SELF IMPROVEMENT GENERAL >Sleep good >Read books >Eat

>>40625962
>eliminate gender dysphoria

If it's even possible

>>40625970
I think that's porn related, people watch it until they end up that fucked in the head. (Imagine jerking it until you can't get hard at anything)

>>40625984
Nah, didn't watch porn for 2 years during college, everytime I jerked off I fantasized being a chick.

I just want to be content with being a guy.

>>40625995
Start of with pictures of girls then. That way, your jerking to the image of her beautiful body, this eliminates any type of sick fantasies you might have

>>40626012
Did that for months, hated it.

>>40626021
Well we all hated lifting when we first started because it was difficult but It got easier over time, if you did it for months then it would've worked but I see your here to ruin my thread.
>Remove/ignore negative pessimistic people
Made a new one just for you

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>>40626057
CRASHING

>>40625970
>>40625995
Get your hormone levels checked.

>>40626084
I did. They were normal.

Leave your curtains open over night, wake up with the sun rise. Top tier start to the day.

>>40626092
Post body pic

>>40626092
idk dude

try pimozide?

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>>40626124

>>40626106
Top stuff mate, I recommend sleeping in complete darkness for maximum sleep gains, healthy sleep is best sleep

>>40626133
Try eating lots of meat, taking fish oil and going out in the sun a lot more. Heavy lifts desu. Do manly shit and your body will respond

>>40626127
fuck.

looks like i'll become a chick.

i'll try taking higher testosterone supplements first, I did notice i felt more content being male when my test was very high, maybe my brain can't process testosterone as well so it needs a bit more than average..

Anyways in regards to self improvement, wear sunscreen and continuous set new goals.

>>40626133
that isn't me, that's someone else posting whoever that is.

>>40626106
Fuck no, exactly the opposite. This only would work when you go to bed at least 8 hours before sunrise, which is nearly impossible in Summer.

>>40626134
This. Invest in some blackout curtains, those improved my sleep quality by miles.

>>40626145
Don't give up pham, I don't want you do fuckin off yourself later on down the road, suicide rate among trannies is rocket high because they are increasingly mentally unstable as the years go by

>>40625962
That picture has a commie SJW kinda vibe.

>>40626166
Oh no, I would never kill myself. I'd pass well too so I wouldn't do it.

More self improvement...
-save money
-travel when you can and explore new experiences

>>40626181
Ye buddy keep fighting, if it's not porn addiction or excessive fapping I would just recommend doing manly shit to the point of enjoying your masculinity, don't go to a doctor because they would not care about your mental well being as much as your money for that transition

>>40626145
Nah dude don't give in.

You don't want to become a tranny, you won't be happy. Fight it

Also
>Fix posture when standing and sitting
I think I saw one of you faggots slouching at the gym

>>40626227
I did manly shit for a long time to try and get rid of it, it didn't work. I'm transitioning if test supplements don't work (despite having normal testosterone levels).

>>40626232
I would actually.

>>40626235
This too.

>>40626246
Post your body pic bud

>>40626246
>Nah, didn't watch porn for 2 years during college
>Did that for months, hated it
>I did manly shit for a long time to try and get rid of it, it didn't work.
I think you would understand by now from these patterns that you should probably get off of this thread, not to be mean but your a massive faggot. What I mean by that is you either give up too easily, a weak trait that isn't welcomed on this board let alone my fucking thread. Judging by your body pic that you won't post I would assume that you are a role playing faggot trying to bring fitizens down to your disgusting level. People will open this thread and read your comments thinking it's okay to watch porn and fap because it wouldn't change anything "I'm still a tranny hur dur". No it's not you degenerate, go back to /b/ and continue the deterioration of your brain you stupid shitposter.

>>40626373
this, upvoted

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>>40626373
HOTHEAD

someone get this hothead outta here!

>>40625962
H-help me stop drinking please.

>>40626392
Nice meme, sorry guys :-)))) I got heated a little

>>40626405
Why do you drink?

>Wake up early, go to bed early
>Eat vitamins
>Drink water
>Take good care of your skin and hair
>Keep good hygiene
>Move whenever possible (i.e. always take the stairs instead of the escalator/elevator)

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>>40625962
>being obsessed with facts is higher than being obsessed with questioning

>making gains in discipline and work ethic
>still socially awkward to the point that I just want to kill myself

Is there any way to fix this?

>>40626507
Join a club or some type of group where you could make friends if you're lonely. The most important thing you could do is not beat yourself up, and learn from all the stupid shit that you say and do. Laugh at yourself for doing that one autistic thing last week and don't do it again. When you do all of the above (the thread also) and you feel healthy as shit just relax and talk to people without thinking too much. Just be comfortable everywhere you go, comfort = smooth talk stupid sluts easier. You can read this 6 million times and understand it without making ANY improvements. Get out there nigga just reading this won't completely fix the problem. You're the shit and if the fat bitch sitting at the Starbucks doesn't think so, she'll die an early death so who cares. Everybody is either in the process improving or deteriorating. Your legacy lasts forever

>>40626507
Are you socially akward because you are scared of other people, or is it something else? Be honest with yourself.

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>Another day wasted in 4chan instead of improving myself

How do I stop this guys? How do I get off 4chan?

>>40626856
Get off for one day, come back to this thread here tomorrow and reply to this post amigo

>>40626877
This thread will be gone by then

>>40626897
I want you to come back here and make this same thread then

>>40626932
But my goal is to stop posting on 4chan.

