/bi-gen/ - Bi-sexual General Discussion

I'd say no, but to be fair the few bicycles(term I have coined) that I know I barely talk to or at am not close enough friends with to be able to tell. sigh

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>>7066413
Bless you

>>7066457
well gee thanks

also bump

>>7066167
I have found that ever since I came out, gay men are infinitely more approachable than women. It was quite a different experience than most women who would be repulsed by me. I was pleasantly surprised.

Why did it take several days to get another one of these threads posted? Are we all too fucking lazy?

>>7067193
If you're so angry about the wait, why didn't you make it yourself?

>>7067246
Because I'm also lazy :(

>>7066801
>Is surprised many men will settle for anything

>>7067268
The funny thing is that there's still men who are old and fat and expect to hook up with young fit guys. The difference is that this only applies to some men, and the majority of women.

>>7066801
Well Can't say myself since I kind of shit at figuring out if a guy likes guys or not/

>>7066801

Women and men approach sex differently, Anon. Women are hypergamous and therefore, will be more picky, not just on appearance, but on social standing, wealth, etc...

Daily reminder that biscum cannot be trusted.

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>>7069866
It's true. Women want someone who's better than them who will take care of them. It's a part of the female psyche.

>>7066167
I've been homo as fuck for the last year, ever since meeting up with an old friend who turned out to be super cute. My porn habits have more than inverted, where previously they were maybe 80/20 straight/gay they're now at least 5/95. I barely pay any attention to girls around campus anymore, except for the really androgynous short haired ones. It's getting to the point where sometimes I question if I'm even bi.

I've also got a really bad case of
>tfw no bf
which I've never really experienced before.

>had a dream about making out with a pretty blonde girl last night
Well that's reassuring I guess.

Anyone else experience wild swings in attraction?

>>7069939
same situation, same questions :(

I'm in a gay mode since +1 year because I'm falling for a guy atm, but I still have doubts; like maybe I'm straight and I'm just fucked up by too much porn & loneliness even if I only think about him, watch gay porn every day and actively cam with other hot guys??

I'm legitimately conflicted as to whether I'm actually bisexual or not.

So like when I'm horny I am down to fuck pretty much anybody. I have had drunken gay sex a handful of times and genuinely had fun most of the time, no regrets. But when I'm not horny, I don't really seem to feel anything for guys. I'll never think things like "oh man they're so cute/beautiful/handsome/whatever" like I will with girls.

Then again I've never really been in a situation where a guy is actually coming onto me. Sometimes when I'm in close proximity with a really hunky guy on the bus or wherever I'll get some hots for his gorgeous defined muscles, but otherwise I just dunno. Facial hair is also universally gross to me, so that's probably a big factor.

Thoughts?

>>7070033
you don't have to feel romantic attraction to guys to be bisexual: if you enjoy gay sex, that's enough to classify you as bi imho.

>>7070048

This desu. I fap to a lot of gay porn, but probably would not start a long-term relationship with another guy. A one night stand... maybe.

>>7070048
>>7070075
I used to be that way. You might grow out of it. Or you might not, who knows.

>>7070222
>I used to be that way. You might grow out of it.
what do you mean?
now you're full gay? straight? or did you make peace with your degenerate bi urges?

Just recently got tinder and haven't turned on guys as well yet. Just wondering, is there anyway to see whether guys are into guys? I feel like chances of matching with another guy to be really low...

>>7070229
I don't use Tinder, but I don't think you'll be presented to guys to swipe left or right on if they aren't interested in dudes as well.

>>7070228
Still bi, now homoromantic. Would love a long term relationship with a dude.

>>7070229
>turned on guys as well
Do they let you do that? Last I heard it was either or, you couldn't do both.

>>7069982
>I'm in a gay mode since +1 year because I'm falling for a guy atm, but I still have doubts; like maybe I'm straight and I'm just fucked up by too much porn & loneliness even if I only think about him, watch gay porn every day and actively cam with other hot guys??

I feel you and worry about this too.

>>7066167
ye bis are chill to be with cause you know they won't think anything is weird and they won't have any extreme opinions on other people's sexuality and stuff like that, also a little attraction between everyone/eachother is always good, keeps people closer together

>>7069939
cuddled a bit with close friend (>>7072791) and basically same thing happened to me... before I didn't even think much about relationships, but now I NEED a bf lol.

>>7075860
guys I don't think you will suddenly stop being attracted to men

got to give it that bump

The interactions I've had with other bisexuals ( I know quite a few) have tended to be more 'open' for lack of a better word. No hang ups about 'looking gay' or 'acting butch', just friendly people talking about relationships and stuff. No need to get all caught up in labels and shit. I kinda prefer it desu.

>>7077628

Bisexuality allows you to be not committed to any sort of identity. You don't have to be the person who only likes girls or who only likes guys. You can just say, "well, I like who I like, and I don't like who I don't like," and while it may be the case that 95% of the people you like are of one gender, and 5% of the other, there's a peace of mind that allows you to crush on someone in that 5% and not think "oh no, am I actually gay/straight?" Fuck that noise. Pretty is pretty, sexy is sexy.

>>7070075
I'm in a relationship and I hate gay porn. Why do we have to work like this

>>7080151

So don't masturbate to gay porn.

>be insecure and straight
>start on slippery slope of porn
>be comfortable and straight (just odd)
>continue watching more porn
>start questioning
>decide I'm bi, probably

I swear I feel like an impostor either way.
I clearly have a huge preference for girls,
but that last bit is confusing.
My preference for guys is so narrow it will just never happen in my daily life.
And at what point is something a genuine part of your character and not just weird porn shit?

>do you find interactions with other bi-sexuals different than interactions with heterosexuals and other members of the lgbt community?
since I'm not out to anyone I know irl, no.

>>7082093
>And at what point
when you grow feelings or just simple sexual attraction for someone of your own gender IRL. Then, you'll probably be less insecure.

>>7082093
I'm in a similar boat. I only want relationships with women, but I also want to know what it feels like to suck a cock. Over the past month or so, I've been getting more serious about it.

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>When you avoided /bigen/ because of OP being a cuck and it finally starts again without a cuck OP

>>7066167
In a long term Same sex relationship.
Its a somewhat open arrangement with a few close friends and their partners. For some reason a third of the people I know are also bisexual. Its kinda great and everyone is really cool about it. We can touch bang and hang out like buddy's afterwards .
Its kinda a dream come true for a bisexual person. Too bad I'm a total introverted shut in loner who doesn't fully get to appreciate such a situation

>Bis, do you find interactions with other bi-sexuals different than interactions with heterosexuals and other members of the lgbt community?
Naw not really. I guess sometimes I worry if my sexual themed banter and jokes might be taken some sort of discrete pass at them unlike hereto people But thats about it at worse

sorry if this gets asked a lot but is it possible to be like, 5% attracted to men and 95% attracted to women and still be bisexual?

I always thought I was straight, then I realized I liked girls and thought I might be gay and assumed so for the longest time. I still like girls a lot but I feel my attraction to guys starting to come back. It's definitely not as strong as it used to be but still..

>Come out as gay at 15
>21 now been with bf for 9 months
>meet qt grill at my go to pub
>cant stop thinking about her
>developing feels
>see her again last week and spend the night drnking and chatting shit until 7am
>becoming distant with bf and losing attraction to him
>internal crisis initiate
>now anxious, confused and depressed
>Dont think she even likes me anyway since everyone told her im gay

The fuck guys so I'm a closet straight/bi guy? Fml I thought I had this shit figured out.

I posted in the last thread but it died.

Someone asked if i'm a girl, i'm a guy

As a 26 year old bi male virgin looking for relationships instead of hook-ups, is anything possible or should I just give up

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>>7084595
yes, it's really common.
(pic related)

>>7066167
Only even been with a girl, who was pretty vanilla and made me tired of "normal sex" after a week (even after I convinced her to try mutual strangulation).
Only poke around for guys on imageboards and interpals because I'm too intimidated to just walk in a gay bar or something. Also I just started an internship taking up most of my time and free time is either spent at home or at the pub with friends, not meeting new people often.

But hey I got around to buy me my first dildo. Been having a great time with it. Next partner gotta definitely be a man or a girl into pegging.

