Coming Out

I didn't. Saw no need to.

I told my friend i was bi and he didn't care, but in a nice way. Although i'm bi so it's not as polarizing as other orientations.

>come out to irl friend who also comes to 4chan as tranny over steam
>memes at me hardcore
>after bants he essentially tells me that he 100% supports it.
>He's being super nice
Now I'm starting to fall in love with him. I think he's physically attractive, but he's always sort of depressed, and I want to make him happy.

>do a heroic amount of mdma
>become higher than god
>realize theres no need to hide my bisexuality
>post status on facebook

maybe next time ill tell everyone about my wish to be the little girl

I'm straight, but I want to be gay. I haven't told anyone. I don't think it's important or it would change anything. I can't make myself gay, so I should just try to forget about it. Having a gf will probably seem more appealing afterward.

>>5944388
>I don't think it's important or it would change anything. I can't make myself gay.
Watch a bunch a shouta and trap hentai then trap porn and you'll condition yourself to be gay.

Or just let the mass media condition you to be gay https://vimeo.com/100178568

>live in a highly "progressive" city
>pretty much everyone would be supportive
>still feel no need to come out

I just don't see the point, I'm a socially retarded NEET so I couldn't get a BF anyways. Maybe it would make me more emotionally stable, but fuck that. Not worth.

>>5944166
I didn't.


The end.

>>5944166

sure

>moved 300 miles from home
>self medicated hormones and hung out with tranny pornstars
>had a bad LSD trip with them, detransitioned
>spent 6 months having flashbacks and hallucinating in my bed
>moved back in with my mom, came out as trans
>dipshit therapist suggests I'm a repressed gay man
>I date men for years, am miserable, some of them are abusive
>currently re-transitioning


Some people have it way better than me.
At least I'm not a tumblrina about it. I always have legitimate work and will self-fund my transition.

>>5944166
why u sad f.am?

Not OP, but please don't let this thread die. I want to hear more stories :(

T. Someone deep in the closet who desperately wants to come out

>>5944166
Trans
> Come out to first friend
"Oh. Yeah. That makes sense." And he goes back to playing video games.
Other friends mostly followed suit, like it was the world's least surprising reveal. A few made supportive comments, and my trans friend commiserated on what bad luck we had.

> Come out to parents
"What does that even mean?"
> explain being trans to parents
"That's really confusing... but what I want to know is, are you gay?"
> Come out as bi to parents
"I don't know if I could handle you dating a man"
My dad's still shaken by me being bi, but they're still both so confused by my transition that they've been inadvertently supportive.
Really less climatic than I thought it would be.

I came out to my dad and he was super chill about it, basically just hugged me and said I never needed to hide anything from him cause he'd be supportive no matter what.
Mum was like "oh yeah of course, love you no matter what" etc etc. But then ended up being super passive aggressive about the whole thing. I think even though I've been against kids my entire life she sort of expected me to give her grand kids. Once my brother has a few I think she'll get over it.

>>5945044
im hesitant because i wanna actually come home with my BF first and prove i walk the walk

i dont want to do a big coming out to my parents and then realize this was an exploratory phase or something

even tho im pretty full homo rn i told my mom im 'probably a little gay' and that i was 'exploring other options' and she was supportive.. but then i felt a little regretful that i approached it that lightly cause i didnt want her to flip by coming out as full gay

I actually came out to my parents yesterday. Texted my parents and asked if they could visit me since I had something to tell them. But my mom sort of pried it out if me so I told her and she basically said "Really? I wasn't expecting that, but I'll always love and support you"
Then I said she could tell my dad if she wanted. His reaction was pretty much the same. I'll be seeing them this weekend so I'll see what they say in person but it definitely felt good when I told them.

>>5945278
>>5945128
What did you come out as? Gay, bi or trans?

>>5945304
I'm >>5945128 and I came out as bi initially during my confused phase, but ended up revising it as gay.