>>40626692
Not him, but other people are scary. I feel like I'm about to have a stroke whenever I see anyone on my jogging trail who has poor hygiene or poor clothing, like they will mug me for my shorts.
Similar thing with bums in the city, I get so scared when they start looking at me. I try as hard as I can to ignore them even as they try to talk to me.
It's kind of the same thing with interacting with normal people but to a much smaller degree. There's a looming sense that something will go horribly wrong if I do or say something out of place, so I end up trying to make interactions as short as possible by saying the minimum amount that I need to not be perceived as rude.

Maybe I just have some kind of paranoia.

>>40626936
That's your goal, we're taking baby steps. Not going to quit "cold turkey" and come back again like last time. Build this habit first then we progress from after a week of doing just this.

>>40626951
Okay next time you talk to anyone try pushing the convo just a teenie bit until you are uncomfortable, once you get unbearably anxious, then just stop, and next time push it again but a little farther. Think of it as doing as many reps of bench as possible. You lift until you are physically incapable and then the next time you hit chest, do more reps than you did last time. Once you do this enough you improve your social skills, which is like adding more weight to your set once the weight becomes too easy. Like I told the other nigga with crippling social skills, you won't improve unless you do it. Reading it won't help unless you facilitate what I gave to you. I go sleep now. Start another one of these threads tomorrow please pham

>>40626987
Sorry normie but this sounds like terrible advice. It's like "just do a bit more heroin bro"

>>40627043
>Think of it as doing as many reps of bench as possible.
Will try that. Thanks. Sleep tight senpai.

>>40627055
Your a fricking prick for saying that.

But for real, this thread is for the normies and the misled. Just helping out fampai

>>40627092
Anon I spend my life here. It's the first thing I see when I wake up and the last thing I see before I go to sleep. This needs to end.

>>40625962
How do I into real life?

I spend all my waking time browsing 4chan and watching shit with a 30 minutes workout every other day

I'm at a point where I don't know if I'm a neet because I'm depressed or if I'm depressed because I'm a neet. Probably both

>>40627119
Holy fuck are you me?

I'm a neet living off some savings for years. Exact same story here, 8-10 hours of 4chan a day minimum.

>>40627113
>>40627123
>>40627119
Okay it's very good that you chose post about your problem :-) now let's fix this shitty ass life ruining habit
Come back here tomorrow ehn everyone is awake so we can discuss ideas and good habit making

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>>40625962

>Meditation
>Cold showers
>Waking up early

Add this

>>40625962
Well I don't fap to porn anymore, now i only fap to pictures of girls that i saved from facebook.

I guess it's an improvement

>>40627181
Maybe anon... Well it's 7am for me. Time to get to sleep so I can live another pitiful day soon

>>40627208
how do i meditate?

OH BOY A /SIG/ THREAD.

Too bad I'm of to the gym.
See ya in a few hours.

>>40627733
Just sit somewhere

>>40625962
>>Sleep good
how do i get sleep gains? i started lifting so that i could sleep better but it hasnt helped much. i either fall asleep at 9 pm and wake up at 3 am and i cant sleep for hours or im up till 3 am and sleep till noon or later. i tried melatonin but then i just fall asleep immediately and dont wake up for like 12 hours.

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>>40625962
>talking to this chick for about 2 weeks
>about to ask her out one day when she decides we should stop talking
>get really upset but eventually get over it
>four weeks later she hits me up and we start flirting and I start getting feelings again
>we end up talking and I'm about to ask her out again we she tells me that the day after we stopped talking last time she went out and got drunk and had sex with some random dude a party
>I call her a whore and tell her to fuck off

did I do the right thing /fit/? I keep getting the urge to message her and try to fix things, how do I cope with this feel?

>>40627862
Go see a doctor because that sounds like a real problem

>>40626092
you on any meds?

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>tfw on 1 week NOFAP
>Aggressive as fuck
>Want to rip someones neck apart
>Erections rocks hard
>Squat sets and DL feel light as fuck

Hitting 150kg squat soon, boys.

>>40628045
i did. he just told me to take melatonin. i assume the next step is some other medication and im not interested.

>>40628043

>You can be mutually platonic friends with girls
>She could just hook you up with her equally attractive friends

No you didn't do the right thing holy shit.

>>40628043
Yes

>>40628043
yes

disregard thots

>>40627862
Don't fall for the medical jew

Make sure you don't see a screen 30 mins prior to bed time (no computer, no tv, no phone). that worked really well for me

>>40627862

>eliminate caffeine and other stimulants
>Make your room blackout dark. Get blackout curtains and tape the sides to the walls if you have to.
>Flux for your computer and phone.
>Exercise in the morning

>>40626650
Not him, but this helped me a lot

>>40628077
thats not how girls think. she just wants him to orbit her. shes not interested in benefiting him in any way and shes definitely not interested in giving him another girl to focus on.

>>40628092
>>40628089
i dont use stimulants of any kind. ill try the blackout and no electronics

>>40626951
LONDON
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>>40626468
i live on the 13th floor

>>40626468
Why wake and sleep early?

>>40628163
na, his reaction to finding out that she fucked someone else tells us that he was somewhat emotionally invested and the fact that she told him in the first place tells us that she knew that he was interested in her and she was testing him, but was not interested herself. he did the right thing, probably the only thing he couldve done better at that point is kept his cool and ghosted her instead of calling her a whore.

females absolutely know what theyre doing when they act like this. they understand social dynamics much better than the average guy. if they pull some shit, its important to have some self respect and move on.