>>7085403
this is why you don't come out as gay even if you're actually gay but only ever come out as bisexual.
>exclusive gays angry at bi people are just bitter and not worth it
>conservative parents will persuade themselves you'll eventually end up in a het raltionship
>nobody will give you shit if you ever change our interests

>>7085603
Had no reason to believe I was bi up until now.

Life sucks man why is everything so complicated.

I want an FFM triad so fucking bad guys :(

It's unfortunate that I've haven't been friends with another woman since I was 15. I'm not very compatible with other women personality wise.

>>7085705
Mate, you don't really need to make a big deal out of being bi. You don't even have to come out of the closet if you don't feel like it. I mean shit, I'm not out, and I have parents who would be more than accepting.

>>7085779
Look for a dude who wants to have threesomes with other women. It's not that hard.

>>7069939
Yeah I go through straight and gay phases all the time. It usually has to do with who the last hot person I saw was. See a hot girl? I'm straight for a while. See a hot guy? Back to being gay for a while.

I only noticed I do this because my phases last a lot longer in the winter, since everyone is bundled up and no one is really that attractive in big puffy nylon coats.

>>7085779
It's pretty fucking easy. There's plenty of couples seeking women to join them.

>>7084595
A lot of people experience attraction to both sexes at some point, it's just society (even gay society) tells us to squash it and only like one.

>>7066167
>do you find interactions with other bi-sexuals different than interactions with others?
The only other bisexual I know is my sister, but she's full tumblr blue-pilled and changes her sexuality every day.
It's nice coming here and talking to other bisexuals, even though my sexuality isn't a big part of my personality. It's comforting to know I'm not alone.

bumping it up

>>7087891

http://nypost.com/2016/06/02/millennials-are-the-most-bisexual-generation-of-all-time/

You are very, VERY not alone.

>>7090240
That's good to hear, although people still look at me funny when I say I'm bi, so I don't go into it anymore

>>7090240
thanks for this article. it gives me hope.

>>7093211
what do you mean go into it? do you bring it up randomly?

>>7070033
I used to feel the same way but honestly, 1 proper relationship with a guy totally swerved me, just wasn't used to thinking that way until it became a part of my life.

Also aside from the sex part it felt no different to any relationship i've had with a girl, you do exactly the same stuff.

>>7096308

So do you give bouquets of roses to guys?

>>7070266
I've noticed there are two different types of homoromantic bis.

There's the kind that makes friends with girls really easily, but because of this ends up friendzoning every girl he meets. He rarely ever makes male friends, though, so male acquaintances easily turn romantic.

Then there's the kind that hates women and sees them as nothing but something pretty to look at, and has little interest in them otherwise. At best, women are just a moist hole to fuck between real relationships with superior male partners.

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>>7066167
>bisexual
>choosing to be a deviant freak when you could just as easily be a happy normie

>>7100193
If they like them, why not? Plenty of girls think flowers are dumb and don't see the point of them as a gesture either.

>>7100361
I would like a potted plant.
Bouquets are destined to die quickly. It's depressing.

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>>7100316
>>7100316

>deviant freak
>attracted to both genders
>pick one

>>7100280
Well, I wouldn't say I hate women, but I certainly don't make friends with them easily, so I guess I'm closer to the second.

>>7082093
My preference for guys has widened somewhat over the years. I still find a much larger number of girls attractive, but I find the guys I do like are better than most girls.

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>>7100316

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>>7100280
I think I'm between those 2 types, or tend to be of the 1s type… I had few girl friends but friendzoned most of them, while I was longing for a deeply romantic male relationship.
But now that I'm older, women of my age mostly seek for someone able to raise children, grow a family which is a big turnoff to me.

>tfw no bi bf/gf to talk about how hot others are regardless of gender

is anyone else bi but calls themself gay to distance themselves from that whole fake tumblr bullshit or am i just an autist

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>>7102325
Considering I can count the number of girls I have ever been attracted to on one hand, I feel safe calling myself gay. In the strictest sense I am bi but if I were to tell other people I was it would be confusing and tiring to explain myself and they would expect me to hook up with girls.

Also I don't want to be coined as that guy who calls himself bi just because he doesn't want to be seen as gay.--btw, fixed the thumbnail

>>7085603
I did the opposite, my advice is to never come out until it's been a few years and you're solid in your sexuality

>>7102860
Not me
I came out as soon as I found out early on. It saves the shock early on and sets your parents' expectations

why are bisexuals such a poorfags.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/oct/22/bisexual-men-earn-30-per-cent-less-than-gay-colleagues

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Just wrote down the names of everyone I've done sexual things with
>Five girls
>Fifteen guys
As in not necessarily sex, but just any sexual stuff

Interesting ratio of 1:3 there

>>7102905
What I was saying was that I came out early as bi then later realized I was just gay, my dad still thinks I'm bi and is probably expecting a kid. It's a lot harder to tell your dad you'll never give him a kid then it is to tell him you might give him a kid one day. Moral of the story, wait until you're sure.

>>7102955
because half of us are neet sluts that cam for a living

>>7102979
post cam link, fellow bi degenerate

>>7100316

Many normies I've met are bisexual though.

>>7100316
Tbh Familia bois are so much cuter than girls. Not like I asked to be faggy.

>>7100280
oh wow the first one describes me to a tee

>>7069939

I've been in gay mode for so long now but it's something that's been inevitable. Girls just don't like me.

>>7110783
I've learned how to act manly around girls and they seem to kind of like me. I realized that my ex-girlfriend was actually in love with me after the fact.

I couldn't get any girls until I was in my mid twenties.

I'm bi with a phobia of men and I usually just hide in lesgen w/o revealing my actual sexuality because I've kind of grown to hate myself for being bi? Idk. I never even find guys attractive usually. I do occasionally but I wouldn't know what to do if I dated a guy. I watch lesbian porn but sometimes straight porn as long as it's from the guy's pov and... idk. I'm in this weird limbo of sexuality. I even list on all my dating profiles that I'm gay because I can't seem to figure out what I like in men and I'm too afraid of them anyway.

Also I've been single for a year now, look straight, and everyone on my campus is unattractive. Please end me.

>>7117421
Just date a guy desu

>>7117456
I can't even talk to a guy in private without wanting to die so. Idk. And I'm not going to date someone as an experiment who I'm not even attracted to that would be rude as heck

>>7117471
Sounds like autism
Would you describe yourself as a feminist?

I'm super Bi, and I admitted it to myself last year. Mid-30s, hetero married and happy.

I'm legit attracted to both genders, but when it comes to porn I can't even with the vanilla straight stuff. I recognize how hot women are, and the wife and I have a *great*, kinky sex life.

I'm a closet sissy/CD too.

>>7118482

>I'm a closet sissy/CD too.
You should let your wife know. Let her dress you up and such.

>>7118482
>>7122043
Ya'll closet sissies care to share some pics or even stories of what you do when alone or what not.

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>>7122145
Preying on the confused and distraught. Niiiice bro, keep up the good work.

>>7066167
Any other bi men completely unable to relate to lesbians? I just can't relate to people who neither have nor want a penis.

>>7117476
dude, if i could just not be afraid of guys I would. I don't hate men at all, I just don't trust them. I occasionally find them attractive or charming, but due to my phobia, I'm in this weird state of technically being bi but it just making more sense to call myself a lesbian.

>>7122175
I can't relate to monosexuals; I tolerate them, but deep down I'm like "stupid idiots, what's wrong with you, why do you have such narrow taste". It's so alien to me to ONLY like one gender not the other.

Does anyone here go through cycles of being attracted to men or women? Two week ago I had full on cock lust, but in the past few days I've been noticing women a lot more.

Also, how do I deal with this when I have a boyfriend? I still love him even when I'm more into women, but I'd kind of like to be able to satisfy all my urges.

>>7124020
buy your bf the usual trap outfit: long stripped knee socks, schoolgirl skirt, small panties with lace, stuffed bra & a cheap cosplay wig. Problem solved!

The only guys i am attracted to are really feminine/girly, why is this?
"""Straight""" guy here

>>7124020
Try communication with ur bf.
Ur bi im sure he understands if u lust for vagina some weeks

>>7124166

Like many bisexual men, it sounds like you're a 1-slight-2 on the kinsey scale. Nothing to worry about.

