What the fummy is up with so many pretend writers? I want a GF

You might come across as autistic.

>>9971993
Writers write. People who have time for your shit are unlikely to take writing too seriously. Depending on your standards, you can always give a try with writing groups or even fucking blogs, just don't treat these as dating sites.

>>9971998
Even if that's true, that has nothing to do with them being pretend writers. They clearly have interest in me but when it's their turn to talk about writing they go silent or talk about a dumb poem from middle school. (Following up with disappearing the next day.)

Even some chicks I been talking to for WEEKS, the moment the conversation changes to writing they mumble about stuff, and mention they are not currently writing a book and then they make excuses as to why they're not writing a book and how they wish they could or they don't have talent. Then they disappear when I insist they should try writing again. (Why are they showing up to writer events if they don't write?)

>>9972009
I take writing seriously myself, but not every person is a drone. We have different personalities. Mine just happens to be a social one. But hitting the bar with people is less interesting than writing or talking about writing.

Think about it, you are shitposting on 4chan right now instead of writing your book. Clearly you are displaying how you also like engaging in discussion about writing with people.

Is it so wrong that I just get tired of talking to anonymous people on a shitty board of people who don't actually write. And I just want to meet someone IRL I can spend some days with together in a room talking about what to write next?

It's better than /lit/ the question is how to get what I want.

>>9972035
There is nothing wrong with it and of course personalities differ but generally speaking (hence the use of "unlikely"), your chances to find the person are just not very good because these are rare, and shit, even people who pretend to care about writing are rare. Meetsups, courses, blogs/yt channels or NaNoWriMo shit is simply your best call but of course most will write some self-insert fiction if they write at all.

I actually found two chicks who do it seriously on /soc/ but it's just such a hit or miss, one probably got a better chance at Starbucks.

>anonymous people on a shitty board of people who don't actually write.
That's not /lit/. People here don't actually read.

>>9971993
What the fim is all this?

>>9972113
Maybe you're right, I had internalized my thoughts on this issue and have not really made this opinion public till now.

Maybe it's so rare I shouldn't try so hard looking for it. I really love writing, I like writing so much that I am not even doing it for money.

The times people would spend hanging out with their friends, getting wasted. I wish to use that time on writing. I like writing but I also like socializing, unfortunately I just I feel this is a very lonely hobby.

You can't talk about your book or the mystery goes away.
You can't spoil your book to your audience, you can't ask their opinion on what you should add for the next chapter or anything.

If you post a generic question on reddit, you will get so much garbage advice from people who of all ages. (For all you know, I could be 8 years old or 80. I really hate anonymity.) Getting terrible advice from 10 year olds online trying to lecture you about writing your book. People who don't even like your genre, yet think they know what's best for you.

I just hate the mess that is online anonymity. Even then you can't fully talk about your book to everyone. I need like a private group of friends who care about the little details & roadblocks I'm stuck on.

I am making progress, despite this but I feel like my life could be better. I'll continue to try your advice but yeah I shouldn't get my hopes up and just learn to deal with this alone like everyone else.

>>9972165
Well, it's just like with any other quality GF, obsessively looking for one is unlikely to work but these people exist, so it never hurts to be open for the possibility and be more proactive from time to time, since it interwinds with your passion anyway, the only problematic part is the sheer rarity.

Consider widening your net too, say from chick who writes to chicks who like reading. My current FWB never wrote even a poem but she's interested enough in literature to offer analysis and critique, and she's a fucking electrical engineer, can't go much further from literature. English or psychology majors are pretty common, and would have the required skills almost by default.

The writing process itself might be solitary but everything around it profits from socialisation, so I wouldn't exactly call it a lonely hobby, the part where you want to mix it with the rest is tricky.

>you can't ask their opinion on what you should add for the next chapter or anything.
Even assuming you had the option, would you really want to take it? It sounds great in theory but from my experience, it takes a lot fun away, even if you were just getting ideas. The feeling of finally coming up with the right idea after fucking your brain for days or weeks is just too good to miss out on ... though maybe it's just my autism.

As for more general advice, you can get an idea about the person giving the advice from their posts, and well the advice itself. In the end it's always down to you how to use it or whether use it at all. For the more precise stuff, there are critique groups/beta readers, and of course it's still tricky to find the right ones, at least it's not as tricky as going all the way to a writer girlfriend.

>I feel like my life could be better
Wait, is there another feeling? No matter, how well you're doing, there is always room for improvement. Failing to acknowledge it would be stagnation.

>>9971993
Writing is seen as an intellectual/high-class thing to do, so pretending you do it even if you have little real interest is an easy way to acquire social capital.

>>9971993
Go to open mics, link up with people involved in MFA culture, hell, get into an MFA if you can. People on this board talk shit on MFAs, but it's the only sure-fire way you can find girls who are serious about the writing life.