Doesn't this feel pointless? No matter how much progress

No matter how much I play chess, it won't make me any more friends (unless I join an adult chess club or something), but I play chess because I like it.

If you don't like lifting, don't do it. Who cares?

I think you might have anxiety mang, have you seen a therapist

>>40547713
I've struggled with anxiety for a good portion of my life, and I'm pretty sure depression as well. I don't like the idea of going to a therapist because the thought of going on antidepressants is just not okay with me, and I've always been sort of independent to a fault. I don't like accepting help, I want to get through this on my own.

>>40547708
Social gains are separate from physical gains lad, a lot of people lift to be more comfortable in their body but they still have to try an not act like an autist, folks who would come to you only for your good looks are shallow and will abandon you in times of need. You had enough self awareness to try and get a healthier and stronger body, now try to do the same with your social life (of course I don't know the specifics so I'm just spitballing). Don't masquerade as something you're not though, it will only make it awkward for everyone and cause you pain because you'll be left wondering why you're not like those guys you try to mix with.

Can't really say anything about the diet thing but realize that having dinner out one day every couple of weeks isn't going to make you fat or ruin your gains, your body isn't going to change that drastically overnight because you didn't get enough nutrients that day. Having discipline on that front is a very good thing but don't let it become an obsession.

Hey man. Try reading about Buddhism or something. Life can only be controlled so much, and sometimes it's actually healthy to relieve some of that control from time to time.

In regards to diet, I'm not saying to let go and eat a tub of deep fried sausages but to be reasonable with yourself and remember that there's no way that +-400 kcal now and then will really make a difference in the long run.

And for friends, is that something you really, actually desire? Ask yourself why, and why you have none, and be genuine with yourself. There's no magic formula to forming lasting relationships, and sometimes it just happens; there's only so much you can do to make it happen besides putting yourself out there.
Be easy on yourself and remember to take life as it comes, and not so seriously.

Sorry for this word vomit, or if it sounds preachy.

Go to a psychatrist or stop complaining.

>>40547747

Would you reject a cast if you broke your foot? Mental health is just as important as anything else.

>>40547815
>Go to a psychiatrist

Being socially inept isn't a mental disorder dude

>>40547708
Give up porn and jerking off, boosts personal magnetism. Not a meme.

>>40547893

It is often a symptom of an underlying problem, DUDEBRO.

>>40547747
therapy doesn't necessarily mean taking antidepressants, I understand why you wouldn't want to take them. I just mean talking to a professional for maybe an hour a week

>>40547708
are you still fat or something?
Just do cardio even if you don't like it.

have you considered not being autistic and acting like your body makes your living?

>>40547708
You're right in a way -- it all feels pointless. We live, we die. In between, however, we have some time to explore things and to have fun.

That is my motivation; that I can influence the quality of my life on Earth by working out. Running, doing bodyweight exercises, and controlling my weight all determine how much I enjoy this life.

I don't think you need to be obscenely strong or aesthetic, but I think that you need to maintain a basic appearance of care, regardless of how depressed you are, or how much you struggle with existential crisis. Appearing to be slightly above normal, and being able to perform well above normal ends up preparing you to take advantage of all sorts of situations with friends and women. That's kinda what life is about.

>>40547949
MY DAD DIDNT MOLEST ME AS A CHILD!

>>40547708
>that hand