>>7124202
Yeah ive always considered myself 1/2, im sure it is something to do with size play since i am tall and really go for petite partners

>>7124224
I was the same way for a long time.
Recently though i've been going after more fit guys too.
Nothing competes with a squat ass.

>>7124249
Butts, regardless of gender are

>>7124092
Lol, my bf is 6'3" with a shaved head. Can't even imagine what he would look like in that.

>>7124194
Should I just try and go full poly and introduce a girl into the girl into the mix? I know he would be okay with it, but I've never personally had any experience with poly relationships and I'm a bit anxious about how I would even work something like that out.

>>7122145

>Ya'll
Kek, I'm not one. I was just saying Anon additions stop being closeted.

>>7122732
I can't relate to gay and bi men who don't switch.

>>7125116
>switch
Gross.

I've been wondering, what's the male:female bisexual ratio like?
Are there more bisexuals of one gender and if so, why do you think that is?

>>7125116
bi vers masterrace reporting \o/

>>7125259
By the highly scientific method of counting my bi friends, I'd say not far from 50/50 with a slightly higher amount of males.

I really want to bottom but women are a shit for that - no chance finding one that would peg you. But Im not really gay, I just love to play with my butt. What to do? Im afraid I'd be hugely turned off by a man.

>>7117421
Just live the gay life while you figure out your issues with males. Then when you feel ready you can experience the sweet dick.

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>>7125417
what about traps/transwomen? some are dom/active

>>7125259
I remember seeing a recent UK study that had like 40% of females under 25 reporting to bisexual, but only 8% of males. I think this is because of social stigma towards bi men, while bi women are perceived as attractive by many straight men. There are probably a great many people who have the potential to be bi, but simply don't explore it.

>>7125417
I would definitely peg a guy anon. Then again, people have told me I'm very unique compared to other women.

>>7125482
despite what you might see in porn majority kill their dick/balls with anti-androgens on top of having genital dysphoria, they dont want their dicks to be used
those who can and want to top are usually transbians

>>7125417
bi girl. i'd peg a guy if he asked. not super into it myself but his pleasure would be arousing for me at least. more dominant or sexually open girls would probably at least try it, especially if you reassure them that you'll clean up beforehand and maybe wax/shave your ass too.

Been with a guy for 2 years but we're swingers the only problem is he gets some every other or so month but closest iv gotten is some snap chat. what do?

>>7126086
Upload nudes to your dating app of choice.

>>7076155
Phfff bull shit! I had a friend (chubby Hispanic but looked kinda Asian ) who was seeing a bi guy and he told me on a drunken night at a bar he got ridiculed and made fun of by the bi guy for not sleeping with women ' your less of a man' type shit. It was obvious he made up his mind to break up with him but of course I had to add in my extra.

I remember also being cool with this other curious/bi guy on campus . I thought he was cool for a moment. I'm masc and so was he -- I'll always give 'another' masc guy the time of day even if where just friends . He says hes curious -- prefers softer/fem guys much like me. But overall I cant tell -- maybe he wasn't comfortable with himself but he would strictly talk about women when we were around people -- even if I told him they were cool. I just recently started distancing myself strictly due to the fact I'm clearly to gay to be hanging around this guy. I'm missing more important info here but don't wanna type to long.

Nevertheless, bisexual MEN ( the women seem fine ) are very different online than they are IRL.

>>7125220
>not being a switch
You're the gross one.

>>7125488
>>7126022
>girls pegging
Hot.

>>7100280
First is best desu

>>7126086
There are other ways to correct the balance of power in a relationship besides swinging as much as he does. Find something you can hold over him to make him equally jealous.

>>7067284
Im young and fit and i love old fat guys. Life is heaven :3

>>7128366
LONDON???

>>7125488
>more women than men
>because of social stigma towards bi men, while bi women are perceived as attractive by many straight men.
This was what I expected, thanks!

>>7128674
I know of a Brit that traveled all of the way to a backwater town in Australia to have gay sex. If you really want love, try not restricting yourself to one city.

>>7134547
..currently planning a +1500km trip to visit a 10/10 cute guy

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Previously hard-straight guy here. Feeling confused. Can someone give me guidance?

I've been going through changes. I am a social person who loves girls. I am proud of myself and my body People pick up on that and open up to me.
I feel my sexuality changing, expanding rather. Memories that I previously repressed have come to the surface. My best friend molested me when we were young. I didn't know what was going on and his mom watched and I'm still confused about it. I've had dreams where I have sex with boys and enjoy it and care for them. At the gym I feel everyone looking at me, everyone.
I still want to get married and have kids. But now I feel I want something more. I don't know what I'm feeling, I don't know how it fits into my life, and I don't know anything about this world.

I'm a 41 year old Bisexual who gets along mainly with Cis/Transgender women. Not that I dislike men particularly but I can't stand gay men and the number of bi guys I've run into over the years here I can count on one hand.

>>7135100

>molested when you were young
Sounds like you could use some therapy.

Bigen, tell me.
If I liked people of the opposite gender for almost all my life and then suddenly switched so I'm only interested in people of my gender now, am I a bisexual?

>>7136795
Well it depends, how long have you had these feelings anon?

Bigen? More like shitgen haha.

>>7135100
Anon, you deffinately need therapy, none of us on here are qualified to help you with problems that deep.

>>7136800
For about 10 months.

>>7136841
Do you still have any feelings toward women, does it fluctuate at all?

>>7066167
>Bis, do you find interactions with other bi-sexuals different than interactions with heterosexuals and other members of the lgbt community?
i mean, kind of? i only know one other bisexual irl, and she is extroverted as fuck and she's very flirtatious with everyone, especially girls. so basically she's the complete opposite of me.
we're good friends though, and it helps that we sit next to each other in almost every class

>>7138989

I wonder if it would be possible to conduct a study to see if bisexuals are easier to get along with than other sexualities.

>>7139213
probably not. or at least not in the near future
you could make a poll though, which would be easier and free, unlike a professional study

imo it should be harder to get along with them in most cases, since bi people are attracted to both genders, the same sexual tension that exists between straight women and men, is there. does that make sense?

I used to think I was a strong 60F/40M Bi, but as I grew up I started leaning more and more towards men and now I'm pretty much all Gay. Why are women so terrible nowadays or have I just realized how shitty they always were?

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I'm in a committed relationship with a woman. Sometimes I feel more attracted to women and other times more attracted to men. Even though I'm out to her and always attracted to my gf, it makes me feel really guilty. Probably because I was raised in a very homophobic environment.

What gives? How do I get over this feel?

>>7139611
just because you have bad taste in women or you've only been exposed to shitty women doesn't mean all of them are like that

>>7139611
this is happening to me rn

>>7139816
Most are terrible lays, and of the two I had long term relationships with were both abusive. I honestly can't think of a single reason anyone would want to be with a woman anymore.

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>>7139881
Other people don't choose terrible people to fuck

>>7139881
like I said, that's just your personal experience. I know this might come as a surprise, but not everything is about you m8. There are some amazing people out there, both women and men. There's either something about you that attracts shitty people or you just have really bad luck and that's why you haven't met anyone worth your time yet.

>>7135100
Literally all of this is me. The change is normal, many experience it.
If you want to went without blogposting and just talk it out, join the discord or if you feel like it email could work too.
I just want to spare somone all the mental shit I went through

If we're blogposting now, I came out to my friends, they didn't really care at all and it's surprisingly less cloying.

>>7140012
congrats, I've only told my sister and she was pretty chill about it too (probably because she's a little bi-curious herself)

do you plan on coming out to anyone else?

>>7140145
I'm already out to my parents, I might come out to some more friends too really

>>7140187
how did your parents react? I think mine would kill me if I told them desu..

>>7140190
Well I came out when I was like 10, and they both took it pretty well and they haven't grilled me over it ever
Given that I haven't taken home a guy yet it hasn't been an issue, but if I do, my dad will take it a lot worse than my mom will

>>7140220
at 10? really? wow, I didn't even consider liking girls until I was 16

>>7066167

Not really, most that I've met have been "normal" acting, level headed people. Maybe more of an inkling of understanding. In comparison to straights, they're generally fine, if sometimes annoying. Gays are slightly more annoying but they're fine, to be fair I don't know/hang out with many.


