Is monogamy really a thing among gay males? I'm in my late

>>8802107
I think it largely depends on the people. I know a gay couple that's been monogomous for almost 20 years (and a few others for less). I agree with you though, the prevalence of open relationships/polyamory is kind of depressing if you're the monogamous type

I just gave up on other gay men for a while and started a relationship with a woman that lasted 3 years. It did not end well. 90% of gay men are disgusting sluts and the other 10% are probably still in the closet, so they are hard to find.

Not my experience

Part of what makes us gay makes us also promiscuous, chasing the high and the powerplay, we're men. That switch in our minds that flips to make us this way doesn't alter the basic biology and the testosterone coursing through our veins.

Monogamy is a dream we all have sometimes, but it doesn't work that way really.

If I could change to straight I would, in a heartbeat. I lived this life long enough. Eventually you find the one you think was right for you and then it all falls apart and you're cruising the night again.

There will be a time when we're accepted and I can bet my left nut it won't change a thing. If you find the guy though think about this post and think "that guy was a fucking retard and all he wrote was nonsense".

>>8802936
>Part of what makes us gay makes us also promiscuous

No, what makes you promiscuous is that you are male. All men would fuck around if they could, except that straight men are controller by pussy, and women generally don't let them.

As a generation we are kind of screwed. We are on the cusp of mainstream acceptance but we have all this baggage from being rejected and ostracized. We have never been told to aspire to marriage, stability, or monogamy. We have no role model of monogamy to look up to. And the entirety of queer culture revolves around ephemeral pleasures and impersonal hook-ups.

This makes it difficult for us to conform to the mainstream model of marriage and monogamy. Maybe the next generation, or the one after that, will find it easier.

I dunno with my ex we were fine for quite awhile. Neither of us really hungout with other gay guys.
Eventually though he started to kind of change and act more "stereotypical" I guess. He got into gay culture a lot and started hanging out with only gay people. Eventually he just cheated but by that point our relationship was essentially dead anyway so it wasn't a huge deal I guess

>>8802107
Most gay men and women are sluts, unfortunately.

>>8802107
I know a monogamous gay couple that's been together for 5 years, but they're both autistic asexual otherkin who were pretty much made for each other.
Beyond that, I'm the only other "gay" guy I know who is interested in monogamy, and I'm not even gay, I'm bi, so I'm not even sure that counts.