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Hey all. I don't know where else to post this and I need to vent. I figure people will either accuse me of lying (I'm not) or laugh at me. I won't stop you. I know how this website is and it would be stupid to tell it to go against how it is.
I'm a 22 year old guy with a boyfriend my age. We've been together 3 years. It's by far been my best relationship. We work really well together and have amazing chemistry. Everything's good there.
Anyway, he pulls me aside one day and tells me he needs to tell me something serious and personal. I'm a little scared, but I tell him to go ahead. That's when he tells me something I was NOT prepared for, and I'm sure it won't help the opinions of the homophobes lurking.
He says he's a pedophile, generally attracted to boys around 7-10 years of age. He promises he'd never touch any kids, because he wouldn't want to ruin some child's life due to his own sick desire. I'm shocked and horrified. I am kind of a twink and I look young for my age, but I would have never thought this of him.
I ask him lots of questions, one of which is whether or not he jerks off to child porn, because that would be a deal breaker. That's when he has kind of a weird look on his face, so I prod him.
That's when he tells me he masturbates to his childhood photos. I admit he was a cute kid in a non sexual way, and he also looked very different as a kid so I'm sure in his head it's not even registering as him. He says this is a victimless crime because the person he's jerking off to is himself rather than some random kid, and he's consented to... well, himself. He says this satisfies his urges and has for years, and that he has no desire to move onto any other variety of kiddie porn.
I can't help but wonder if this is actually ethical, or at least more so than getting off to child porn in general. Either way I have a lot to think about it.
Pic semi related, it kind of looks like he did as a kid (for obvious reasons I can't post any actual pictures)
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>>7601582
Tell him it's not an attractive feature, and neither is it something you're proud of him for telling you; that if he'd been able, he might as well have kept it secret.
Just emphasise that you're barring him from using this confession as a means of bringing you closer together. Whatever it means for him, it can mean for him; but you're not going to let a 'sweet moment' emerge from it.
Then tell him you're fine if he has one or two gaps in his life, in which you're not included. Because it actually doesn't hurt anybody or matter; it's just a thing that happens in his head/private experience.
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>>7601582
Tell him to get psychiatric help. If he cares about you and the well-being of children, he will comply. It would show that he's legitimately understanding that this is a problem, and willing to take proactive steps to try to address it, as far as this is possible. Best of luck to both of you.
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>>7601582
Well, if you ask most of LGBT, theres no chance he will ever repress, and will end up a child rapist
If you ask me, he might be ok if he stops feeding the habit
So hey, if you WANT hope of saving it, bring up repression
If not, well, leave him and be miserable. your call.
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>>7601603
You would rather he keep it secret?
Also, frankly refusing to let it happen is dumb, thats paranoia. He made himself vulnerable, that shows trust
Saying you dont care comes off as being kind of an asshole, even if he wont have the nerve to say so.
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>>7601766
My suggestion is to say all of those things - not to mean them.
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>>7601766
I get what you're saying, but you don't want to give the guy the wrong impression. It needs to be made clear that anon isn't ok with his bfs pedo side. Shut it down now and maybe it only ever stays in his head, give even the slightest hint of encouragement and he might bring it up sometime in the future.
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I concur with everyone who has encouraged you to put your foot down and ask him to get help.
The fact he was willing to tell you is a good sign, but now that you're aware that he has these urges, you have a responsibility to keep him on the right and narrow. You can't ignore this.
All it takes for a pedophile to go down the rabbit hole is to get in with the wrong crowd, or visit the wrong websites, or be enabled by the people around you.
I wish you the best. Honestly if I were in your shoes I would be devastated.
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