I Don't usually do a lot of "one-night stands" or get laid often, but got a blowjob and made out with some guy at a party this weekend. He seemed nice, gave me his number to call/text him. But I don't know, I don't feel very enthused about meeting him again, even though he was great and had fun. What do I do? do I just ignore it or do I make a move? I don't want to enter something I might not want.

>>7117421
I don't find guys attractive either. But I'll have sex with them. Have you ever been fucked by a guy? Maybe you'll find that you like casual hook-ups.

t. bi guy

>>7126022
I come from being fucked/pegged. I really want a girl to peg me. I enjoyed it when my gf used a dildo on me.

>>7117421
Why are you afraid of men?

>>7141540
Don't expect anything to come of a one-night stand. Especially with a gay dude.

Anyone else scared of one night stands with guys? Scared of being raped, I mean. (plz no replies from freaks with rape fantasies)

>>7142337
I wasn't expecting much anyways. Thanks for the feed back anon.

>>7144643

I'd be more concerned about STDs. If someone tries to rape you, that's a case for justifiable homicide in my state.

In any case, I wouldn't do one night stands. That said, I honestly can't see myself getting into a long term relationship with a guy, because that effectively means I'm not getting kids. I think the happy medium would be to get a FWB kind of situation, where you can both agree to chill like friends, fuck when you feel like it, and if one of you finds a more steady relationship, terminate the sex part and keep the friendship.

Actually, I think FWB like situations need to be more common in society. I think it would make it easier to approach real relationships from a more rational perspective, where there's less desperation because you've always got a buddy or two for some fun under the bedsheets if things don't work out.

>>7136850
No, but I fell in love with them alot, first love happened when I was only 4 y.o.

Hello

Why does anyone on here hates bi? When you mention you're bi it kinda invalidates anything you say.

Plus, I fucking want a Star Wars bf whom I can be a chubby ball of nerdiness (although I'm skinnyfat) and have naughty fun with my stormtrooper armor. And obviously have company.
Ugh. If I only weren't a weirdo that smells like weirdnesses like if they were reverse pheromones.

>>7151452

Bisexuals are perceived as being more promiscuous and unable to commit, I think.

>>7151571
We I know I'm a horny slut that would be bouncing my ass on any guy who agrees to play the role of a Jedi as he tears my virginity off.

I might be a idiot for reserving my virginity but I really want it to be Star Wars themed.
Plus I know some people have a major hard on for virgin butts.

>>7122175
95% lesbian with very narrow taste here.

I just don't really like dick in vag sex that much. Often times it'll start out hot, but then we get to pound town and I snap out of it. My cervix can't take it. I tried to like it, since the three guys I've been with were very enthusiastic after finding out how tight and muscular it is down there, but I can't enjoy it without being blazed out of my mind or drunk (massive red flag). I get this gross feeling when sucking cock or getting fucked. I feel like a tool or a toy.

Don't feel that way with women at all. Hell, I love being degraded or used by women, but getting cummed on leaves me feeling like a used tissue.

So yeah, hope that gives you insight as to why lesbians might not like or want dick.

>>7151660

That does make a lot of sense. It's kind of the opposite for me as guy, sex with girls isn't as appealing before I actually get inside her, but I'm not sure if that's just because it feels good.

>>7151589
>sluty/nerdy virgin butt
nggghhhhh

>>7151813
Give me a way of contacting you and you can have it ;)

>>7151813
In case you or someone wants a nerdy/virgin butt to play with and destroy, my Kik id is Enclavesoldier.
:)

>>7151769
The more I think about it, the more I realize it's mostly due to a lack of connection during sex. Like, we all know the secret to an amazing orgasm is the buildup. The tension and desire you create. I don't know how it is for men, but for women it can all be ruined if you go at it too vigorously without a solid build up. My times with men, it felt like they were using me to jack off. Basically, they'd go hard and mostly think only of their own pleasure, with some half hearted attempts to give me something back. I'm not a dead fish, and never will be, but I can see why some women do that. They're not aroused or they only see it as an act to please their partner, so they're not fully invested.

The connection you make during good sex involves a mutual build up of lust and pleasure. It's not about taking care of yourself and finishing them quickly as an afterthought. I guess all my sex with men has been like that. I'll have to dedicate myself to getting them off, then maybe they'll try to give head, but either their passion was gone our they'd go at it with so much energy I'd end up feeling nothing. Especially after the hard pounding that already turned any budding desire into pain (even if I try my damnedest to pleasure myself during it).

With women I've had much more intimate connections, with both of use paying attention to each other throughout. Rarely has it felt like a chore to get another woman off, and I never have to gag or feel pain while doing it. Instead of pain being expected, I can request it if it is desired. Good communication comes naturally and the sex is much more intense because of it.

I hope this makes sense.

>>7117421
This is not an uncommon experience.

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>do you find interactions with other bi-sexuals different than interactions with heterosexuals and other members of the lgbt community?

I've only interacted very briefly with one person irl who I knew was bi and it wasnt any different than with anyone else really

I need to meet more people

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>bi girl in relationship with bf for 2 years now, planning on getting married
>all my friends are lesbians or bisexual girls that lean more lesbian
>love girls too; dated 3 and was in a long term relationship with one before bf
>but holy shit everyone is fucking obsessed with girls to the point where it gets creepy; they worship girls
>casual misandry everywhere

It's getting to the point where I really fucking hate lesbians. How am I supposed to deal with this?

>>7155106
Realize that's just your friends and not all lesbians. There are really chill lesbians out there, but they may not be in your insular friend group.

It's just bantz any how. Why even care?

>>7155106
Look at this patriarchal scum feeling annoyed when women are not obsessed with dicks

Anyone have an extremely low frequency of attraction to the same sex? I've only seen like 3 guys I'd date in my entire life, and they were all on the fem side, am I just getting my wires crossed up?

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>>7155244
I think it's REALLY quite common

Hi, confused possibly bi teenager here. How do you know if you're actually attracted to a girl versus just thinking she's pretty and admiring her face/body? I think lots of girls in my school are low key cute but idk if it means I actually find them attractive or if I just think they're pretty. Not in college yet so I can't experiment and not knowing for sure frustrates me...

>>7155643

Going through the same. You really won't know until you plunge into some holes. I've just learned to accept the worse case scenario, which isn't even bad, just means we like more things.

Ultimately being a prude is more important to me than knowing my sexuality in and out. The only downside is not knowing what to tell people when asked about my sexuality.

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>>7155368

FTFY

According to statistic, same-sex attracted people are only 2% of the population.

>>7155738
Hey ty for the reply :D
>I've just learned to accept the worse case scenario, which isn't even bad, just means we like more things.
Same here, I realized a while ago I'm probably not 100% straight and it frustrates me more I don't know WHAT I am than being not straight at all. I just wish I could make up my damn mind already about my sexuality.

I've had enjoyable dreams where I'm kissing, making out, holding hands with both girls and guys but I have 0 experience in real life with anyone. No dating experience, only had casual crushes, don't masturbate or watch porn, etc. I'm a complete prude too, waiting for college for anything to actually happen :(

>>7155643

The defining factor is whether or not you'd like to fuck them. That's why they call it biSEXuality. It's about who you're SEXually attracted to.

>>7155939
I guess I'd say yes, but I'm a virgin and I don't really masturbate so... I have no idea. The idea of making out with a cute girl sounds really nice to me but not sure if I'd chicken out. I can definitely see myself with a guy, but not sure if that's cause I'm actually only straight or it's societal norms making it feel natural

>>7155837
>don't masturbate or watch porn
yet you're browsing 4chan... you definitely have a strong self-control!

>>7155939
Having romantic attraction for same-sex partners (even without any sexual attraction) is part of bisexuality too. This meme spectrum is wider than you think.

>>7155982

you're too young to know then.
give it a few years and it will become more clear.

most people don't come out until their 20's.