>>40628043
this made me viscerally angry just to read, so i cant imagine how you felt

QUIT WEED seriously it really fucks up your motivation and you don't even realise it until you stop

>>40628380
thisx10000
I went from superstoner to cold turkey it has made my life so much better

if you smoke weed more than socially 1x a week you don't belong in this thread

>>40628061
> under 150kg squat feeling light as fuck
cause it is

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>>40625962
You could do worse than checking an Alan Watts lecture on yt.

Get into a job you actually enjoy and be the best at it I am a chef and for the first 3 years of cooking I just went to work done my job and went home and after I started lifting I got motivated to actually be good at my job and now I am sous chef of a bar and restaurant it's not that great but I go into work trying to learn more every day and get better at my job constantly so I can go around the world and get even better at chefing. why bother doing a job if you don't want to be the best at it

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>>40628043
>she tells me that the day after we stopped talking last time she went out and got drunk and had sex with some random dude a party
Why did she tell you this? Either she's evil witch or incredibly dumb. Either way, good riddance.

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For the past year i havent been able to get a guy out of my life that i met 4 years ago.
>hes 28, no job. Living off of benefits thinking he will become a famous musician
>he cant play or write music for shit
>turns out he has a 9 year old kid
>hoards venomous snakes and other reptiles
>rn he has 46 reptiles in total in a two room appartment
>constantly calls me to beg for money, he cant afford buying food for himself
>he drops the i love you on me after i lend him money

Only reason i wasnt able to tell him to fuck off was that he claimed he had a braintumour
>turns out there is no tumour
>fucker stole 1500$ from me

Now he started dealing drugs to kids outside highschools. Told him to never contact me again.
I feel so fucking free with this cunt out of my life. Never trusting people again with outrageous sobstories.

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>>40628043
I have a thought process among my group of friends that when people do certain things towards you they're either malicious or stupid, and you don't want either of those in your life.
Why would she tell you about how instantly she hooked up with another guy the only reason is she wanted to hurt you or is too stupid to comprehend your emotions.
You're better off without her but I'd recommend two things first I would say ask her out before 2 weeks woman are very fickle. The second thing is not to call her a whore once you stoop to that level mentally they just think you're a misogynist and absolve themselves of any blame and thinks what they did was fine.

Do not message her it's too late to fix that and hell why would you want to?

>>40628699
The obvious answer here is to break in and steal his reptiles. There's gotta be at least a couple hundred dollars in snakes.

>>40628568
don't know, I think shes just immature and it probably made her feel cool telling me that she got drunk and fucked, this is the 3rd girl ive had feelings for and turned out to be a slut, it feels like I'm cursed or something

Alright /sig/ what do I do here?

>Meet grill, date for 2 years, she gets pregnant, wants to keep it
>Son is born, he's the shit, 5 months old now
>Spend 8 hours a day at my office job and 4 hours a night driving for uber
>Cover all my bills, save for retirement and for fun, and cover some of my girls bills cause she stays home with little Frank
>I feel miserable most of the time and hate my life, but I'm doing really well financially (23 y/o with 60K net worth, no debt)
>My goal was always to travel the world and run my online business remotely
>Love this little guy but still want to live my dream

It's a lose/lose either way right?

>>40628963
yea as i understand it a kid really throws a wrench in any dreams you coudve ever had.

>>40628923
Really dude? Maybe you should stop being a beta fuck waiting to "ask a girl out". If you like a girl, make it known through subtle contact and body language. Don't wait 2 weeks and then decide "eahhh let me ask her to the movies". Learn to not be an autistic social outcast and treat girls as normal people. Make a move as soon as you see an opportunity. You don't have to take a girl to dinner to get in her pants.

One of my first real "girlfriends" and I went on 3 dates when we first met. The first was a wash, the second was awesome and we hit it off, but I didn't make a move at all despite her showing interest. Turns out that night she ended up fucking her ex because she thought I didn't like her. On the third date we end up fucking 3 times that night. I didn't find out about her ex until months later. The point? Nobody is going to wait on you to make up your mind. Live now, be decisive and make your feelings known - just don't be a weirdo about it.

>>40629002
do you not know what "talking" is? Its like being in a relationship where you hook up and act like a couple but your not officially together, we were pretty much together I just hadn't asked her out yet to make it a long term deal.

>>40628923
wow, it's almost like ALL GIRLS ARE SLUTS

>>40629164
Just the good looking ones anon

>>40629152
Did you fuck her? No? Then no you most definitely were not "pretty much together". I'm an adult so maybe you are a 15 year old who doesn't understand social dynamics but unless you are hooking up you are certainly not together in any sense.

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>>40629208
I did make sweet love to her yes, also are you implying that married couples who abstain from sex aren't together?

>>40628220
As Ben Franklin once said, early to sleep and early to rise, makes you healthy, wealthy, and wise.

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>first girl to want my dick in years is super obese

>>40628185
Take the elevator for the 6th floor and walk 7.

Make NO excuses.

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>>40628043
yes, you did the right thing. the only reason you feel bad is because you are still imagining her as the person you knew when you had less information about her. you just need to remember that you had the wrong impression of her at first. it happens.