>drinking with mother
>talking about my brother's new girlfriend
>feeling a bit tipsy so say "actually, I've found someone too..."
>mom asks is she cute
>show a picture of the guy I was going out with from my phone
>she's silent for a while, I get very nervous and then says "he's very cute"
>when I go home she sends me a text that wishes me good night and she is proud that I am her son

>>5945304
>>5945278 Here, I came out as Trans.

>parents always asking me what's wrong
>"nothing"
>eventually just send my an email dad telling him I'm trans and all that
>longest hour of my life waiting for him to read it
>he eventually comes to me room
>I cry, we hug etc
>tells me he'll always love me no matter what
>says I should have told him earlier
>says he'll do everything he can to help
>later that night tell my mom
>she takes it harder
>"are you sure you aren't just gay?"
>now she's really supportive too
The end

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>>5945361
Aww das pretty sweet mang

>>5944399
>and you'll condition yourself to be gay.

Until you have a dudes ass in your face and it's like "Don't think I like this at all. It's not like my animoo"

With my mom :

>Mom, I think I might be, you know gay
>Mom is triggered
>Ask me if I'm really serious about it
>You don't want to become a girl at least ? Anon come on
>Go cry in my room and think about my mistake
>FF 3 weeks later
>Anon I saw a play about homophobia the other day in high-school (she's teacher)
>I'm really sorry about what I said
>I hope you're okay

It really happened. I think she told my father, but we tend to avoid it. My parents never were into private life stuff.

To my best friend/high school crush
>So V (his name), I want to tell you something
>What anon, you got a girlfriend yet ?
>not exactly
>Find courage to tell him I'm not into grils
>He acts really surprise, smiles and gives me a big hug
>I decide to try it all and says that I love him
>He laughs it off and says "I like you too anon, but not in that way"

Still loved him for at least 2-3 years after that. He also got very protective of me, calling me "Little [anon]", really thinking of me like his little brother.

>>5946082
that last line! little anon

im gonna tear up thats so cute

>>5946404
He was a really cool guy. And quite handsome to boot. I still talk to him from time to time.

Imagine Justin Bieber from 2012 with a more masculine face, shorter and with a bit more muscles.

>>5944365

Not sure if it's the subject, the story, the wording, or a combo, but this is one of the best posts I've ever seen on this board.

I told my friend he was cool with it. I told my brother he was shocked but cool with it. and then i told many other friends who where all very understanding about it.

> but then I had the bright idea to tell my parents
>which i went in more detail in on another post

I'll give you the short version it all blew up in my face. They accused me of not knowing what i was and repeatedly questioned me with questions i couldn't answer.

After a week or two they cooled down but are still not accepting of me being trans at all.

>>5944166
>Be playing vidya with friend
>Tell him I'm gay
>He doesn't really care too much
>Continue playing vidya

>>5945340
That's a good story.

>>5944583

Torontonian detected

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>>5944166
>only came out to one person in my life
not so much a coming out story but it's a very high school musical, teen girl movie, mary kate and ashley kind'a story

>be junior in hs
>be on the cheer team
>closeted ftm
>dating running back on the fb team
>extremely homophobic alphamale

>he would always dress up as a girl for halloween
'as a joke'
>found a sports bag of 'his sisters' nail polish under his bed
>would always ask what if questions bout him being a female
>what if i woke up tomorrow and was a girl, would you still love me?
>what if i came to school wearing girls clothes
>if you could choose to be male or female, before you were born, would you still choose to be a girl?
>still never had any idea anything was up

>fast forward to senior year
>be creeping through his firefox history
>lauras-playground.com
>tons of searches about transgender things
>hol' up
>ask him whats up
>tells me his friend borrowed his computer
>ghosts me for 2 weeks
>doesn't respond to any of my texts
>don't see him at school
>end up going to an end of the year bonfire that night
>see him in the house drinking coolers alone
>go up to him
>he starts crying
>tells me hes gay
>tell him me2
>then he says no wait, im actually transgender
>tell him me2
>gets angry
>thinks i'm mocking him
>goes hulkmode
>starts smashing things in the house