>>7156056
Feeling really impatient rn haha
I have gay male friends who are comfortably out and I feel a little jealous since they KNOW they're not attracted to girls and that's it. No dealing with mental "what if's" and "maybe's" I have on a daily

I'd rather my first time be with a girl than a guy tho simply cause I won't get pregnant and dicks are really weird looking.

>>7155837
>Same here, I realized a while ago I'm probably not 100% straight and it frustrates me more I don't know WHAT I am than being not straight at all. I just wish I could make up my damn mind already about my sexuality.

I knew for a while I was less than straight but never took it very seriously since I obviously wasn't THAT gay you know? I know on some level I could enjoy a romp with the same sex, but I can also see myself not acting on it all and still being totally okay. I became more concerned when I realized I had no idea where my sexuality would take me. Would I end up with a girl, a guy, or both, just no idea at all what to prepare for.

I was able to calm my anxieties by just deciding not to rush anything. It seems a rite of passage for bisexuals to figure things out is by hooking up with strangers, but that just isn't for me, certainly not something I'd do when I thought I was 100% straight. So I had to find a balance between accepting who I am and sticking to my core values.

Now I'm comfortable with whatever happens as long as it's with someone I genuinely like and have interest in.

>>7156081
Ugh you're me 100%. I know exactly how you feel.

In fantasy, I think college hook ups are hot and ideal but in real life I can't see myself going about that. I'm too awkward, shy, introverted, quiet, prude, etc to do any of that stuff and people around me already have sex...

Hey so I'm guessing you're also a girl? I'm a senior in high school and I live in Texas. What about you?

>>7156056
I have the benefit of being in an extremely liberal area of an extremely conservative state. Coming out late is a meme. There's literally no downside to it

>>7155982
I would say that if this isn't something you've been feeling for a long time give it some time and sort of think it over.

I started to be attracted to other guys in 8th grade and was honestly really scared of the feelings and tried to bury them and told myself I was straight until my senior year in high school when those feelings started back up again and then never really died back down. So I would say give yourself some time to toss the feelings around.

Also, if you would be open to porn, it can really help you find out what does and does not turn you on. If you aren't that's okay, but I just feel it can help you.

>>7156317
I've been feeling attracted to the same sex since 8th grade like you but I never felt scared of the feelings and never pushed anything down. Just kinda accepted it and didn't care until now. Were you raised a Christian or anything that made you scared of gay feelings?

>>7156392
No, actually raised in Liberalville, California, but I've always taken great pleasure in being contrary to everyone around me, so while neither my parents nor many people around me were at all homophobic it was actually me who was the one who was against it. I've obviously since come around on the idea though...

>>7156081
The thing about being bisexual is that you don't have to have a big identity crisis over who you're attracted to. You can let yourself sit on the kinsey scale somewhere (say you're a 1 right now), and just float around wherever your tastes may be. You shouldn't worry about not being gay enough or not being straight enough. The fact is, you have some openness and can explore at your leisure.

>It seems a rite of passage for bisexuals to figure things out is by hooking up with strangers
Bisexual does not imply extrovert. Many of us are not swingers.

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>>7155792
Yes, i'm pretty sure that the majority of población are "straight", later Bisexuals with preference to the oposite sex, later exclusively heterosexuals, later equal oportunity Bisexuals, later Bisexuals with preference to the Same sex and last exclusively homosexuals as the rarest.

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>>7158610
>>7155792
Exclusively homosexuals are actually more common than bisexuals with a preference of the opposite sex and bisexuals with a preference of the same sex.

>>7160802
>bisexuals finally choose which sex they want to stay with after 66
kek

>>7155643
Why does experimenting have to be in college?
I'd say you shouldn't worry so hard about it. If someone asks you your sexuality just shrug and say "dunno". Cause you don't.
You don't have to know everything yet. It's an important skill to be able to accept the things you don't know. Practice now.

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Is there anyone here who accepted that they were bi but still felt horribly ashamed about it for a while? Like, if someone were to ask my sexuality for whatever reason I'd feel perfectly fine telling them, but I've spent so long repressing that I still feel guilty whenever I find a guy attractive, even if it tends to be the exception rather than the rule... it feels like I've somehow failed at being "normal" after trying so hard.
Does anyone who had a similar experience have any advice for dealing with this sort of thing?

>>7160846
Yeah I had a similar experience, as I stated in >>7155982, and I felt like that for about 4 years desperately trying to repress any hint of homosexuality for about the same reason as you. At first I was scared of it because of a bit of lingering homophobia but when that cleared up I still felt guilty and ashamed about it. I had always sort of taken for granted that I would be straight and then the reality did not meet the expectation and so I felt that same sort of "failure to be normal." Eventually I just gave up trying to keep it down and faced it. I was very confused and emotionally a wreck for a while trying to sort out all of the feelings but eventually got over the curve and started feeling way better about myself than I had before. So I'd suggest just try to face it and accept it; it'll take a toll on you to go through the process but you'll feel so much better on the other side.

>>7160896
whoops I meant as I stated in >>7156317 not >>7155982

>>7160896 (different anon)
I can 100% relate to that. Repression is a bitch

>>7101648
How bad were your familial relationships

How do I find a low-key BF who I can date and fool around with without displaying signs of being bi in my life? I feel like I'd have a much easier time with men than women if I could identify who was into men and who wasn't, but right now it's infinitely harder because I have no way to make that read on people.

>>7160846
early on, had a major crush on a same sex classmate in elementary/middle school, im talking like, run up to that kid and give them bear hugs every day first thing in the morning, wrote fanfiction about how awesome they were. was asking my parents about what gay was and if that was me and they said "of course not". i was just a fucking kid so i believed them and that was that

that, plus being bi enough to really enjoy looking at women meant i spent like ten years thinking i was straight but uninterested in sex

mid to late twenties, finally realized i was bi as shit, sexually leaning toward same sex but not exclusive. went through a long period of anxiety and depression and self-loathing, had to unpack and remove a LOT of internalized homophobia i didn't even realize i had. starting to feel out that side of me and accept it, going on some dates.

How do you know if you're attracted to a girl vs. thinking they're really pretty?

Does it mean anything when seeing certain girls you consider cute makes your day better and you smile more around them

>>7155222
Fuck. Trips means you're right.

Checked.

>>7155792
>same-sex attracted people are only 2% of the population.

*exclusively same-sex attracted people.
ftfy
Bi people are estimated at an additional 2-4%, and those are the ones who identify as that. So at least 6% I'd say. Probably 10% when you count those who are straight-leaning bis who just go with 'straight' because it's easier or they want kids.

>>7155983
>Having romantic attraction for same-sex partners (even without any sexual attraction) is part of bisexuality too.

Now we're just getting into special snowflake territory. If you feel ~romantic attraction~ for a gender but don't want to fuck them, you're not bisexual.

You're probably some level of socially retarded where you've lacked close friends to the degree that platonic close friendships start to seem super intimate and romantic to you.

>>7161840
I was pretty similar growing up, I lean very heavily to samesex but I always denied it and claimed to be evenly divided on the issue. The thing is, now my friends are afraid I'm homophobic and don't want to come out.

>>7153800
>Lgbt are normal human beings

Who would've guessed?

>>7161955
>Does it mean anything when seeing certain girls you consider cute makes your day better and you smile more around them

No. Cute girls are the best. They cheer everyone up.

Unless you want to get naked with her and touch her intimate areas, it doesn't mean anything with regards to your sexuality.

>>7155106
Because it's just banter and men who don't like it are effeminate pussies. Yay for celebrating femininity.

>>7160846
Yes, then I realized I was a lot more gay than straight and just saying I was bi because I thought it would curb homophobia. Everyone still treated me like a subspecies though so I just went back to pretending to be straight.

>>7161743
You can't identify who's straight and who's not because everyone is trying to be lowkey like you are. If you come out then the people around you will feel more comfortable telling you if they're in the same boat.

>>7162305
You sound like a cunt. Queef in a different direction.

>>7162462

No one actually buys your special snowflake identity, I'm sorry to tell you. Cuddling is not a sexuality (yet...I don't know what tumblr is up to).

Also, man. Even 4chan can usually come up with better insults than that. Guess I can't expect better from someone who doesn't even know what "sexuality" means.

