing going for you. I personally agree with you, I feel like the whole intentionally touching her thing feels a bit iffy, so I personally won't do it, but I would go for a kiss at the end. It doesn't matter how hard it feels to do, at the end of the date I always kissed them (mouth to mouth, none of that cheek bullshit).

>>34082104
Alright, I'll go for that (though it's shameful that I'll be having my first kiss at 20). I'm on a liberal college campus, so if she doesn't like it she'll probably have me arrested for rape, but war is not for the faint of heart, and love is a battlefield.

>>34082104
Not the person you responded to. But how do you go in for the kiss. Do you just say "I'm going to kiss you now" or what? It feels so risky just going in, without knowing how they feel.

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Are you the same normie who was taking a break from skiing?

>>34082185
Eh, don't think about it, just go for it. You'll be fine, it's just a kiss m8.

>>34082194
Nope, you don't say it at all. It's just a kiss, it really doesn't mean that much, so at the end of the night, when you get to the point where you're supposed to part ways, you just go for it, lean your head into theirs and kiss them, WITHOUT telling them about it. Mentioning it destroys the entire point of it, and unless they're REALLY into you they'll say no.

>>34082215
The very same. Hot damn, can't believe you remembered(:

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>>34082267
Heheheh nice
I'm surprised I remembered too

>>34082300
So did you end up posting in the last thread?

How can you be such a conformist dirtbag who is only pretending to be happy and trying to convince us of the same?

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>>34082321
I did; we were talking about how it was important to make friends first before trying to get a gf.

>>34082333
I'm a conformist because it's the nicest way to live your life. Why battle against the stream when you can go with the flow and play life by its rules. I've made my peace with the fact that the world is what it is, and with that knowledge I can take full advantage of it. I'm not permanently happy, depression has that effect on people, but I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's - I'm satisfied.

>>34082347
Oooooooh yeah, shit, I remember this! How've you been doing since? (:

Can you have friends without actually having to talk to anyone?

>>34082333

Not op, desu there are no normies on /r9k, if you feel compelled to engage in interaction on 4chan, you are a failure.

The 'normie' is just a low test faggot stalking young robots. Old people like to give retarded advice because they are, well, completely retarded.

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>>34082406
The same to be honest. I've been sorta preoccupied with other stuff; but I'm still thinking about joining a club or something relevant to my interests in order to meet people. Thanks for asking though :)

>>34082434
No, not really. Friends are people you get along with and want to spend time with, and that's not really possible if you never talk to them.

>>34082469
>23 is old
ok m8

>>34082483
That's fair, I can understand that. God knows I haven't done anything useful or productive recently. Good luck though, hope you do end up doing it(:

>>34082514

>23

Get the fuck out off the forum, Herbert. You ain't getting you knee high socks fancies here.

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>>34079542
Do you know what happened to her?

>>34082586
You sure told me!

>>34082664
No idea who she is. I don't really follow the personalities of /r9k/.

>>34082715
She was one of the most intriguing posters I had ever witnessed on 4chan, incredibly good at responding at many posts in detail quickly. She was a therapist, used the same lemonade template you used in OP post. She would try to give advise on /b/ out of all places. I don't understand how one person could put up with all of the hate on that board and say she loved us all. It must of been tiring. Whenever I see these threads I always wonder if its just Alice2 hiding her alter ego. She had a long history on 4chan, and a controversial one too. Very strange. Would post a pic of her hand and last time I saw her post but file size is too big since mook downgraded image size, I didn't think it was her real hand anyways.

Is there any place (online maybe?) to find girls who fetishize taking a man's virginity? I feel like that has to be a thing, sort of like how a lot of guys fetishize female virginity.

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>>34082818
Nope, I'm not her, I'm a 23-year-old guy. I could post a timestamp but I'm sure we don't need to go that route. As for the template, I used to use the Lucy one (pic attached), but in one of the threads one of the posters made this one for me, so I've been using it ever since.

>>34082941
No timestamp is necessary. I was just deeply intrigued by her threads is all.

>>34082901
Well, it is quite a similar thing for girls, they do generally get excited about sleeping with a virgin, provided he's not some neckbearded weirdo. I don't know of any websites that specialise in this sort of thing. It's more of a thing that comes up AFTER you've already started getting close to a person - it's not really something you can easily utilise.

>>34082975
That's fair enough.

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