>next day tells me its over
>starts telling everyone at school that i'm a tranny
>no one knows ftms exist
>some people start fucking with me, thinking i was born a man
>graduate hs

>fast forward almost 2 years
>be in library at community college
>still not transitioned, but andro looking
>see old friend from high school
>hey, remember your bf anon?
>shows me his facebook on his phone
>Name
>Cynthia Aurora
>actual man in a dress
>200 or so friends, as opposed to the 1,000's he used to have
>same football body he used to have
>party city wig
>wall full of trans memes

was real sad, cant wait to tell my parents

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>>5944166
i'm too scared to come out

>it's 2012
>intersex with all sorts of body issues i kept secret
>figure out i should transition and be a girl instead of being a fake guy
>graduated 2011, lived in a student house with two goth girls, barely graduated due to repressed tranny antics such as 'i'm going destroy everything I own' and 'I accidentally on purpose almost killed myself teehee'
>meeting up with uni friends in our uni town at a beer festival
>hanging out, chilling on the grass in the sunshine
>one of the girls tells me she secretly had a mad crush on me, we'd lived together a couple of years, she said she loved me
>'maybe now we live hundreds of miles apart it's worth asking you out'
>i don't want to
>she reaches over to hold my hand
>bitch i threw a fridge at you while T raging what is wrong with you
>best friend shows up on his lunch break
>we talk and chat and she stops being weird
>he has to leave to go back to work
>I desperately am doing sign language at him to stay
>he goes
>she tries to kiss me, I pull away and say I can't
>she asks why
>I tell her I'm going to be a woman
>she says she doesn't care, she's bi
>I tell her she's ugly and it could never happen or work and I'm sure she'd only ever be able to see me as a guy
>she backs off
>best friend comes back after work, continue drinking
>I tell him
>he says it was obvious, I always was a girly faggot

smoothest coming out ever

>>5948030
>intersex

you're not fooling anyone, tranny

>>5947898
>Cynthia Aurora

stay off of laura's kids

>>5948030
Was she really ugly?
Also how did you live with a girl if you were a guy and you weren't in relationship?

>>5948042
i have a malformed heart, developmental issues in childhood, a hemi-uterus, a cancerous 'ovary' removed at 15, no vagina, a clitdick, had my urethral opening moved to the end of my 'dick' and had testosterone injections through my teens so i could fit in with my friends and was so retardedly trusting about it i thought i was a normal boy until i met a transguy talking about his T injections and i said 'oh i do that too'. but never mind my man, better luck next time

>>5948076
no i was just a panicking cunt. we were housemates, we all had different bedrooms. it was clear she had something for me though because she would hide away in her room (i stayed in my room a lot too, and chose the converted living room as my bedroom so i'd be closer to the kettle to make cups of tea) and she'd always come out of her room to talk, even when i tried to actively avoid her.

ok another coming out story:

>2012 again
>end up talking a lot to my trans guy friend who i joke saying he's my transition dad
>he gives me loads of self med info
>i meet his nb girlfriend and also meet an ex-gf of mine who transitioned and is now a guy
>ok so these people can do it, maybe i can too
>i decide i'm doing this and people should know
>biologically i may be a fucked up bag of sexual traits but socially, everyone has known me as male and the social leap is the scary one
>decide to tell my sister
>we were close growing up but i started hating her in my teens because she got to grow up to be a girl and i had to be a boy
>she goes out on a night out with her friends
>one is gay, nasty little twerp but he will only go to gay bars because he's so gay he'd get bashed anywhere else
>get dolled up in my waistcoat and blouse and padded bra, lay on the eyeliner like daddy doesn't love me
>go to the gay bar
>beat a bunch of gay guys at arm wrestling to get free drinks
>drink tequila
>collapse on my sister's table where she and her friends are sitting
>burst into tears and bawl out 'I'm traaaaaans'
>her friends all think I'm ftm and was confessing to having been born female
>she pats my head and says its ok
>but she's pissed off still because i ruined her 21st birthday party