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Are Tinder/Grindr worth a shit for meeting people?

I moved to a new area recently and I'm trying to find a cute twink to hang out with and maybe fug on the side tbqh

>>7162352
I want to try dating, holding hands, making out with both guys and girls but I'm a total prude and a little scared of full on sex. I have had plenty of sexual dreams but no intercourse, I'm still a virgin and I've never had a boyfriend. So I don't what I am :/

>>7162590
grindr is a privacy nightmare. your exact location can be publicly revealed, and possibly your messages too... also it crashes really often

the only decent equivalent i've found is hornet, and there's a fair amount of guys on it in my area. also, okcupid seems to be good for less hookup-y stuff

all dating apps are a pain in the ass overall, good luck

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>>7162412

>insular female-led human resources department gives the job you worked for months to get to a black lesbian because she's "heroic"
>2 years of minimum wage work before I could find another opportunity
>just bantz

>ex-gf gets raped
>afraid of men
>tells me I'm a "potential rapist"
>never been violent, meanwhileshe's entirely disconnected from the fact this is an insult
>hang up and never speak to her again, 14 year friendship down toilet
>just bantz

Sure is fun being a "fucking white male". Sorry but SJW are scum and I will literally never tell a female that I like dicks until that culture is dead and buried. Every white guy I fucked around with says the same and he'd just get the "you just wanna sound cool instead of like a white male who plays video games" treatment if he did come out as bi. Thanks for oppressing us, I will take literally any opportunity to fuck you over. Protip: We're everywhere.

>>7163746
>got passed over for a promotion for an obviously shitty personality
>doesn't understand emotional trauma
>still blames women
you're the problem, anon

>>7085403
That sucks! This thread is super old, too

>>7085595
How do you plan on bringing that up? I've always found the "well actually I'm turned on by the idea of being fucked in the ass" conversation to be an extremely awkward one. Standard concepts of masculinity don't leave room for taking it in the ass for recreational purposes. You just have to hope she already overheard that one at a party in college once.

>>7151660
I think that anon was also describing a perceived preference for possessing a dick/doing the fucking.
Personally, I'd love to find what it's like to experience sex as a woman.
My male privilege is, of course, dope af an I suggest everyone give it a try.

>>7151994
Can you talk to my wife or something?
I have to be the only schmuck who falls in love with the German exchange student, spends 2 years long distance in my sexual prime saving it for her, and get married to her to find out she's the only non-religious non-ace healthy European woman who doesn't masturbate and doesn't know how to get herself off.
Meanwhile I'm burying my homo in alcohol and it's not gay if she's trans and it's only hot because it's forbidden logic
Now, no matter what or how hard I try she doesn't want me to give her an orgasm. So I always feel like I'm using her and not giving back. And if that's the case, I might as well just see a hooker who will put on a school girl uniform for me and actually knows how to suck dick.
>killme.jpg

>>7155368
>>7155792
>>7160802
why doesn't anybody cite their sources?
For all I know Tyrone cooked this up on the stovetop all by himself in a bando

>>7161840
That's rough. I wanna hug you.

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>Make a friend from /cgl/
>she lets it slip that she's into girls early on
>she has a boyfriend, I have a boyfriend, been dating both our boyfriends longterm
>we hang out one on one
>oh my god she's fucking cute
>really fucking cute

I want to buy her nice things, dress her up in cute clothes, get makeovers together and tell her how beautiful she is. this is the first time in years i've had romantic feelings for another girl, usually its purely sexual.

>boyfriend says no dating other girls unless can date them both together
>boyfriend is really overweight, a poly relationship is never going to happen


last time i saw her i bought her expensive candies from overseas and just.. stopped talking to her again, I like her too much and I'm not sure how to deal with it, i've never been with a girl before, it probably wont work out, and we're both dating other people.

Who /pol/ here?

>>7164399
Your boyfriend sounds gross. I don't know how you can date a very overweight person. Having sex with someone fat enough to have a gut that gets in the way really turns me off.

I'd have gone for the girl instead of the comfort of an established relationship with someone who doesn't take care of themself.

>>7093460
>what do you mean go into it? do you bring it up randomly?
Whoops, forgot about this thread. I'll mention my boyfriend, and then they'll usually say they didn't know I was gay, and sometimes I'll say I'm bi. People react fine when they think I'm gay, but act weirdly when I say I'm bi, like they don't know what to think anymore. I just don't correct them anymore, and usually say "my partner" instead of "my boyfriend" to avoid the whole mess in the first place.

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>>7165796
/polgbt/ forever

How do you guys deal with being distrusted? I'm strictly monogamous and whenever someone stereotyping bi folks as polygamous-by-default, I either want to kill them or shed a few tears.

I really hate this and can't get over it.
>making friends
>come out as bi
>straight dudes: would you want a 3some with me and my gf?
>gay/trans/asexual: don't worry I'm not biphobic, I support poly lifestyle! They should give more bisexual representation where having multiple bf and gf at once is cool.

I know they only meant well, but it's so insulting that they would immediately equate bisexuality = can't live without D and V at the same time. The two responses above hurt me more than the popular "don't wanna date bisluts, they'll go back to sucking cock in two months" from lesbians. I imagine this is what it feels like to be black and immediately being stereotyped as a thug.

>>7168106
I generally don't even get the opportunity to be stereotyped to my face - I just have to assume that everyone on dating sites sees "bisexual" and judges me.

Anyone here used to think they were gay or lesbians, but later find out they were bi?

>>7168154
That is why I don't market myself as bisexual on dating sites. Either straight or gay, then if the initial conversation go well I would come out. The damnable thing is that it's mot just potential dates stereotyping me in my face, but even platonic friends in forums or fandoms.

I work really hard to educate those who I talk to that bicycles aren't more nor less proned to poly than straights and gays.

>>7168162
Yeah, thought I was gay up until 19.

22 yo bi female looking for other women to talk to. Platonic conversation, sexual, it doesn't matter.
I need a friend tonight.
skype - chthoniic

Bi ladies, are you more into feminine-looking women or androgynous ones or butch? Are you straight-looking yourselves?

I'm femme and into other femmes. But other people keep telling me "most bisluts are only into bulldykes." Is it true that I'm in the minority here?

>>7168954
Most people are not bi. Don't trust people who aren't bi.

>>7169056
That doesn't answer my question.

>>7168954
i'm a femme into other femmes too. i'll occasionally go for androgynous girls but i'm not really attracted to bulldyke types at all.

that said, i also tend to be attracted to less masculine men (not femboys tho), shredded alpha types are mostly a turn off for me.

so basically i wanna add a part two to this question: what type of men are you into, bisluts?

>>7168954
Femme into other femmes as well, although I have presented more tomboyish at some points in my life.

>>7169411
Biguy here, the kinds if guys I like are swimmer guys or twinks. No body hair.

Body hair on guys is p. disgusting really, and bears are shit tier

>>7169219
I didn't think anyone was into bulldykes.

>>7169411
I'm a pretty masculine guy really only into femme women but also really only into masculine guys.

>>7066167
Interactions with
>Heterosexual Women
Usually just assume I'm not ready to come completely out of the closet. Do not believe I have any interest in women.
>Bisexual women
Try too hard to relate to me. Usually want to "test" my orientation with offers of a threesome between me, her, and either my bf or her female friend. When I decline I am automatically labeled as gay.
>Bicurious Women
Very normal conversations. I feel most at home with them since they don't try to act out their fantasy with me but are comfortable enough to discuss sexual topics. They respect boundaries and do not turn into fag hags which I abhor.
>Heterosexual Men
Pretty normal interactions. Usually avoid sexual subjects with me though. They also tend to act shocked when I comment on any female as though it's the most unnatural thing in the world. Weird as shit since I am masc and until I out myself they assume I too am hetero.
>Bisexual man
Same as bisex women if not worse sadly. Always trying to have a threesome or hook up "on the DL" behind my bfs back. Tend to have no interest of maturing out of the youthful party phase even if they're in their mid thirties and hopelessly alone. Wouldn't be a problem if they weren't so intent on trying to drag me along for the ride.
Homosexual Men
I do not associate with fem types at all. Always drama, always turn out to be delusional and batshit insane. Masc gays are awesome but as rare as unicorns. They do tend to mirror me though in that they have stable long term relationships or a focus to have one.
Bicurious Men
Whores. But probably the best friends I've ever had. Always want to have fun, talk about women and just behave like normal men. Only problem is they always end up crossing a line either wanting to fool around or they fear being outed for associating with a gay man (most people I know just label bisexual men as gay, no way around it). They're only ever interested in a LTR with a woman. Hopeless Romantic types.

