Books on women who have lost the ability to feel sexual pleasure?

good bait

predicting at least a few dozen replies

I used to know a woman who suffered from this problem. Her vagina just broke one day and she was no longer able to feel pleasure or arousal whatsoever after a period of excited masturbation.

I lost contact with her sadly.

>>9099745
OP here

I have suffered the same fate :( what did she do to break her vagina?

>>9099744
>>>/reddit/

>>9099739
>tfw you will never have so much sex that your reward circuitry shorts out
Isn't that basically what happened to Buddha?

>>9099749
Could you elaborate?

>>9099747
If you're being serious, she told me that she spent a summer masturbating a lot because her horniness spiked up and at one point it didn't feel so good and a pulsating and sharp pain started to happen so she stopped for a couple of weeks but every time she tried it just "didn't work".

Been that way for a few years now I think.

>>9099739
>Books on women who have lost the ability to feel sexual pleasure?
It's just fear and anxiety

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>>9099750
Not sure of the exact brain chemistry involved, but if you keep repeating something that's immensely pleasurable your brain becomes accustomed to it, so you need to then continue to heighten the sensation in order to feel anything. This happens to guys who masturbate a lot: they need to keep moving on to more and more disgusting porn in order to keep it interesting, and eventually they just get erectile dysfunction. It's the same process with drug addiction.

>>9099760
Yes byt taking a long break from masturbation has not helped :( Im stuck like this

>>9099754
Lol it really isnt, masturbation doesnt work either its nothing to do with being afraid or anxious around another person

>>9099752
Yeah a similar thing happened to me

>>9099739

Im sorry OP itll get better soon

>>9099826
When is soon? Ive been suffering like this for years

There must be some book about it

>>9099822
What about anal stuff? Not trying to be a pervert here, legitimately curious if it's just your vagina that is broken or you can't any sexual pleasure at all.

>have girlfriend
>madly in love with her
>we're both rather conservative when it comes to sex
>the issue comes up quite a few times while we're fooling around
>she just mumbles and refuses to go any further
>a few times after this happens and I bring it up she goes really defensive
>later after we break up I learn that she was basically asexual and the mere notion of having sex gave her slight panic attacks
>go through a sexual crysis myself
>lose my libido completely

I wish to learn more about this myself, but all of this just brings back really bad memories and I'm not sure how to climb over myself and these associations.

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>>9099739
sex is for betas (for the competition) and women (for the pleasure)

compared to women, men are not meant to have pleasure, so your situation is normal. take pride out of sex, not pleasure.

>>9099837
OP is a girl I think.

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Reminder that catholic girls
-get anal
-love to get anal
-love to feel bad about loving to get anal

>>9099830
Ive tried anal stuff

Its hopeless

I just want another story about a woman in my situation, its the only thing that comforts me

>>9099829
>>When is soon? Ive been suffering like this for years
what makes you suffer ?

>>9099739
how do you relate?. i always saw the movie like artificial and with too Little penetration in the mind of protagonist.

>>9099829
>There must be some book about it

You should probably see a doctor or a psychiatrist. What you're describing seems pathological and you're obviously experiencing distress.

The inability to feel sexual pleasure, especially if it's not by choice, could have some serious consequences in the long run.

>>9099850

Nah, don't listen to this guy (guy!). It's much better to ask a bunch of strangers on the internet.

>>9099850
>some serious consequences in the long run
Like fucking what?

>>9099833

Not my diary desu but I spent most of my college years as an asexual. I had women in my bed at several points but no sexual interest in them. It's like I enjoyed the thrill of the chase more than the big bang at the end.

Seems really weird looking back.

>>9099847
The despair that joe expresses at not being able to enjoy sex

The promiscuity from trying to fix yourself

Beating yourself up

Early childhood discovery of sexuality, only for it to be taken away after only a fleeting moment

>>9099739
mishima wrote a book about some hysterical bitch who couldn't feel shit in the pussy

>>9099850
Doctors and therapists think theres nothing wrong with me

Theres nothing they can do for me

Im stuck like this

>>9099857
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_hysteria

>>9099863
Omg that sounds perfect

Whats the name of it

>>9099864
Have you tried MDMA?

