Looking for help. Not actually writing this for anything in particualr.

whose

the clause "woman who reads books" has woman as the subject who is doing something to the book, the object. So it's who.

>>8814569
but the man is seeking the woman, the direct object, yes? and you use "who" to refer to the subject and "whom" for the object. so he should use "whom," so it says "man seeking woman whom reads books." that is what's correct.

>>8814576
This is exactly why I was confused. I feel like it should be simple. And I'm familiar enough with who/whom to not have to think about it normally.

Does changing the sentence to "I am a man seeking a woman who/whom reads" change anything? It means the same thing, I guess. And I am more interested in the sentence in my original post.

And thank you for your help.

>>8814569
Again, this is what threw me off. Still not 100% sure which is correct. But thank you for the reply.

seeking woman whom i could find attractive (woman remains objective)

seeking woman who reads (woman now takes subjective form, you don't need to indicate again that woman is object apart from word order)

>>8814594

No, it's simpler than that. The direct object isn't "woman"; the man is seeking a [woman who reads books]. The full subclause is the subject, just like if you wanted a red car or a glass of cold water.

>>8814549
Who is this cum plum

>>8814576
"woman who reads books" is a clause which is also the object of "man." Within the clause itself, though, woman

feel free to ignore my advice and look like a total retard though

>old hag
Fuck off you pseud.

>>8814676
that doesn't sound right to me. whom gave you that advice?

>>8814676
He's actually not OP.

I appreciate the comment. Thank you.

>>8814652
courtney tailor

>>8814647
There it is. Yes, "who" is the only correct answer.

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