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>>7170629
>LSA
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this forum is a joke, but this thread is gold http://www.lipstickalley.com/showthread.php/361649-my-friends-situation-(kind-of-Long!)

22 bi male, mostly into guys.

How much of a chance do I have if I'm overweight? I've just recently started to try and put myself out more, but I'm worried about being rejected for being fat.

I'm doing my best to get healthy again, but even then it could be a while.

The real kicker is I'm not really into overweight guys. (Chubby's okay, though)

>>7172021
stop 'doing your best' and actually do it. Finally acknowledging my gayness is what motivated me to get fit for the first time in my life and it's changed everything 100%. Don't even just do it to get sex. It will make everything better. And then you'll get sex.

>>7172097
It was a similar situation for me, I've spent years not caring (to my regret), but in the several months it's been since I've acknowledged it, I've never been more motivated to get fit.

Thanks anon, glad I'm not the only one. And congrats to you on making that change as well!

>Closeted bi
>Be out clubbing with the boys
>Get into it outside smoking cigs with some girl that thinks one of my friends is hitting on her
>Her gang of flamers immediately close in and start giving us all shit
>One says he's her bf, I call him and the rest of his friends out as being homo and that my friends respect it when a woman says no because she feels like it, gay dudes get more shitty and end up going back into the club and giving us dirty looks
>DJs pack up and leave while we're outside smoking an hour later, we're talking to them because they promote with free liquor
>Cute dude with the main promoter, we got on the subject of hostile bullshit
>Mentions casually that he heard the gang of gay dudes talking shit on us and how he hates gays that make it an issue and fag hag super bad, and it makes it hard for him to date because "they're all fucking each other, you can't even have a bf"
>My friend asks who's better looking to him as a joke
>Says I look like some shit on an insta page about straight frat dude fantasies
>"Haha yeah thanks!!!!!11 T-totally st-traight though thanks for the compliment!"
This kills the man

>>7172212
why didnt you just kiss the man

>>7172097
Good advice, and works just the same for us str8 guys as well!

>>7168106
>it's insulting
I'm really sick of the slut shaming of people who choose not to subscribe to monogamy as some sort of moral foundation on this board.
You act as though you don't like people assuming your sexuality, but it's really the same as a straight person getting insulted when people think they're gay: you find poly people disgusting based on some sort of monogamy ideal and it's just slut shaming.
I've had sex with 2 girls and 3 guys my entire life, and after being in a committed hetero relationship for 8 years, I'm never going back to voluntarily chaining myself down to one person for the forseeable future.
Life's too short to let faggots and religious people tell me how I should conduct my sex life.
This community is fucking cancerous but I can't stand it anywhere else

>>7172336
Or just lowkey slip him your number.

Honestly as a bisexuality male, I prefer being with gay guys rather than other bis.

I'm kind of new to this board, so I'm sorry if this is a common question.

I'm a bisexual female into twinks and masculine women. Are there any dating sites/apps for someone like me?

>>7180283

Pretty much any dating application will find you what you want.

>>7080117
>Bisexuality allows you to be not committed to any sort of identity.

This is why everybody hates bisexuals.

Truly the original special snowflakes of the gay community

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>>7181465
>bis refuse to strap themselves to some sort of static self-definition that is prone to overthinking when you become attracted to someone you might not normally
>certain gays like you lose their shit because their concept of sexuality is essentially the reciprocal of homophobic heterosexuality, where being attracted to a gender or genitalia that doesn't fit a strict criteria you perceive as being [insert your gender here] inspires deep insecurity and confusion
>call anyone who breaks the mold as thinking they're a special snowflake
>out yourself as being chronically heterophobic

is this the most toxic form of faggotry?

>>7181520

Monosexuals too easily let identity get in the way of desire. Irrational behavior at its finest.

bump for bi-gen

Hey guys, can you help me work something out?

I was hyper-sexualised as a kid. Like, incredibly so. I was really embarrassing for my parents around ages 6-8, I think. I've mostly repressed it all, but I literally fantasised about my warped perceptions of sex all day for years beyond that awkward 'overt' phase. Since I had no idea how things actually worked, I kinda just made it up in my head - everything had a vagina or whatever. Eventually it got more coherent, but then I found the internet, and you know the rest.

Anyway, fast forward to age 14 and I figure out that I like men. I couldn't imagine anything else romantically, and still sort of can't. I definitely identify as gay and don't particularly find many women attractive at all... except those messed up thoughts never really left me. It kind of left me with this unfulfilled desire sleep with weirdly specific types of older women. I guess types that remind me of teachers and family friends that were present around that period.

In this sense, I'd call myself very specifically bi-curious for a particular niche. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How do you go about dealing with these urges? It's a total role reversal of the typical situation, I'd be so uncomfortable if there was ever any evidence of me courting an older woman when I'm a registered fagtron.

>>7155106
"bisexual" girls always invariably end in in long term relationships with guys. Why is this?

>>7187083
Larger dating pool, easier to find some you're compatible with who also likes you back.
Also femmes, barsexuals, and straight butches make it hard to identify potential girlfriends.
Guys typically don't pretend to be gay, and they're usually easier to spot. Straight men are usually more hesitant to appear feminine while straight girls are more open to appearing masculine.

>>7187430
this is an understatement on how hard it is to spot many lesbians. in my experience dating and with fellow students at university, there are plenty of surprise lesbians whose potential outward signal that I could spot was they never wore heels or dresses. And I feel like plenty of straight/bi girls do those things, too. My fucking girlfriend shaves her legs less than the covert lesbians I've met in school.

>>7187083
because picking up guys is easy. girls actually have standards.

>>7187550

I think people far underestimate the number of lesbians that pass for straight. I've run into quite a few lesbian couples at my university who I thought were just friends, until they revealed they were in a relationship.

>>7066167
> Turned 21 a few months ago
> Only been to a regular bar once, enjoyed the atmosphere and the food.
> Thinking about going to a gay bar after work today.
> Only have one in town, so it has to encompass the whole spectrum I'd imagine.

So, what's it like, generally speaking? I'm not a student at the moment, working until my enlistment papers go through, so it's a bar or grindr, and the latter has a reputation.

>>7201561
>only one in town
yikes. That usually means it's piss poor and full of old, salty faggots.
On the plus side, being a fresh face will probably get you lots of attention.
But if this is in a college town this may go out the window. In that case it could be anything and you just have to check it out.

>>7203010
Nah. It's Salem, Oregon, if that means anything to you. We're trapped between Eugene (college town) and Portland (self-explanatory I imagine). We have a community college on the other side of town, but that's as much of a liability as a boon.

Considering coming out to and consulting my straight friend's gf, since she runs the gay-straight alliance club at the community college, but I suspect she'll think I'm just looking for something to rebound with, given that I broke up with my gf a couple weeks ago.

I'm bi but to everyone I know I'm straight. I have a straight friend that I really want to blow. Anybody have any experiences with this or advice on how to approach him about it?

>>7206968
Don't be a manipulative creep, just approach him.
That is, he's probably very straight and not up for it, but you might as well check.

>>7207175
no GOOD way to do this that won't seem manipulative or creepy... the fact you would bring it up at all is manipulative to an extent. many straight guys use gay guys as frustration outlets and nothing more

>>7066801
They are offended by the notion that you would find anything other than a cunt like they have attractive, it hurts their self-esteem.

>>7145852
Society is built around desperation in a lot of forms though.

For instance, if people aren't desperate for a stable relationship (be it sexually intimate or not), they're much less likely to settle down in a family, and the family unit is so valuable and integral to our society, that there's been no reason to compromise it for as long as it's existed.

>>7207304
>many straight guys use gay guys as frustration outlets and nothing more

I would be perfectly happy being used as his frustration dump as long as he used my mouth or ass to do it.