>>9099861
>Early childhood discovery of sexuality, only for it to be taken away after only a fleeting moment
i should say i only see part one.
i didn´t see she´s not being able to enjoy sex. she was maybe sad but, why she search for sex if she don´t feel nothing?. i separate the two things.
in one part her despair and in other part her atracttion/not atraction for sex.
maybe i dont get the movie.

>>9099860
See it's weird because I feel romantically interested in women, but I just don't get sexually aroused.
I don't masturbate and when I eventually do just to see whether maybe it'll make me feel something, but it's just mindless hedonism.
It sounds like you were able to get aroused, though.
How'd you break out of that whole sexuality?

>>9099864
>Doctors and therapists think theres nothing wrong with me
I doubt that, given that the inabilty to orgasm is considered an illness in of itself.

Are you on SSRI's

Assuming this isn't bait

I don't think she's being hysterical, lads. I've met women like this before.

Probably some physical defect yet to be properly categorised or treated by the medical community.

>>9099876
Watch part 2 and youll understand

>>9099875
Yes

I overdosed on mdma because I was desperate to feel pleasure

>>9099879
imo your sexual issues are probably punishment for lesbianism

>>9099889
God must be really confused then because I'm male.

>>9099883
No im no on any medication

I can stimulate myself until I get a pleasureless orgasm, its just strong muscular contractions no dopamine or whatever

Ive been to two doctors and a sex therapist, they all told me there was nothing they could do and to have more realistic expectations

>>9099890
Sorry man, thought you were OP haha

>>9099886
and all the rationalizations about love and shit?. they disappear in the second part?.
because is a very well articulated discurse (maybe too much) between she and the guy in the apartment. it´s not only action, they express the idea behind. or try it.
in what exactly you identify with her. psychologically?.
what are the main reason of the conflict?

>>9099879

>See it's weird because I feel romantically interested in women, but I just don't get sexually aroused.

It just sort of happened. I think being in a relationship helped me link feelings of romance with sex. I remember though not being interested in my ex sexually until we fucked a few times.

My perception of girls is a lot lower these days and it's what leads me to wonder now if I had an idealised image of women that stopped me from wanting to commit to them sexually. A kind of unwanted repression.

I don't know if you've got anything like that?

>>9099909
nice repeating digits senpai

>>9099887
And... nothing? I'm sorry.

>>9099739
>btw I'm a gril

>>9099893
>Ive been to two doctors and a sex therapist, they all told me there was nothing they could do and to have more realistic expectations
what country do you live in?

>>9099909
To be honest I'm just afraid of sex at this point because it'd end up with me getting a panic attack when I'd be unable to perform.

Ideal situation is me getting a girlfriend who's comfortable with how I am and would be willing to try stuff untill we can make it work.

I know it's psychological, because sometimes when exposed to sexual material I get uncomfortable and it's not pathological, because the morning sun pitches the tent.

Sorry for blogposting, I was just surprised to find a thread talking about asexuality and sexual pleasure uncapabilities while I'm suffering from stuff like that as well.

>>9099893
>more realistic expectations
what they mean with this?, what expectations do you have?

>>9099926
>Ideal situation is me getting a girlfriend who's comfortable with how I am and would be willing to try stuff until we can make it work.

Good luck with that.

>>9099930
To be happy with pleasureless orgasms

>>9099926

Yeah, I'm not sure what to say but I can sympathise feeling uncomfortable when exposed to sexual material.

I guess the good thing is that you're aware of it. Do you meet girls easily? Could you convince yourself to ironically try to hook up with girls just to make yourself feel more comfortable about getting exposed to the stimuli while knowing you're in control (you know, so you don't inadvertently have a panic attack)??

