How do you come out to your parents as trans? Every time I try

>>7978457
I'm just gonna warn you now, OP, that most of this board seems to hate the whole "coming out" thing, so take the advice you get with a grain of salt.

I have no idea. I can't get to doing it myself

>>7978457
my step-mum saw me taking spiro one day and asked me what it was.. honestly it went better than i thought it would and we had a little moment with hugs n tears and she told me she wasn't surprised but i can tell she still thinks it's kinda like a phase despite being supportive.

>>7978619
How did it go? Greentext the conversation.

>and she told me she wasn't surprised
What did she mean by that!

>>7978721
>take pills as usual
>step-mum asks the question
>spill the t about me transitioning for 6 months
>shocked initially but proceeds to mention she had a feeling due to my absolute lack of masculinity and piles of makeup in my room, also that i had played dressup a kid in mainly her dresses/heels
>mentions that it was clear i was gay during high school but i always had a gf so it was hard for her to talk about with me
>we both get emotional and decide to get a chai
>spend the rest of the afternoon discussing what the next steps are in a cafe and that she's there for me if i need her to be

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>>7978457
I did it a few days ago and felt the same way. I tried to spit it out for literal hours but the only way I was able to do it was prepare a message, leave the house to see a movie, and then text said message.

However, now my parents are pretending I don't exist and won't speak to me anymore. I hope it goes better for you.

>>7978584
There is a difference between screaming "I'm trans!" to the whole world and informing the people you care about or just have to interact with about your ongoing or future transition.
For example, I live with my parents because my salary isn't enough to rent a place for myself. I'll kinda have to eventually tell them I'm transitioning.
>>7978707
"Oh my God! Son... are you gay?"

>>7978818
Nice. Does your father know too?

Are you into girls, or are you straight and just had a gf for platonic reasons?

>she had a feeling due to my absolute lack of masculinity
What absolute lack of masculinity?

>>7978457
same

>>7978868
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>>7978457
same OP
>fear of telling my family is 80% of the reason i havent transitioned yet
>already know my mom at least doesn't think trans people exist, thinks homosexuality is gross and degenerate
>rest of my family probably wouldn't outright say anything but would be weird about it and think its kinda gross
>still financially dependent on them but don't think i'd be outright disowned either

i've gotten close to admitting it a couple times but i don't think the time is right

>>7979334
That's actually about the same situation I'm in except my dad feels that way instead of my mom.

>>7978457
Anyone have any advice for this?

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You don't need to.

>>7978457
Anyone have any stories or tips? I would really appreciate any help.

>>7986123
I told my mom and she said this was her punishment from the devil and I was way too tall and had too big of feet to ever be a girl so I said haha just kidding I changed my mind a few days later and went back into the closet for 6 years.

>>7986123
I told my mom I was coming over to talk about something important, and got really drunk beforehand so I wouldn't chicken out.

I wish I would have come out to her a few years before that when she suspected I was crossdressing. Those few years ruined my shoulders and chest cavity.

>>7986223
Every time I tried the 'get drunk first it'll make it easier' I would just end up crying and not saying why.

What would you say when you do it? I was thinking I would just walk up close my eyes and say something like "I want to be a girl" or "I think I'm transgender" and hope the words come out.

>>7978457
you wait until you moved away from your parents and started transitionning

>>7989592
I don't think I'll be moving away anytime soon the way my life has been going

>>7978457
I'm experiencing the same problem. My asshole therapist says she won't write a letter saying it's ok for me to take HRT unless I spill the beans to my therapist so we're going to have a family meeting. I feel like I'm going to die.

>>7989668
*spill the beans to my family

>>7989668
my therapist did the same lol

>>7989660
how old are you, if you don't mind saying? (you don't have to be precise) bellow 18?

>>7978457
I took a bunch of xanax. I don't even remember coming out to them

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>>7989673
It pisses me off so fucking much. Ugh. She knows they hate it but no. Gotta fucking come out. Ugh.

first you realize you're a fucking idiot, and that you're just a gay man who likes to be feminine.