>>40629208
talking = seeing = hooking up = fucking btw, go to bed gramps

>>40628963
>travel the world

for hwat purpose, fun?

Help me /sig/

>in school for accounting
>great grades
>shit family life with little support
>only get loans for school, fucking white male privilege
>senpai thinks scholarships rain from the fucking sky when in reality they're either scammy/spam bullshit or for disabled trans pygmys with 15 references
>Worried if I try to work I won't be able to keep up with school

Is there a way to get legitimate scholarships that I'm missing? I made the president's list last semester but I don't even get subsidized loans. Fuck suicide seems easier than this mess.

>>40627123
STOP

>>40628451
Your negativity is useless you're just poisoning yourself.

>>40626092
do some strength training
see a councilor
get your diet in check

>>40626501
this
should be completely reversed

>sleeping at a proper rhythm
>eating sensibly
>going back to the gym after stopping because of a move
>applying for jobs
>going back to school after leaving because of depression
>getting into good reading habbit
>watching Jordan Peterson lectures

Things are looking good since last year was a complete waste of time.

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>>40629207
>t. ugly femanon

>>40627181
WELL GUYS??????

>>40626145
>wear sunscreen

Hell no. Unless you have some kind of skin condition or spend 8 hours a day on the beach there is no reason. Sunlight is good for you.

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>>40628465
>sleep exactly 8 hours every day
>give or take
>exactly

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>>40627733
from that meditation thread yesterday:

>>40626951
Quit being a little bitch nobody cares about your shorts.

>>40625962
>What else should we add to this /fit/?
Stop drinking a growler of beer a day

I know if I could do that my sleep would improve, would drop fat, and would get more swole.
>Went from every day to every other and weight dropping linearly

>>40628699
See
>>40628859
If this was a heist movie I'd watch it so hard

hey, i'm feeling depressed and i have no motivation

how do i cure this /fit/?

>>40628077
I think having platonic relationships with the opposite sex is very important. But using someone to sleep with their friends is sociopathic.

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>on nofap day 7
>end up having 2 wet dreams in the same night?

Is my test just too high and my body can't even contain it anymore? Anyone needs some test I'll donate to you fags.

>>40630954
Nice one, I learned it that way, too. I always sit in in Jidai-Geki, or w/ever it´s called, the Jap martial arts position.

>>40629945
exposure, experience, running away from my fears and regrets, a jack londonesque call to the wild, who knows

>>40631100
One day you just have to decide you don't want to live like you are. Easier said than done. Probably have to hit rock bottom first.

>>40631077
Snakes on a gains

>>40631208
i know...but i have been trying for soo soo long. for maybe 7 years now? i have been seeking help and things have only been better for a very short period of time, then i go back to black again and fuck up my life and progress

how do you keep being positive for so long? how do you focus everyday? i feel like a failure, i have no discipline, i always fall back

Please help

How do I stop wasting my life on 4chan

>>40631261
Maybe you could actively try to hit rock-bottom? I feel like you need to understand truly why it's important to improve yourself. Other than that what have you tried in the way of motivating yourself? Have you tried meditating?

>>40631600
Like turn off your computer nigga ahaha

>>40625970
why don't you try and stop being a fucking faggot?

>>40630954
Started yesterday thanks to that thread and being too stressed lately. You came at the right time, thanks.

Yo bros, I need your help.

I'm scared of doctors, medical practitioners in general.
3 molars have broken off and I want to get that shit fixed. But I don't even dare doing a step towards a dentistry.
What do?

who else vegan for health?

>>40626172
>helping others is good
>OMG FILTHY COMMIES ONLY THINK ABOUT YOURSELF

And that's why you're at the bottom

I'm 31. Is it too late to get a social group?

>>40626501
You seem to miss the point. The "obsessed with questions" is moving from the bottom to the middle and so is clearly doing well. The "obsessed with facts" is standing over the edge and seems to be close to sliding off.

>>40627123
>>40627113
>>40627119
Post some suggestive kiddo and get permabanned from all boards like me. Can only access it on mobile data now. Barely ever on it.

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>>40631751
depends on why you're scared, here's some general tips though:

talk to your family doctor about your anxiety

everybody is afraid of the dentist, anxiety is a common disorder, dentists are trained to accommodate anxious patients but they won't know that they should if you don't let them know

try some cognitive behavioral therapy, associate thoughts of the dentist with good things and progressively increase exposure to the dentist over some period of time (days, weeks doesnt matter) and every time the more intense exposure gives you anxiety find a way to ignore the it (many things will work, it's up to you, but popular ones are mantras, goals and sexual fantasies) an example of progressive exposure might be
thinking of the dentist>looking at pictures of the dentist> watching videos of the dentist > auditing other dentists in real life > going to the dentist

>>40625962
>be me
>talking to a girl for ages, think I'll end up with this girl
>drive to her uni, spend the night there and fuck her
>weeks later, she's gone cold and says she wants to keep it casual

Lucky escape? 1st year uni girl, probably fucking loads of guys and wants to keep it casual so she can carry on doing so or am I a paranoid cunt?

Started no response with her, gonna move on to better girls

>>40632126
>depends on why you're scared
I'm not even sure.Of the unknown I guess.
What if they're gonna laugh? Talk smack? etc etc

>>40632215
she is absolutely fucking other guys or is interested in someone else, drop it immediately and move on

>>40632483
didn't wanna hear that but ty

>>40630954
Challenge mode: every reaction the mind generates to sensory input is an object of meditation.