>>9099860
I know this feel.
It is the worst feel.

>>9099945
you want to attain a total happiness through orgasms?, why?. you can if you want anyway, but you have to define yourself totally and entirely in relation to sex. something that you obviously are not doing.

>>9099841
not every catholic girl is nora

>>9099739
What about sexual pleasure for women who have lost the ability to feel books?

>>9099936
I don't have high hopes.

>>9099955
I meet girls fairly easily and all humbleness aside could probably grab a one night stand if I wanted to, but that just doesn't feel like the right solution.
On the other hand, becoming really attached to someone and associating romantic feelings with sexual arousal can lead to disaster once the person dumps me, as has already happened before.

I'm sure I'll get out of this situation, it's just that stuff like this weighs heavy on one's mind y'know. I've told some close friends that I think I'm asexual and they just thought I was joking.

On a lighter note, I remember a situation where a girl thought I must be gay because I didn't want to have sex with her even though I was single. I don't want to sound like a dick, but it's kind of entertaining shutting down women who're used to getting sex from anyone because they're attractive.

>>9099984
Could i ask how you meet girls? How do you introduce yourself to them?

>>9099986
As a person would meet another person.
If I had any libido maybe I'd feel inclined to hit on them from the very start or something or grab them by the pussy or whatever an alpha male is supposed to do.
I have no problems talking to them but I just don't have any sexual motive behind any interaction.
Some don't like me, some do and I like entertaining flirting, but it never leads anywhere because of my nature. I like making friends with interesting women and I get crushes sometimes, but they rarely ever involve appearance.

>>9099986
i usually crash from an helicopter through her bedroom window

>>9099739
you could search for Wetlands. a german movie

>>9099926
>>9099984

>To be honest I'm just afraid of sex at this point because it'd end up with me getting a panic attack when I'd be unable to perform.

Dude, don't overthink it, especially not the mechanical part.
Even if you have tons of prior experience you'll still have to adapt to every new girl and find out what she likes.

>>9099739
read about psychology OP
CG Jung is cool af
why do you want to feel sexual pleasure?
how do you try to get it?
relax
take it easy
i'm pretty sur the issue at hand is that somehow you want to fit in this oversexualized contemporary society
know yourself

>>9100030
which is the best part, imho

>>9100030
Sure but once you have sex a few times there is a basic understanding and practice that enables you to not be an awkward mess when you first bed a girl, no matter what she likes.

>>9100033
I feel like im missing out on the best part of life

And I want to satisfy my sex drive

>>9100030
>find out what she likes

I wish I liked something in bed :(

>>9100079
>not liking cuddles and rubbing toes and tickling each other only to end in passionate kisses

>get gf
>great love life
>get married
>great love life
>have baby
>love life gone
>baby becomes kid
>love life still gone
>rotating excuses
>bodily pain
>anger at me over perceived slights
>anger at me over misplaced household item
>anger at me over missing condiment
>anger at me over discussing sex
>tells me she is a mother now and cannot discuss this any further

OP/others, if you guys are interested, r/deadbedrooms. its the only reddit i have ever read, and is black killself tier

/lit/ - Sex Life

>>9100095
>No Sex Life

ftfy

>>9099760
Ok, but what it have to do with Buddha?

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>>9099739
It's not that women have lost the ability to feel pleasure, but that boredom has encroached into sexuality.

You now have sex simply to have sex, rather than reproduction or love. Because you are bored with life and simply "going with the flow" no longer derive pleasure from the ordinary.

>>9100104
He was an extremely rich guy who owned a haram and got laid constantly, who then realized that it didn't make him happy

>>9099739
The book to the movie is "on Women" by Schopi

>>9100092
That sub is some seriously depressing shit.

Have you and your wife tried therapy

An absent sex life is the quickest path to divorce, don't let it end that way for the sake of your kid, honestly bro.

>>9100119
Pretty sure he realized that hedonism doesn't make him happy rather than losing the sense of pleasure out of excess.