Are your parents:

>normal
>well-adjusted
>not overly religious
>not overly conservative

Then just come out to them and maybe provide studies to them to show that this isn't just crazy.

Are your parents:

>overly religious
>not well-adjusted
>hispanic
>raised in a bigoted culture

Then you move out to go to college and tell them over email like I'm going to do.

>>7989673
I'm 19 but I'm a NEET I graduated last year and just became a loser since.

>>7989689
>and maybe provide studies to them to show that this isn't just crazy.
I've already talked to my liberal mother about Blanchard a couple of times when there were trans people on the news to seed her for when I come out.

>>7989696
Mmh, you're still very young, and man, you're totally not the only one I know to be a neet and who's been doing nothing since they gratuated. You're not a looser, life is very hard for everyone (financial crisis, etc) but even harder for someone who's trans.
I think your parents need to meet actual trans person OR parents who have trans kids. That helps a lot (helped my parents) also, you need to show your parents you're not a waste of space and try to look for a job or do something with your life, like fine you're trans but you can do SOMETHING ELSE. Also, try to look for trans folks around where you live, they might help you, meet them, meet people

>>7989689
>hispanic
hola papi, me estoy a tranny jajajajajajaja

>>7989660
Same here. I don't think I'm gonna come out until I'm confident that I pass.
>>7989673
Not OP, but I'm still gonna answer.
I'm 25, about a year on HRT(self-med). I have a job, but rent prices in my city are too high, so I can't afford to rent an apartment for myself.
>>7989689
Mother is religious(Christian), father is an alcoholic and former military officer. Both 60+, quite conservative and homophobic.

>>7989702
>Blanchard
Great

>>7989746
>7989713 here, we have around the same age, except I have +5 years of T. My parents have around the same age. I had to move away from my parents for my sanity but I can't live in the capital city. So a little city it is. Sadly it depends which country/city you live in :\ as I said before, your parents will need to meet other parents that have transgender child. But it depends on how assholish your parents can react (like kicking you out)

>>7989713
I know I should get a job or do something but I have no motivation to do anything at all. Which is why I kinda just want to come out to my parents.

>>7989689
My mom is all of the first 4 my dad is kinda from the south though sooooo he was at the least raised in bigoted culture. If I was going to come out it would be to my mother anyways.

>>7989820
At some point you'll need to learn how to motivate yourself, coming out with your parents comes with responsabilities such as getting a job, learning how to live like an adult, taking care of yourself, etc
its never too late to start

>>7978868
They still haven't talked to you yet? I remember you mentioning this in a thread before

>>7989926
I figured maybe if I came out to my parents it would be a good start to doing something with my life and maybe getting motivated.

>>7989980
as long as it motivate you, go for it! There's a lot of sad people here, but trans people CAN be happy, a lot have succeded in life, it will be good anon, don't abandon

>>7987081
>Every time I tried the 'get drunk first it'll make it easier' I would just end up crying and not saying why.

I tiptoed around it for about an hour too. It helped that my mom finally got irritated and made me say it.

My mom just thought I was looking oddly feminine after not seeing me for a couple of years. But I didn't get to come out properly, I was forced out when someone kept referring to me with female pronouns(she was convinced I was cis for some reason). I was planning on doing the feminine boy thing for a bit longer but so much for that.

>>7989943
A couple days later and they're talking to me a bit now, but they're ignoring the elephant in the room. Gonna try to confront them again.

>>7978457
What do you think would be a good thing to say? Something like "Hey mom I want to be a girl" or "I think I'm transgender"?

>>7996292
Saying "I want to be a girl" is the worst fucking thing, how is this not obvious to like every individual in this thread????? No wonder no one can talk to their parents

>>7996441
What should I say?

>>7996495
im a sick tranny freak daddy please beat me up and strangle me

>>7996292
>"I think I'm transgender"

this.