>>5944201
Daily reminder that bisexuals dont exist

>>5944685
I've been extremely moody recently and I just don't know why. I mean, I'm not the most stable person, but I haven't felt this down in the dumps in a while.

i haven't
i dont intend to

i'd rather just be alone than tell my friends im gay lol

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>literally how I came out

>>5949487
Lmao that is how I came out too but a pill fell on the kitchen floor and my mom found it.

>>5949507
I just left then lying around and he looked them up

>mom be like "where are my grandchildren"
>"mom i'm gay"
>"that's not an excuse, you can adopt nowadays"
>"mom i'm serious"
>"so am i"

>dad comes in my room
>"so what's the difference between a faggot and a ..."
>"dad it's not okay to say that in front of gay people"
>"what do you mean there's no..."
>he realizes
>slowly walks out of my room
>comes back 5 min later
>"well at least your mom lets me finish my jokes"

>>5944166
I didn't. I don't live in 1st world and my parents probably won't accept that part of myself. I'm totally ok with myself and my bf though.
Will just ignore parents, then collect the inheritance and live like a king (joking).

I don't think normiehets really deserve my effort coming out to them. Internet friends accept me though.

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>>5948158
>drink tequila
>collapse on my sister's table where she and her friends are sitting
>burst into tears and bawl out 'I'm traaaaaans'
>her friends all think I'm ftm and was confessing to having been born female
Kek'd so hard, lol. Great story!

>>5949953
Your parents sound funny anon c:

I came out to my dad tentatively over Facebook, he told me there were "plenty of good looking shemales." A few days later in the car, he said that I should stay a guy because they can give and take in the bedroom. Ugh.

>>5944166
>go up to mom
>"hey mom, I have gender dysphoria"
>"really?"
>"yes"
>"I understand sweetie, I'll get you a therapist"
>she hugs me
>the end

And that was it. Still haven't come out to anyone else yet, but I think they'll all go just as well. My sister is a super tumblr sjw, and my friends are all hedonistic 4chan degenerates like me.
I'm a bit worried about my dad but I think he'll come through - he's a pretty libertarian guy, not religious either, and my sister really dislikes him. I'm sure it would hurt losing his only "son" but I think it would hurt him more to cut out the only child that still likes him.

I guess I'm pretty lucky to have such an easy coming out so far, but really it just makes me regret not doing it when I was like 12 so I could've avoided male puberty entirely.

How can you tell someone you're trans?

It's like admitting to being a pedophile or a serial killer or something. It's so terrible.

>>5949487
all time favorite <3

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>Be 31
>Grow up ultra conservative Christian
>No sex till marriage, anon, you know the rules!
>Got one kiss from a GF of 2 weeks when I was 16
>After I passed 30, some slut hounded after me until I let her suck my dick (and because I had already gone the distance and gotten my Wizard card, I didn't care anymore)
>Beyond that, never intimate
>Given up on any idea of a relationship
>Always fapped to a mix of females / futa / crazy shit since I was about 18
>Long since been attracted to cocks, not necessarily what they're attached to

>Eventually meet this cute as a fucking button adorable twink
>An amazing, genuine, honest, real human being
>Share stories about life challenges, surprisingly similar, I start to get a huge amount of respect and admiration for him
>Admiration turns to serious attraction
>He's bold, overtly sexual, cute - so many admirable things that I am not
>We text back and forth for weeks, I start to get nervous as fuck, trying not to fuck things up. I can't at first understand why I am this nervous talking to him (have no problems being social) then eventually realize it's because I'm fucking in love
>Deny deny deny
>Spend entire day with a confused look on my face
>Spend weeks not sleeping or eating right because I am infatuated
>Opportunity finally arises to confess to him, and I tell him I have huge feelings for him, even knowing there is no way we can be together (distance) - just admitting it makes me feel relieved
>Realize at this point I have never, EVER felt this way for a woman
>Spend a while talking with other gay friends trying to make sure I'm not insane and if my conclusions about this are correct
>Most if not all of them say yes, this is legit and not insanity