>>9100092
this is the sign of the hubby becoming a cuckold

>>9099739
if you have no pleasure nor pain towards sex, then how do you suffer from lack of sex ?

also, not caring about sex is a good step towards meditation (because there is nothing else to do)

>>9100183
Because I cannot satisfy my sex drive, to the point where I want to scream in frustration

>>9099837
>prostate
>the strongest pleasure ever
>men are not meant to have pleasure

>>9099739
Just get off birth control.

>>9099829
Have you ever tried to go i a doctor, em a gynecologist?

>>9100124

Am I the only person who read that and found it to have a positive effect? It honestly made me realise how dumb I'd been for being so idealistic.

>>9100092
https://youtu.be/OpHCsNEyWm4

>>9100181
this

>>9100092
100% sure she's cheating or will cheat.

>>9100193
if you need to go to your prostate, then no, they are not meant for pleasure
With The body of a woman it is easier to get pleasure without needing much work.


also, the strongest pleasure is gotten through meditation. it is the strongest because it is precisely not through the 5 senses.

>>9100193
No woman will respect a man that likes something in his anus.

>>9100291
>hasn't had his booty tonguepunched by a subservient girl

gay

>>9100317
Rimming is fine, actual penetration and she will see you as a fag.

>>9100262
>>9100181
Try going on a site like babycenter and typing "dont want sex"

This isnt uncommon.

what are you waiting for eating pussy?

>>9100333
Cheating isn't uncommon either.

>>9100333
>Try going on a site like babycenter and typing "dont want sex"
This is hormonal and goes away 6-12 months after birth.

>>9100430
>goes away 6-12 months after birth
like you'll ever find time for sex once you have kids

maybe you should write one OP

>>9100494
this
do it faggot

>>9100092
Humans aren't monogamous, you already have offspring, it's time to breed with others.

>>9100553
>Humans aren't monogamous
Yes we are. Fertility rates are directly proportional to prevalence of monogamy. This is a fact.

>>9100561

show us your stats

>>9100561
Average global number of sexual partners is 9, so no.

Monogamy is rare among mammals and especially among primates. Forced attempts at monogamy are a recent creation and a result of agricultural society.

>>9100561
>>9100586

The most frequent arrangement, from what I remember from my CA classes, is serial monogamy with opportunistic 'cheating' on both sides. 'Real' monogamy has never been a widespread practice, for reasons that should be pretty obvious.

Sex is gross and dehumanizing anyway. Ideally you should realize this even if your body is in working order.

>>9100586
>Average global number of sexual partners is 9, so no.
a) That statistic is bullshit, I guarantee you nobody is correctly measuring the number of sexual partners of rural Chinese.
b) Globally most males do not reproduce ever, so I fail to see your point.

> Monogamy is rare among mammals and especially among primates.
Bipedalism is even more rare. Again, your point is what exactly?

>>9100608
>The most frequent arrangement, from what I remember from my CA classes, is serial monogamy with opportunistic 'cheating' on both sides.
Again, this is impossible to measure, so your quip is bullshit.

What is _not_ impossible to measure is the fact that societies with imposed lifelong monogamy have higher fertility rates.

From an evolutionary point of view, monogamy is the winning strategy.

>>9100617
>a) That statistic is bullshit, I guarantee you nobody is correctly measuring the number of sexual partners of rural Chinese.
Even if it's not completely accurate you can accept that a single lifelong partner for the vast majority of humans is not the instinctive way to go. If you can see shitloads of pigs eating meat it's safe to say pigs generally aren't herbivores even if you didn't observe all pigs.

>b) Globally most males do not reproduce ever, so I fail to see your point.
I don't see how this relates to monogamy in any way, even if true.

>Bipedalism is even more rare. Again, your point is what exactly?
Humans not sharing the biological and social traits of any monogamous being is just another reason to believe they aren't.

>>9100628
>evolutionary
what a spook

>>9100133
maybe he was just gay?