>>7996508
Thanks that's almost as good as when I planned to blow my head off and have them find me dead in my room

I went to college out of state because I knew I couldn't transition near my home. Depression and dysphoria took over and I eventually dropped out. Suicidal as hell and with a loaded .45 in my mouth I decided to call home. I was going to kill myself, so I had nothing to lose. My parents knew I was effeminate, but had never seen me in make our dresses and such. On the phone, crying, they knew that this was the conversation that would change everything. They told me, "son we'll love you no matter what." To which I replied, "even if I was your daughter?" I burst into tears, and they said, "yes of course." 2 days later they were at my apartment, packing my things, and moving me back home.

I wanted so hard to believe them, that they would accept me as their daughter. They thought I was gay, and didn't really know what to make of the whole transgender thing. They're conservative and Christian.

It's been 9 years since that phone call and 8 years since starting HRT. I moved away again, finished college, got a career, etc. Despite having fully socially and legally transitioned they still don't accept me as trans. They don't use my "new" name or female pronouns, etc. They still think I was brainwashed by gay groups at my liberal college. They still think it's a phase I will grow out of once I rekindle my relationship with Jesus.

I rarely go home. Christmas causes me immense stress, and I haven't returned for 4 of the last 8. I miss my family so much, but they make my negative feeling so much worse. I eish I were cis, or I wish my family accepted me as I am. I'm not even a monstrous hon. I pass well, and in life outside of my family everyobe just thinks I'm a tall woman.

Feelsbadman.

>>7996508
>daddy
Yeah I don't think that applies to most MTFs.

I did after a few weeks of being depressive,got beaten up and had to take HRT secretly,this is still like that even nowadays,searching for a way to get out of this house.

>>7996559
>I'm a sick tranny freak. Daddy, please beat me up and strangle me.

I shouldn't have to decipher this for you.

>>7997022
>searching for a way
just get a job like everyone else in the history of the planet

>>7997032
MTFs don't have fathers, retard.

>>7997039
It's not that easy if you are 18 and are still studying.

>>7992324
Oh, good, I was thinking they were hoping that if they ignored you you will eventually get fed up and go away.

>>7997207
Colleges have an abundance of campus employment opportunities. If you are in high school then get a job at a cafe, coffee shop, bakery, etc. These kinds of places rely on students to work there temporarily.

>>7997045
Haha, nice one!

>>7978457
Are you trying to come out as MtF or FtM?

>>7997226
Except I'm not american, and here in EU it's far more complicated to get a job like that.

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>>7978457
i just txt my dad couple weeks ago, tell him all the truth and how i feel.
Literaly the first question he made was:
>So..do you want a surgery?
>Therearemanyotherwaystobeagirl.jpg
I love you dad

>>7978457
Every time I try to go up to my parents and tell them I have an anxiety attack and I don't do it.

>>7997942
Enjoy your socialism :^)

If you don't like it, you can always Leave :^)

>>7998235
nice. how did it go from there?

>>8002321
Pretty well. He is ok with that, probably go on estrogen on 1 month and i still "young" (18) so...everything goes well :)

>>8002297
Well, at least here my hrt is like 50 cents a month, not dollars,lulz
Anyway,it's true I would probably prefer living there, people is not as lgbtphobic as here (have you seen the transphobia bus?It came from my country,so much lulz)

put them in a room have a steel door fitted. walk into room calmly and ANNOUNCE YOU ARE INFACT TRANSGENDER. THEN LEG IT OUT OF THE ROOM LOCK THE DOOR AND LET THEM ERUPT IN THEIR OWN LITTLE WAY.. if you have parents that are anti-trans

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I've alluded to a problem that's distressing me with my mum, but I can't spit out that it's because I'm trans.
How do I drop better hints? She thought I was gay at one point.

>>8003766
A lot of people are just completely ignorant of trans people. It's so off their radar that they would never even assume it of somebody that isn't visibly trans.