>>40631100
>>40631600
SORT. YOURSELF. OUT.
http://www.selfauthoring.com/future-authoring.html

>>40631815
Ya bro.
Just optimized my diet for bulking. It's a Whole Food Plant Based™ testosterone supportive bulking diet. High in saturated fat, low in fiber, no soy. Feels good to dial in my diet, not eat dead stuff, and still break 6'3/200lbs this summer. I'm p close.

>>40632540
Every reaction the mind generates is an object of meditation?

>>40632215
Most probably yes she is being a slut but there could also be million other explanations. Have you tried asking her why she wanted to keep it casual?

>>40632597
said she wants to wait until she's home for easter until she's back from uni.. Said she liked me and I said I like her but in my mind that's her saying she wants free options and then she can fall back on me when she's back

>>40632579
The only way you experience the world is by your mind generating a reaction to sensory input.

Putting this into practice in meditation means allowing all sensations to arise, be acknowledged/experienced, and then pass away. This is a bit more advanced than focusing only on breath, but both are useful exercises.

>>40631815
Make sure you murder your future children too, by feeding them a strict vegan diet the first few years of their lives.

>>40628043
>>40628043
Lol, don't listen to the others, she's obviously into you, but you waited to long, and she met a guy at a party and felt guilty, which is why she stopped taking to you.

Casual sex happens between people, it didn't make her a whore automatically.

Wait a month, and hit her up, but don't wait to long to ask her on a date.

>>40626856
unbookmark it

>>40625962
I'm uninstalling all my vistas /fit/. They distract me from my studies, they've pulled me away from my hobbies. I don't have enough time in school to play them, my hobbies, lift, and study. Right now I play vidya, lift, and rarely study. My GPA is going to the shitter this semester and it's my fault. I've let it go too far, I'm just lucky I brought in credit so I'm not totally fucked, can retake some classes. But I'm doing it, wish me luck bros. lift hard and heavy

Here are my issues
>I can't focus on school work for more than 30 seconds. Almost graduated but GPA is shit
>horny af after lifting, eating, sleeping better, but every time I bang a random slut I get depressed afterwards. I'm anti social so never had a gf. How do I manage horniness without Fapping or fucking random sluts?

>>40627055
And you're a retard. It takes inhuman willpower to cold turkey heroin.most peoe that quit go through a methadone cycle with decreasing dosage.

>>40632687
I think I understand that. I'm about to start the power of now and make spiritual gains. Meditation can helps with motivation too right?

>>40633226
Maybe with strong heroin addiction where you'll literally have physical withdrawl symptoms but it's been quite strongly noted that cold turkey is best otherwise. Because addicts can't be trusted to self moderate or not fall back into their usual loop.

>>40633093
What's your lifting regimen? If you're burning out your CNS before trying to study then studying is going to be a chore especially when you don't care about the subject

Also you are allowed to fap

>>40633318
Interesting. I do my school work during the night after lifting. Also Fapping is boring as hell, especially on no stimulus, I can do it sometimes, but it takes forever and feels more like a chore.

>>40629582
Just because some successful guy made a rhyme about it doesn't make it true

http://vocaroo.com/i/s1eDzGCorKtb

>>40633417
I switched from a dry guy to lube and also fapped less and my sensitivity increased to the point where sex is decent with a condom. If you aren't lubing it then try lube. As for the school work stuff, try doing work before lifting and also caffeinate before starting

>>40633288
>maybe with strong heroin addiction

Nigger by the time you can admit you're an addict, you will have agonizing withdrawal! Christ, kill yourself

>>40628923
I feel you man, tho I am cursed by being interested in mentally ill girls. Im at the count of three, too.

>>40633640
No you fucking retard I'm saying that the weening off with methadone thing is because addicts are physically addicted for years to heroin.

It's not the same as 4chan or videogames where indeed the best way to quit is cold turkey.

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>>40628043
you're on the right track bro

>>40625995
I do the same thing but I don't want to be a woman.
It's probably very different for you, one of my theories is since I have no real concept of "being a man" (I don't give a fuck how manly I am) I don't really care too much what gender I am.
If I feel like acting macho I'll do it and if I want to feel cute and I'll do it.

Sorry if I sound insensitive or like I'm trying to give advice, mostly just thinking out-loud here. Hope you become comfortable with your body bruh.

>>40626166
I still think about that, I wonder if trannies who never actually transition but hide it have similar suicide rates.
Met a nice one recently, FtM, had a nice beard and couldn't tell at all.

>>40626227
I honestly think a lot of it (for some people) is a cognitive dissonance between our individualistic society and people telling you what being a man or woman is.
You do you senpai, you don't have to be either stereotype.
Stop focusing on what gender you are and focus on the fact that you are you, male or female you should be striving for similar qualities and goals and you shouldn't give a fuck what society tells you how you SHOULD act. If I woke up tomorrow with a vagina I wouldn't act any different than I act today (barring hormones of course).

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>>40625962
How do I meet people without going to shitty places like bars and clubs?

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omg this is the best thread ever!