>Finally confess to my brother that I want to be physically, romantically, intellectually, and emotionally intimate with men
>That would make me gay
>He's cool with it
>I cry because I don't deserve to have shit this easy
>We both realize I can never tell my father, but it's ok

>>5953412
This is exactly how I feel

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>>5953966
Are you still going to be gay when your twink crush gets older?

>>5954587

Thankfully, the circle border 4chan+ puts on pictures prevented me from getting disgusted by that picture.

>>5954587

>Being attracted to someone based solely on the physical

Women aren't repulsive because of what is on the outside. Women are repulsive because the majority of them are fixed with some haughty princess complex and impossible standards.

Being attracted to this guy was not purely physical, although there is physical attraction. Like I said, he is willful, bold - most importantly, has his shit together with a level head. I'd be attracted to him. I doubt he is all that attracted to me - at least not the idea of me individually. He's never said as much, so I can only assume.

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>>5944201
>>5948806

>>5953412
it is like that honestly, I'm >>5948158 I came out to my parents in september last year. They're British so very emotionally cold and distant and unavailable, I said I wanted to talk about something important with them and they kinda put me off a few days by watching the tv a lot. In the end, I couldn't get it out and ended up crying. I'd been on HRT a month at that point, and had always dressed very androgynous and had long hair anyway. They knew I had a history of relationship problems, substance abuse and mental poor health but parents have weird views of their kids, they don't see you, they see some idealised version. We ended up playing a fucked up game of 20 questions with me crying.

>are you gay?
no
>have you murdered someone/committed a serious crime?
no
>have you secretly got married?
no
>are you sure you're not gay?
...
>are you a pedophile?
no
>are you living a double life and being a drag queen on weekends?
no i'm living a double life and being a drag king when i see you guys. i'm trans
>b-but we thought you were just a normal lad

so yeah my parents thought i was a pedo or a murderer before they figured i was trans

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Don't come out, Don't fuck men, Find god, Don't have a childish understanding of love, become straight.

>>5956372

get out of here

>>5956570
No.

>>5956364

>no i'm living a double life and being a drag king when i see you guys

Was this sarcasm? Or did you mean to say drag queen?

>>5956584
i was only guying it up for them, honestly my guy persona was so over the top and tryhard, and the way i dressed and presented so meticulous, some uni friends honestly thought i was a drag king, so it was part sarcasm but part truth

>>5944603
LSD has only improved my self esteem, sorry it had to be the other way around for you.

>>5956372
>Childish understanding of love

Are you a retard?

I'm a faggot. My hearts made out of shit and wood. Loves for pussies

>>5944166
> tell Dad.
> dad tells uncle.
> uncle pretends to have cancer to get money from dad and guilt trip my cousin into sending him nudes.
I had a strange childhood.

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Came out to my mom with the April Fool's fallback.

She spend like 10 minutes saying "No you're not. I would know if you were and you aren't!"

Not being trutrans kinda sucks sometimes.

>>5956364
The worst part is I don't think my parents would explicitly hate me or anything. I know they probably wouldn't care if I was gay, or at least they've said so (a few times they probably think I'm a fag).

I just can't tell anyone ever though. It's so disgusting and terrible. I'll take it to my grave.