Example: I literally told my mom I hated being seen as a man and wanted people to stop seeing me as such, and she still didn't get it. Sometimes you just got to lay it out as blatantly as possible.

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>>7978457
Jesus.
Isn't it obvious?
Start dressing up like a pretty pretty princess.
(or a dude if you're ftm)

I wish there was an easy way to do this.

>>7978457
just blurt it out and break down into tears (involuntarily, I was like instantly overwhelmed with
a flood of emotion) that's what I did and it worked for me, ymmv

>>7978457
You do so by realizing gender is a spook and that transtioning is a meme thought up by big pharma

>>8010483
Wow thanks now that you told me that my dysphoria vanished.

>>8010483
?

>>8010483
refusing to transition because gender is a spook is infact being spooked
truly unspooked people would transition if they want to transition, regardless if gender is a spook in the first place or not

>>7989702

I sure hope you realize that if you're HSTS, you've just shot yourself in the foot because she will see you as AGP regardless of the degree to which you conform to the HSTS type. If you're AGP, then I have to ask, why?

>>7978457
> came out to my parents at age 14
Dad & stepmum: not suprised, supported me completely
stepdad: just said that he'll believe me if the psychiatrist believes me
mum: tried her best to talk me out of it, she just denied the possibility
psychologist: said it was too late, I'd be a hon (he was an asshole)
> I repressed the dysphoria, manned up, started acting more manly
> age 20, dysphoria came back, come out again
dad: apologized for not taking it serious enough when I was younger
stepmum: supported me
stepdad: same answer as age 14
mum: same reaction as age 14
Psychiatrist: "If you want to be a girl, just wear a skirt and act like a girl" (probably a scare tactic, sadly enough it worked)
>tried repressing it again
>fail miserably
>Heavily suicidal for the last year
>failed school, lost most my friends because I don't come outside and slept an average of 14 hours a day ...
>age 21:
mum accepted me
dad, stepmum, stepdad: started doubting me
psychiatrist: appointment next October

>How do you come out?
Just do it, if it goes shit, it goes shit. if it goes well, it goes well

>>7978457
>>8017216

sorry, forgot the "how" part of the coming out
>age 14
Just shouted "I need to say something", parents came to me
now I had no way out of it and spilled the beans
>age 20
My lil sis was fighting with parents during diner (cause puberty)
I couldn't stand it and just shouted that I was going to start gender therapy again.
(^ not the best way to come out)
>age 21
my big sis told my mum to call me because I was depressed.
She asked if it was really what I wanted.
I said "yes, obviously"

>>8016735
>If you're AGP, then I have to ask, why?
Because it's true?

>>8017216
>came out to my parents at age 14
>psychologist: said it was too late, I'd be a hon (he was an asshole)
WTF

>>8017317
I'm guessing I was the first trans he had (or so I hope)
He didn't know what to do and didn't refer a specialist.
He just googled some shit and figured that it was to late since my voice was already almost completely dropped.
He linked me some sites he found, they were mostly about the sex-change-operations, not about hrt. So most sites where just about dicks cut in two, and diagrams about how they make a vagina from a dick etc.

I was fucking scared now and didn't want to become a girl anymore, tried to man up. And obviously failed.. And now there's a larger chance I'll end up as a hon.. As my face got fucking masculine during the last 2-ish years.

But yeah.. I guess it's also kinda my fault for being so naive

>>8017348
>I'm guessing I was the first trans he had (or so I hope)
>He didn't know what to do and didn't refer a specialist.
>He just googled some shit
Why do psychologists even exist?

>>8017397
Well, he did help me with other things though.. he just wasn't so good with genderdysphoria.. And neither with sexuality..

But he did help me with:
Stress management,
Procrastination problems,
Random puberty shizzle,
Social problems,
...

And he also was there to take an IQ- and Attention-span-test.

