Business is all about having adequate social skills. How do you

Anyone on?

>>1589340
Confidence and a disarming personality. In your case I hope your job doesn't make you appear flustered. Personal appearance/fitness. Finally, goal oriented conversation, like sales

>>1589341
I'll try to work on my personality more, and no I don't usually get flustered. It's just I have to put a ton of effort into talking with people, and if I'm just slightly tired then it gets awkward

I worked in one of the most elite country clubs in the us as well as an extremely high value net worth financial field. What helped me was to think of myself as a rich persons son being forced to work a summer job. If you are calm and unintimidated people with notice. Think of yourself as a person people can cofide in not someone they're stuck with. The multimillionaire over there ? Hes just your uncle as far as you're concerned.

>>1589340
Flattery will get you anywhere.
Work on your smile, make sure it's organic not forced.
Ask congenial, open ended questions.
Read the news everyday. Pay attention to the weather.

If you're autismo, read up on body language a little bit, don't worry about "reading" people. You just want to learn the bits about appearing/projecting "open" and "confident".

>>1589355
How long have you been working there? When I first started serving, I was terrified. But after a few years I relaxed, realized my job was just to help customers choose what they want to eat and have a good time. I also had a kind of epiphany, realizing that most customers fear human interaction way more than you do. You'll get it with a little experience.

More important than any other advice on this thread:

When applying for business jobs, ALWAYS put "African American" or "mixed race" as your race. You'll probably get 20 to 30% more response.

In my decades working in HR, we have never had one instance where we tried to verify a person's race... that's basically inviting lawsuit.

I'm gonna start by saying, what I'm about to say will sound autistic, but it works so I'll say it anyway.

Get really friendly with your mirror and concentrate on two things. Body language and a natural smile. Look up some comedy that you find funny, wait until you get to a joke you find funny. Start smiling slightly at the joke, look in the mirror. How do you look? You have a natural smile. Now hold that smile until you've got it down cold. Now turn off the comedy and start trying to recreate that exact smile. After you know what it looks like, try and memorize what it feels like to make that exact smile. Bam, just whip that shit out whenever you need to smile, Now it will look genuine even if it's not. Normally it involves a little eye crinkle.

As far as body language. Never ever cross your arms or put your hands in your lap... Ever. It makes you look scared or defensive. Keep your arms at your sides or make small gestures in front of you, where the gesture never crosses your torso.

These two things will make people like you subconsciously which will make them talk to you easier.

>>1589362
>>1589478
What kind of open ended questions would seem congenial but not intrusive?

Also thanks for the advice

>>1589827
I've been there for two months exactly now. I'm starting to get over the anxiety I used to have, but I have trouble making small talk. Particularly with the more quiet customers. Maybe I just need time and experience with it.

>>1589882
"How are you?"

"How are the kids?"

>>1589847
This is unrelated. If the business firm is racist though you're probably less likely to get a response though.

>>1589888
>I have trouble making small talk
So don't do it. Try to make conversations at least somewhat meaningful. If you ask how someone's day is going, actually listen. Have a real conversation, not bullshit.