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY EVERYONE!!!!

obviously :P

so for self-improvement today i did work! and did it well, even though we were short on staff. and now i need to do my homework. oh check out my snack at work (pic related)

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>Set S.M.A.R.T. plans
>Journal daily or weekly
>Meditate regularly
>Get an hour of sunlight per day
>Drink lots of water
>Socialise regularly and improve social skills
>Learn new skills routinely
>Improve flexibility
>Improve cardio endurance
>Improve strength
>Be lightly altruistic within means, routinely
>Save 10% of everything you earn
>Learn and use new words, improve articulation and communication skills
>Challenge yourself, regularly and to different depths
>Become more comfortable with vulnerability

Most people cover the basics but don't get serious enough about the extras

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Also OP already covered these, but some bonuses on some of them

>Sleep good
Set a night time routine- an alarm for 2200 or an hour before whenever you crash is good, then turn off all electronics, set aside your clothes and food and stuff for tomorrow and your morning routine stuff set up
Set a morning routine and develop the discipline and habit to stick to it religiously. This is tiny but almost as big as meditation in terms of return- it will get you momentum going for the day and set the tone while also having an affect on how refreshed and well you sleep and wake.

>Read books
And review them. Review every form of media you absorb. This isn't for everyone I suppose but the moment I discovered I could turn the time I was wasting on TV/Books/Games/Products into reviews and feedback and information I suddenly started a side income that makes me a few hundred bucks a month and I literally get boxes of free stuff through the door several times per week.

>Eat well
Over time, replace processed foods with non processed foods.
Over time, learn new cooking skills and new recipes.
Over time, learn more about nutrition profiles of foods and their genus' and families.
Cheat mode- Buy and eat 33% of the foods on this page every month and cycle it the next month and you'll fulfil 99% of any nutrition requirements
http://www.whfoods.com/foodstoc.php
It also has really simple breakdowns of nutrition and health effects of each food you click on.

>Noporn
I have a real problem with nofap because it teaches people to think in the wrong way. Stop focusing on jerking off or not jerking off and focus on having more sex instead- we know the PROFOUND health and social benefits of having sex and how it stops you jerking off by something like 70% less over time. Stop worrying about nofap and start having more sex, regularly.

>>40633991
S.M.A.R.T?

>>40630344
Where are you from?
In America with a decent GPA and mediocre ACT/SAT you can easily get 10,000 a year in scholarships if you apply smartly.
Ask a prof and google around man, I'm a senior in college and I get 2,000 a semester PROFIT and I slacked off in highschool.
Apply to everything, make sure to do the ones with lengthy letters and such because less people apply.

>>40631261
If you try too much at once you will fail, this goes for everyone, even Chad.
Unfortunately when you're depressed you can't do as much as you normally could and failing hits that much harder.
Do one or two goals at a time and stick to them.

For example, my goal is to get good grades and connections in college.
That is where almost all my energy is going toward.
If I socially fail or physically fail I'm not too hurt as I know there is this ONE thing that I will do no matter what.

Peripherally I make sure that I progress physically (doesn't matter how slow, just won't degrade or stay constant) and socially (have to go out at least twice a month).

I'm not positive and I'm not focused, everything is cloudy and I have no discipline.
I don't care about feeling like a failure anymore because I personally do not matter, I'm going to continue pouring all my energy into my dream career and see what happens.

TLDR; Stop trying to do everything at once. Set a couple goals and then list a couple other priorities that you should work on but will be alright if you slack on.
You'll make it, don't try to compete with everyone else, they're not going through the same shit as you, compete with your past self and beat his ass.

>>40634078
>Review every form of media you absorb
How did you monetize this? Start a blogspot or what?
I've written reviews to get my thoughts down on some albums important to me and it could be fun to do more since I listen to a few new albums a week, only problem is I don't believe in numerical scores since I feel it's demeaning to art.

>>40628963
damn. I'm only 20, so I guess it's still too early til I'm supposed to want to have kids and shit, but I currently have absolutely no desire to ever have kids. I've barely seen any of the world, and I really want to see a lot of it. I'm also very much an individual, so the idea of entering into a situation where I'm literally giving away my ability to be an individual for the rest of my life is pretty scary to me.

Maybe that's all because I'm a kiddo, though. Maybe someday I'll just suddenly get a craving to end my life as an individual.

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what kinda books do people here read, anyway? i'm kinda wondering if the stereotype of the low iq body builder has any truth to it. anyone here legitimately intelligent?

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>tfw insomnia

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>continue working out beyond the first week

>>40626877
>Get off for one day, come back to this thread here tomorrow and reply to this post amigo

I'M HERE BUDD

HELLO

IM HERE ARE YOU GOING TO HELP ME NOW

lol fuck self improvement genetics are all that matter

>>40628043
Imagine if the situation was reversed, You start talking and flirting with her again, you go to a party and end up fucking a random chick at a party, she tells you to fuck off.

Casual sex is great, and women want it just as much as dudes do.

>stop drinking soda
I've been trying to do this for a while but it's really fucking hard

>>40631993
No lol. Literally no age is too late. "Settling down" is a myth people who have forgotten how to enjoy life console themselves with.

>>40632215
Ask her why casual and talk about it. If you're unhappy with the response, move on.

>>40632609
Could just be that she knows relationships are distracting and wants to focus on uni.

>>40635686
You have to be swole of mind as well as swole of body desu senpai.

That being said, I made it a goal to read 150 books this year. I try to divide this into 4 categories:

1. The great non-fiction- (The Republic, Leviathan, The Prince, shit like that)

2. The great fiction (Shakespeare, Tolstoy, Homer, Kantbot type shit)

3. Fun non-fiction (basically self-help books_

4. Fun fiction (usually genre shit, I love Conan stories right now, I wanna get back into reading fantasy and wanna give that fag Brandon Sanderson another try)

This is a great help: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Books_of_the_Western_World.