And he helped me to communicate with my parents about personal issues during guided sessions with him and my parents in the same room.

>>8017447
Why were you sent to him in the first place?

>>8017454
He was the best child psychologist in the region.
And I was an emo kid..

I had problems with talking to my parents.
I didn't show much emotion and often snapped ('cause of build up emotions) and acted hysterical (rage attacks, destroying everything. Or just crying the whole day for no reason. Or just laughing hysterica for long periods of timel)
I also ran away from home a lot etc

>>7979334
Just don't disappoint your family... it doesn't matter how many friends you have, your family is only one. Don't lose it. To be honest I'd rather still have my family with me right now, this pain is stronger than before.

>>8017483
I never saw psychologists and now I've repressed. I wonder what it would have been like.

>>7978457
Haha good luck OP. I thought it would go over well but I was horribly wrong.

My parents are very loving and accepting but coming out as trans is the one thing that made them completely turn against me. I suggest you try to find out your parents opinion on trans people before coming out. My mom always disapproved of anyone who transitioned on TV so make sure you pay attention to these kinds of warning signs before coming out. My mom told me that it's a fetishistic lifestyle and that the family will collapse is I transitioned.

Them not accepting me as trans kinda fucked with me so I decided to go stealth hrt and stay a femboy. Funnily enough I actually prefer being an androgynous male but I still loath my parent's hatred for trans people. It made me realize why trans suicide rates are through the roof. Just make sure your skin is thick as fuck and don't base your decisions on what your parents want.

I consider myself pretty lucky that I didn't do a full transition but if you feel that's the path you want to take then you should do it ASAP.

>>8017836
My parents were always really nice to me and my mom always went the extra mile to help me and I would like to think she at least loves me unconditionally but it's still nerve wracking. My mom and dad talked about Caitlyn Jenner once my mom seemed completely neutral about it and my dad was disgusted by it. So I know to avoid my dad about this at least at first but if my mom didn't accept me either I could imagine myself being a lot more depressed than usual to say the least.

>>7978457
I've decided the next time my mom has a day off I'm going to go up to her and try to say "I think I'm transgender" I hope it comes out of my mouth and I hope it turns out ok.

I can't even get the words out of my mouth to my mom that I'm gay. I don't know how anyone has the bravery to tell their parents that they're trans. That takes an incredible amount of boldness

>>8020218
It's hard for sure I haven't done it yet. I literally freeze up and can't speak when I tried tell them before.

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opposite problem here, I just want to go back into the closet and forget any of it ever happened.

It's not worth it to alter my physical appearance or real-world self in any way.

>>8020243
What went wrong?

>>8020218
I was lucky enough to have a mom who I was 100% sure would accept me, very liberal, not religious, asked me if i was gay before and told me its okay if i was, her friends has a trans kid, and even then it still took me 2 months to work up the courage to do it. I can't imagine how it must be for others who are less certain about how their parents would accept them.

I was a lot more worried about my dad, though. Still pretty socially liberal and not religious, never seemed to have a problem with LGBT stuff before, etc. But I have many, many memories of him telling me to "man up" and "stop being such a sissy" any time I did feminine stuff as a kid. He always tried to get me to do more masculine activities. I think he was worried about his only son turning out gay or the like.

I was pretty torn up about it, but when I finally came out he just told me that as long as I'm happy, he doesn't care who I am or what I do.

>>8017281
Yeah but all most normies are going to hear is "I'm doing this because I'm a huge pervert". Even lots of people on this board don't understand that the AGP arousal/attraction does not preclude legitimate gender dysphoria (and in fact they are very often comorbid).

>tfw probably going to fall for the drop out of college because too depressed because I'm a tranny and trying to ignore it meme


why

>>7978457
i sent my mom i text since i knew i would never be able to tell her to her face

>>8020956
>But I have many, many memories of him telling me to "man up" and "stop being such a sissy" any time I did feminine stuff as a kid.
>but when I finally came out he just told me that as long as I'm happy, he doesn't care who I am or what I do.
What a hypocrite...

