Question for trans people: Would you date someone who was attracted

Pretty much exactly my situation right now. Tgirl, btw
>met guy through mutual friend
>he's super into me
>doesn't know I'm trans at this point so I keep him from getting too handsy
>we go out a couple times after that
>tell him
>he's shocked, maybe a little disturbed
>continue to hang out for the rest of the evening but no more physical contact
>a few days later he wants to go out again
>we end up at his place
>he ends up taking my virginity
>been dating for a little over a year now
>keeps making comments about "still loving me if I hadn't transitioned"
>encouraging me to wear unflattering clothing and no makeup around the house
>I joke about me being his gateway drug to full blown gay
>he shrugs, "maybe"

Most messed up part is that I feel a lot less dysphoria and over-all self-hate than I did before and I think if he pushed a little more I could be happy being a femboy.
So... Idk, I guess I wouldn't love him any less if we lived as a regular gay couple and it seems clear hrs feeling the same

>>6839448
No. I wouldn't. If someone is attracted to me as my assigned gender, they are pretty fucked up, cause I look nothing like a man. I may not pass 100% but its damn near 99% if I don't speak, and even then its like 85%, and I'm not even two years into HRT. Someone that was only attracted to me because I shared one part with the gender they were attracted to, would basically have to ignore every other part of me. That's worse than a chaser, significantly.

>>6839448
Right as I started transition my gay male friend mentioned he was attracted to me. Trouble was, I still preferred women.

Hypothetically, I would date a straight woman, as long as she otherwise respected my identity.

>>6839563
I think that's understandable. I guess my post would apply more to people who are very early on, and maybe not passable.

>>6839448
i might have a one night stand/fuckbuddy situation with someone who felt like that, but would be really hesitant about a long-term relationship.

>>6839448
Nah. Bet it would fuck up after some time. I'm pretty lucky myself since my gf is bisexual, but if she was a lesbian I'd break up. Couldn't stand the fact she'd think of me as of a female, also after a few years on HRT I would look nothing like before so bet the relationship would change also.

>>6839448
>Would you date someone who was attracted to you
yes

>>6839448
Tranny here.
>Would you date someone who was attracted to you as your assigned gender?
This would be a huge turn-off for me. I could not date such a person ever.
>Like would a trans woman who wasn't going to get surgery anytime soon consider a gay man, or would a trans man consider a lesbian?
Actually a 100% gay man being attracted to me would be an insult for me. It would hurt my feelings.

>>6839650
>>6839660
OP here. I feel like I relate to both of you simultaneously.

>>6839448
No I wouldn't and I'd probably tell them to fuck off

I could be fine with being their first heterosexual relationship, but not if they were reluctant to acknowledge that that's what it would be.

>>6839448
Yes, I'm an unpassable part-time trans woman, and I usually tend to date straight cis women. They just think I'm a slightly feminine dude. Not really sure how I'm going to explain having boobs once they grow in, but I've only been on hormones for a few months so it's not a huge issue yet.

On some level, it makes me feel kinda shitty, like I'm invalidating my own gender identity... but I don't really have any other options. I'm still presenting as male in my day to day life, so it's not like any lesbians will go for me right now.

Yes I was with my bf before I decided to transition. He's stll with me 3 years or so later. He's gay but he's very top and likes cute guys. Still attracted to me. I don't really pass. Just look androgynous but upon close in so inspection I don't pass. I guess I'm lucky to have someone there for me. If I didn't have him I would just be alone aside from periodic casual sex which iv found is really easy to get as a young nonugly tranny

>>6839563
Meh. I doubt you pass as good as you think. You probably look like a little femboy like most "passable " mtfs

>>6839448
this would only be an option for completely unpassable or non-transitioning trans people
soo most would say no