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>constantly feeling lonely
>uses to watch pov/joi porn to cope with the loneliness
>can't watch porn anymore because it doesn't bring me joy anymore

Lifting and jerking off were the only things that brought me joy. Lifting still kinda helps, but once that endorphin rush goes away, I'm back to being a sad cunt.

>>40633492
You're here forever!

>>40625995
>>40625970

What I don't get is how this isn't a mental illness. If I turned into a girl tomorrow, I'd just get over it because I'm normal.

>>40630954
Don't listen to this shit. It's much simpler than this.

All you need is the book The Relaxation Response from the 70s that explains what meditation is from a scientific point of view.

Just follow these steps, I recommend people read the book, but you don't need to to meditate. Just start here:

http://www.relaxationresponse.org/steps/

1. Sit quietly in a comfortable position.

2. Close your eyes.

3. Deeply relax all your muscles, beginning at your feet and progressing up to your face. Keep them relaxed.

4. Breathe through your nose. Become aware of your breathing. As you breathe out, say the word, "one"*, silently to yourself. For example, breathe in ... out, "one",- in .. out, "one", etc. Breathe easily and naturally.

5. Continue for 10 to 20 minutes. You may open your eyes to check the time, but do not use an alarm. When you finish, sit quietly for several minutes,
at first with your eyes closed and later with your eyes opened. Do not stand up for a few minutes.

6. Do not worry about whether you are successful in achieving a deep level of relaxation. Maintain a passive attitude and permit relaxation to occur at its own pace. When distracting thoughts occur, try to ignore them by not dwelling upon them and return to repeating "one."

With practice, the response should come with little effort. Practice the technique once or twice daily, but not within two hours after any meal, since the digestive processes seem to interfere with the elicitation of the Relaxation Response.

* It is better to use a soothing, mellifluous sound, preferably with no meaning. or association, to avoid stimulation of unnecessary thoughts - a mantra.

>>40625962
Sleep well*
Maybe you should
>Read books

>>40631261
Read Tony Robbin's book Awaken The Giant Within, and follow the exercises in the book.

It will change your life.

>>40626172
I agree, it just seems blue pilled as fuck.

>>40637395
CRISPR BOI

>>40637718
I think the only one that struck that chord with me was the "blames self for world"

seems a bit more self-blaming then the the general tone of the picture was going for

>>40628043
if you had the option to fuck a random chick at a party you would have don't it without hesitation.

>>40637741
Yeah that one and the "obsessed with facts" seems off to me.
In no way is blaming yourself for things out of your control is healthy, and you'll never meet a good scientist that is obsessed with "facts".

>>40637763
Yeah, I think the problem with this picture s that they had to leave out details to give each one a snappy phrase. I guess by "obsessed with facts" they meant not letting emotions or feelings cloud your better judgement.

>>40637778
Don't get me wrong I'm not calling bullshit on the whole thing just because a few seem not well thought out.
I do wish /fit/ would follow this a bit more, too many people here assume the worst of everyone and don't want each other to make it (this thread was a bit more caring toward the dysmorphia dude more than usual tho).

>>40637663
Lol, I aim at reading 12 books

>Cut going good
>Still riding the noob gains
>Cardio has improved
>Trying to into guitar for the past two weeks, friend who teaches me say that I'm improving very fast
>Hair growth going strong, girls are jelly of my locks
>Social gains through the roof
But
>Not reading as much as I'd want
>Can't into programming
>It's been 1 year since we broke up and haven't touched a women since

On an unrelated note, how do I into skin care?

>>40625970
I've struggled with dysphoria for a while, but I don't know what the solution is. Should I become more masculine or more feminine?

>>40638481
If you got a dick, you have to get big.
If you got a pussy, try to act like Suzie.

>>40625962
Fapping is fine but i agree with the noporn bit. A lot of studies have come out showing people get unrealistic expectations when they watch too much porn.

>>40625962
Recommendation for a good book? especially if the main character is into fitness? I like reading books about what i'm doing damn it.

How do you maintain your cool when frustrating situations arise?

Example:
> be selling some stuff on CL because I'm moving
> guys phones, it turns out it's some guy from my own company (big place, around 2k people, so we never met before)
> wants to buy my stuff, I'm selling it super cheap because I'm moving in a week and any money is better than having to lug it back
> we meet, test the equipment, I give it to him, he gives me cash, we walk awy
> later that day asks me if there's a manual for it (well, if there was, it would i the fucking box, wouldnt it?)
> starts asking me questions about the specs

So guy obviously has buyers remorse, but I'm not fucking best buy, I'm not taking that back. I'm just pissed off because this 30 yo guy, to me, sounds like a fucking a pre-puberty kid, can't make a decision, can't get over buyers remorse, has to ask his wife if he can buy this stuff, etc.

So, how do I keep stuff like this from getting to me? It's impacting me because I get pissed off and I lose a good 30 minutes of my life to this shit (ie. now I'm posting to vent on 4chan).

Thanks, bros.

>>40638818
Bump.