>Be me
>Come out
>Ended up really bad with all the family,including sisters and parents.
>Nowadays all I read is about people whose parents at the very least say, I dont care, the most, is people whose parents and other family just are so cool with it they immediately treat them how they want to,
>Feel so envious and so bad...

>>8021717

Because you fell for the "Man up and ignore it because it will go away" meme years ago. They're a package deal.

You don't that's the trick

>>8026689
then what? self-med or repress?

>>8021717
Literally me

>>8020956
Still though, man up and don't be a sissy. Just because you're trans doesn't mean you let the world get you down or push you around.

>>7978457
just kill yourself

>>7978457
i emailed my mom while i was out of state for a week

>>8026702

No. I assume you're the OP here.

The moment you come out you open a can of worms that ranges from being murdered, having your meds flushed down the toilet, getting lectured on what's natural, being forced into an intervention, or getting lectured on what a holy text vaguely says about everyone.

If you begin transitioning in secret, with a script or self-med, by the time they notice it'll be too late to stop you. You have months to make a plan, set up support, and improve your situation as it develops.

Telling them before you transition is sometimes great, but for many people is pure shit, and do you really need your parents support when this is weighed against the risk they wont be so accepting?

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>>7978457
>come out to mother
>she's having troubles with my new name but that's about it
>come out to dad
>MEGASUPPORTIVE
Feels good being northern french

>>7978457
I actually tried to do this today and I froze up. I guess if you really wanted to do this you would just have to do it and not think about it. I was planning to do it today and I think I got my self too hyped up and overanxious to actually do it.

Lol, I was just watching this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6AQ_85U7Q0

You'll be okay if you are not a hon. Only hons get the problems associated with being trans.

>>8036648
>He is not a good looking girl. He is a beautiful man.

What a savage father.

>>8003843
This. But that hurts. Peope want a simple, easily digestible answer to a complicated problem. I want to be a girl is stupid. I want to wear dresses is stupid. I have a condition and need hormones. The identity politics of this disease will kill me.j

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>cousin came out as trans a few years ago
>entire family laughed at him and still refer to him by his birth name
>now I know I can't come out ever
>have to suffer silently until I can move out

End my life

>>7978457
I'm planning to live an elaborate lie that I'm their perfect cis son. Every time I see them, I'll just wear really loose clothes and talk in a manly voice.

>>8036930
>>entire family laughed at him and still refer to him by his birth name
Entire family including you, apparently. At the very least you could use her correct name/pronouns.

>>8038135
>what are trans men?

>>8038221
a myth?

>>7978457
Don't.

I came out and my loving dad tried to kill me.

Just fucking disappear.

>>7978457
i dont, cuz am nott trnz

>>8020243
Venga, siéntate y cuéntamelo todo ^^

>>8017216
holy fuck why aren't you self-medding already?

>>8020243
I wish I could feel that way. Sure I hate myself but I think I probably would've killed myself if I hadn't transitioned.

>>8022625
Idk I just can't ignore it anymore. It just sucks the life from me.

Like there's no point in doing anything because I'll never be a real person because I'll never get to be a girl which only just step 1 on being a person.

1. be a girl
2. develop a personality
3. live life

i'll never even get to step 1

>>7996532

I feel like "I think" gives them the wiggle room to doubt and fight you on it. Why not "I'm transgender" or "After thinking about it for a long time, I'm sure that I'm transgender"

>>8044503
Other anon here, how does 'I wish I was born a girl sound?'
I'm just worried that the either won't 'get' transgender stuff or the term will have a strong stigma attached to it.

>>8044503
>"After thinking about it for a long time, I'm sure that I'm transgender"
I would like to say something like that but I freeze up and I think it might be hard to say all that. I do think you might be right about the "I think" though.