>tfw collect porn from /s/ and /gif/ but have to work hard to get aroused by it

>>7210966

Sounds like you're looking in the wedding places.

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>>7216496
Yeah or not.

>>7216496

cringe

>>7117421
What's your issue with exactly? I'm not butthurt, just trying to figure out what to do.

>>7187071
Sexuality's a pretty complicated thing. If it's making your life difficult, then therapy's always an option.
One good thing to come out of this new far left group is that more people are realising that sexuality isn't as rigid as people used to think, so less people would care if they found out you want to sleep with older women. Plus there's plenty of ways to find partners online with minimal risk to your reputation

>>7066167

>>Bis, do you find interactions with other bi-sexuals different than interactions with heterosexuals and other members of the lgbt community? If so how?

Yes they are.With a bi couple I feel more freely to speak both about women and men.

It's a pity we're not many people here in the fucking middle of the Kinsey scale.

Most "bi" are just homo/hetero-curious people that try once in a while.

Also, being mtf I've seen both sides of the coin.

With my hetero/gay friends there are some matters I don't talk with, because they're just not interested. And it bores me to death.

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>>7100280

Be bi, be dysphoric and repressing

Short, childface.

Women treat me like scum. Whenever I approach a girl, she quickly dispatches me while being polite.

Some men like me, but not the big hunks and metrosexuals I like, only some effeminate twinks and some cute boy here and there, but no much more.

>>THEN I TRANSITION

Turn out to be a very cute, passable mtf. Short height plays to my advantage: "manlet" translates into "petite and feminine", "babyface" turns into "cuttie".

Bi girls hit on me constantly, some of them can become as agressive as a cis hetero guy can be towards any girl while drunk.

Literally picked up more girls this year than the previous 5. Cuter than the girls in the previous 5 years. All bi, no hetero girl bullshit, all bi girls: understanding, open minded, even funnier.

Literally have a selection of guys from which to pick the hottest.

I don't even to have an effort to pick up nobody, just open badoo, tindr, lovoo or whatever app I fancy and wait for "today's menu" to come to me.

Pic related: Why did I repress?? Why the fuck didn't I do that before??? Being a tranny has some perks. My sexual life is better than ever.

tfw true story

>>7122732
THIS!! ABSOLUTELY THIS!!

>>Always thought that bisexuality wpul be the main sexual orientation in any utopia.

I wonder...

Are switches more common among bis or regular gays?

>>7226092
I think it'd depend on if it's a dude or a girl. I'd think bi dudes are more likely to not be switches because they're more familar/more appealed by topping both girls and guys. Bi girls on the other hand don't really have a top/bottom role but I wouldn't be surprised if a similar thing would be true in a dom/sub sense

I figure I'm bi.
I feel like a man normally but have gay and sissy urges and shit. Its weird. In porn I'm attracted to women, traps, and the dom trap-fucking type of man. However in everyday life its only women and occasionally thinking "that guy is cute". Dom in the streets, femme in the sheets (all alone in my room with 0 romantic experience).
I'm just confused. Sexuality is like a 4 dimensional wave going back and forth and sideways every once in a while. Am I straight and bored of normal porn, gay and in denial, trans, or just flat out bi?

>>7066167
Most of my interactions with other bisexuals have been awkward

>>7226572
wanna be friends?

>>7165796

Yes and it's hard. I wish I never taken any red pills. I could be on Tumblr with all the other LGBTs my age hate-jerking Trump and cishets. Instead here I am, bitter and lonely shitposting on both boards, neither of which I completely belong.

With my looks, I should have been born asexual. I don't have good enough genes to reproduce and nobody from my own sex would want me anyway.

How do I come out as a bicycle?

Is it even worth it if I mostly date women and almost never introduce people I fuck to friends and family anyway?

>>7226797

It's not worth it. Nobody will take you seriously anyway.

>>7226821
well that's unhelpful

>>7226966

Unless you plan on getting a boyfriend, don't bother with coming out. It really won't do anything for you.

>>7226539

you're not bisexual.

You're AGP, and because of this, you've developed what may be called "pseudobisexuality": You like men because they complement your sissy fantasies, but you're not really attracted to masculine features "out in everyday life".

Be careful and start to think about transitioning, AGP always grows stronger with time, no matter how much you repress it. That's a fact.

And you don't want to transition in you 40's when you can only aspire to be a hon.

>>7226774

Transition and your sex life will improve thousandfold.

Just read this and take the definitive red pill, awaken my friend, open your eyes. >>7223986

>>7226092

Pretty much, yes, bis are used to top women, but when it comes to men, bottoming is a plus that other men offer to you, so why not tale it too?

Whenever I've fucked another guy I always made it clear that I wanted both topping and bottoming.

Hi guys, I got a question for you with a seemingly simple answer but I need some reassurance.

When I fapped to porn (quit watching like month and a half ago), I usually imagined myself getting fucked, or being a bottom in general, even in lesbian (and gay) porn, I'm a guy. Even when I use imagination, what usually turns me on is gay/sub stuff.

I've gone through phases where I wanted to be a girl, to just thinking I'm a feminine gay, but also enjoying crossdressing, but it's all been in my head so far, I'm a 23 y/o virgin.

On the other hand, I've always had crushes on girls, but had (have) anxiety of what I'd do with them if they liked me as well because of what I enjoyed in porn and in general.

However, my current crush, also a friend of mine, turns me on stupidly easy. I mean, while I think she's really hot I still never got boner just from looking (or anyone else), but most touches give me a boner. She leans in next to me, boner. She massages my head for a couple of seconds, boner. I lie next to her on a couch, boner. We hold hands (!) while returning drunk from a night out, I get a boner. WTF is wrong with me?

For reference, I don't think I ever got a boner from a physical touch with a guy, it was always my imagination.

>>7229448
>WTF is wrong with me?
You simply get boners easily. Probably because you are 23 and a virgin. I'm 24 and not a virgin and I get boners easily also, it is healthy but can be inconvenient. It passes as men age, or so I'm told. Also, you should fuck that girl. Hand-holding? She is so ready. Don't worry about your submissive nature either, it doesn't take domination to have sex.

>>7229448

You sound lije a bisexual AGP

Get your shit toghether and transition if needed. Hurry, you just have a couple years before you become a hon

>>7229518
Weird part is not getting them from guys.

Also, I'd love to fuck her but she's kind of a tease so not sure if it'll happen

>>7228340
You're telling a lonely, inexperienced person with masturbation habits that have built up on for years that they should do something unreversible just because you say so. You even plant the idea that it will only get worse.

That's terrible of you.

weird question but this is the only thread where i think it could be answered. I'm straight but i think i'm attracted to my friend. I've never been attracted to any male before, but i've had a "crush" on him since we were kids growing up together. We've been inseperable for years and we frequently just hang out with just each other, and they're not dates but i really like just spending time with him without anyone else. We've never kissed or anything but one time i was super tired and rested my head on his shoulder and he rubbed it till i fell asleep. Does this make me bi, or is it kind of normal to have a little bit of an attraction to a close friend? Like, I wouldn't go out and fuck any other dude, but i'm kind of attracted to him?

>>7230968
(that sounds like an deep friendship desu)
but would you like to fuc your friend? have you recurrent thoughts about cuddling & kissing him? Are you craving to see his dick or his butt? etc.
if not, well you're 100% straight imho.

It would probably be better if I just wasn't born desu

>>7231075
I've thought about kissing and cuddling him and (i'm not proud of this) i've whacked it to the thought of him fucking me. Idk. it's just him though i'm not arrracted to any other male

>>7231300
>"Demiromantic: Romantic attraction towards any of the above but only after forming a deep emotional bond with the person(s)"
i kinda fell into this definition. idk it helps, but it seems it's your case too; so the fact that your love interest is a guy is secondary. I'd say you're bi(curious) afterall. but it's up to you, if you're not comfortable with this tag, just label yourself as straight if you have to.
Good luck with your friend, with a bit of luck, you'll have more than a pat on the head..

>>7232236
>bump limit reached
start a new biscum thread

>>7232897

>>7232897

>>7232897

we up out this bitch