Lgbt, can you tell me how to make my ruminating thoughts go away?

Well my first suggestion would be to do some serious self-examination and decide if you should be coming out as gay or trans.

After that, you just need to learn skills to help you notice the early signs that your train of thought is about to go to that lgbt place, and how to stop the thought process early before it's a problem.

Whenever you notice yourself ruminating, stop. Just take a deep breath and recognize what is happening. Try and chart out how you go to that point. Do this every time and you'll start to know what the warning signs are and you can try avoiding those.

>>7704787
It's hard though because the events that caused these thoughts are random, and the trigger of them is also random. I'll just be thinking about regular things and then all of a sudden something will vaguely remind me of something and the thoughts will come back full force.

I also don't think I'm trans so much as gender non conforming.

>>7704770
do you live in the US? or was your family/area particularly conservative or religious? because, and i think you know this too, you don't really need to (and probably can't) just stop acting feminine. there's nothing inherently wrong with liking dick or wanting to look cute or whatever, and you'll feel a lot better if you stop beating yourself up for it.

i can also guarantee that none of these people even remember whatever it was that you said or thought about it for more than 15 seconds. if they do have a problem, then they can fuck off and you're better off without them anyway.

>>7704967
I grew up in a rather liberal household, my school was very diverse too.

>>7704967
My hair cutter probably remembers, considering I stopped seeing her right after that. And that's not the only thing that I told her. I told her that I was really depressed and they sent me to a hospital for like a week, and that was along with that other thing I told her. The hospital thing was also something that has haunted my memory for years, it's been about two years since it happened. I still have nightmares about that experience in where I'm trapped in a hospital, or some place and they won't let me out.

>>7705785
then find somewhere else to get your haircut and you'll never have to see her again. problem solved.

>>7706482
The memory still remains though.

>>7706620
what kind of answer are you expecting? there's nothing you can do but suck it up and get over yourself. this whole "problem" is all in your head.

>>7706706
Maybe in our primitive world where we have not yet mapped the human brain, and have very little means of fixing psychological problems.

Stop. This is you. You can keep running from yourself, or you can commit to it. You say it yourself, there's nothing shameful about how you feel, so be it. Volunteer to the centre, and talk to someone else about it. It's really hard, but every time anything like that happens, do something you enjoy. That's what I'd advise. Best wishes from a bi shut-in