>>8044007
I know the feel I'll never be a real person

>>8022209
born too soon

>>8050085
I don't think you understand what a real person is, or a girl by these 'steps'. This awkwardness is already your personality and convincing yourself you're a girl isn't going to magically give you a personality.

>>7978457
Well I'm going to come out today. Hopefully it doesn't go shitty.

>>7978457
I told my mom, "I feel like I'm a woman."

She paused for a moment then replied. "No...If that were true, you would say you are a woman." Then she stood up and walked away.

That was at 18. I'm 28 and can finally transition because I have some money and health insurance. It doesn't matter what your family thinks. It's not their body.

>>7978457
>grab conetits
>bounce them around
>"Mom, we need to talk."
There you go.

>>8020956
>I think he was worried about his only son turning out gay or the like.
Old men do that with the best of intentions. They want their son to fit in and be successful and happy. And, well, even if you are gay, chances are you'll fit in better and have easier success if you are masc.
Now, about the happiness part...

>>7978457
You don't. Seriously, just pretend to commit suicide or cut yourself off from them. All you will do as coming out as a trans is hurt them.

>>7978457
Holy fucking shit this is probably the hardest thing to do in the world

>>8056657
Pretending to commit suicide or cutting them off from you life would hurt them too though and if they really cared about you they would accept you. The only person that can get hurt from this is yourself to be honest.

The thing is, I would have no idea how to keep transitioning if one of my parents told me not to. It's automatic, like I'm no longer human around them; if they ask me to do anything at all, I do it without question or even really thought.

They did a really good job of making me well-behaved etc., but the effect of that's that I haven't got a way of liberating myself without doing something like this >>8056657.

>>7997942
lies eu anon here pretty sure you can get job in any eu country if you tried move your ass and stop lying everyone kek

>>8055710
>28 and can afford.

27 and still saving, thank you for hope.

>>8055710
holy hell what a mic drop, im sorry anon

>>7978457
As liberal jesus Shia the beef would say
JUST DO IT
JUST DO IT
JUST DO IT
JUST DO IT

I forced myself into a corner so I'd just have to come up with the words. I wasn't expecting a disaster though, but it was harder than I expected moving the topic away from sexuality.

>>8055296
>convincing yourself you're a girl isn't going to magically give you a personality.

I'm not convincing myself I'm a girl

I'm pretty almost 100% sure I'm trans.


And as for personality I mean that most people develop personalities based on their experiences in life and I basically have 0 life experiences. Most 14/15/16 year old kids probably have more of a life than me.

If this is what my life is supposed to be like then I would rather just kill myself because it's fucking pathetic.

>>7978457
This shit is damn near impossible to do

I told my mum that I wanted to become a trans (I know technically you are trans, and you may want to transition, but I had to say it in a way she would understand.)
She just laughed her ass off. I'm not trans by the way, I just wanted to see how she would react.

>>7978457
Let me tell you a story:

I came out to three or four of my close friends in 1999. While these friends had known me long enough, and were very supportive, I knew that if I were to come out to my parents, they would react really badly.

One of these friends was in the midst of a breakup. She needed a place. I needed to get independent from my parents. We got an apartment together.

Her ex-boyfriend believed that my mother (who worked with my roommate) and I had conspired to get them broken up. He also knew of my trans status and, while they were dating, pretended to be supportive. Of course, without the girlfriend, he let go of that illusion. He got some incriminating pictures and sent them to my parents.

I unironically refer to April 26 as the Day Everything Changed for Me™. This was:
>First morning waking up in my new apartment
>First day of a brand new job that actually paid well (comparatively)
and
>The day I was outed. FML.

Roomie and I stopped by the parents' place that day to pick up the last of my stuff. On the way out, my father told Roomie that he needs to talk to me, and to head to the car. "We'll just be a little bit."

He showed me the letter and the pictures, furious that I would "do this to the family." After he goes through the litany of hateful things that I knew he'd say once he knew -- "freak of nature," "shame to the family," "even worse than gay," you know the drill -- I had finally had enough. I made a snippy one-liner to one of his not-questions, turned, and left.

