What's the proper dating etiquette about being trans on

1) Choose male or female whichever suits you best depending on your passability
2) Put the fact you're trans in your profile
3) When you get messaged, bring up the fact you're trans at the very start
4) When you message someone, bring up the fact you're trans at the very start

>>8447438

Just put whatever gender you feel. You shouldn't have to disclose being trans, genitals have absolutely nothing to do with sex

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>>8447476

>Genitals have absolutely nothing to do with sex

This is a good way to get killed.

This one time I put that I was a trans woman on my profile and told the lesbian who messaged me that I was a trans woman.

She thought I meant I was an AFAB snowflake or FtM or something. So umm... my dick was a surprise

We still hooked up tho

>>8447476
:thinking:

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>>8447476
lying to potential partners is not the way to start a trusting relationship

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>>8447599
if you still have a dick then you aren't trans.
trans means you have had a sex change.

>>8447741
No one's saying never tell them but get to know them first. I don't want to open every conversation I have with someone I might be interested in with "hey I'm trans." Wait to see if something is there and that's it's worth going through the whole humiliating ordeal of outing yourself.

>>8448059
this is just delaying the inevitable.
why should i buy you dinner if i'm never going to be sexually compatible with you?

>>8448078
Or we could just go to dinner and I pay for myself or do something doesn't cost money. If money is the issue then you can figure something out.

But what if I don't think the other person is worth the timr. I spend a date with them and don't like them. I can be glad that I didn't have to go through that ordeal when it was someone I wouldn't have liked anyway.

>>8448078
You don't have the right to demand people reveal personal details on their own initiative so that you can skip dinner.

If you care that much that your partner is cis/post-op, you can ask.

>>8448191
Exactly. People act like we should just have to walk around with a ducking sign that's says trans so they font have to waste their precious time with us.

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>>8448198
>>8448191
>>8448125

If I was just released from federal prison after having served a sentence of 14 years for murdering my wife would you want to know that before dating me?
Or is that something you'd like me to wait to tell you after we've fallen in love and are having sex for the first time?
Asking for a friend.

>>8448219
1. Those two things aren't anywhere near the same thing.
2. I could just Google your name first and already know because convictions are matters of public record.