How about a little thread for all my closeted bi boys? Just

I'm out to a bunch of people I know online, and I think some of my friends probably have reason to suspect I'm bi, but I am honestly afraid of how some friends would react. I'm also afraid of how it would limit my ability to date women. And I have anxieties about dating men that go on top of dating anxiety in general...

And I'm in Japan

>>7158824
>Japan

That's rough, bud.

Closeted mostly because I don't want to scare off the most perfect girl I've ever met
Never had a gf or bf before as well, because of this

But recently I think a dude I work with was lowkey asking me out

>>7158839
I only hear casual homophobia about once a month.

But I am in Osaka, which is like the most gay friendly city maybe?

>>7158824
Hey I'm also in Japan, but just on a trip. Here for two months. It's hard here man, way too many qts.

>>7158847

>>7158849
This is me ^
Wtf I'm also in Osaka tomorrow, but we leave in two days. Did you grow up here? It's a pretty great place.

>>7158849
That's a long trip

I look unusual for Japan and I'm pretty sure I'm hot to a lot of the guys here...

So many guys here dress super sharp and have amazing skin

>>7158860
Nah I'm an American. I've only been here three months. I definitely like this area better than Tokyo or Kyoto.

>>7158865
Yeah it is, we wanted to explore before university. The buddy I'm with was born and raised in Japan.

We Whiteys definitely do get some special attention. I really fucked up the other night and was too drunk to go with some qts. Oh well.

And yep, their skin is perfect, I'm so jealous. Mine is usually pretty good but since we got here it got worse. Damn perfect Japanese dudes.
>>7158871
Agreed. Tokyo is pretty nuts. Fun for a bit, but not for living.

>>7158877
Did you go to any gay bars/clubs?

>>7158899
Nope, I'm not out to my friend and we're together almost 24/7. It's hard.

>>7158905
have you hooked up with a guy before?

>>7158945
Nope, total Virgin here, guy-wise. Hyped though

>>7158952
o八o

I always feel like it would be considert attentionwhoring to come out as bi.
thats why i struggel to have a real outing. most of my friends and family seem to know anyways even if i never really told anyone. But im super frustrated because i still feel the need to talk to somebody, but as i said, dont want to annoy someone. stupid low self-esteem.

Other big problem is that i dont recognize other bi or gay dudes. i just cant read the signs (well exept the really obvious ones, but they are not my type). after i crushed the 4th time for a straigt guy i pretty much gave up...

Out to only one person, and she's just an internet friend. Terrified of just looking like an attention whore, since im only 18 i'm still in prime "it's just a phase!" territory. Gay friend hit on me a lot at work over the summer, and I had a huge crush on him, but i couldn't act on it due to the fact i'm still in the closet

>>7159145
its so wierd that it is so much easier to talk to strangers. but not really statisfying imo. just helps for a few moments.
i can relate the the attentiowhoring part, though im 21. every time when i think about having the "mom dad im gay" talk, i cringe because what if i meet a girl i like. I cant tell everyone im gay and 2 years later have a girlfriend. After that nobody would take me serious.
And to tell them im bi is just very lame. Most people dont have a problem with bisexuals, so i doesnt help you or others to have a coming out.
and still a want someone i know to talk to.

Couldnt you tell the gay coworker and ask him to keep it secret for a while?

Does anyone else here not want to come out because you haven't done anything with men yet and are afraid you won't like the reality of same-sex?

It's such a nice fantasy but at most i've dated one guy online for two weeks and called things off because he wasn't doing it for me.
But that was just online.

I'd hate to open myself up more irl and then realize i just made an ass of myself and disappointed someone for my sexual confusion.

>>7159298
Can relate with the whole coming out doesnt help part. Just seems kind of stupid to come out as bi, no one really cares, and if you're dating a boy they just think you're gay.

I could, yea. Actually i probably should do that

I honestly don't see the point in coming out at all. I can't help but notice that when a gay guy comes up into conversation the first thing people have to point out is that he's gay. Never understood it. I'll out when people stop making such a big deal out of it.

"Who, Anon? Did you know that he's gay???"
"What really?!"
>laughing ensues

>>7159145
>since im only 18 i'm still in prime "it's just a phase!" territory

When I was 17, I thought I liked a bi guy but really it was just a phase, I never had any female sexual contact and this guy seemed nice so I wanted to try something different, after a couple of flirty texts I realised he didn't do it for me, it didn't feel right, so I just told him I found a girlfriend before disappointing him any further.

Now I'm 20 and I got out of a relationship a few months ago with a girl who's best friend was gay, for some reason bisexual feelings emerged not long after we ended things and they are still there, I start watching straight/lesbian porn before masturbating but many times I often end up ejaculating to bi porn. Regardless of whether I find some boys attractive or not, I will always find girls attractive and won't ruin the opportunity of finding a nice gf by "coming out" when I'm not even sure if there's a closet there to begin with.

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I'm still not sure if I'm bi yet, typical faps to gay porn but doesn't like guys in real life thing going on here, so I don't want to get ahead of myself, nor do I want to be sexually active at the moment so I can't really experiment.

>>7159363

Same. I've just learned to accept that yeah I might bi, but that doesn't mean I have to do anything about it right now or ever, and honestly I don't even want to, not unless its with someone I really like, and that's unlikely given the rarity of guys that make me feel that way.