>>9100494
>>9100531
I've been thinking about it. Maybe I should.

>>9100706
Don't forget to post it here.

>>9099744
looks like this guy was right, huh

>>9100628

Again, gonna need some stats.

And if you think it's impossible to measure instances of serial monogamy 'opportunistic mating occurrences' then you're fucking whacked because this is done all the goddamned time in ethnographic studies, to the point of nausea.

Additionally, having more children doesn't mean much of 90% of them die before reaching sexual maturity. There are multiple strategies for propagating genes through generations, and zurg rushing is a participatory 'wasteful' one, which is why we see it disappear at relatively high levels of economic development.

>>9099749
Interesting theory. I think it is one of the most overlooked aspects of the Buddha story that he got bored of having sex with beautiful young women. It implies that you actually have to fulfil your desires to realise that they are painful. But if we have lived countless lives prior to this one, then we have fulfilled every conceivable desire and have some residual memory of it, and so the recollection of these experiences through meditation that can be substitute for trying to fulfil them again and learn the lesson in this life

>>9099739
I fucked an Asian girl after watching that film with her, made her moan louder than ever before. Truly using ones sexual prowess to spit in the face of some pretentious cunt is intoxicating.

>>9099843
You realize that isn't the point of the film right?

>not that it matters Von Trier is a hack

>>9099837
OP is a woman you goon.

>>9099887
Perfect.

THIS IS YOUR AVERAGE VON TRIER FAN LADIES AND GENTLEMEN!

>I knew it all along, but I'm grateful for your confirmation.

>>9100193
nigguh you gay

>>9099866
kek

>>9102805
What that has to do with the thread?

OP if you are really anhedonic, seek out expert opinions, seriously start looking into researchers who research this sort of thing at universities, clinicians who specialise in it (maybe in nerve-related anhedonia? They probably deal with borderline cases and such and can refer you) and start emailing them. Perfectly fine to do this.

You need to get in touch with more than just your usual doctors. Especially if they gave you such unsatisfactory statements. You're clearly distressed and they ought to have noticed this. Please be aggressive in getting referrals, hunting down more specialised researchers, etc.

In the meantime, and if you ultimately can't treat this, why not try devoting yourself to intellectual or meditative pleasures?

>>9102247
>It implies that you actually have to fulfil your desires to realise that they are painful.
it works with acute observation of other people, but most people learn by being burn.

and like >>9104466 says, a like of pleasure through the 5 senses is utterly problematic for normies plus the fear of missing out by seeing all other normies getting pleasures (and pains) , since it is all they now. Once you discover thejhanas, you do not give a shit about the five senses and you see this anhedonia as a positive thing.

>>9104522
>a like
a lack

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The way to get pleasure, especially for a girl, is to train for pleasure.
Emotions are what women to use to improve the pleasure that they get from whatever they experience, so She needs some guy to entertain her, which requires time, imagination, taste and money (like normal competition about any girl), so that the girl gets committed to the guy and attempt to fulfill her fantasy of intimacy, and then gradually involves sex in it. Of course, the intimacy will disappear sooner or later, but at this point, the girl would be a normal girl, thus she can go light hearted cuck the beta.

but most men are not able to wait that long and do not have the material resources to train such a girl.

>>9104533
>but at this point, the girl would be a normal girl, thus she can go light hearted cuck the beta.

Strangely accurate.

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>tfw no asexual /lit/ bf to read cozy books with
Such is life.

>>9099817
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ttrb-97tFA

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>>9099739

>tfw this happened to my gf

This is why you should never go for intelligent qts.

>>9099884
Women's health issues are not as well studied as men's. Take heart attacks for instance. We all know about the left arm thing, correct? Well it isn't the same for women. They can get backaches and other issues that aren't automatically associated with heart attacks. They'd go to the doctor with their issues, then get sent home because the doctor didn't think there was anything wrong. Then BANG heart attack. It's been a trend in medical science since its inception.