It only took me 10 years but now I'm 23 and i just told my girlfriend last night. Throughout our year and 3month relationship I would have my disphoria kick in like every 1 outta 4 times having sex and would just lose it sometimes and always pound down a few shots or smoke weed and say: im sorry baby it's me and id make up some lame excuse and she would think it was her and I wasn't attracted to her. For the past 3 weeks it's been affecting me so badly I only tried to have sex like 4 times and last night she got me in the mood and it happened again and I made the excuses and we tried again in an hour and it happened again. She just kept saying it's gonna be her and I just broke down and told her. She immediately starts crying and says: all these fucking times I've been thinking it's me and ive even told you how much it was fucking with me. I didn't say anything and we just cried and held each other for a while and I had to go piss so bad and i come back and she's wiped her tears away and sirs me down and says the most perfect thing ever: i love you no matter what and im so glad you told me, feel free to talk to me about it anytime I support you

Sure, why not.

I came out to my mom as trans (FTM) a few months after I had my diagnosis in line, and after many years of eating disorders and general depression and bullshit.

She probably already expected as much, and the only thing she did was ask me if it was something she had anything to do with. I told her it wasn't, it was more of a birth defect than anything, and she has always tried her best with pronouns (even though it's hard to change one's automatic grammar after 25 years).

She's always the first to defend me to friends and family, and has cut people out of her life for trying to insult my decision or saying they don't think trans people exist. My mom is the best, and I couldn't be happier to have made the decision when I did.

There are two separate times.
>on date with boyfriend
>we're talking and having a good time
>i take him out to the local pier at night because he really likes it out there
>i kiss him only to be heard with, "Anon? What the fuck?"
>when I turned around it was my two brothers
>I threatened I'd beat the shit out of them if they told anyone because I am the biggest in my family
They didn't tell anyone else. But it was kinda awkward. They didn't really care, they were mostly just surprised.

Then a few months later;
>at work, working late
>I gave my boyfriend a key to my apartment
>my sister comes over to visit without telling me but can't get in my apartment
>she's sitting outside my place waiting for me to get home when my boyfriend walks up and opens up my place
>I got home just as they were both going inside
That was really, really awkward. My sisters also one of those people that are like, "Gay people are so coool!!!!!". And I couldn't just pass him off as a friend since she knows I'm not the kind of person that would let anyone other than extremely close people get into my place. i.e. lovers.
She ended up telling everyone.

>>5949953
oh gosh, that first story is great.

So I came out as MtF at 22, a few months before my 23rd. I knew since I saw a documentary on channel 4 (British TV) about trannies and it scared the shit out of me. Channel 4 back in the day would always show hons being abused in the streets and horrendous surgery shots whenever trans people were on. I decided to repress as hard as I fucking could. FF to 17 and I decide to join the TA (army reserves kinda like the national guard) to be around manly men doing manly shit. It keeps me busy and for a while it helps me to forget. By 20 it had stopped working, I was in the depths of depression and was considering offing myself daily. The TA asked if I was up for a tour of Afghanistan and I said yes, thinking I'd either die a man out there or come back having proven to myself and everyone else that I was a man. I get back alive and with all my limbs intact and again it works, no more thoughts about being trans. But it doesn't last long. I make it 6 moths before the depression sets in again. I decide to fuck as many women as possible hoping that it'll fix me (I'm 21 at this point and have had sex once, it didn't go well, couldn't finish for love nor money) I fuck 15 girls in 6 months before I realise this isn't going to work. I start to seriously consider transition and research HRT.

Coming out.

Tell my GP. Goes really well, get a referral and feeling good.

Tell my sister. She's awesome and buys me a nail polish set for my 23rd birthday.

Tell my Dad. His first question is do you like guys? Explain that I'm actually bi. He seems cool with it but I don't see him for nearly 2 years after that as he lives so far away. First words are "wow" " I wasn't expecting that"

Tell my mum. Couldn't care less.

Overall it went well.

>>5958286
>you will never have this terrible luck
Feels good

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> I haven't came out yet what do?
Only want to come out to close friends ( as bi )
But I don't know how to begin.

>>5958093

So you came out yesterday? I know that feel though, senpai. My father told me I never seemed feminine.