I somehow managed to get to the car and drive a whole two blocks before the gravity of my disownment hit me. The independence of my own apartment suddenly became an exile. And this was before I went to the first day at that new job! The next thing to pile on was fear. If something went wrong, I would have nowhere to go. I pulled over and cried for several minutes. The roomie drove us the rest of the way home where I learned the scope of her ex's vendetta.

(continued)

From >>8066601

In addition to outing me to my parents, my roomate's jilted ex-boyfriend outed me to all our other friends and acquaintances. When I checked my answering machine and email, I found that several people had tried to let me know just how not welcome I was. Basically, nearly everybody in my life that hadn't known beforehand had decided to shun me. I really felt like I was on my own. That one wrong move or moment of bad luck could render me without any support, without any hope.

I had lost everything.

Those people that didn't want to kill me already viewed me as dead to them.

And somewhere, a spark lit up within me.

It was only when I believed that I had lost everything, that I realized that I had nothing to lose by pursuing my own life, on my own terms. I decided that from that my transition would proceed in earnest.

I came out to my brand new co-workers within my first week of working there. To remind me what I was fighting for, I wrapped my key card in a photo of me as, well, myself. Despite there being a lot of prejudice there (this was the midwest US, after all), my work spoke a lot louder than my trans status.

Within a couple weeks, I was training the next batch of employees at the call center I was working at. Most of the other co-workers in my batch were still struggling with the tasks they'd been taught.

Two of the people I had trained were a couple that was hired together. They were surprised that I was training people so quickly. When one of them saw the photo on my keycard, he asked me, "Is that you?"
"Yes, it is. This photo reminds me why I'm working so hard at this job."
"Have you met my wife yet?"
We talk a little bit in between calls, and after the shift, the three of us head out for some drinks where we discuss more things.

The wife had transitioned a few years ago, and was glad to meet another trans person in the area. She helped me get in touch with people that would become pivotal in my transition.

>>8066604
Very inspiring story senpai. That's always how it is. Under great duress a lot of people crumble, and some are able to rise. I'm happy for you.

>>7978457
I went to a therapist specifically with coming out to my family in mind. Not for dysphoria, or progressing in my transition, but just coming out to my family. My therapist helped me through it after I brought her to a session. That was my experience, just something to consider

>>7978457
I broke down one night and asked them to send me for "professional help". They did. After a few weeks of talking with a psych and finally being able to say out loud "I'm trans" I was able to tell them. Best decision ever.

>>8066541
>I'm not trans by the way, I just wanted to see how she would react.
For what purpose?

>>8021717
Crap. This actually happened to me. Dammit.

>>8067024
[spoiler]Because she is trans and wanted to test the waters.[/spoiler]

>>8067024
Just because, I don't know. for fun, and because I read here all the time how it is traumatizing and shit.

>>8067033
Nah, I sometimes wonder what I would look like, and if I could see myslef in a paralel timeline on hrt I would be very intrigued, but I wouldn't want that for myself. I love my beard too much.

>>8067086
>and if I could see myslef in a paralel timeline on hrt I would be very intrigued,
thoughts_cis_people_dont_have.txt

>I love my beard too much.
Don't get electrolysis.

>>7978457
Another day I'm too afraid to tell them.

>>8066601
>>8066604
Well done turning something horrible into something empowering.

>>8067101
Oh shit, you are right! I must start demanding a special bathroom for myself everywhere I go, and that employers hire me because I am trans!
Thanks for taking the veil out of my eyes.

>>8075002
Filtered.

>>8075002
Filtered

>>8036648
So if my parents don't approve of me transitioning it means i'm a hon?

>>8075047
>>8079777
Thus I became known as the The Lord of the Triggers

>>8079837
Exactly

>>7997226
>>8057053
The EU is way overregulated when it comes to getting jobs.