I'm 24 and I didn't fully come to terms with the fact I was bisexual until well after I met my partner and started to feel some small amount of confidence. We're both recluses with depression but we both understand each others brains and can handle it because we're dealing with a lot of the same shit.
I feel a little bit of regret over the fact that I didn't get to fully experience the other half of my sexuality when I had the option to (I had two brief encounters but not with people I actually found attractive, I was just lonely and desperate). I feel like if I had confidence back then, I could have been living up the degenerate lifestyle and just fucking twinks left right and centre.
But then again, she was the one who actually made me start feel confident in myself and respected me. In fact, she's been the first person I've known to actually see me as an equal and treated me with genuine kindness, instead of automatically treating me like scum and only keeping me around to make fun of me.
So while I might have missed out on twink sex, there is no way I'd ever trade what I found for that.

I don't feel the need to come out at all. It's no one's business but my own.
But I guess I have it easy because I'm mostly into girls anyway, except for that one guy that I'd do anything with, if he showed interest. Apart from the other gay fantasies that I have I guess, which don't include people that I know.
But even then I'm not sure if I'm the type to ever have an actual long-term same-sex relationship.

So while in college, my General thought was "I'm way too busy to deal with coming out" and planned to wait until after college. Since the last year of college until now, years later, I've been in a relationship with a girl, and I'm SUPER monogamous, so now I don't really see the point...

>>7164241
This is pretty much how i'm guessing my life's going to go, although i'm still a 26 kv.

I like imagining having some big guy to love and fuck me but any guys in my age aren't willing to deal with my sexual confusion, especially since i'm handsome but could never be a cute twink with my physique.

I'm likely just going to wind up falling for the first more dominant to give a shit about me then cling to her. Or just realize i need to "man up" if i don't want to die completely alone.

>>7158803
Reminder that 99% of people are totally fine with bisexual people. The only stigma is here on /lgbt/. They're just jealous they can't appear to be normal.

>t. Biguy comimg out to his friends and they are more surprised than anything else

I'm not out and I don't intend to be out.
It's quite unlikely I'll ever date anyone so that part is taken care of, and I'm also a very private person so I doubt I'd ever introduce my parents to a partner of either sex.
Online friends know or suspect but they don't matter, in the end they're just online.

>>7158803
I feel disgusting by exploring these feelings even though I like it

Think I'll just repress then and be straight

The problem with being bi is if you want kids you may as well just say you're straight.

>>7164398

Don't want kids, don't want to be a fag either though.

Really I just want to live a asexual lifestyle, sex is so pointless, I don't like identifying with feelings I have no control over.

>>7164357
Conscious repression won't work. It has to be traumatic for it to be truly repressed and forgotten.

>>7164398
>t. Faggy biphobe

>>7164439

Rationalizing/abstinence works better. Accept yourself but just don't have sex.

>>7164443
I'm actually bi or just think i am or something

I feel like raising a kid is more important for my life, so while i really want to experiment and have relationships with guys it's frustrating and like "what's the point" in the long run. I'm not just looking for hookups at this point in my life sadly, things would be easier if i were i guess.

I just want to fuck a cute twinky boy/trap and dominant them but at the same time I am stuck in a monogamous relationship with a girl i love

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>>7159075
>after i crushed the 4th time for a straigt guy i pretty much gave up...

Jesus, I'm only on straight crush #2 and it sucks ;_;

Whenever I find out he's straight, I always want to just go ask out any girl I think is kinda cute, but I know it'd be just to try to extinguish my previous desire for a qt man, and I'd just end up breaking her heart. I dont want to use a woman as a means to an end like that, i'd feel horrible for doing it.

>>7164439
Then I'll just deny myself these desires because I can't take the shame

>>7165113
What shame is there? Just accept yourself, you're a fag.

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>>7158803
I personally am a half-fag in the closet because nobody's knocked on the door yet

i don't think my family would react badly, when i'm with friends the amount of homophobia i hear skyrockets, most of it is from me, all of it is obvious sarcasm/jokes

but it's just never really come up in a conversation...

Told a few friends I'm bi and the reaction was fine, told an aquaintance who seemed sexually attracted to my femboyush look but when she found out I was into guys she started asking off questions about sex and wanted to know if I bottom, I think. Wouldn't answer and she basically lost interest. I don't care about this person in particular but would be hurt if someone I liked suddenly shut me down cause anal. I don't even do anal but wouldn't tell anyone that because this stigma is a turn off for me, would rather know someone has these notions and drop them than convince them I'm a 'safe' bi because i don't bottom or whatever the fuck this attitude is about (AIDS, I know But fuck people who treat bis like this).

Ive attempted to meet up with other guys via Grindr but theyre usually skeevy and gross and i cant go through with it.
Im gross myself but i lay it all out there, the body pics and everything.

Been curious for awhile.

Any advice?

Dont like dudes women are cruel and trans want money............ CANT BUST A NUT!!!! ......... I work out 3 times a week Im socially alpha what the fuck else can I do?

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>>7166893
>when i'm with friends the amount of homophobia i hear skyrockets
>most of it is from me

Way to set the stage for your eventual coming out party!