I got married. She's great. 10 years married, things are still great. Good life, good sex, nothing really bad.
I meet woman on business trip. Feels like new again. What are these emotions?!!? I do the 'right' thing, I don't sleep with her. We just talk, but its amazing. I can easily contact her, but she lives elsewhere and I could never see her again too.
Ignoring marriage as an institution, is longterm monogamy truly compatible with the modern world? Where once you were less likely to interact with other satisfactory mates and these one off interactions were guaranteed to never come about again, now we have the internet and easy contact around the world.
Can one truly be happy with a single mate if they continue to find other potential mates so easily?
>>135644302
There is a difference in talking and fucking.
It was probably for the best though.
>135644302
>Omg look at me! I have this amazing life that people can only be jealous about. Can I now whine about wanted to ruin it?
Marriage is important.
People need to know it's not just about god it's about a fundement which is good for you, family, friends and society.
>>135644302
Convert to Islam and you could have up to 4 wives.
Hi friend. I reccomend to you the book 'passionate marriage'
You raise many good questions. Marriage is ultimately a commitment to another person come hell or high water. It may or may not be monogamous.
The feelings you felt from just talking to this other woman are what is called New Relationship Energy. It's beautiful isn't? Yes, could leave your wife and start a new relationship very easily. That is what this energy can do. But dont do that. Enjoy it for what it is. You connected with another human and enjoyed her female energy.
I think long term mono marriage is good for traditional societies were women were allowed be naturally content to be led by a powerful, empowered man, and society allowed this to flourish. Instead we have a degenerate society that attacks this cornerstone relatinship - make/female - so mono marriage makes no sense right now.
I am married but sometimes date other women. NRE is a hell of a thing. You have lots of thinking to do and learning to see how the male/female dynamc plays out. It will be painful at first but you will emerge more committed to your wife than you thought possible.
>>135644302
>>135644302
You've already cheated on you wife in the spirit so it's only a matter of time before you do in the flesh.
Unless you decide to have a honest talk with her. In any case it's better to end the current relationship before you start seeing another woman.
>>135647364
Lol if talking to another woman is cheating then I’m never getting married. I will just hire a fucking nanny after I knock up a few bitches and take custody
Dont do it! Do you hate your wife so much that you would risk hurting her and destroying your relationship? My ex did the same to me and 2 years later it still hurts.
>>135647364
> cheated on your wife by talking honestly to another woman
Anon...the idea of emotional cheating is not having a discussion about life with someone you share chemistry with. Emotional cheating is using someone else as the primary source of emotional support and bonding and care. It is insidious, for sure, but what OP is describing is having a great time actually interacting as 2 human beings, and realizing that he's going to have to draw his own conclusions about marriage, intimacy, and love. Please learn the difference - if people actually dropping their ego and having an honest and emotional discussion about life is cheating in your view you are very very repressed. Emotionally healthy people are able to be 100% congruent, honest, and appropriately open with other people without labeling it a pathology.
>>135644302
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>>135644302
Not sure if LARP but if not, don't cheat on your wife you fucking idjit.
>>135645022
>Marriage is important.
I know this to be true as I can rattle off all the benefits over a degenerate hookup society of single moms and wayward diseased fathers.
>>135646643
>New Relationship Energy. It's beautiful isn't? Yes, could leave your wife and start a new relationship very easily. That is what this energy can do. But dont do that. Enjoy it for what it is. You connected with another human and enjoyed her female energy.
You are probably right anon.
I have no female friends. I am historically great at attracting mates. I am not so good at interacting with women at any level other than that.
I wish I could keep in contact with this woman, or any woman, at this friend level. Just to keep more amazing people in my life.
>>135649330
Ok, then go today read thus book 'way of the superior man' he goes into great detail about female energy, what it means to a man, why you desires for different women come and go, etc. Men and Women are fundamentally different from a psychological and spiritual level. A mono marriage is ideal when it is a conscious blending of these 2 energies. You got your first real taste of a new type of female energy and your mind is blown. I am really happy for you. You can figure out how to honor the lifelong promise to your wife and still meet the human needs for connection.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7AXi4-_HPRk
Watch this OP. If you don't want to watch it all skip to around 12:00 or 16:00. Christian or not its quite interesting. Don't cheat on your wife.
>>135644302
What do you want then? Leave your wife and marry the new one? History repeats itself anon. Respect your wife and don't talk to this bitch. She must be fucking disgusting if she's alone, old and try to fuck married men.
>>135645022
This, entertaining the idea of selfishly cheating is fucked up anon. Fuck your wife m'kay not some sloot.
Wear a rubber and fuck a side bitch. Women have a easier time staying with one man, it's a massive sacrifice for men to do the same, as it's not our nature. Pretty funny how men have to give up everything for women but they give up nothing. Women want to by nature build a nest, while men want to spread their seed around, who gets fucked in this long term transaction? MEN.
Just fuck a piece once in a while on the side, during a business trip or something.
>>135644302
>10 Years with wife
>Less than a year with random woman on Business trip
>Thinks that business trip women will be the same after 10 years
Kill yourself Mate
>>135645824
What happens when you get bored with them though?