>>40638818
dunno man if he phones again i think you should just tell him that you're busy and don't know how the equipment works and don't have the manual and if he wants to hand it back just kindly inform him that you're not taking the stuff back and you got your own shit to take care off with the moving out and all that, a deal is a deal. when i sold my old TV i had to deal with this arab looking guy asking me a bunch of questions about the TV, wanting to test it, trying to get the price down and in the end he didn't want it, was really annoying for a cheap TV i think he could just take it or leave it, guess it's in their culture to haggle over the smallest stuff.

>>40637685
Meditation is as easy as just sitting down in a quite place and letting your thoughts run freely, i wish i could get people to understand this but nope, the mainstream conception of meditation is that you need a 12 point laundry list of breathing techniques and sitting positions and mind mastery strategies just to do it. It's like what broscience is to lifting but 10 times worse.

>>40637314
You fucktard didnt unterstand he was mocking you

>>40625962
read literature/nonfiction. some fiction might as well be tv.
meditation could also be considered
cooking is a skill i feel has been immensely useful now that i have it

>>40638614
How does Suzie act?

>>40630954
Beats sitting around doing nothing I suppose.

>>40639394
it depends.

>build a makiwara board (about an hour of work, check wiki)
>every morning do 5-10 thousand punches
>rock hard fists and rock hard cock for the ladies who will want your manly hands

It's something to do. Rather than wasting my time on games and movies

>>40625962

Dang do these threads still go? We used to have a sticky, I wrote the finance section on it a couple of years ago, this is all I can find now - I'll update it all into a pastebin if you fuckers

http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky

any tips for language learning? Been learning Russian as a native English speaker for a few years but feel like I have hit a wall

thanks in advance

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>>40639784

Also, this was the format we used to use. Got longwinded as fuck though and took ages to post.

>>40639830

https://4archive.org/board/fit/thread/47893

>>40631261

You, like many depressed or unhappy people focus too much on your state of mind. Truth is, it doesnt matter how you feel.

Even if you feel like shit, you should be doing the things you should be doing. Going to the gym, eating healthy, sleeping enough, taking care of your appearance (haircuts and good clothes). Just fucking force yourself to do these things no matter how shit you feel.

And eventually you will look shredded, you will run in to a nice girl, you will get nice job opportunities, no matter how long it takes, good stuff will happen if you put in the effort. If you, however, keep feeling sorry for yourself because "im so depressed i cant do anything", you will be stuck in a vicious cycle forever. Break the cycle bitch, take control of your life dont let life control YOU

>>40633288
>cold turkey is best otherwise.
Cold Turkey is a really shitty way to quit something physically addictive substances.
Cocaine will cause extreme agitation and depression which can last for over a month.
Alcohol will cause tremors, brutal headaches, vomiting, and can lead to seizures, as well as an increase in blood pressure, erratic heart rate, and fever, which can be lethal.
Opiate withdrawal can cause extreme muscle pain and nausea. It's practically unbearable.
You're trying to sound tough for internet strangers by saying "just cowboy it bro!" and you have no idea what you're talking about.

>>40639815
have you looked through the /int/ sticky?

http://4chanint.wikia.com/wiki/Russian

>>40637462

> quitting soda

Easy as fuck mate. Just stop. If you're struggling, reduce your consumption fibonacci style.

Never sit back.

>>40628963
sorry blud but once you have a kid it's not about you anymore, at least not for the next 18 years. You're now obligated to do what's best for your family

if don't like then you should have never took the risk

>>40633934
meetup app

>>40626240
Don't do that bro. It never works, transitioning never works, then there you are with a fucked up body, at the point of no return. Take test supplements, save sperm in a sperm bank, increase the dose as you see fit.

Also taking medication for the gender dysphoria is a good idea. It is a mental illness.

>>40626373
Also possible.

>>40628043
Yes.

>>40630864
Feeling the same man, good progress, keep it up!

>>40631815
>>40632540
How do you guys feel about soy? I am kind of without a position, while it contains estrogen I read that it will not affect you only in large quantities.

>>40631182
Seiza? Jidai-geki sounds like something historical. Might be wrong though.

>>40633991
Neato.

>>40635686
Personally I read only non-fiction, and sometimes classics and older fiction. The new ones are absolute shite imo. Also >>40637663
is on point.

>>40639595
A loving, supporting housewife who creates a great environment at home.

>>40640675
Forgot mine, here goes:

>Meditation
>Workout daily, cycling to work
>Nofap
>Reading a book per week (longer books take more time of course)
>Studying programming, mainly webdev and Command Line
>Fasting to maintain / cut weight
>Saving currently 56% of my salary
>Doing PE daily

I wish to do the following:
>Stop gaming, I try to reduce it to just the weekends, I would like to learn stuff instead
>Get a better paying job, would mean a great increase in savings
>Would like to start a family in 4 years

>>40637462
It's worth it in the end anon. Once you get that soda craving out of your body it's a whole different world.

>>40638696
depends on what you like, perhaps try Mark Lauren's bodyweight training
friend of mine tried it and never used a gym afterwards

>>40638688
tried noFap for like a week but failed, I dunno maybe just start lightly, go one month without porn or fapping, then eliminate pornography and occasionally fap while in shower or so.

>>40628499
You are clearly not the best at writing.

>>40625962
dunno maybe once a week for a month than everyday or so.
I tried doing it for a week straight.
It's unbelievable to see how you underestimate yourself sometimes.

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>>40625962
>26 yo
>KV
>no job (ever) .I am really trying but cant get any job
>no money for anything (literally)
>no friends

i don't know where to start