how do y'all cope with ur insecurity? confident people

>>12541302
be self aware enough not to dress terribly
accept criticism online when posting fits so i can improve
don't wear anything too eye catching, even if it looks good it will knock confidence to stick out

>>12541302
>posting the edited version of this picture

Does someone have the original?

>>12541302
>confident people can wear literally anything and have it look good

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>>12541302
I got some things for you. You need to work on a few things to get over insecurity

1. Self perception: You can't be secure with yourself if you view yourself as a total loser. You need to change your self perception to a positive one. Start working out, reading, waking up early, cut down on masturbation. Cutting down on masturbation is a good one because of how strong the urges to do it are. nofap is a meme. Do it once a week to no porn. The key to this is self discipline. Make rules for yourself and follow them. The more disciplined you are the better your self image will be

2. Negative thinking: drop all sorts of negative thinking. You're just stabbing yourself in the leg with it. Every time you think negatively about yourself counter it with something good.

3. Postive Affirmations: okay these are kinda gay and i feel dumb doing them but it works so i don't care. before you go to bed every night just think good things about yourself. stuff like "i like myself" "i am confident" 'i am smart" "i am funny" just think about things you like about yourself. if you like nothing them make something up, you'll start to believe it eventually.

main idea: focus on the good in yourself instead of the bad. focus on what you have instead of lack. do this for a couple weeks and trust the process and you'll see a big change in your confidence

Instead of affirmations, I'd recommend trying to logically argue away the negative thoughts. If thoughts such as "I'm a loser" pop up, start thinking of every reason that you're not. Once you can get yourself to agree that you're not, or come to a neutral leverage, that's when the ability to look forward to potentials sets in. What are you capable of, anons? It won't be clear until that head is on straight.

>>12542387
>focus on the good in yourself instead of the bad
But there's so much bad and so few good that I feel like I'm lying to myself when I do this.

>>12543306
focusing on good isn't lying to yourself

be aware of the "bad" and try to fix them while keepings the good in your attention

>>12541302
Literally just be confident, it's just a trick people put on, they still end up in the dirt like you at the end of the day.
Why bother worrying what people think of the items of material that sit on your body.

>>12541302
No lie I saw the manlet from this photo irl a few months ago and he looked good looking and /fa/

I think thwy were just bad photos to a degree

>>12541302
I agree.

A couple of years ago when I was an insecure teenager with very a very limited social life I would spend so much money on fashion, post in WAYWT, face rate threads etc. just to get some sort of approval. However that approval didn't carry over to real life so I still felt like shit.

Now I'm 21 and got my shit sorted out, I really don't think about fashion the same way because unless you only want to be friends with equally superficial people, people will not simply start liking you because you dress well. Your way of dressing should complement your personality.